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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That leaving a person you've been chatting with on read is pure evil.
Here are some reply options for the future.
1. I changed my mind
2. I'm busy right now.
3. You are 34 on the list
4. I am a time wasting attention seeking human who has now moved on to someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think "pure evil" is pushing it in the grand scheme of awful things people can possibly do to another person  "
Leaving a person who thought you connected on read with no explanation is the worst thing ever. You deserve for your shoe heels to snap in front of an ex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life is too short to get hung up on these things. You're only making yourself angry /frustrated /sad.
People have busy lives and their interactions here with people until they get to know them better or meet them are never going to be high on the life priority list.
I think you need to manage your expectations a little actually.
Maybe they have just changed their mind and don't know how to tell you.
Maybe something has come up in life that means they are too busy to think about conversing or maybe they don't want or have the head space.
Maybe their perspective of the communication with you isn't the same as yours?
The list could be endless. Once you start worrying less about what others do on here, the better it becomes.
Move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pure evil 
I would say that it's a standard practice for most people. Sometimes the conversation doesn't need a reply or naturally comes to an end. If your in the middle of a conversation though, then yeah that's rude but just delete and move on with your life pretty much. |
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"That leaving a person you've been chatting with on read is pure evil.
Here are some reply options for the future.
1. I changed my mind
2. I'm busy right now.
3. You are 34 on the list
4. I am a time wasting attention seeking human who has now moved on to someone else. "
First experience with being ghosted? |
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I'm a grown up I understand that people may or may not reply to my messages. That is on here and in life outside of here. I have someone who hasn't read my message that is a week old, I know how that person is and I know it's just how they are.
Maybe delete messages from your sent list if it makes you anxious. |
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"Life is too short to get hung up on these things. You're only making yourself angry /frustrated /sad.
People have busy lives and their interactions here with people until they get to know them better or meet them are never going to be high on the life priority list.
I think you need to manage your expectations a little actually.
Maybe they have just changed their mind and don't know how to tell you.
Maybe something has come up in life that means they are too busy to think about conversing or maybe they don't want or have the head space.
Maybe their perspective of the communication with you isn't the same as yours?
The list could be endless. Once you start worrying less about what others do on here, the better it becomes.
Move on "
Exactly this with an added, strangers on the internet owe you NOTHING! Not their time nor an interaction, nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Life is too short to get hung up on these things. You're only making yourself angry /frustrated /sad.
People have busy lives and their interactions here with people until they get to know them better or meet them are never going to be high on the life priority list.
I think you need to manage your expectations a little actually.
Maybe they have just changed their mind and don't know how to tell you.
Maybe something has come up in life that means they are too busy to think about conversing or maybe they don't want or have the head space.
Maybe their perspective of the communication with you isn't the same as yours?
The list could be endless. Once you start worrying less about what others do on here, the better it becomes.
Move on "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Life is too short to get hung up on these things. You're only making yourself angry /frustrated /sad.
People have busy lives and their interactions here with people until they get to know them better or meet them are never going to be high on the life priority list.
I think you need to manage your expectations a little actually.
Maybe they have just changed their mind and don't know how to tell you.
Maybe something has come up in life that means they are too busy to think about conversing or maybe they don't want or have the head space.
Maybe their perspective of the communication with you isn't the same as yours?
The list could be endless. Once you start worrying less about what others do on here, the better it becomes.
Move on
Exactly this with an added, strangers on the internet owe you NOTHING! Not their time nor an interaction, nothing."
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Other possible options:
5. You're a random person that I haven't met and don't owe you anything.
6. I have a life outside of Fabswingers that I must get on with.
7. Your multiple messages are now starting to irritate me.
8. I'm just trying to delete all the 'hows yous', 'hi', 'I'd love to lick your pussy' messages, so I might be a while. |
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"Life is too short to get hung up on these things. You're only making yourself angry /frustrated /sad.
People have busy lives and their interactions here with people until they get to know them better or meet them are never going to be high on the life priority list.
I think you need to manage your expectations a little actually.
Maybe they have just changed their mind and don't know how to tell you.
Maybe something has come up in life that means they are too busy to think about conversing or maybe they don't want or have the head space.
