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Knowing them = Better sex?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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True or false?
Does knowing someone and getting to know them (personally or sexually) lead to better more fulfilling sex?
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Is it a case of what I don’t know doesn’t hurt me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In terms of being more comfortable around them yes. But ultimately if you don't have that sexual chemistry with someone, it doesn't matter how much you already know them. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I definitely think it gets better as you know someone. Not to say you can't have great sex first time if there is an amazing connection, but as you get to know someone you find their little weak spots.
You learn what turns them on instantly whether that's a whispered trigger word, a certain look, a gentle caress along the arm, this means even public outings become much more dangerous   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I definitely think it gets better as you know someone. Not to say you can't have great sex first time if there is an amazing connection, but as you get to know someone you find their little weak spots.
You learn what turns them on instantly whether that's a whispered trigger word, a certain look, a gentle caress along the arm, this means even public outings become much more dangerous "
I love this type of answer ….
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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More fulfilling for me? Yes definitely, it's why I don't do "meets" or have one night standards any more.
Better? I don't know. Part of me thinks yes because you learn someone, their responses, what touch from you will make their eyes darken with desire. The little suggestive things you can whisper in their ears.
Equally, sometimes, very occasionally, you meet someone and it feels like your body is something they can instinctively read - they know just when to remove their fingers so you're a pleading hot mess. They fuck you so well that you come multiple times around them and end up lightheaded and can't quite remember your name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Better as in more emotionally fulfilling and being able to read each other and know what works between you, yes. But not necessarily "better sex". No matter how well you know someone, sometimes that pure lustful instantaneous sex takes a lot of beating and can be far more exciting. So my final answer is not necessarily. |
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For me it's a journey of evolution and I think it does make for more fulfilling sex with the same person/s - those repeat romantic encounters that I strive for.
But only up to a point: I think of it as a labyrinth, each twist and turn representing the 'unknowns' about your partner, discovering something new but also enjoying the blissful ignorance from the turn (or path) that you didn't take.
That "blissful ignorance" heightens the appreciation for that person. For me, anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I have the best sex with F, I know how her body moves and when I hit those places as her breathing changes, whether she needs a little decompression on her neck or her back scratched and I also feel the build up of pressure as she's about to cum so I know to pick up the pace and don't stop |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Yes and no. You obviously get more comfortable with each other over time, both sexually, conversationally and behaviourally as things get easier, though it does depend on general chemistry too... I've had both buddies and one off meets where there's little more than a hello or couple of minutes chat all meet - basically ripping clothes off getting there to leaving.
Pretty sure people have experienced this but for the most there is a good amount of chat prior. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, yes. The more you get to know someone, the more comfortable you feel around them. You’re also able to read their body better and know what they like and don’t like. Having a great connection will always create better sex in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it does, you build comfort and trust to enable you to explore and maybe push a few boundaries.
Its exciting to get to that stage though, to learn each others body, to figure out what makes them respond in different ways.
However sex with someone new is exciting, very exciting actually if the chemistry is there. It's thrilling to have firsts with each other. Unwrapping them and discovering them.
There's sometimes even something hot about knowing you might not do this again so just totally go for it.
There's definitely bonuses to both. |
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See I quite enjoy just one off meets that are fast to arrange / hook up enjoy and then back on with your life.
Though equally a couple of regular of fuck friends is cool but i find it is a different dynamic.
Sometimes time is limited and just want a no brainier quick hour or 2 fuck / meet and bounce |
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Sex for me definitely gets better the more comfortable I am with someone and the less shy/inhibited I am. The first time you have sex with someone I always find awkward as I am a bit shy and self conscious and probably don't let myself go and get into the moment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Better as in more emotionally fulfilling and being able to read each other and know what works between you, yes. But not necessarily "better sex". No matter how well you know someone, sometimes that pure lustful instantaneous sex takes a lot of beating and can be far more exciting. So my final answer is not necessarily. "
I actually get what you meant there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not always. Plenty of people I’ve slept with I’ve got on super well with on a friendship level and we’ve not been sexually compatible. And plenty of people I’ve had sex with on the first date I’ve had better sex with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah.
Basically.
For me.
Cause I'm actually a hopeless romantic, masquerading as a prick.
I am also a prick too, but there's another artificial layer of extra prickishness on top. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah.
Basically.
For me.
Cause I'm actually a hopeless romantic, masquerading as a prick.
I am also a prick too, but there's another artificial layer of extra prickishness on top. "
You're not a prick.
And that's my being nice to you quota reached for the day. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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Doesn't have to be. One of the best 'sessions' of my life was with someone who sure we had messaged and flirted for about a week beforehand and known what our styles were (and that they matched) but other than that went in blind. First time meeting face to face, said hi, kissed immediately, got down to it.
But yes, getting along with the person and knowing they aren't unbearable makes for the best sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah.
Basically.
For me.
Cause I'm actually a hopeless romantic, masquerading as a prick.
I am also a prick too, but there's another artificial layer of extra prickishness on top.
You're not a prick.
And that's my being nice to you quota reached for the day."
I'll squeeze another out of you.
You watch.
But thanks nerd. Go read a library or something, I dunno. Whatever it is failed University Challenge contestants do.
*hugs* |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes the opposite, attraction and chemistry can be lightning fast and you intuitively know what to do. Depends what turns you on but new skin and a feeling of safety and vulnerability can be mind blowing good and hard to replicate after the first few meets. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah.
Basically.
For me.
Cause I'm actually a hopeless romantic, masquerading as a prick.
I am also a prick too, but there's another artificial layer of extra prickishness on top.
You're not a prick.
And that's my being nice to you quota reached for the day.
I'll squeeze another out of you.
You watch.
But thanks nerd. Go read a library or something, I dunno. Whatever it is failed University Challenge contestants do.
*hugs*"
Hahaha, love this so much! You're so affectionate when you insult the fuck out of my stupidity daily.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah.
Basically.
For me.
Cause I'm actually a hopeless romantic, masquerading as a prick.
I am also a prick too, but there's another artificial layer of extra prickishness on top.
You're not a prick.
And that's my being nice to you quota reached for the day.
I'll squeeze another out of you.
You watch.
But thanks nerd. Go read a library or something, I dunno. Whatever it is failed University Challenge contestants do.
*hugs*
Hahaha, love this so much! You're so affectionate when you insult the fuck out of my stupidity daily. "
The tipping point will be next Friday.
"Where is the fucking off switch, why won't you stop, shut up, enough, shush, just, be, less, this?"
I am also. Not telling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. Some men are blessed with first time skills, some take time to develop those skills with a person, I like the variety tbh but predicting a sexual incompatibility is still difficult"
So this. I had legs shaking, mind spaced out experiences with both people I barely knew and those I've been in relationship with. It's something pleasantly unpredictable.
Tones |
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Intimacy and lust is a game changer.
That’s rare.
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Yup but I had it for so long I am no longer interested in less.
Frustrating at times, I won't lie, but pretending otherwise goes nowhere positive. |
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The excitement of something new normally makes for an exciting time but in the long run sex when you know what works for the other person and they know what works for you means a better time.
Sometimes not knowing the person can be a total nightmare… role the dice and the majority are fun but you don’t always roll a 6! |
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