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Thoughts on inaccurate age on profiles.
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Many people don't look their age, either older or younger. Does everyone ask for photo ID when meeting? Or do they just think 'yeah, you look like the age on your profile so all's good'?
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"There’s a load on here who bend the truth with their age. When you see them at events it’s obvious to see that they’re catfishing by knocking a good few years from their actual age on their profiles. " After reading last nights messages....... (I'll just leave this here for you whilst I tap my foot waiting at Aldi bins) | |||
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"I should knock 10 yrs of mine as I don't look my age" I could knock a good few off mine too ,but why bother.I'm actually still 48 for a few weeks ,but change it so I'm not giving my real birthday away lol. | |||
"There’s a load on here who bend the truth with their age. When you see them at events it’s obvious to see that they’re catfishing by knocking a good few years from their actual age on their profiles. After reading last nights messages....... (I'll just leave this here for you whilst I tap my foot waiting at Aldi bins) "  | |||
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"It would bother me ,11 years is a lot to knock off your age & many wouldn't be able to get away with saying they're so much younger. There's a man on my updates who admits to knocking 7 years off,thing is it's a little lie yes,but would make me wonder what else they lie about to get meets." This is it for me aswell, its a little lie but I would wonder. I think for me if we were chatting and they admitted they had lied about their age I might consider still meeting them, but if I turned up to meet someone and it was obvious they had lied about their age the meet would be over. | |||
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"There used to be a guy in a chatgroup in 2018 who was 55 on his profile but he admitted in the group to being 58 and had no issue changing his age to suit specific profiles he was monitoring and closely following. Only 3 years so not too bad except when he left and returned a few months later he was suddenly only 50. His most recent profile claimed he was 55 again but he is actually closer to 65. " I remember a lady on here was 40 a few times. | |||
"I understand a year (possibly 2?) to help with anonymity, but anything else is just dishonest and is a red flag. " Agreed. Though we've come to almost expect it, to the point we've adjusted the age range we seek to allow for others tweaking their age.  | |||
Our 'separate' catfish experiences were on vanilla dating sites, prior to us meeting and why I requested a video chat with D before we physically met.
My experience was a guy evidently 10-15 years senior to his pictures. His experience was a lady who was twice the woman her pictures had shown and he didn't enjoy the experience of saying no thanks, as she turned a little abusive when he did..
Appreciate the argument regards consent at an a event, anyone having deceived to be accepted on the organisers criteria, is removing other's right to consent..
By that point they're in front of you, not hiding behind a site/filters/criteria/Photoshop/filters etc.. and it's your choice whether you fuck them (as rightly so at any club/social night) or not isn't it?
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"I understand a year (possibly 2?) to help with anonymity, but anything else is just dishonest and is a red flag. " Yes a good point! Like not using your real names.. Frankly 39 seems to be a common age but he was a decade older (pictures were not) and we didn't care.. | |||
"There’s a load on here who bend the truth with their age. When you see them at events it’s obvious to see that they’re catfishing by knocking a good few years from their actual age on their profiles. After reading last nights messages....... (I'll just leave this here for you whilst I tap my foot waiting at Aldi bins) " Ooooh, that sounds intriguing! | |||
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"As long as he looks like his recent photo, I'm OK. Any differences that I don't find attractive amd I'm off..." Exactly as we felt, their pictures were as they looked, on the site, via WhatsApp video and in person... So we had zero issue with they're claimed vs real age was | |||
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"To a point it’s fine, we can understand why some people have little exaggerations on here but as long as they’re honest with us, and open with us, we’d take them at face value and be fine with it
Mr "Exactly as we felt and happened, people 'bend the truth' in life for many reasons. We made the decision we didn't care and besides their real ages weren't outside our parameters anyway, so their choice made no difference to us. Understand if anyone is hiding age using old pictures without disclosing before meeting, it's a deceitful practice which we don't condone. But in this case we wanted to fuck them | |||
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Point being long as I still find them attractive in person then it’s all good, otherwise that’s catfishing & a short social  | |||
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"It’s annoying because the filters are there for a reason, if someone is not wanting to meet/date people outside of a specific age range then it’s completely their choice. But by lying about your age, you’re taking that choice away from them. Also if someone can lie about their age and not feel bad about it- who knows what else they could lie about "Exactly this. It really annoys me. It's the same as lying about marital status, smoking etc etc. | |||
