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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late? "
You getting too close or your Mrs?
Separate issues entirely.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was wondering if anyone may of been in same situation"
Thing is... Their situation will not necessarily be your situation. Because it's about how both you and your fwb view it? It doesn't really matter how anyone else has dealt with it as they're not the pair of you |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
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Id never have another man have sex with my mrs "
When I see this statement made on a profile or in a forum comment its always a massive red flag for me.
Especially if someone is looking for couples.
It shows a fundamental lack of understanding of couples and women on Fab and in the scene as well as coming across as disrespectful. As if being on a swingers site is all about filling a gap and getting access to sex as a means to an end rather than anything else.
Also shows a controlling aspect of not allowing someone to do something they may want to.
Just a thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late? "
If you're referring to her as your 'Mrs' I'd suggest that you're already past that point |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I was wondering if anyone may of been in same situation
Thing is... Their situation will not necessarily be your situation. Because it's about how both you and your fwb view it? It doesn't really matter how anyone else has dealt with it as they're not the pair of you "
Exactly this. |
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"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late? "
Why would you allow a fwb to be non monogomous, but not a partner?
Is it a case of double standards, or jealousy?
Too late for whom? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I was wondering if anyone may of been in same situation
Thing is... Their situation will not necessarily be your situation. Because it's about how both you and your fwb view it? It doesn't really matter how anyone else has dealt with it as they're not the pair of you "
I agree, though with a small factor of advice on the situation is helpful. It won't predict the outcome but experience of being in said situation goes a long way regardless.
Advice based on past experience is great, so long as it is taken as advice and not as a solution. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"It is already too late.
Her claws began to descend long ago and now form the bars of a cage from which you can never escape.
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Is that why so many women have claws instead of nails now? Makes sense!  |
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By *iya2311 OP Man
over a year ago
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The reason im on here is a simple one , for sex!
Being a widow for two years now , this site seemed an uncomplicated one
Obviously not one from people who judge
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs
When I see this statement made on a profile or in a forum comment its always a massive red flag for me.
Especially if someone is looking for couples.
It shows a fundamental lack of understanding of couples and women on Fab and in the scene as well as coming across as disrespectful. As if being on a swingers site is all about filling a gap and getting access to sex as a means to an end rather than anything else.
Also shows a controlling aspect of not allowing someone to do something they may want to.
Just a thought.
A"
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By *iya2311 OP Man
over a year ago
maidstone |
Fear of loss !
"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late?
Why would you allow a fwb to be non monogomous, but not a partner?
Is it a case of double standards, or jealousy?
Too late for whom?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion, you either need to go from a FWB situation to asking her to commit to you. Whole point of FWB is it's casual.
Be prepared to be knocked back though, she might be happy with her current situation and it's completely her choice to not be exclusive. |
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"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late? "
I'd probably just talk to her about it |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"She just goes to clubs , not online"
If she goes to clubs she knows about fab like you (who goes or doesn't). It's a bit poor you have demands on what she does, when she's essentially a free agent and not your Mrs just a fb (if I'm reading it right). |
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Think of you with pipe and slippers
Think of her in bed
Laying there just watching telly
Then think of me instead
I'll never grow so old and flabby
That could never be
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And your love light shines like cardboard
But your work shoes are glistening
She's a PhD in "I told you so"
You've a knighthood in "I'm not listening"
She'll grab your sweaty bollocks
Then slowly raise her knee
Don't marry her, f*ck me
When the Sunday sun shines down on San Francisco Bay
And you know that you can't have it anyway
You gotta wash the car
Take the kiddies to the park
Don't marry her, f*ck me
Those lovely Sunday mornings
With breakfast brought in bed
Those blackbirds look like knitting needles
Trying to peck your head
Those birds will peck your soul out
And throw away the key
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And the kitchen's always tidy
And the bathroom's always clean
She's a diploma in "just hiding things"
You've a first in "low esteem"
When your socks smell of angels
But your life smells of Brie
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And the Sunday sun shines down on San Francisco bay
And you realize you can't make it anyway
You have to wash the car
Take the kiddies to the park
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And the Sunday sun shines down on San Francisco bay
And you realize you can't make it anyway
You have to wash the car
Take the kiddies to the park
Don't marry her, f*ck me |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"I was wondering if anyone may of been in same situation"
Yes I’ve been in that situation, they wanted exclusivity from me who’s poly, they wanted what they could make me into, not who I am
We do not speak anymore, they’re now alone and I’m not being controlled by anyone, a horrible feeling I gladly ran from
If you’re not a swinger, don’t date swingers
It’s never ok to try to change people to suit your own needs
Move on and let them free, if it was meant to be they’ll come back of their own accord |
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"I'd say she's your fwb and not your Mrs and she likes swinging so if you don't want to get hurt by her having sex with someone else you should probably stop seeing her"
This pretty much sums it up, especially if you knew she was into swinging before you became FWB. Expecting her to change now would be unfair, but you need to chat to her about whether you both want an exclusive relationship... |
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"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late? "
Just out of interest, the little devil in me has asked if, when you do acquire a “mrs” is it your intention to remain faithful to her whilst she remains monogamous? Not calling you out, it’s a genuine question x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late? "
Who has the FWB? You or her?