Maybe their perspective of the communication with you isn't the same as yours?
The list could be endless. Once you start worrying less about what others do on here, the better it becomes.
Move on
Spoken like a therapist "
Why did you use a rolley eye emoji ........ ? I'm really interested. |
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You will never win this argument on here. There have been lots of threads on this and the comments, especially from the veterans, is to just ignore and move on and you are not entitled to have any exoectations etc etc. Actually it is all you can do, move on. Personally I do think, as one or two others said, that is rude if it happens in the middle of a conversation as there are always polite ways to retreat and tbh I would prefer a block. Everyone is different.Have a great day and don't let any of the replies on this thread get to you either. Some people sadly enjoy that too  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You will never win this argument on here. There have been lots of threads on this and the comments, especially from the veterans, is to just ignore and move on and you are not entitled to have any exoectations etc etc. Actually it is all you can do, move on. Personally I do think, as one or two others said, that is rude if it happens in the middle of a conversation as there are always polite ways to retreat and tbh I would prefer a block. Everyone is different.Have a great day and don't let any of the replies on this thread get to you either. Some people sadly enjoy that too "
The forum is a playground. I don't think anyone takes anything here personally. I certainly do not.
Cheers mate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe you're too invested in the outcome...if you weren't so then you'd be more chicken about it
Oops chicken .
I meant chill "
I liked it when it read chicken. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous. |
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Maybe the very fact that some people deserve the respect of time and not a rushed message so therefore it is left on read or unread until sufficient time can be given to continue the conversation.
Sorry OP but last time I checked the world doesn’t revolve around certain people who can’t understand that other people have lives away from fab
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous. "
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour? |
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous. "
Yes this does happen in real life. One day your not working so have time to chat, the next day you're in work or family commitments so are unable to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’ve been on here 11 months and this is still bothering you? Surely you know how this site works by now.
Do tell  "
If someone’s interested enough they won’t be leaving you on unread. It could be life in the way, your message is buried under loads of others, or maybe they just not THAT into you. If you spend your time raging cos a convo dropped off you’ll go crazy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous.
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour? "
Back and forth.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You’ve been on here 11 months and this is still bothering you? Surely you know how this site works by now.
Do tell
If someone’s interested enough they won’t be leaving you on unread. It could be life in the way, your message is buried under loads of others, or maybe they just not THAT into you. If you spend your time raging cos a convo dropped off you’ll go crazy. "
Raging 
Now that just redefines the definition of presumption. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous.
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour?
Back and forth.
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That to me is not a deep connection, they could of been having multiple conversations with others.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous.
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour?
Back and forth.
That to me is not a deep connection, they could of been having multiple conversations with others.
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True but not if you were talking about meeting up in that 30mins and how they like it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm kinda with you, I get people have lives but a sudden ghosting when you've been generally chatty prior sucks a bit.
Generally not replying for a few days though doesn't bother me.
Mrs "
Finally, someone gets that ghosting is a bit odd. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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No I don't think it's pure evil especially if they start saying things that make me uncomfortable.And especially if I have told them that what they are saying makes me uncomfortable or cringe and they stop for a while then start again. Then I stop chatting completely.
I think if it happens just because the other person has lost interest and is chatting to others then yes it's a bit shitty. But pure evil no. I learnt very early on not to invest much into chats until you actually meet someone and even then it can happen. If the other person isn't feeling it and there is nothing you can do about that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm kinda with you, I get people have lives but a sudden ghosting when you've been generally chatty prior sucks a bit.
Generally not replying for a few days though doesn't bother me.
Mrs
Finally, someone gets that ghosting is a bit odd. "
It's not ghosting unless you've met or have chatted/spoken for months. Then you may have a point.
Just exchanging a few messages and then stopping is not ghosting. |
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"Sometimes I open a message and then need to do something before I have time to reply, have some patience "
This... pure evil is and should be used to describe p*edophikes, r*pists etc.... not for having a strop at not getting a repl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous.
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour?
Back and forth.
That to me is not a deep connection, they could of been having multiple conversations with others.
