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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"Sorry to be a downer but he taught me how not to parent and how not to be a decent respectful human.  "
That's cool. My dad is dead 9 years and I'd still describe my relationship with him as complicated. |
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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"That love is conditional
How not to be a parent
How to avoid men like him"
Worthwhile lessons. All my brother in laws are the complete opposite of my dad. I don't think that is a coincidence. |
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"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.
He was my Dad."
This is beautiful.
And also this applies to my dad  |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.
He was my Dad."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.
He was my Dad."
Nice tribute. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.
He was my Dad."
Its very difficult for me to comprehend relationships like this.. I love it - I'm in awe xx |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
bedlington |
Just about everything in life I owe a lot to my dad.
Taught me how to act, how to manage money avoid debt and put away for a rainy day. Most importantly taught me how to earn a living for myself and can’t express how grateful I will always be for this and the feeling of freedom it gives
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He taught me many offensive rude jokes and songs, he taught me to not be offended by anyone, to be who I am and never make apologies for it. He taught me how to build large bonfires, how to gut a fish and how to drive with your knees. My Dad was a 70s swinger and a complete pervert but he was totally awesome
Cherry x  |
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He did his best and I love him but I’ve learnt how to be a better Dad, I’ve taken his shortcomings and improved. Recognised negative personality traits and try to avoid them for my children’s sake.
For instance he rarely complimented, I would do some school work that I was proud of and he would pick out the negatives, the errors, what I could have done better… I think he was trying in his own way to improve me but it affected me badly. I am, as a result, my own worst critic. |
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"He taught me many offensive rude jokes and songs, he taught me to not be offended by anyone, to be who I am and never make apologies for it. He taught me how to build large bonfires, how to gut a fish and how to drive with your knees. My Dad was a 70s swinger and a complete pervert but he was totally awesome
Cherry x "
That is awesome - great Dad stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."
My dad is dying, so I've been reflecting a lot on this recently. I'm basically the person I am today thanks to my dad. From him, I've learned to be non-judgemental, to treat everyone equally, to stand by my beliefs and to stick up for myself. He also taught me to own my mistakes and know to apologise when I've behaved like a dick lol.
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There’s a lot of pollen, dust and grit getting in my eyes reading these - some very poignant, some wonderful and some that make you feel sorry for kids that suffered with ‘those’ kind of fathers…
Positive Vibes to you all |
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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.
I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks
T"
You're very welcome, it's nice to see other people reflect on what they learned. Some is very touching and thoughtful. Some is painful.
My ex used to say 'you're just like your dad' when she wanted to hurt me. I learned good and bad from him and in no small part is responsible for the person I am today.
Fathers day isn't just about the socks. |
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That marriage can allow someone to completely fuck you over, even when they have put nothing into the home or savings you owned before, and have left you with the kids with zero emotional or financial contribution to their upkeep. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
Never judge anyone on apperances, my dad was a six foot 2 big bearded Scottish biker covered in tattoos, people got the wrong impression of him all the time. He loved people, hearing their life stories and getting to know them, he did not suffer fools gladly though. |
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How to manipulate people, that I should always keep enough money aside to escape a bad relationship and that the only person I can ever truly depend on is myself.
Tough lessons to learn but extremely useful and I'm grateful for them. |
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My dad let us all be the best we could. He worked hard and wanted us to have best education and good opportunities in life. He loved partying with family and friends too and he also liked a glass or two of good red wine as I do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.
I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks
T
You're very welcome, it's nice to see other people reflect on what they learned. Some is very touching and thoughtful. Some is painful.
My ex used to say 'you're just like your dad' when she wanted to hurt me. I learned good and bad from him and in no small part is responsible for the person I am today.
Fathers day isn't just about the socks. "
It doesn't have to be. And pain is a good teacher too.
Exes eh?
T |
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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.
I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks
T
You're very welcome, it's nice to see other people reflect on what they learned. Some is very touching and thoughtful. Some is painful.
My ex used to say 'you're just like your dad' when she wanted to hurt me. I learned good and bad from him and in no small part is responsible for the person I am today.
Fathers day isn't just about the socks.
It doesn't have to be. And pain is a good teacher too.
Exes eh?
T"
tbf, she had a point, but you shouldn't vulnerabilities and confidences to hurt someone. |
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How to punch someone in the solar plexus
How to tie an Oxford tie knot
How to tie my shoelaces
All the songs sung on the terraces at Tranmere Rovers
The geographic distribution of the football stadia of the English lower leagues and thus, all the major motorway and A road routes
Tour guiding |
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Oh, so much.
How to show love by doing - the 'little, unremembered acts of kindness'. Long into his final illness, he would head onto the drive and into my mother's iced-over, frozen car, to defrost and warm it for her.
That 'time spent in reconnaissance is never wasted'.
That promotion can often mean co-option.
That people can change, both themselves and others...whole cascading generations of lives can be transformed, and even created, because someone decided to try something different that day.
That all true trades and professions are equally fascinating mysteries, that none is 'better' than another, and that to hate what you do but do it nonetheless is one of the worst, and most common, forms of cowardice.
That the natural world is a gift, and that it can be read.
That life is for spending your last pennies on wine and friends, not hoarding like a miser.
One day, if I am lucky, I hope to be half the man, father, and teacher he was. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"If you lend money don't expect to get it back, if you see it buy it because it won't be there when you go back, do it yourself it's cheaper and you'll do a better job  "
this exactly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have asked me when he was alive not sure what said. Now looking back.
Showed me thing but never said it
He could go from talking to millionaires to local dustman never changed how he spook to anyone there were all the same. He would help anyone in his own way. He worked self employed 7 days a week but still take my mum shopping or anywhere when needed. Sometime thought he was deaf or not listening but he heard what he want never panicked or was seen to worry. Only ever heard him say once he disliked someone that was Someone that looked down on my mum treated her like dirt.
Don't believe he ever looked at another lady. He make joke to us kids your nagging mother but you new never to say it your self.
Mainly showed me good work effect and to treat people right
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By *essiCouple
over a year ago
suffolk |
My dad taught me how to grow plants from taking cuttings as well as the seeds etc, also taught me how to use a chisel, hand saw and hand drill from a young age.. Also to question things, anything and everything
J |
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