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What happens to sex toys after a break up?
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So, I've recently been seeing someone but never became official, and in that time I'd bought a lot of BDSM stuff and toys. What should I do with that stuff now?
Also, when it comes to a new relationship, should I get rid of all or some of the toys?
I bought a very expensive Bluetooth controlled wearable vibrator that I don't want to get rid of!
Any advice or comments from people here please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it? 
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else..."
Lovely .... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it? "
Oddly enough....there is! 
As to the question of what happens to toys after a break up - I suspect some will get used a lot more. 
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
Lovely ...."
Sarcasm?
My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha
Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts. |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
Lovely ...."
This is why I won’t have a McFlurry. |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
Oddly enough....there is!
As to the question of what happens to toys after a break up - I suspect some will get used a lot more.
A"
The question is more about whether I should get rid of them or keep them for the future with someone else? |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Take what you want, leave what you don’t want.
Simples.
And use with someone else? Thoughts? "
No. Not if the item you took had been used. Use it for solo fun. If the item is still in the box and unused, then yeah, crack on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
Oddly enough....there is! …
A"
No way??
So this is obviously a personal opinion. Nobody could clean that thing (whatever I thought of buying) enough.
Also, it just feels personal. I kept nothing from my ex wife. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
Lovely ....
Sarcasm?
My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha
Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts. "
Sarcasm? Never.
My thoughts, I'd be creeped out and 100% put off any guy that had vibrators and such they wanted to use with me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”"
Only 3 previous owners. |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
Lovely ....
Sarcasm?
My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha
Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts.
Sarcasm? Never.
My thoughts, I'd be creeped out and 100% put off any guy that had vibrators and such they wanted to use with me.
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Ok, thanks. I've got a wand with a male attachment so could potentially get around that one that way. I've got two dildos that are for my anal fun and then some specific ones for her. The rest is BDSM gear more than anything else. |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else..."
If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.
Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”
Only 3 previous owners. "
Given there’s a thriving work knickers market, might sell if you said never washes   |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.
Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.
Em"
I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts! |
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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it? "
Not odd at all.
There's a definite market for used items of all sorts.
The biggest being used knickers, with used toys being close behind (pun intended).
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”
Only 3 previous owners.
Given there’s a thriving work knickers market, might sell if you said never washes "
This is a good point actually. Target the kinky ones.  |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
There is a stall at the BBB that sells used sex toys  so there is a market for them but if I found out someone had used a previously used toy on me without consent (you know that thing we are really keen on in the BDSM community...) I'd be furious.
As for non intimate toys, make sure they are clean and cared for properly (especially on anything that could have come into contact with broken skin). |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Quick question, I wouldn't know as I don't have sex toys but is that why condoms are used for dildos or wands so they can be used for multiple partners?"
Being poly it's one reason why I often use them...
But also it's far easier to clean up sometimes |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.
Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.
Em
I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts! "
Use it yourself or cut your losses and get rid.
If it been inside an orifice it shouldn't be used without a new partner's knowledge.
As for cuffs,bars,rope should be fine but don't try to pass off anything as new with another partner as that's unfair.
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"Quick question, I wouldn't know as I don't have sex toys but is that why condoms are used for dildos or wands so they can be used for multiple partners?
Being poly it's one reason why I often use them...
But also it's far easier to clean up sometimes "
Ahhh interesting, I guess if you thought you'd only have one partner I can see why you wouldn't but I suppose you should see the toys as a write off before purchasing them no matter how clean you think you can get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Anything that can be sterilised properly like glass, silicon etc you could probably keep. Vibrators and the like can’t be sterilised and shouldn’t be used on anyone else. If you’re going to keep anything I’d be honest with them about it and let them make the decision on whether they are ok with it or not. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
Oddly enough....there is! …
A
No way??
So this is obviously a personal opinion. Nobody could clean that thing (whatever I thought of buying) enough.
Also, it just feels personal. I kept nothing from my ex wife. "
I'll explain all on Friday over a drink.
Let's just say there's some sick puppies out there and there's a market for anything and everything on the good old t'internet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bin them! Someone I'd met on here some years ago returned my toys but I could tell he'd used them on someone else. Dirty bastard! They went straight in the bin   |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
Lovely ....
Sarcasm?
My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha
Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts. "
My thoughts are that I'd not let anyone near me with toys he had lying around. Only ones I'd use would be my own or ones we had bought together. |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.
Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.
Em
I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts! "
But it's ok for you to do it? |
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"Odd there a second hand market for these?
Does ‘used only once’ cut it?
I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...
If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.
Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.
Em
I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts!
But it's ok for you to do it? "
Never said it was ok, just looking for people's thoughts and opinions as I'm not sure what to do... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t be a cheapskate
New woman, new toys.
Imagine if a new lady wanted you to wear a cock sleeve and gave you one her previous BF used to wear that she’d given a good wash.
Same with a dildo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And this is why I have my own kit. It only gets used on me.
The amount of guys that carry around a case/bag of kit and don't realise we would be mortified at how many women it's been used on.
Not just toys... restraints and collar etc included.
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Off Subject a little but many years ago in the very late 80's I delivered kerb stones to a council depot and got invited into the yard mess room for a cuppa.
There was a pin board covered in polaroids of housewives the dustys had recovered from bins. Safe to say you can imagine the type of pictures.
At the time I loved it, as I grew older I really felt for the people who luckily had no idea they were found. |
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Whatever you want to keep, keep, simple really.
I've never kept toys from realtionships, always started afresh.
Though anything I have now from being single I wouldn't chuck away if I was to get into a realtionship.
They are more expensive and better quality though. |
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"Get rid. Sex toys aren't for sharing.
Why is it so many woman don’t like the idea of a toy in her if it’s been in another woman but they are ok with the cock "
Because unfortunately you can't replace male cocks, so it's not like we have a choice. Toys however you can replace. |
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"So, I've recently been seeing someone but never became official, and in that time I'd bought a lot of BDSM stuff and toys. What should I do with that stuff now?
Also, when it comes to a new relationship, should I get rid of all or some of the toys?
I bought a very expensive Bluetooth controlled wearable vibrator that I don't want to get rid of!
Any advice or comments from people here please. "
clean them properly and keep them. you bought them they are yours.
Unless you gave them any as gifts, in which case, those belong to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many couples stay together just for the sake of the sex toys.
This is wrong. The sex toys are not stupid. They pick up on these things."
This did make me chuckle! |
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