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"I would delete, maybe block depending on the vibes I get off the profile in question I do consider it very impolite to get a friends request without prior chats... chances are the person requesting just wants to perv on more pics and nowt else... happens a lot here." I get that, but we don't friend-wall any of our pics or videos, if people want to rub one out go right ahead. The best stuff is in real life. | |||
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"Yes, you’re being grumpy " Probably true, it's possible both are true at the same time | |||
"Never checked my friend request list before this post. Certainly Couldn’t be bothered going through and blocking them lol. Just presumed it’s a load of horny couples trying their best to get extra nudes for free lol. " I can filter the mailbox just for friend messages and their updates get pushed to the top, so I understand the value. I just don't get how random_hornyfuck37564 thinks I'm going to accept it. | |||
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"I accept them when there offline, nosey at the pics then remove them again. Mrs " I so haven't done this...... | |||
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"I accept them when there offline, nosey at the pics then remove them again. Mrs I so haven't done this......" Me neither   | |||
"I accept them when there offline, nosey at the pics then remove them again. Mrs " Genius, but, literally can't spend 24/7 doing Fabmin | |||
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"I get it constantly and i don't have any friends only photos to perve over lol" It actually makes me sad to think you don't have any Fab friends, sure unsolicited ones can get in the bin, but there isn't even 1 person you have decided to be closer to?  | |||
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"I accept them when there offline, nosey at the pics then remove them again. Mrs I so haven't done this...... Me neither "Nor me, perish the thought!  | |||
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"I accept them when there offline, nosey at the pics then remove them again. Mrs " We do this too. And say we will in our profile. If we're feeling particularly wicked, we will also fab one of the pics before unfriending | |||
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"Or. Just don't look at your friend request. Problemo solved. " Get her into Downing Street - a natural problem solver  | |||
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"Or. Just don't look at your friend request. Problemo solved. " Even better still, behave like a decent person not an arsehole. Don't send one without talking first. It seems so funny just how many people behave badly simply because they are behind a screen. What is wrong with some people?? | |||
"Or. Just don't look at your friend request. Problemo solved. Even better still, behave like a decent person not an arsehole. Don't send one without talking first. It seems so funny just how many people behave badly simply because they are behind a screen. What is wrong with some people??" You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. | |||
"It doesn't bother me if people send them if we haven't chatted because I never look at my friend requests. I just delete them once in a blue moon. " This ^  | |||
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"I wait until they're offline, accept, nosey at their pics then delete. That'll learn 'em " Yeah I do that too | |||
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"Or. Just don't look at your friend request. Problemo solved. Even better still, behave like a decent person not an arsehole. Don't send one without talking first. It seems so funny just how many people behave badly simply because they are behind a screen. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. " Without speaking, yes. Don't you?? | |||
"Or. Just don't look at your friend request. Problemo solved. Even better still, behave like a decent person not an arsehole. Don't send one without talking first. It seems so funny just how many people behave badly simply because they are behind a screen. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. " Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? | |||
it's like walking up to a stranger in the street and say 'fancy coming round for tea' or words to that effect | |||
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"I would never send or accept friend request before at least a bit of winking and followed by some messages and quite a bit of due dilligence it's like walking up to a stranger in the street and say 'fancy coming round for tea' or words to that effect "I actually had that happen to me once | |||
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nice try but you ain’t seeing my friends only pics cos guess what, you’re not my friend! | |||
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I get more annoyed by people talking to us and randomly blocking us
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"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend??" But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player 
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
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"I would never send or accept friend request before at least a bit of winking and followed by some messages and quite a bit of due dilligence it's like walking up to a stranger in the street and say 'fancy coming round for tea' or words to that effect "Or walking up to a stranger and asking them to show you all of their phone photos and giving you copies | |||
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"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
"Typical answer of the world today. The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it. And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions. Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means. | |||
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"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means."I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me. So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue. Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners | |||
"I hate them. And in 15 years have found them to be indicative of them being prepared to not invest effort into me, nor true interest in wanting to know me or my needs. I should block them all, after my experiments from sending a return wink and the resolute laziness, at best, that the single men have shown I think most of them are trying to get private wank fodder. It reduces when I delete my photos for friends. " Exactly ive found the same to be honest | |||
"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means.