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"You can always tell approximate age by necks and hands. If they are wearing polo necks and gloves attitudes and cultural references along with style of speech give the game away. Two or three years nobody notices, ten and over is laughably obvious. One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone "Haha, someone failed maths then! | |||
"You can always tell approximate age by necks and hands. If they are wearing polo necks and gloves attitudes and cultural references along with style of speech give the game away. Two or three years nobody notices, ten and over is laughably obvious. One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone
Haha, someone failed maths then! "I think he just forgot his fab age lol. People don't always take years off. We met a young guy who'd told us he was early thirties. I very much doubt he was more than 21. | |||
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"We like people to be honest as we are... All our details are honest. Our views are honest. Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono). We show our faces. Already have enough of the straight guys pretending to be bi just to try getting it on with S! Yes we have even had people quickly change their sexuality on their profile before messaging us not realising we had already seen it beforehand. Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows! " You utterly are! Pity D's out of your age criteria! | |||
"We like people to be honest as we are... All our details are honest. Our views are honest. Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono). We show our faces. Already have enough of the straight guys pretending to be bi just to try getting it on with S! Yes we have even had people quickly change their sexuality on their profile before messaging us not realising we had already seen it beforehand. Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows! You utterly are! Pity D's out of your age criteria! "At our discretion
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"We like people to be honest as we are... All our details are honest. Our views are honest. Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono). We show our faces. Already have enough of the straight guys pretending to be bi just to try getting it on with S! Yes we have even had people quickly change their sexuality on their profile before messaging us not realising we had already seen it beforehand. Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows! You utterly are! Pity D's out of your age criteria!
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"Oh utterly!!!
Would you like us to drop you a message? Hidden atm as we've just bought a house together and time poor! | |||
"For us really it's that if we fancy them, age is really irrelevant.. Provided we don't get catfished as we both have on dating sites before we met.. When we've suspected and asked for a picture of them holding something specific (get your mind out of the gutter! ) or dated some have vanished "S is more so on the age thing as she is younger than me.. it kind of limits the upper roof and I higher the lower end. Feel free to PM us if you want as we cannot see your profile... who knows  | |||
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"Its about the connection you make Not their birth date . Do have the same wants and desires as you and do you fancy them ." Us! | |||
"If they lie about their age what else do they lie about, it's all about trust for me." For us, not looking to marry them.. | |||
"Its about the connection you make Not their birth date . Do have the same wants and desires as you and do you fancy them . Us!" Doesn't them cover us | |||
"We connected with another couple on an alternative site. Both 39 on their profile.. After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's. We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them. Utterly get the view as seen in many posts that it removes an element of consent within the lifestyle if not communicated and especially if pictures are years ago, yes we both been catfished before we met!! But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on.. Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation "Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile. This is why we don't trust people! | |||
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"Honestly, some people make me honestly laugh about being totally honest and putting their honest names, address and honest birthdates etc on this honest thread. Then when identity is taken they can honestly say that they honestly weren't aware that could happen. T I Ch. "None of mine is correct. DOB, location etc. never has been. I don’t want people knowing that stuff, simple. That’s the only reason. | |||
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"Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant. The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead." I've always said this.
On here if you're attracted to a (recent) photo, their profile and how they interact and engage on here, are you honestly going to throw a wobbler if when you meet they tell you they're Dave rather than Bob, they're from a different location to the one on their profile or that they're 42 rather than 40?
In clubs, once you've seen someone you fancy, chatted for a while, realised you all like eachother and disappear off for some jiggy jiggy, had a whale of a time and lots of fun....are you going to chuck a head fit when you go to verify them to find they wouldn't have been able to contact you via Fab due to being a year over your stated preferences?
Because I've a sneaking suspicion that most people wouldn't.
Sure. If you turn up for a social and they look nothing like their photos ans have wiped a decade from their history, then walk away in disgust. If you arrive at a club having chatted online to someone only to find those people have cooked the books as much as the government did during covid then yes, disappointment and frustration is justified.
