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Any guys have success here with females n couples!!
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Without knowing your approach to Fab and the people you message it’s difficult to say what you’re doing wrong, it’s an old cliche but getting to Fab socials and clubs is a great way to network, get yourself known, and for people to take a shine to you.
Be civil and respectful in your engagement with them and, in time, you will reap the rewards.
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I’ve done pretty well over the ten or so years I’ve been using Fab? 
This isn’t an overnight success kind of place, and you do need patience, self confidence, a thick skin, and a decent profile!
There are precious few solo female profiles in here, chased by several hundred solo males! Couples are easier to meet, but be sure you are talking with an actual couple, and not just a closet gay male looking for cock pics and wank material….. 
The block button is your friend, and don’t be afraid to use it! Once you clear out all the profiles you’re not a match for, it will make it easier for you to concentrate on those you are more likely to be ‘successful’ with. Think about the cat among the pigeons; if he focussed on just one, he might actually catch it…..
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What's your banter like? Opening messages are very important. You need to show you can hold a conversation. Most of the messages we get are diabolical and we wouldn't even think about replying to the vast majority of them. |
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I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope |
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"I always polite and respectful in messages and never pushy.."
People will look at your profile when deciding whether to reply. They will often do it in 'ninja mode' so you won't even know they've looked. I can't critique your profile as you haven't asked for that. Is it selling what you have to offer or will it get lost in a sea of similar profiles?
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Mostly met single woman over the years or women in a swinging relationship. Though I have heard some men wait years or never. The odds are stacked against men on here
Looking at your profile... I'd delete the any age, size or colour bit personally. |
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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Restrictions are a way of letting people know what you want, you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea 
By fun you mean sex right ? Not all women and couples on here want just a quickie. I know for me it's about mutual respect and building a bit of chemistry with people.
That can't be done in a couple of messages |
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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Your profile doesn't entice us.
But yeah, plenty of guys have success on here. |
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope"
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in… |
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in… "
It's geography. Attitude, effort and not being pushy.
Alot of single men forget that we have lives as well and also need just us time. |
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in… "
I mean... I didn't state it as fact for you disagree with but thank you for your opinion  |
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Ive only had 2 couples who have messaged me inviting me to join them in the 9 weeks I've been here, neither of them particularly made we want to join them because they had a "you should just be grateful that we asked you" kind of attitude which is not for me. I guess if I had an any sex will do attitude I'd be able to say I was successful on here but that's just not me. As far as I can see in my short time here, as long as you don't go looking for instant success here, you'll eventually find the fun you're looking for with the right people for you. |
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" they had a "you should just be grateful that we asked you" kind of attitude which is not for me. "
I've had this too.
Frankly I'd be more grateful to clean up after a norovirus outbreak than fuck people like that. |
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in…
I mean... I didn't state it as fact for you disagree with but thank you for your opinion "
No offence meant mate! We’ve all had different experiences that’s all! I would never recommend a mate to use the club scene to meet single ladies, based on my experiences |
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in…
I mean... I didn't state it as fact for you disagree with but thank you for your opinion
No offence meant mate! We’ve all had different experiences that’s all! I would never recommend a mate to use the club scene to meet single ladies, based on my experiences "
It's alright, to be honest, I agree with your second paragraph. I have a club very local to me so can always go down and chat to couples and single women and have done quite well. Only a couple of one to one meets have been local and the rest from quite far away who you can build a connection with but find it harder to meet |
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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"I always polite and respectful in messages and never pushy..
People will look at your profile when deciding whether to reply. They will often do it in 'ninja mode' so you won't even know they've looked. I can't critique your profile as you haven't asked for that. Is it selling what you have to offer or will it get lost in a sea of similar profiles?
J"
Exactly what these guys said.
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in… "
I've met all of one Cumbrian man through the site, the rest of the cumbrians I've found I've bumped into at Club Play or F.
Some people prefer one way or the other, it isn't necessarily defined by the geography. |
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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I would say I've been having more ‘success’ recently, although I've had to be very patient and strategic as it has been a slow burner to get anywhere. Things have definitely improved since I've been to clubs and private parties, but it's still slowly, slowly catchy monkey. However, I think once you accept that, you'll probably find things start getting better! Also, as others have said, males vastly outnumber females on Fab, so you're fighting an uphill battle but it's not impossible to have some success - after all, it depends on what your definition of ‘success’ is |
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There's loads of guy's over there aswell as over that's finding it hard to get meets. For alot of men Fab is like a Marathon, not a sprint & a slow 1 at that aswell.
Stop messaging profiles, as more than likely it'll get deleted without them seening it, with all the messages, Couples & single women get from single men. Some of them, if they're interested, they'll message you, in the future sometime. Anybody you have sent a message to, don't send them another 1,unless they've message you beforehand.
