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What do I do? Help?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but
What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!
Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns?  |
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I suppose it very much depends on what it is or why you are thinking you are needing to resist. Only you can make the decision, I know what my ultimate weakness is, and I am sure I would be unable to resist if it were offered, fortunately (or not) it is never likely to be an issue. |
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"There’s no harm in replying, I think but be openly honest from the start."
Yep. Good advice from Dee there. “I don’t usually go for [whatever] but I really liked your profile and thought I’d say hi anyway.”
I swear half the first messages I get start like that and the honesty is always welcome.
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"You could always start a conversation and when it comes to it, say you're not meeting right now but happy to talk?
I can talk for months before meeting "
I can see that people would be happy to chat for months to you as well ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people’s own rules are usually only ever guidelines I find on here. Whether that be regarding age, body shape, beards and apparently even race.
If you’re here for a good time not a long time then snap that shit in half! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but
What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!
Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns? "
Ah have some fun.
What's the worst that could happen.
Death.
That's what.
So you be careful missy. |
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The person who messaged you probably read your profile (yes, it does happen) and then immediately tweaked his own profile with 'enticing entrapments' of text to appease you, before messaging you.
It may be a ruse.
It may not be.
It...
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As long as they have clearly read your profile then what harm is there in talking?
Often the right things will happen at the wrong times it’s up to you to communicate this and if they are happy with the current situation and happy to continue then this could be everything you didn’t know you wanted
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You should ask yourself, Would you feel bad or disappointed in yourself if you bent the rules? Could bending the rules tempt you into doing something you've decided you don't want to do? If the answer is yes to either then don't bend them. You're the one who put the rules in place, so only you can decide if they need to stay in place or not. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but
What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!
Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns? "
It's your rule. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its just a matter of time until your medical situation is better, i see no harm in starting a conversation, perhaps prefacing it with your situation - if they are in no rush, Bob's your uncle?! |
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"If its just a matter of time until your medical situation is better, i see no harm in starting a conversation, perhaps prefacing it with your situation - if they are in no rush, Bob's your uncle?! "
She didn’t say it was uncle Bob. He’s a right knob 
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"There’s no harm in replying, I think but be openly honest from the start.
Yep. Good advice from Dee there. “I don’t usually go for [whatever] but I really liked your profile and thought I’d say hi anyway.”
I swear half the first messages I get start like that and the honesty is always welcome.
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But seriously, Why mention that you don’t usually go for x ? Is it relevant?
You’re either responding or not, it’s almost like saying you’re a bit ugly but fuck it, I need a shag.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seems a weird thing to ask others. You have your rules for a reason which we know nothing about. You do you. "
Sometimes it's good to get a perspective from others. Maybe someone has been through a dilemma like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the same position OP. Not been meeting for a long time now, my choice but I sometimes get this sort of thing too. I remind myself that I can't and won't meet so I stick to my guns x |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but
What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!
Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns? "
stick to your guns  |
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"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but
What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!
Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns? "
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