But people do seem to get their knickers in a twist over the slightest blurring of personal details on here sometimes, as if there was going to be catastrophe caused by someone choosing not to use a real name, age, or other detail. This is an Internet contact site, not a credit reference agency.
You're meeting strangers via the Internet for sex, often for just a one time or occasional spell of naughtiness. Not knowing everything about them is kind of to be expected, surely?
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"Yeah bothers me photo ID at the ready passports and driving licences please "You forgot fingerprints. Lol | |||
"Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant. The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead. I've always said this.
On here if you're attracted to a (recent) photo, their profile and how they interact and engage on here, are you honestly going to throw a wobbler if when you meet they tell you they're Dave rather than Bob, they're from a different location to the one on their profile or that they're 42 rather than 40?
In clubs, once you've seen someone you fancy, chatted for a while, realised you all like eachother and disappear off for some jiggy jiggy, had a whale of a time and lots of fun....are you going to chuck a head fit when you go to verify them to find they wouldn't have been able to contact you via Fab due to being a year over your stated preferences?
Because I've a sneaking suspicion that most people wouldn't.
Sure. If you turn up for a social and they look nothing like their photos ans have wiped a decade from their history, then walk away in disgust. If you arrive at a club having chatted online to someone only to find those people have cooked the books as much as the government did during covid then yes, disappointment and frustration is justified.
But people do seem to get their knickers in a twist over the slightest blurring of personal details on here sometimes, as if there was going to be catastrophe caused by someone choosing not to use a real name, age, or other detail. This is an Internet contact site, not a credit reference agency.
You're meeting strangers via the Internet for sex, often for just a one time or occasional spell of naughtiness. Not knowing everything about them is kind of to be expected, surely?
A"When we are allowing someone in to our bedroom, Into our relationship then yes we expect honesty. That's just respect if nothing else! Some may not be bothered and that's fine, and it's fine that some of us are bothered... | |||
"When we've suspected and asked for a picture of them holding something specific (get your mind out of the gutter! ) or dated some have vanished "This was a common practice of mine, pre Fab days. Not to check their age though, to confirm I was actually corresponding with a woman. I'm really not bothered about age, I prefer women my own age and in their 70s, or maybe a well preserved 80s. Few and far between on here though 
Jane on the other hand will go with blokes a lot younger even though she would prefer her own age but, unfortunately, the men of our generation don't generally look after themselves.
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"Would be a Cya from me,a lie is a lie end of" Here here | |||
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"Plenty of people embellish the truth, it all depends on how it would affect me or mine. You have to ask if they are willing to be dishonest about their age, what else may they be keeping from me?" This is what we think. No need to moonlight us, if we like you we like you... lies burn foundations | |||
"Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant. The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead. I've always said this.
On here if you're attracted to a (recent) photo, their profile and how they interact and engage on here, are you honestly going to throw a wobbler if when you meet they tell you they're Dave rather than Bob, they're from a different location to the one on their profile or that they're 42 rather than 40?
In clubs, once you've seen someone you fancy, chatted for a while, realised you all like eachother and disappear off for some jiggy jiggy, had a whale of a time and lots of fun....are you going to chuck a head fit when you go to verify them to find they wouldn't have been able to contact you via Fab due to being a year over your stated preferences?
Because I've a sneaking suspicion that most people wouldn't.
Sure. If you turn up for a social and they look nothing like their photos ans have wiped a decade from their history, then walk away in disgust. If you arrive at a club having chatted online to someone only to find those people have cooked the books as much as the government did during covid then yes, disappointment and frustration is justified.
But people do seem to get their knickers in a twist over the slightest blurring of personal details on here sometimes, as if there was going to be catastrophe caused by someone choosing not to use a real name, age, or other detail. This is an Internet contact site, not a credit reference agency.
You're meeting strangers via the Internet for sex, often for just a one time or occasional spell of naughtiness. Not knowing everything about them is kind of to be expected, surely?
