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Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
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over a year ago
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Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.
Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush. |
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Only you can give yourself a bad name.
Blaming others is lazy.
Most women are happy to meet single men but they don't expect to have to do all the work.
They like to know what's on the table rather than have to ask.
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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Women don't like penises anymore unless it's their husbands or boyfriends. They like toys.
It's not their fault, it's your man meats down there and the fact you don't have a woman they can actually want to meet solo but will allow you to sit in the corner and watch.
So look down now at him, and say, you single sad sausage. C'mon now. It's ok you're not alone. |
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"Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.
Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush."
I never get dick pics!!!! |
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"Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.
Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush.
I never get dick pics!!!!"
You can have some that get sent to me! |
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OP - Many single ladies on here are looking to meet single men. Many single men very successfully meet those women.
Don't blame others for your lack of success. Change what you're doing.
Are you selling yourself as best you can and only messaging those ladies whose criteria you meet? Are those messages good ones?
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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They don't refuse to meet single men though do they.
Just some single men.
Like some men refuse to meet some women and some couples refuse to meet some single men and some single women and some men and women refuse to meet some couples.........
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It's a numbers game, just look at the figures, I estimated that at one time men outnumbered women by 12 to 1 in this site.
So you have to be more attractive in every sense of the word than the next 11 guys.
Remember men like what they see, women like what they hear, so you need to be saying the right things.
Finally and this is no fault of your own but a lot of men do/say stupid things which means women need to keep their guard up.
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Echo what others say, also remember everyone has their own preferences, and will meet/do what they are into and wanting. Can't force anyone to change what they want just because it doesn't fit into your views or wants. |
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Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.
We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.
I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read. |
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message "
Maybe they don't find you attractive |
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Strange a lot of our single female freinds are always on the look out for single guys. In fact I would say a majority on here. We know a lot of single women who avoid couples and single ladies nights at clubs because they seek single men not so much (or at all) couples and single women. |
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"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.
We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.
I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read."
I always read profiles , I rarely send dick pics unless requested to. My messages are always polite I get people can't be attracted to everyone I was on here a few years back and met many but it seems the site has changed its full of people which need sectioning. It's more the fact of the time wasters & fake accounts on here I'm sure I'm not the only one. |
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message
Maybe they don't find you attractive"
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"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.
We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.
I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.
I always read profiles , I rarely send dick pics unless requested to. My messages are always polite I get people can't be attracted to everyone I was on here a few years back and met many but it seems the site has changed its full of people which need sectioning. It's more the fact of the time wasters & fake accounts on here I'm sure I'm not the only one. "
" full of people which need sectioning" Such a nice turn of phrase !?!
If you're having problems with lots of fakes amd time wasters, you probably need to rethink your selection methodology.
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message "
Do searched within 20miles of your postcode. Note the number of F, MF, FF, MM and TV/TS profiles. Which number is highest.
Imagine even half of them message the available F in your area. What makes your profile/message/pics stand out as more attractive/sexier/more compatible than the others?
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"Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.
Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush.
I never get dick pics!!!!"
That’s because I’m not 91  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of women and couples meet single men op,
They have to like them and be attracted to them though.
There's not much on your profile to attract anyone at the min though."
Agreed, appreciate OP hasn't asked for profile advice, but based on what's currently there it would be a no from us
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message "
Maybe you are messaging women that think its a swingers site and not a sex site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They do meet single men
Doesn’t mean they have to meet every man who sends them a message.
They aren't genuine Swingers then!
Fakes  "
Well, yeah obviously. Only genuine swingers are ready to shag anyone that offers  |
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message
Maybe you are messaging women that think its a swingers site and not a sex site?"
Hmmm I'm not sure about that as I've messaged a fair few I was on here a few years back and met people never had any time wasters either it seems to have changed alot x |
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message
Maybe they don't find you attractive
We can't all be as Attractive as you "
I thought you asked for responses? I suggested that maybe people didn't find you attractive. It's nothing to do with MY looks, so drop the defensive sarcasm maybe? |
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?
Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message
Maybe they don't find you attractive
We can't all be as Attractive as you
I thought you asked for responses? I suggested that maybe people didn't find you attractive. It's nothing to do with MY looks, so drop the defensive sarcasm maybe?"
I knew what you meant I was bantering sorry for any upset caused ?? |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"They don't refuse to meet single men though do they.
Just some single men.
Like some men refuse to meet some women and some couples refuse to meet some single men and some single women and some men and women refuse to meet some couples.........
A"
Girls who are boys
Who like boys to be girls
Who do boys like they're girls
Who do girls like they're boys
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We do meet single guys.They are normally very respectful genuine and patient.Not pushy or sending one liners and dick pictures.Also there are single guys in abundance so you need to really make an effort and stand out. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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Also it appears from other post on here that there are more men on here than women, which means that - as the post above says - you really need to stand out.
I tend to just use the forums these days for chat, but if you're looking to meet, then you'll really need to pull the stops out and make an effort. |
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"We do meet single guys.They are normally very respectful genuine and patient.Not pushy or sending one liners and dick pictures.Also there are single guys in abundance so you need to really make an effort and stand out."