True but not if you were talking about meeting up in that 30mins and how they like it. "
She/he was probably wanking off. |
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I get messages from lots of men and I always reply with something like thanks and then thanks but your the wrong sex to be polite but after the 3rd or 4th I just leave unread or delete without opening…. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No I don't think it's pure evil especially if they start saying things that make me uncomfortable.And especially if I have told them that what they are saying makes me uncomfortable or cringe and they stop for a while then start again. Then I stop chatting completely.
I think if it happens just because the other person has lost interest and is chatting to others then yes it's a bit shitty. But pure evil no. I learnt very early on not to invest much into chats until you actually meet someone and even then it can happen. If the other person isn't feeling it and there is nothing you can do about that. "
On reflection, I could have been more descriptive. What I meant to refer to is ghosting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous.
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour?
Back and forth.
That to me is not a deep connection, they could of been having multiple conversations with others.
True but not if you were talking about meeting up in that 30mins and how they like it.
She/he was probably wanking off. "
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"Sometimes I open a message and then need to do something before I have time to reply, have some patience
This... pure evil is and should be used to describe p*edophikes, r*pists etc.... not for having a strop at not getting a repl"
Exactly this... What a remarkable exaggeration.
Sure it can be mildy annoying.
But so what, it's just messaging... They basically mean nothing until you've met the person. |
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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago
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"True but not if you were talking about meeting up in that 30mins and how they like it. "
You were talking to someone and in a 30 minute period discussed both meeting up and how they like it?
Dude likely finished his wank and moved on to the next chatty customer.
As for being left on read, un read or other forms of ignore.
Thats just the way of the online world. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm kinda with you, I get people have lives but a sudden ghosting when you've been generally chatty prior sucks a bit.
Generally not replying for a few days though doesn't bother me.
Mrs
Finally, someone gets that ghosting is a bit odd.
It's not ghosting unless you've met or have chatted/spoken for months. Then you may have a point.
Just exchanging a few messages and then stopping is not ghosting."
Wow, the line just move from simply giving your words to months. If only this was a dating site  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm kinda with you, I get people have lives but a sudden ghosting when you've been generally chatty prior sucks a bit.
Generally not replying for a few days though doesn't bother me.
Mrs
Finally, someone gets that ghosting is a bit odd.
It's not ghosting unless you've met or have chatted/spoken for months. Then you may have a point.
Just exchanging a few messages and then stopping is not ghosting.
Wow, the line just move from simply giving your words to months. If only this was a dating site "
If you plan to meet after messaging for 30mins, I'd get ready for a whole lot more "ghosting". |
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"You’ve been on here 11 months and this is still bothering you? Surely you know how this site works by now.
Do tell
If someone’s interested enough they won’t be leaving you on unread. It could be life in the way, your message is buried under loads of others, or maybe they just not THAT into you. If you spend your time raging cos a convo dropped off you’ll go crazy.
Raging
Now that just redefines the definition of presumption. "
Describing messages being left unread as “pure evil” isn’t raging? |
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"I'm kinda with you, I get people have lives but a sudden ghosting when you've been generally chatty prior sucks a bit.
Generally not replying for a few days though doesn't bother me.
Mrs
Finally, someone gets that ghosting is a bit odd.
It's not ghosting unless you've met or have chatted/spoken for months. Then you may have a point.
Just exchanging a few messages and then stopping is not ghosting."
Agreed this is what I mean by ghosting, not a 20 min conversation.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You’ve been on here 11 months and this is still bothering you? Surely you know how this site works by now.
Do tell
If someone’s interested enough they won’t be leaving you on unread. It could be life in the way, your message is buried under loads of others, or maybe they just not THAT into you. If you spend your time raging cos a convo dropped off you’ll go crazy.
Raging
Now that just redefines the definition of presumption.
Describing messages being left unread as “pure evil” isn’t raging? "
Sweetheart, a whole thread of conversation is not a few. |
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I can take days to reply to a message, I make this known when I start chatting to someone and if they aren't okay with that, then we aren't compatible. I'm not just like that here though, I do it with all messages and contact, anyone that knows me, knows what I'm like and doesn't worry. Life gets in the way, there's no evil involved. |
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Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can take days to reply to a message, I make this known when I start chatting to someone and if they aren't okay with that, then we aren't compatible. I'm not just like that here though, I do it with all messages and contact, anyone that knows me, knows what I'm like and doesn't worry. Life gets in the way, there's no evil involved. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip"
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe |
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe "
Drip, drip, drip |
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"That leaving a person you've been chatting with on read is pure evil.