A"Thoughts exactly!!!!! No to catfish experiences 100%!! Additionally the discretion element which is mentioned everywhere on the site, but not within this thread 'we think'.. Such as shock!!.. faces hidden, inexact location, redacted tattoos etc.. Full kudos to those who can be utterly honest on their profile! We applaud you. But for some, work implications, children and child custody issues, social, religious and ethnicity concerns are to be beared in mind in what is not a mainstream acceptable past time, each to their own if they wish to judge without 'walking a mile'. Our pictures are recent and unfiltered as were the couple our initial post refers to, our name's are initials as neither are particularly common and especially if combined.. But we ultimately feel that deceiving people, disrespecting their right of consent up to a physical meeting, wasting their time and giving them the awkward task of saying no at that point is abhorrent! | |||
"Honestly, some people make me honestly laugh about being totally honest and putting their honest names, address and honest birthdates etc on this honest thread. Then when identity is taken they can honestly say that they honestly weren't aware that could happen. T I Ch.
None of mine is correct. DOB, location etc. never has been. I don’t want people knowing that stuff, simple. That’s the only reason. " | |||
"We connected with another couple on an alternative site. Both 39 on their profile.. After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's. We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them. Utterly get the view as seen in many posts that it removes an element of consent within the lifestyle if not communicated and especially if pictures are years ago, yes we both been catfished before we met!! But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on.. Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation
Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.
This is why we don't trust people!"Love a bit irony here | |||
"We connected with another couple on an alternative site. Both 39 on their profile.. After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's. We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them. Utterly get the view as seen in many posts that it removes an element of consent within the lifestyle if not communicated and especially if pictures are years ago, yes we both been catfished before we met!! But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on.. Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation
Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.
This is why we don't trust people!"Wow!!!! Firstly. unsure why you'd need to do that on a forum chat, if you found us unattractive our apologies. Second. our profile is hidden as stated, so ergo our ages are. Thirdly, you received very recent pictures of us both. And exact ages.. (actually on reflection Y isn't 38 till September.. Sorry!) Fourth, thanks for the good luck wishes.. | |||
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"Some people on here can not spell. " Lol!! Grammar and spelling are a different forum subject.. Many times we've rolled our eye's! | |||
"Some people on here can not spell. " Stop throwing stones in your glass house
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"We connected with another couple on an alternative site. Both 39 on their profile.. After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's. We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them. Utterly get the view as seen in many posts that it removes an element of consent within the lifestyle if not communicated and especially if pictures are years ago, yes we both been catfished before we met!! But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on.. Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation
Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.
This is why we don't trust people!
Wow!!!!
Firstly. unsure why you'd need to do that on a forum chat, if you found us unattractive our apologies.
Second. our profile is hidden as stated, so ergo our ages are.
Thirdly, you received very recent pictures of us both. And exact ages.. (actually on reflection Y isn't 38 till September.. Sorry!)
Fourth, thanks for the good luck wishes.. "Simply... we stated very much about honesty and our views of people lying... you even commented to us how you like that, still upon messaging notice you fall into that category of people who lie on their profiles. I said it here as you created a post about such, and thought it fit in pretty well in what we have said. Why even message knowing this? It baffles me! Tbh you look like a hot couple, sadly lost any trust instantly seeing that in front of us. That caused a lost opportunity and goes to show that being honest and showing honesty go a long way. Sorry guys We do sincerely wish you the best though. | |||
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"We connected with another couple on an alternative site. Both 39 on their profile.. After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's. We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them. Utterly get the view as seen in many posts that it removes an element of consent within the lifestyle if not communicated and especially if pictures are years ago, yes we both been catfished before we met!! But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on.. Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation
Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.
This is why we don't trust people!
Wow!!!!
Firstly. unsure why you'd need to do that on a forum chat, if you found us unattractive our apologies.
Second. our profile is hidden as stated, so ergo our ages are.
Thirdly, you received very recent pictures of us both. And exact ages.. (actually on reflection Y isn't 38 till September.. Sorry!)
Fourth, thanks for the good luck wishes..
Simply... we stated very much about honesty and our views of people lying... you even commented to us how you like that, still upon messaging notice you fall into that category of people who lie on their profiles.
I said it here as you created a post about such, and thought it fit in pretty well in what we have said.