I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me.
So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue.
Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners "Funny how you seem to be the only person defending this. Bad manners, disrespectful, splitting hairs. It is simply bad behaviour and we all know that. Well nearly all of us.... Like we said, some people behave so differently when they think they can get away with it. Rather sad. Enjoy. | |||
"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means.
I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me.
So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue.
Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners
Funny how you seem to be the only person defending this.
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It is simply bad behaviour and we all know that. Well nearly all of us....
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Enjoy."Quite true. And I stand by it. So it’s not a typical answer is it. Friends,- what does that mean? Request - how is that not just a question?
I really believe everyone that comes into a forum screaming hard done by from getting a wink or a friend request or a polite none agresive dm message from someone other than who they deem is attractive to them let’s me know everything I need to know.
Just answering your last message. | |||
"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means.
I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me.
So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue.
Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners
Funny how you seem to be the only person defending this.
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It is simply bad behaviour and we all know that. Well nearly all of us....
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Enjoy.
Quite true. And I stand by it. So it’s not a typical answer is it.
Friends,- what does that mean?
Request - how is that not just a question?
I really believe everyone that comes into a forum screaming hard done by from getting a wink or a friend request or a polite none agresive dm message from someone other than who they deem is attractive to them let’s me know everything I need to know.
Just answering your last message. "Your logic is fascinating. Love to see if you behave the same way at social. | |||
"Never checked my friend request list before this post. Certainly Couldn’t be bothered going through and blocking them lol. Just presumed it’s a load of horny couples trying their best to get extra nudes for free lol. I can filter the mailbox just for friend messages and their updates get pushed to the top, so I understand the value. I just don't get how random_hornyfuck37564 thinks I'm going to accept it." Because people go for the approach if you don't try you never know.... there's really no point working yourself up over it. Most unsolicited friend invites I receive I just delete but occasionally my interest might be piqued... and besides it's easy enough to unfriended people later. . | |||
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"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means.
I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me.
So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue.
Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners
Funny how you seem to be the only person defending this.
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It is simply bad behaviour and we all know that. Well nearly all of us....
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Enjoy.
Quite true. And I stand by it. So it’s not a typical answer is it.
Friends,- what does that mean?
Request - how is that not just a question?
I really believe everyone that comes into a forum screaming hard done by from getting a wink or a friend request or a polite none agresive dm message from someone other than who they deem is attractive to them let’s me know everything I need to know.
Just answering your last message.
Your logic is fascinating.
Love to see if you behave the same way at social."Do you see how presumptions can mislead you. Because I don’t do that. I don’t send friend requests to people, I don’t know. But what I do is defend those people that send friend requests, hoping for the best, those that I have no other intentions and trying to get to know somebody. But what they normally find somebody coming on the forum, telling him how disrespectful they been. Howe welcoming Does that look for those new people that I’ve joined Fab? As I said, don’t blame the player playing the game. There are so many features on this website that are broken because I’ve been there from day one that once worked, but they don’t work now, because of the sheer amount of people that are now on here, compared to the small amount that once was.
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"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means.
I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me.
So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue.
Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners
Funny how you seem to be the only person defending this.
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It is simply bad behaviour and we all know that. Well nearly all of us....
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Enjoy.
Quite true. And I stand by it. So it’s not a typical answer is it.
Friends,- what does that mean?
Request - how is that not just a question?
I really believe everyone that comes into a forum screaming hard done by from getting a wink or a friend request or a polite none agresive dm message from someone other than who they deem is attractive to them let’s me know everything I need to know.
Just answering your last message.
Your logic is fascinating.