Do you still fuck your wife? |
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By *iya2311 OP Man
over a year ago
maidstone |
"What would you advise , if you think your getting close to a FWB
Id never have another man have sex with my mrs, But as she is into swinging
Shall i finish it before its too late?
Who has the FWB? You or her?
Do you still fuck your wife?"
She’s dead through the first wave of covid
So no i dont |
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By *iya2311 OP Man
over a year ago
maidstone |
"I was wondering if anyone may of been in same situation
Yes I’ve been in that situation, they wanted exclusivity from me who’s poly, they wanted what they could make me into, not who I am
We do not speak anymore, they’re now alone and I’m not being controlled by anyone, a horrible feeling I gladly ran from
If you’re not a swinger, don’t date swingers
It’s never ok to try to change people to suit your own needs
Move on and let them free, if it was meant to be they’ll come back of their own accord "
Thanks
Probably best bit of advise on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can I just make sure I’ve got this right. You’ve a fwb and you’re getting feelings for her. You don’t wanna be in a relationship with her because she’s into swinging and you don’t want her to be? |
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"Can I just make sure I’ve got this right. You’ve a fwb and you’re getting feelings for her. You don’t wanna be in a relationship with her because she’s into swinging and you don’t want her to be? "
Yes. He doesn't want his bird at home to swing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I just make sure I’ve got this right. You’ve a fwb and you’re getting feelings for her. You don’t wanna be in a relationship with her because she’s into swinging and you don’t want her to be?
Yes. He doesn't want his bird at home to swing"
Right. Is he still allowed to swing or will he hang up his swinging pants too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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why wouldn't you let your mrs have sex with someone else if she wants to, given that you already are? isnt that double standards?
As for your fwb sounds like its turning more into an affair than anything else, will you reach a point where you dont want her to be sleeping with anyone else while you try finding another fwb to fuck?
sounds like an ongoing cycle to me that you need to break in some way! |
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When I enjoyed a fwb situation it was solely to enjoy each other’s company and explore sexually what ever each other wanted to try ? This meant we enjoyed being together as well as other couples and both single guys and girls ?
This was great for us both but as feelings started to come into it the time came to stop as that wasn’t what it was about ! Don’t regret a second have some amazing memories and hope she still has them too |
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"Think of you with pipe and slippers
Think of her in bed
Laying there just watching telly
Then think of me instead
I'll never grow so old and flabby
That could never be
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And your love light shines like cardboard
But your work shoes are glistening
She's a PhD in "I told you so"
You've a knighthood in "I'm not listening"
She'll grab your sweaty bollocks
Then slowly raise her knee
Don't marry her, f*ck me
When the Sunday sun shines down on San Francisco Bay
And you know that you can't have it anyway
You gotta wash the car
Take the kiddies to the park
Don't marry her, f*ck me
Those lovely Sunday mornings
With breakfast brought in bed
Those blackbirds look like knitting needles
Trying to peck your head
Those birds will peck your soul out
And throw away the key
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And the kitchen's always tidy
And the bathroom's always clean
She's a diploma in "just hiding things"
You've a first in "low esteem"
When your socks smell of angels
But your life smells of Brie
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And the Sunday sun shines down on San Francisco bay
And you realize you can't make it anyway
You have to wash the car
Take the kiddies to the park
Don't marry her, f*ck me
And the Sunday sun shines down on San Francisco bay
And you realize you can't make it anyway
You have to wash the car
Take the kiddies to the park
Don't marry her, f*ck me"
Love the beautiful south |
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