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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago
Chipping Norton |
No one alive does not. At least, nobody sane. In small doses it can even be a good thing, I think, reminding you how much the company and affection of other people matters.
A miserable, corrosive, tormenting experience when it dominates life. I don't imagine anyone hasn't had moments when it dominates, but they're easy to forget (and good that they are) when times are good.
Friendliness is the cure, but it's a cure that's almost impossible to imagine when loneliness is at its worst.
Apologies; that scribble of nonsense is meant to be sympathetic encouragement, on the assumption you're suffering yourself. Hard to do it without sounding blase or patronising. But whenever we're feeling down, things generally do get better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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COVID has had a massive impact on people's feelings of loneliness...a lot of people have confided that COVID really made them feel isolated and have struggled thereafter.
Whilst it's normal to feel lonely for small periods..if it continues then it does impact people's mental health.
Men in particular are poor at recognising this and even worse at talking about it.
Being part of something is soo important for our wellbeing and happiness.
Difficult to give expenses advice on this forum but I hope you have someone you can talk to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my head I’m lonely
I have a family and colleagues who I see each day.
Friends come and go
My life I feel like I’m in solitude each day
I’m in my own bubble
My mind wanders and start to do things which could destroy my life and those around me.
I’m addicted I can’t stop
I feel great at the time then the fall is quick fast and hard.
The self destruct button is so close… |
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Yeah, I have to make efforts to spend time with people so I’m not alone or lonely, however as an only child I am used to solitude so I can’t be with people all the time and I do enjoy a fair bit of down time away from others.
What has triggered your post op? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I've been very isolated mentally over the years for various reasons even when surround by friends and family.
These last three weeks have been the hardest though. Toughest point of my life and I've been through some shit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah, I have to make efforts to spend time with people so I’m not alone or lonely, however as an only child I am used to solitude so I can’t be with people all the time and I do enjoy a fair bit of down time away from others.
What has triggered your post op? "
Too much time and too much thinking about it probably |
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By *ave05Man
over a year ago
Chelmsford Essex |
I’m looking for some new friendships on here non sexual and any gender as I think Im missing some social interaction just a tad and was thinking of some local meet ups groups soon though via here would be great ( non club )
I’m up for a little social group if it ever works out on here and that we share interests of the site and being ourselves.
Happy to chat private just realistic to keep it quite local area to me nothing to lose much to gain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to feel lonely a lot. Then I realised I was actually not. I thought not having a partner meant I was lonely. I thought my life would suddenly be better if I did. I was wrong.
I have my moments, some days it hits me that I don't have anyone to hold me after a really long day or to tell me they love me. I have a huge amount of love to give and I now know I don't need a relationship for that.
My life is busy and full on so now I happily indulge in beautiful moments to compliment my life, because it's already complete. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m looking for some new friendships on here non sexual and any gender as I think Im missing some social interaction just a tad and was thinking of some local meet ups groups soon though via here would be great ( non club )
I’m up for a little social group if it ever works out on here and that we share interests of the site and being ourselves.
Happy to chat private just realistic to keep it quite local area to me nothing to lose much to gain. "
That sounds like a decent idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to feel lonely a lot. Then I realised I was actually not. I thought not having a partner meant I was lonely. I thought my life would suddenly be better if I did. I was wrong.
I have my moments, some days it hits me that I don't have anyone to hold me after a really long day or to tell me they love me. I have a huge amount of love to give and I now know I don't need a relationship for that.
My life is busy and full on so now I happily indulge in beautiful moments to compliment my life, because it's already complete. "
I won't go into details on here but a emotional abusive, narcissistic marriage ensured I lost all friends and have very little communication with family. Moved to Glasgow a few weeks ago and the only time I'm not feeling lonely or lost is when I have my children with me.
Things will get better and I will get to know new friends. Signed up to walking football just to socialise. Not kicked a ball in 10 years due to injury but going to try. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been feeling very lonely recently. I am suffering from skin hunger. Little to no meaningful physical contact has wrecked my mental health.
I've been battling with daily suicidal thoughts for over a year now.