Your already meet verified, that's something extra that other men mightn't have yet. So go to the different club socials, network there, interact on the forum. That'll give people that haven't meet you a feel of a man that you are. That'll help you in the long run. As some of them will look at your profile, publicly or ninja form. Put up more pictures of yourself(not dick pic). Write more in your bio, what your looking for, not looking for, abit about yourself in it aswell. Deleted the age, shape & race on it, there's no need of it. You've already shown what age range your interested in. Them 3 pices could be doing you more harm than good.
Good luck with it & enjoy it. |
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
If you don't meet their preferences there's no point messaging them. Regardless of how you feel about their preferences. |
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
People are entitled to want whatever they want. |
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
Ya,that's true, in some cases alright. Just have a look at them & move on. Your not for them. Don't take it to heart(easier said than done I know). Just move on. |
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
Being Black and handsome does have its perks. If you like to be fetishised obviously. |
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
I know plenty of white guys shorter than 6 foot who get loads of meets and party invites, maybe consider what you can improve on rather than make excuses |
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"I always polite and respectful in messages and never pushy..
People will look at your profile when deciding whether to reply. They will often do it in 'ninja mode' so you won't even know they've looked. I can't critique your profile as you haven't asked for that. Is it selling what you have to offer or will it get lost in a sea of similar profiles?
J
Exactly what these guys said.
Mrs "
Gonna third this.... you haven't asked for critique so can't comment too much or say change this or that, but just an example if you were to message us let's say, first thing we'd do is look at your profile before even looking at the message, some wording you use would put me off regardless of attraction. But that's just me personally and I'm sure there are others it doesn't bother.
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"Very few single women actually single on here I find and then very very few that even meet trans women. So it’s a grind for sure OP I find. Couples are piss easy to arrange though "
Show off.
As if we’re that easy.
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"I always polite and respectful in messages and never pushy..
People will look at your profile when deciding whether to reply. They will often do it in 'ninja mode' so you won't even know they've looked. I can't critique your profile as you haven't asked for that. Is it selling what you have to offer or will it get lost in a sea of similar profiles?
J
Exactly what these guys said.
Mrs
Gonna third this.... you haven't asked for critique so can't comment too much or say change this or that, but just an example if you were to message us let's say, first thing we'd do is look at your profile before even looking at the message, some wording you use would put me off regardless of attraction. But that's just me personally and I'm sure there are others it doesn't bother.
Tinder "
I'll fourth this 
No matter how good your message is, if you've not thoroughly read their profile, or your profile isn't what they're after, you're likely to be wasting your time.
However, this can be different at a club or private party, in my humble experience, whereby folks can be open to changing their stance if they like what they see.
PS. I'm happy for people to critique my profile if they want  |
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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As others have said... anyone you message will look at your profile before anything else.
There's many successful single guys on here. They will most likely have enticing profiles, attractive personalities and good communication. Physical attraction is very subjective.
Height is important to some as is skin colour and cock size. But there's no point in worrying about those who aren't looking for what you offer.
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
Like I said in my first post; block all the profiles you’re not a match for. Think of it as filtering the wheat from the chaff. Then concentrate on the profiles you are more likely to be a match for. It’s simples really |
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"I've struggled meeting women and couples just from here. I've mostly had to rely on socials and clubs like I bet most men have to. Would definitely prefer more one to one meets with someone local but I live in hope
I’ll have to disagree with you here, as I found couples and single females in the club scene harder to connect with, than using Fab to meet likeminded people.
I genuinely believe it’s mostly based on geography, in so much as; if you have a club on your doorstep, the locals use that, rather than put effort in to using Fab. The reason I say this is because it’s the best part of 2 hours in any direction for me (and others locally) to reach a club, so we use Fab to connect with people, rather than just rocking up at a club, and seeing who’s in…
I've met all of one Cumbrian man through the site, the rest of the cumbrians I've found I've bumped into at Club Play or F.
Some people prefer one way or the other, it isn't necessarily defined by the geography."
I’ve been to Club Up Itself, and Club f, and not met any Cumbrians. I did however, once meet a couple from Cumbria in Townhouse, but all the other locals I’ve met through Fab. Go figure…. |
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
Restrictions are a way of letting people know what you want, you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea
By fun you mean sex right ? Not all women and couples on here want just a quickie. I know for me it's about mutual respect and building a bit of chemistry with people.
That can't be done in a couple of messages "
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"I find some couples n females profile have so many restrictions and no no's..Only way I get success if I 6 foot tall vvw endowed and black also handsome ????"
...well shit I don't know what to tell ya buddy, but it worked for me.
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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Maybe it’s your status update and lack of pics
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"Hi this mainly to guys Do you have much success getting meets with ladies and couples here?Been trying getting fun but been left frustrated..Not many replies and some have so many restrictions..
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No issues here. |
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