Love to see if you behave the same way at social.
Do you see how presumptions can mislead you. Because I don’t do that. I don’t send friend requests to people, I don’t know. But what I do is defend those people that send friend requests, hoping for the best, those that I have no other intentions and trying to get to know somebody. But what they normally find somebody coming on the forum, telling him how disrespectful they been. Howe welcoming Does that look for those new people that I’ve joined Fab?
As I said, don’t blame the player playing the game. There are so many features on this website that are broken because I’ve been there from day one that once worked, but they don’t work now, because of the sheer amount of people that are now on here, compared to the small amount that once was.
*spl. "New members or not. Sending friend requests before attempting any type of polite contact is rude and disrespectful. Is this about telling people that just because this is a site where people may have fun with each other they can behave differently from how they would behave in real life?? So just because the system allows it, we should behave in a way which is not right? Strange logic, but it also shows what is wrong in the world today. How can sending a message out to behave as you would in real life send the wrong message out?? | |||
"My profile don’t say much but it says no friend requests unless we have chatted and also no unsolicited dick pics, It don’t make any difference to some folk, I delete the requests and invite them to read my profile I sometimes get a load of abuse about my attitude but I don’t care " And I bet you still get friends requests as they don’t either read your profile or they are chancers. The generic blank profile pic and other pics on the profile are the ones that get me, how easy is it to take a pic and upload it and don’t tell me they don’t have the time! (Sorry, went off on one then) | |||
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"I think there are a few reasons folk send them. 1. They wanna see your pictures 2. The longer the list if "friends" the more popular they might seem 3. They have face pictures in their gallery you can check out to see if interested 4.Other reasons they have for sending " We get all of that, but wouldn't it just be polite and good manners to say hi first, and at least share a decent conversation? | |||
"My profile don’t say much but it says no friend requests unless we have chatted and also no unsolicited dick pics, It don’t make any difference to some folk, I delete the requests and invite them to read my profile I sometimes get a load of abuse about my attitude but I don’t care And I bet you still get friends requests as they don’t either read your profile or they are chancers. The generic blank profile pic and other pics on the profile are the ones that get me, how easy is it to take a pic and upload it and don’t tell me they don’t have the time! (Sorry, went off on one then)" then there’s those who send me phone no’s or means of communication or those who message with “meet now” especially those who only joined the site 10mins ago | |||
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"…. As I said, don’t blame the player playing the game. There are so many features on this website that are broken because I’ve been there from day one that once worked, but they don’t work now, because of the sheer amount of people that are now on here, compared to the small amount that once was.
*spl.
New members or not. Sending friend requests before attempting any type of polite contact is rude and disrespectful.
Is this about telling people that just because this is a site where people may have fun with each other they can behave differently from how they would behave in real life?? So just because the system allows it, we should behave in a way which is not right? Strange logic, but it also shows what is wrong in the world today.
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"Okay. Let me start again. Explain to me again why it’s not right?
They have to behave differently, that’s a fact.
In a bar, in real life I can get to talk to you face to face. Here I can’t. There’s nothing the same about how to react.
Concidering we have profile photos of our naked bodies showing, how can you even compare it to being the same of how we would act act in real life? You are right. Strange logic.
All I’m trying to point out is when someone says it’s bad Manners to wink or send a friend request, (which literally leaves things in your hands to accept or not) I think it’s crazy. There are much more things to be bugged about in here. | |||
"…. As I said, don’t blame the player playing the game. There are so many features on this website that are broken because I’ve been there from day one that once worked, but they don’t work now, because of the sheer amount of people that are now on here, compared to the small amount that once was.
*spl.
New members or not. Sending friend requests before attempting any type of polite contact is rude and disrespectful.
Is this about telling people that just because this is a site where people may have fun with each other they can behave differently from how they would behave in real life?? So just because the system allows it, we should behave in a way which is not right? Strange logic, but it also shows what is wrong in the world today.