Here are some reply options for the future.
1. I changed my mind
2. I'm busy right now.
3. You are 34 on the list
4. I am a time wasting attention seeking human who has now moved on to someone else. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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This isn’t fair. Leaving someone on read isn’t that bad. Ghosting someone sure. But people get left on read everyday. People’s lives are busy. People’s lives get in the way. People have bad days. Try again another day. Check in another time. It’s ok. |
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe "
This entertainment is naff, going to have to ghost this thread now...I completely understand why you had that experience in the first place, makes more sense now! |
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe
This entertainment is naff, going to have to ghost this thread now...I completely understand why you had that experience in the first place, makes more sense now! "
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"This isn’t fair. Leaving someone on read isn’t that bad. Ghosting someone sure. But people get left on read everyday. People’s lives are busy. People’s lives get in the way. People have bad days. Try again another day. Check in another time. It’s ok. "
Brilliant point.
Ps this is how to engage in conversations
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe
This entertainment is naff, going to have to ghost this thread now...I completely understand why you had that experience in the first place, makes more sense now! "
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How long have been left on "read", OP? If it's a day or more, I get it, it's painful, the ambiguity of it. However, if it was only short time, unfortunately we have no control over real life. Meaning we may have intended to reply there and then but something happened in real life and we had to leave the world of Fab to attend to the issue.
Would it be better if the person read it, and then marked it as "unread" until they can come back to it??? Or maybe, OP, you should just delete your "sent" inbox and not worry about not getting a reply straight away? Fab is not instant messaging service (and yes, I had people getting annoyed with me when I did not reply to their message within seconds). |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"No I don't think it's pure evil especially if they start saying things that make me uncomfortable.And especially if I have told them that what they are saying makes me uncomfortable or cringe and they stop for a while then start again. Then I stop chatting completely.
I think if it happens just because the other person has lost interest and is chatting to others then yes it's a bit shitty. But pure evil no. I learnt very early on not to invest much into chats until you actually meet someone and even then it can happen. If the other person isn't feeling it and there is nothing you can do about that.
On reflection, I could have been more descriptive. What I meant to refer to is ghosting. "
Ghosting is not stopping chatting. To me anyhow ghosting is when you arrange to meet and they don't show or block you after you've met a few times. Stopping chatting is not ghosting. |
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"No I don't think it's pure evil especially if they start saying things that make me uncomfortable.And especially if I have told them that what they are saying makes me uncomfortable or cringe and they stop for a while then start again. Then I stop chatting completely.
I think if it happens just because the other person has lost interest and is chatting to others then yes it's a bit shitty. But pure evil no. I learnt very early on not to invest much into chats until you actually meet someone and even then it can happen. If the other person isn't feeling it and there is nothing you can do about that.
On reflection, I could have been more descriptive. What I meant to refer to is ghosting.
Ghosting is not stopping chatting. To me anyhow ghosting is when you arrange to meet and they don't show or block you after you've met a few times. Stopping chatting is not ghosting."
Agreed. Ghosting is when an arrangement is made then all communication stops from one of the parties involved
Ghosting is often an overused word
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over a year ago
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Pure evil?....nah, not at all.
It just tells me they aren't interested and I move on.
This place is meant to be fun, if it's making you feel negative emotions then maybe take a break. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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I am guilty myself of leaving people unread even though they're sexy and it's not for any other reason other than I mainly use this place for the forums and get distracted easily.
I'm not one for doing something if it feels even vaguely chore like unless it will benefit my life for the reals, like washing clothes and cleaning |
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"I am guilty myself of leaving people unread even though they're sexy and it's not for any other reason other than I mainly use this place for the forums and get distracted easily.
I'm not one for doing something if it feels even vaguely chore like unless it will benefit my life for the reals, like washing clothes and cleaning "
He does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve sent about 8 in total. None requesting anything. 5 showing interest in meeting of which 1 got deleted, 1 replied “no thx” and other three are still unread. I like to think they have been read (and marked unread) and the person/people are going to decide what to do at a later date. At least they haven’t been deleted I suppose |
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This thread has really confused me..
