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Been few time I been either pub or work come across things been said
One was a man maybe in 40s at the most. Something said about ladies in stockings. He was very brunt wearing them things is for tarts etc. I never want see my wife dress as a tart. We all just looked and said nothing.
The other was someone was making joke about if see wife shaving I know she planning use having fun.
One man had full on go at him calling him pedo if he liked wife shaving. |
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"Been few time I been either pub or work come across things been said
One was a man maybe in 40s at the most. Something said about ladies in stockings. He was very brunt wearing them things is for tarts etc. I never want see my wife dress as a tart. We all just looked and said nothing.
The other was someone was making joke about if see wife shaving I know she planning use having fun.
One man had full on go at him calling him pedo if he liked wife shaving. "
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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago
Chipping Norton |
"This is not "vanilla" , this is why it gets a bad rep. These men just sound like twats "
Thoroughly agree. Nothing wrong with vanilla any more than with other flavours of life, and like them it's not an excuse for bigotry or contempt or exploitation or thinking of other people as second class. |
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I once walked into the staff room for my tea break, as I open the door some called out "Hay have you ever been airtight" I instantly answered "yes of course I have " the whole room went deadly quiet as they were all trying to work out if I was joking or not. I had a lovely cuppa and went back to work.
Sometimes it's fun messing with vanilla people's minds. No one plucked the courage to ask me. X |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Men (by and large!) struggle with discussing anything regards sex, with the exception of anything I class as misogynistic in my opinion..
Other than the guys Y and I have met together with obvious intention, I had no one to discuss anything of the lifestyle with, but she did, made the decision to confide in 2 of my closest friends, who initially had a closed stereotypical reaction.
But, having known me for over 30 years, the love I have for Y and the positive effect she's had on my life after the loss of of my first borns mother to cancer, a couple of redundancies, painful divorce etc..
They've listened, appreciated my honesty, and slowly opened up to me with issues that would previously have been glossed over and frankly I'm overjoyed..
They'll never try the lifestyle in my opinion and I will never suggest they should, but the honesty has brought us closer..
There's still a huge stigma guys carry and the bravado is a mask for what's going on with them I feel..
Just smile and change the subject..
Apologies for the rambling. Mr x |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I once walked into the staff room for my tea break, as I open the door some called out "Hay have you ever been airtight" I instantly answered "yes of course I have " the whole room went deadly quiet as they were all trying to work out if I was joking or not. I had a lovely cuppa and went back to work.
Sometimes it's fun messing with vanilla people's minds. No one plucked the courage to ask me. X"
You and my girl would get on!!  |
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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago
Chipping Norton |
"Men (by and large!) struggle with discussing anything regards sex, with the exception of anything I class as misogynistic in my opinion..
Other than the guys Y and I have met together with obvious intention, I had no one to discuss anything of the lifestyle with, but she did, made the decision to confide in 2 of my closest friends, who initially had a closed stereotypical reaction.
But, having known me for over 30 years, the love I have for Y and the positive effect she's had on my life after the loss of of my first borns mother to cancer, a couple of redundancies, painful divorce etc..
They've listened, appreciated my honesty, and slowly opened up to me with issues that would previously have been glossed over and frankly I'm overjoyed..
They'll never try the lifestyle in my opinion and I will never suggest they should, but the honesty has brought us closer..
There's still a huge stigma guys carry and the bravado is a mask for what's going on with them I feel..
Just smile and change the subject..
Apologies for the rambling. Mr x"
That's an infinitely finer & more sympathetic answer than mine. You're right, people talking in an offensive or stupid way is often a mark of them being stuck for how to talk more honestly and frankly about such a key part of life, not of them being offensive and stupid at heart. Some conversations, about sex or emotions, aren't always easy for any of us. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Men (by and large!) struggle with discussing anything regards sex, with the exception of anything I class as misogynistic in my opinion..
Other than the guys Y and I have met together with obvious intention, I had no one to discuss anything of the lifestyle with, but she did, made the decision to confide in 2 of my closest friends, who initially had a closed stereotypical reaction.
But, having known me for over 30 years, the love I have for Y and the positive effect she's had on my life after the loss of of my first borns mother to cancer, a couple of redundancies, painful divorce etc..
They've listened, appreciated my honesty, and slowly opened up to me with issues that would previously have been glossed over and frankly I'm overjoyed..
They'll never try the lifestyle in my opinion and I will never suggest they should, but the honesty has brought us closer..
There's still a huge stigma guys carry and the bravado is a mask for what's going on with them I feel..
Just smile and change the subject..
Apologies for the rambling. Mr x
That's an infinitely finer & more sympathetic answer than mine. You're right, people talking in an offensive or stupid way is often a mark of them being stuck for how to talk more honestly and frankly about such a key part of life, not of them being offensive and stupid at heart. Some conversations, about sex or emotions, aren't always easy for any of us."
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I've had to bite my tongue many times, hearing guys with no experience in this lifestyle chatting about things they get up to or fantasies they have.
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Oh yes!!! But do you get the 'if only you knew' smile?!? |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Been few time I been either pub or work come across things been said
One was a man maybe in 40s at the most. Something said about ladies in stockings. He was very brunt wearing them things is for tarts etc. I never want see my wife dress as a tart. We all just looked and said nothing.
The other was someone was making joke about if see wife shaving I know she planning use having fun.
One man had full on go at him calling him pedo if he liked wife shaving. "
Thats just everyday life talk nothing to do with vanilla or neopolitan thats about his wife and how he doesn't want her to flirt or look good to other guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Vanilla, chocolate chip, stinging nettle and olive every flavour has something going for it and is a matter of taste.
I personally perversion is another’s normal that’s life. Enjoy what you enjoy and others will do the same. |
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