My therapist knows about these thoughts and so do some of my online friends. My real life friends know about my struggles with mental health. I have loads of mates and a decent social life.
I just need a long hug from someone that I find attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?
The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?
The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life! "
The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.
I like my own company. I like me.
People are the problem.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?
The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!
The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.
I like my own company. I like me.
People are the problem.
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Maybe you're on the wrong thread, Coyote  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?
The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!
The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.
I like my own company. I like me.
People are the problem.
Maybe you're on the wrong thread, Coyote "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?
The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!
The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.
I like my own company. I like me.
People are the problem.
Maybe you're on the wrong thread, Coyote
Story of my life"
Is that why you start your own?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, lonely for years. I have acquaintances and work colleagues but no friends and certainly no love life. The severity comes and goes. I am an introvert so I like my own company but it's not the same thing. |
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Yes even more so atm. My husband has got a brain tumour (diagnosed this May) & my long term Feb called things off also this May. Miss him so much . There’s so much I want to tell him,but I know he wouldn’t be interested. I found him in here yesterday (I wasnt even looking for him & Lied he’s still as sexy as I remember  ) |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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I talk to people all the time, I've had partners who would take me back and who i speak to but i felt alone with them, so now i enjoy doing what i want, when i want but on my own or with somebody i meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"
Often. Sometimes I do. I’m learning that this is what I have to live with. 
Let’s see if next year (if this thread get redirected again) I feel the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"I wrote my suicide note yesterday"
Despite the nature of this place ,one thing i do know alot caring people on here .
Reach out to anyone and myself included even just if 2mins |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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I find that helplines are for crisis situations. This isn't really crisis management.
Most services exist to get you through the day. I have been suicidal for over a year. My therapist knows all about it. |
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For all the people needing a hug, lots of hugs from me. We all sometimes javeca moment thst we need a hug. Sad to hear so many people suffering. Please speak to someone, anyone, a stranger on here, me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?
Never. Love being alone. I have dogs for company."
Well said .By the way I will be collecting for dog charity to day 17 th Dec Belfast
Love pics oh YOU STILL GOT IT Lot love to you & dogs gave them a pat from me xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"For all the people needing a hug, lots of hugs from me. We all sometimes javeca moment thst we need a hug. Sad to hear so many people suffering. Please speak to someone, anyone, a stranger on here, me. "
WELL SAID
MERRY CHRISTMAS XX |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"I wrote my suicide note yesterday
116 123
24 hrs helpline"
I was in a very dark place after divorce Children away with her .ready to end it .I do vol work in HOSPICE it works for me matey ther so so many vol work in shoos .
SENDING YOU A BIG HUG AND LOVE
NEVER EVER GAVE UP
XX |
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By *ames-77Man 49 weeks ago
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"I wrote my suicide note yesterday
116 123
24 hrs helpline
I was in a very dark place after divorce Children away with her .ready to end it .I do vol work in HOSPICE it works for me matey ther so so many vol work in shoos .
SENDING YOU A BIG HUG AND LOVE
NEVER EVER GAVE UP
XX"
I can relate to this mate never understood things such as depression but similar thing happened in my life like yours.. I took the route of kick boxing.. I love your choice of path though that's beautiful well done bro x |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Yes even more so atm. My husband has got a brain tumour (diagnosed this May) & my long term Feb called things off also this May. Miss him so much . There’s so much I want to tell him,but I know he wouldn’t be interested. I found him in here yesterday (I wasnt even looking for him & Lied he’s still as sexy as I remember ) "
Am here for you x |
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By *ippy68Man 49 weeks ago
Weymouth |
"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"
Yes quite often and it’s soul destroying. Many don’t realise how bad you feel and brush it aside with smart arse remarks. I don’t envy anyone who suffers lonliness on a regular basis. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"I wrote my suicide note yesterday
Despite the nature of this place ,one thing i do know alot caring people on here .
Reach out to anyone and myself included even just if 2mins "
WELL SAID |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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I'll give hugs to anyone who wants one am on my own to witch I choose I prefer it I don't upset anyone at all can fall out with myself at times
But if you're alone and need a chat or cuddles or both am free over Christmas
Katie |
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