Why even message knowing this? It baffles me!
Tbh you look like a hot couple, sadly lost any trust instantly seeing that in front of us. That caused a lost opportunity and goes to show that being honest and showing honesty go a long way.
Sorry guys
We do sincerely wish you the best though."No need to apologise, or frankly make inaccurate statements on a forum. Still unsure how you've deemed us so, as our profile is hidden. | |||
"We like people to be honest as we are... All our details are honest. Our views are honest. Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono). We show our faces. Stupid moron Already have enough of the straight guys pretending to be bi just to try getting it on with S! Yes we have even had people quickly change their sexuality on their profile before messaging us not realising we had already seen it beforehand. Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows! " | |||
"Some people on here can not spell. Stop throwing stones in your glass house
Frank"Piss off twat | |||
"Yeah bothers me photo ID at the ready passports and driving licences please "Detect sarcasm.. Hmm! How to correct such behavior.. | |||
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"I'm sure others will share my opinion. I don't care how old you are as long as you are legal. If you're attractive to me you're attractive to me. However I don't appreciate that you lied." They will!! Wait for 20 years and ask yourself the same thing though  | |||
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"A lot of people lie about their age for an umber of reason. People also lie about their cock size, their body type and shape, where they live, and the list goes on. Even using old pictures is being deceptive, so you have a social and see what they are truly like before taking it further. We have met younger guys that said they were older and people claiming to be younger but looked amazing for their actual age. We would rather meet people that looked great for their age than younger people that looked much older than they actually are." Yup!! Far better a fit 50 than a poor 30 for us | |||
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"I suppose sadly when you get past the big 50 you get put out to pasture! We have actually never based any meeting on age as for us it has always been about attractive chemistry personality.I think there is sadly a lot of ageism & I guess it's really is personal choice.But just remember everyone will get to the big 50+ and until then you would know.So just enjoy while it lasts. "yes it's a common thing here in Essex once you hit 50 most are not interested. | |||
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"I met someone whose profile age and photo were both 10 years out of date. It was blindingly obvious and she volunteered the information when we met. Was she still attractive? Yes Did it raise a red flag with me? Yes, but not enough to put me off her. What did put me off was her appalling self centred attitude and behaviour, but that's another story." That also! Had a fucking bombshell join us.. We'd love to repeat as long as she didn't open her mouth.. To talk that is | |||
"I met someone whose profile age and photo were both 10 years out of date. It was blindingly obvious and she volunteered the information when we met. Was she still attractive? Yes Did it raise a red flag with me? Yes, but not enough to put me off her. What did put me off was her appalling self centred attitude and behaviour, but that's another story." sadly theirs a lot of women with that attitude now | |||
"You can always tell approximate age by necks and hands. If they are wearing polo necks and gloves attitudes and cultural references along with style of speech give the game away. Two or three years nobody notices, ten and over is laughably obvious. One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone
Haha, someone failed maths then!
I think he just forgot his fab age lol. People don't always take years off. We met a young guy who'd told us he was early thirties. I very much doubt he was more than 21."I have actually asked people what year they were born, worked it into the conversation - or which decade they were a teenager. Always catches them out. One guy said he was 40... Yet he went to all the same places as me, at the same time. I doubt they'd have let a 14 year old boy in the clubs. Turned out he was my age. | |||
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"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there." 42!!!  | |||
"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there. 42!!! "Alright Joe announce it to everyone why not. | |||
"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there. 42!!!
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Alright Joe announce it to everyone why not. "• Joe is right. Rest assured though, you're not the only relic on this site. | |||
"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there. 42!!!
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"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there. 42!!!
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"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there." Utterly!! No one would touch you with a bargepole!!! | |||
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"Some people on here can not spell. Stop throwing stones in your glass house
Frank
Piss off twat"Wait, I'm the one who's supposed to piss off, not you!
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"I don't really get it - if you liked them on paper, liked their chat... Liked their pics (younger maybe)... Liked their 'current' pics... Then age is just a number? Not a big deal to me? Its the person i like, not their stats. " I don't like the fact they think lying is ok. (If I meet them in a club it won't come up) | |||