I was on here a few years back and had meets and didn't have any time wasters in every communication I'm polite respectful and don't send dick pics I understand not everyone can be phycially attracted to everyone and women have hundreds of messages a day!!
It's more the time wasters and fakes on here which is the issue don't get me wrong there's genuine people on here but it seems many many women are put of meeting single men due to previous messages they have been sent given us genuine men a bad name |
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"Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.
Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush."
You have made me laugh that's hilarious and true! Unless you are Tom Hard i wouldn't mind the DM with dick or a Dicking hahahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? …. "
Yeh, I wish they’d stop refusing and decide to choose not to based on personal choice.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a numbers game, just look at the figures, I estimated that at one time men outnumbered women by 12 to 1 in this site.
So you have to be more attractive in every sense of the word than the next 11 guys.
Remember men like what they see, women like what they hear, so you need to be saying the right things.
Finally and this is no fault of your own but a lot of men do/say stupid things which means women need to keep their guard up.
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Buster pretty much said what I was thinking!
Op you have to sell yourself. Have a read of your profile again, does it sound positive and inviting to you? Also no pics will mean your messages have to be really good, otherwise your invisible!
Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also it appears from other post on here that there are more men on here than women, which means that - as the post above says - you really need to stand out.
I tend to just use the forums these days for chat, but if you're looking to meet, then you'll really need to pull the stops out and make an effort."
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"Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"
Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging
Also I have been on fab about a year and not one guy has met me off here they always flake. So I don't bother arranging meets anymore so you are not alone and it's not a male problem it's people in general |
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""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"
Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging
Also I have been on fab about a year and not one guy has met me off here they always flake. So I don't bother arranging meets anymore so you are not alone and it's not a male problem it's people in general "
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""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"
Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging
Also I have been on fab about a year and not one guy has met me off here they always flake. So I don't bother arranging meets anymore so you are not alone and it's not a male problem it's people in general
*cries. "
I know I am crying too no one loves me |
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""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"
Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging
Also I have been on fab about a year and not one guy has met me off here they always flake. So I don't bother arranging meets anymore so you are not alone and it's not a male problem it's people in general
*cries.
I know I am crying too no one loves me "
Whoaaa!!! Love?  |
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"It's a numbers game, just look at the figures, I estimated that at one time men outnumbered women by 12 to 1 in this site.
So you have to be more attractive in every sense of the word than the next 11 guys.
Remember men like what they see, women like what they hear, so you need to be saying the right things.
Finally and this is no fault of your own but a lot of men do/say stupid things which means women need to keep their guard up.
Buster pretty much said what I was thinking!
Op you have to sell yourself. Have a read of your profile again, does it sound positive and inviting to you? Also no pics will mean your messages have to be really good, otherwise your invisible!
Good luck
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All of this
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You know what I mean Woody haha
You know its not even a fab specific thing either. I can't stomach dating sites anymore either or even chatting online generally it rarely leads to a meet. I'm only speaking for myself there are of course tons of successful meeters
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"You know what I mean Woody haha
You know its not even a fab specific thing either. I can't stomach dating sites anymore either or even chatting online generally it rarely leads to a meet. I'm only speaking for myself there are of course tons of successful meeters
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"You know what I mean Woody haha
You know its not even a fab specific thing either. I can't stomach dating sites anymore either or even chatting online generally it rarely leads to a meet. I'm only speaking for myself there are of course tons of successful meeters
Fancy a coffee? *not flaky. "
Only if you bring it to my bed now haha otherwise you are such a fake and also with a spoon I love a good spoon |
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"You know what I mean Woody haha
You know its not even a fab specific thing either. I can't stomach dating sites anymore either or even chatting online generally it rarely leads to a meet. I'm only speaking for myself there are of course tons of successful meeters
Fancy a coffee? *not flaky.
Only if you bring it to my bed now haha otherwise you are such a fake and also with a spoon I love a good spoon "
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"
Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging
Also I have been on fab about a year and not one guy has met me off here they always flake. So I don't bother arranging meets anymore so you are not alone and it's not a male problem it's people in general
*cries.
I know I am crying too no one loves me "
Aww I share your pain. I think a lot of us on here do |
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"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.
We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.
I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.
I always read profiles , I rarely send dick pics unless requested to. My messages are always polite I get people can't be attracted to everyone I was on here a few years back and met many but it seems the site has changed its full of people which need sectioning. It's more the fact of the time wasters & fake accounts on here I'm sure I'm not the only one. "
You have no public pictures so probably blocked by most on message filters |
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"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.
We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.
I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.
I always read profiles , I rarely send dick pics unless requested to. My messages are always polite I get people can't be attracted to everyone I was on here a few years back and met many but it seems the site has changed its full of people which need sectioning. It's more the fact of the time wasters & fake accounts on here I'm sure I'm not the only one.
You have no public pictures so probably blocked by most on message filters"
Someone stole it hence it's private but changed a few things on here and seem to be doing alright now |
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