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Okay. Let me start again. Explain to me again why it’s not right?
They have to behave differently, that’s a fact.
In a bar, in real life I can get to talk to you face to face. Here I can’t. There’s nothing the same about how to react.
Concidering we have profile photos of our naked bodies showing, how can you even compare it to being the same of how we would act act in real life? You are right. Strange logic.
All I’m trying to point out is when someone says it’s bad Manners to wink or send a friend request, (which literally leaves things in your hands to accept or not) I think it’s crazy. There are much more things to be bugged about in here. "So in a bar, face to face, your first comment would be "Will you be my friend"? And your logic is because we have naked bodies on show then people can behave without manners. Really?? Why are you flogging a dead horse?? | |||
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"…. … All I’m trying to point out is when someone says it’s bad Manners to wink or send a friend request, (which literally leaves things in your hands to accept or not) I think it’s crazy. There are much more things to be bugged about in here.
So in a bar, face to face, your first comment would be "Will you be my friend"?
And your logic is because we have naked bodies on show then people can behave without manners.
Really??
Why are you flogging a dead horse??"No. I don’t whatask ‘will you be my friend’. Are use clear communication as an indication to tell him that I would like to get to know them ….. , and again you’re presuming I do these things. I would politely say hi. But guess what? That’s in normal real life. Imagine how that one word question is received and dealt with when itis asked in a persons inbox the majority of the time? This is not the same as in real life.!!!
Put on just generalising.
And I’m not flogging anything, I’m literally telling you, I personally can understand why somebody may use a tool that has been given by a website.
I’m completely happy that I’m the only one with this opinion, because it serves me well on here to act the way that I act and treat people with respect to the way that I treat people with respect. But if you try to make out that I support rude and disrespectful behaviour, because I tell you somebody might be only trying to say hello and get your attention by sending a friend request, then go ahead try and put me in a ‘certain demographic’.
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"So many errors ^ sorry. But I can’t be bothered changing them. "Yes, we have placed you in that demographic. Just because a game allows you to cheat, should you?? You are saying you should. There is nothing to win by cheating, but again that is our opinion. Maybe you would have a very different perspective if you were here as a couple rather than here as a single guy... | |||
"I will literally allow anyone to be my friend. Providing they have a verification." Couples are a little bit more picky..... | |||
"So many errors ^ sorry. But I can’t be bothered changing them.
Yes, we have placed you in that demographic. Just because a game allows you to cheat, should you??
You are saying you should. There is nothing to win by cheating, but again that is our opinion.
Maybe you would have a very different perspective if you were here as a couple rather than here as a single guy...
"Why is it now cheating?
Just out of curiosity, am I speaking to the man or woman? | |||
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"…. … All I’m trying to point out is when someone says it’s bad Manners to wink or send a friend request, (which literally leaves things in your hands to accept or not) I think it’s crazy. There are much more things to be bugged about in here.
So in a bar, face to face, your first comment would be "Will you be my friend"?
And your logic is because we have naked bodies on show then people can behave without manners.
Really??
Why are you flogging a dead horse??
No. I don’t whatask ‘will you be my friend’. Are use clear communication as an indication to tell him that I would like to get to know them
….. , and again you’re presuming I do these things. I would politely say hi. But guess what? That’s in normal real life. Imagine how that one word question is received and dealt with when itis asked in a persons inbox the majority of the time? This is not the same as in real life.!!!
Put on just generalising.
And I’m not flogging anything, I’m literally telling you, I personally can understand why somebody may use a tool that has been given by a website.
I’m completely happy that I’m the only one with this opinion, because it serves me well on here to act the way that I act and treat people with respect to the way that I treat people with respect. But if you try to make out that I support rude and disrespectful behaviour, because I tell you somebody might be only trying to say hello and get your attention by sending a friend request, then go ahead try and put me in a ‘certain demographic’.