No-one owes anyone anything..
They are like you free to do as they wish albeit right or wrong in your eyes...
Just because you've talked doesn't mean they want to carry on talking.
Maybe they thought they had not as much in common as they first thought?.
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"I think "pure evil" is pushing it in the grand scheme of awful things people can possibly do to another person
Leaving a person who thought you connected on read with no explanation is the worst thing ever. You deserve for your shoe heels to snap in front of an ex. "
It's that assumption you made a connection with them. Aside from the fact real life gets in the way and there be a very genuine reason this has occurred.
Running to the forum to badmouth them has certainly ruined any potential for you now with them.
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe
This entertainment is naff, going to have to ghost this thread now...I completely understand why you had that experience in the first place, makes more sense now!
Sarcasm so early in the morning. I may be a little in love already. "
Fellow saggitarian, you have brilliant taste and clearly like challenges! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Some people don't know how to say sorry I'm bored with talking to you.
Some people don't like hearing sorry I'm bored with you.
Conversations fizzle out, or someone brand new and shiny comes along to attract the attention.
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I can't agree that it's "pure evil".
People go quiet for all sorts of reasons - family, work, maintaining convos with other fabbers or just simply wanting some quiet time. Or something else completely. Who knows?
But getting worked up enough to post about it probably isn't the best thing. It's a nice weekend, and it'll be easy enough to head out and find something else to focus on. |
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I was in work this week, got home to 46 messages unread! This wasn't a usual day thank goodness, but it is impossible to keep up with so many messages and vanilla life too. What is evil is posting a variation someone gives you without reciprocation  |
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"Seriously now. I think that they argument of "no one owes you anything" can be said for anything.
In real life, you wouldn't spend 30mins chatting with a person just to ignore them completely the next day.
Now the internet is a crazy place, but I think people can still be courteous.
When you say spend 30 mins chatting do you mean actually chatting or messaging? Just back and forth messages for half an hour?
Back and forth.
That to me is not a deep connection, they could of been having multiple conversations with others.
True but not if you were talking about meeting up in that 30mins and how they like it.
She/he was probably wanking off. "
This exactly….
Take it as a lesson learned, I don’t think I’d be talking to a random stranger and after 30 mins chatting planning meeting the same morning, afternoon, evening. |
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"Sorry but what in the big baby boy strops is this? Why post and then disagree or try to mock people for commenting or having a different view to yours? Go and get some fresh air op you sound like you need it, if fab is bothering you so much, get off it. 30 mins of messaging someone is nothing at all, if you'd been speaking for 30 days, getting on, planning to meet etc and then they suddenly stopped without a simple message to say why, then yes you'd have an argument or something to debate but 30 mins of messaging? Come one op, get a grip
The forum is a pure entertainment Arena. Don't lose your anger management skills now. Breathe
This entertainment is naff, going to have to ghost this thread now...I completely understand why you had that experience in the first place, makes more sense now!
Sarcasm so early in the morning. I may be a little in love already.
Fellow saggitarian, you have brilliant taste and clearly like challenges! "
Challenges? Oh yes in every sense of the word. It's like you know me already!  |
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"That leaving a person you've been chatting with on read is pure evil.
Here are some reply options for the future.
1. I changed my mind
2. I'm busy right now.
3. You are 34 on the list
4. I am a time wasting attention seeking human who has now moved on to someone else. "
This just smacks of a sense of entitlement, just because someone has chatted to me, they owe me nothing.
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"That leaving a person you've been chatting with on read is pure evil.
Here are some reply options for the future.
1. I changed my mind
2. I'm busy right now.
3. You are 34 on the list
4. I am a time wasting attention seeking human who has now moved on to someone else. "
Rule of rules. Nobody owes you a reply.
Pure evil is if if they track you down, write 34 on your bedroom window with their menstrual blood keeping themselves busy at the same time having anal with someone else (no #1) and moaning loudly "I changed my mind" alternating that with a maniac laughter.
You'll be fine. I promise. Just let go of some expectations.
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