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"I will literally allow anyone to be my friend. Providing they have a verification. Couples are a little bit more picky....." Are they? Really? I also have a couples profile here and we both use it exactly the same way and talk to people the same way we do on our single profiles. My opinion in 8 years here is that many couples aren't picky at all and are more than happy to message any fresh meat or new cock and expect gratitude in return. The vast majority of unsolicited friend requests I've received over the years have been from couples. I would guess at this stage I've had 100 in 8 years and 70-80 of those have been from couples I've never spoken to or even looked at their profiles. I have had follow up messages with lists of demands telling me what I need to do to get on their to-do lists and many calling me a waster and an idiot for not accepting their friends requests. Therefore I don't believe for a second that all couples are more picky. I'm extremely picky which is why I've never accepted an unsolicited friend request. | |||
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"…. … We have a question for you. If they want to say hello, then why not send a message saying hello??" Are you still not answered whether I’m talking to the man or a woman on this profile. | |||
"Perplexed by no-chat friend requests from attractive established couples who are verified by other well established fabbers. They must surely know that many people see this behaviour as a negative. It’s as if their strategy is to seek out the undiscriminating. Very odd. " We’re the ones guilty of stirring this hornets nest after 36 weeks of peace . Just to repeat… if you are a legit couple then sending requests without even saying hi seems like a pretty counterproductive strategy to us if you do in fact want to connect with other legit couples. Now carry on… | |||
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"I can believe we are here again, but let's try anyway. Winks, sure, if you are a couple send one and if we wink back then we can open a chat or just start chatting. If we get a spark, send a friend request. Single men, don't send a wink at all, just message, if we spark again send a friend request. But. Don't just send an unsolicited friend request. We won't just delete it, we will block as well. Am I just being grumpy because of a long work week and I'm tired? Is this an unreasonable expectation?" agree. Why can't they send a message ffs | |||
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"I would never send or accept friend request before at least a bit of winking and followed by some messages and quite a bit of due dilligence it's like walking up to a stranger in the street and say 'fancy coming round for tea' or words to that effect
Or walking up to a stranger and asking them to show you all of their phone photos and giving you copies "yes it's rude! | |||
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"Or. What is wrong with some people?? You think sending a friend request is bad behaviour? … interesting. Do you think it is good behaviour to walk up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend?? But we’re not talking about real life or face to face. Why can’t you (or some others) separate the two? Look at it this way, the website has given people tools - the Wink button, and a friend request button, and the direct messages. So when the friend request button is available for somebody to use, they are only using the tool that has been given to them. So blame the game, not the player
And if you personally think that somebody sending you a friend request is impolite or bad manners, I’d say, you need to reassess, what bad manners actually are. And I stand by that, because I think there’s a push from some profiles that just would prefer no interaction on here at all apart from people they fancy. And unfortunately I can’t be guaranteed for anybody.
Typical answer of the world today.
The tool is provided for people to use the right way however as always some people will abuse it.
And as for behaving differently on here, well that is because behind a screen we don't face any consequences for our actions.
Obviously some people have different ideas of what respect means.
I’m so glad someone joined in or answered me.
So, just tell me, do you think it’s disrespectful for someone to send you a friend invite out of the blue.
Some people today take this place too serious, and have no idea what disrespectful actualy means. And I didn’t mention respect, we were talking about bad manners
Funny how you seem to be the only person defending this.
Bad manners, disrespectful, splitting hairs.
It is simply bad behaviour and we all know that. Well nearly all of us....
Like we said, some people behave so differently when they think they can get away with it.
Rather sad.
Enjoy."I don't think it is bad manners, or disrespectful, or anything like that. I think it's just a way of shooting their shot. After all, it isn't like sending a friend request gives them access to anything, you have to accept the request for that. I don't understand why people get so het up about it. Just don't look, or have a look and ignore or delete, or accept and have a look when the other person is offline and then remove them as a friend. Whatever you choose to do is no more or less disrespectful than the unsolicited friend request in the first place. | |||
