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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you) |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Enters thread.
*WOMEN’S THINGS KLAXON!*
Backs out of thread slowly and quietly ..  "
Not even offering to stroke my hair and do me up the bum instead?
Rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Enters thread.
*WOMEN’S THINGS KLAXON!*
Backs out of thread slowly and quietly ..
Not even offering to stroke my hair and do me up the bum instead?
Rude."
 ah ok then! Go get the lube .. |
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I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Enters thread.
*WOMEN’S THINGS KLAXON!*
Backs out of thread slowly and quietly ..
Not even offering to stroke my hair and do me up the bum instead?
Rude.
omg i snort laughed at this"
Me too actually. Which I think makes me not cool |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Enters thread.
*WOMEN’S THINGS KLAXON!*
Backs out of thread slowly and quietly ..
Not even offering to stroke my hair and do me up the bum instead?
Rude.
ah ok then! Go get the lube .. "
You've always been my favourite of all the Berks. |
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me."
Don't get me started on this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll join your rant. I'm currently month 38 of continuous. I've had 9 days in that time of no flow. I'm like the pros killed by the thingy in se7en all the time. The pain goes into places like my armpits and I think what the actual fuck. I want to scream sometimes. my cat is what stopped me from some very bad thoughts. My agoraphobia stems from ASB, but it's this disease that knocks me off my feet |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me."
Ditto. Begging doesn't work apparently. Even when you've had 10 miscarriages and can't grow a crotch goblins they still say "but you might want kids".
I don't even have the energy for a wank. But I might go seek chocolate.
I feel your pain Prey  |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me."
If it helps I wasn't allowed to get my tubes tied incase anything happened to my son.... Even after I pointed out I wouldn't replace a hamster like that they were unmoved  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Have you tried taking ibuprofen or a hot water bottle?  "
Fuck you and your hot water bottle. And shove your ibuprofen up your bum.
(I may have tried the drugs... and it's too hot for a hot water bottle) |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'll join your rant. I'm currently month 38 of continuous. I've had 9 days in that time of no flow. I'm like the pros killed by the thingy in se7en all the time. The pain goes into places like my armpits and I think what the actual fuck. I want to scream sometimes. my cat is what stopped me from some very bad thoughts. My agoraphobia stems from ASB, but it's this disease that knocks me off my feet"
It's so shit. I wish I had something helpful for you but all I can say is I'm so sorry. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"That was the sexiest rant I’ve ever read 
I feel you gorgeous. It’s shit. Proper shit.
Sending you kisses and ice cubes "
You have weird ideas of sexy... I kinda like it  |
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over a year ago
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I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’ 
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture |
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"Have you tried taking ibuprofen or a hot water bottle?
Fuck you and your hot water bottle. And shove your ibuprofen up your bum.
(I may have tried the drugs... and it's too hot for a hot water bottle)"
I've always wondered if this was the moment I could get you to switch... And now I know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hear you. 10 days early. Screwed up my plans in more ways than one.
And why is it when we have this thing the horn level rises so high like some cruel torture?
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me.
If it helps I wasn't allowed to get my tubes tied incase anything happened to my son.... Even after I pointed out I wouldn't replace a hamster like that they were unmoved "
They're all bastards. And they get away with saying shiz like that all the damn time. It's disgusting. |
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me."
Could you not go private for the OP if its personal choice it is what it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s been times I’ve had to sleep on the floor out of agony or had to starve myself because I physically couldn’t keep down any food from the pain…still went into work, and wasn’t even allowed any grace or anything. Was just made to stand up the entire time and try to act like I was fine |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Enters thread.
*WOMEN’S THINGS KLAXON!*
Backs out of thread slowly and quietly ..
Not even offering to stroke my hair and do me up the bum instead?
Rude.
Why the bum if your horny go for it "
Because I do the washing and I don't want to deal with the mess.
Also because it fucking hurts. |
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me.
If it helps I wasn't allowed to get my tubes tied incase anything happened to my son.... Even after I pointed out I wouldn't replace a hamster like that they were unmoved "
I feel all the pain here. My bits don’t work at all. Never have, never will. Which is totally gutting as I’ve always wanted kids so much. And now to add to the shit show the menopause is being a bastard. A proper evil one.
We need a rant club as tbh I think they are pretty sexy… and necessary. Sending hugs to all the lovely ladies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me.
Could you not go private for the OP if its personal choice it is what it is. "
In my experience, even private places won’t do it for women who are young and/or have no kids
Despite that my cousin who’s only a few years older than me got the snip very easily and no one was concerned about him having kids |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture "
Well obviously. Because losing weight solves everything. Absolutely everything. My pain was worse when I lost weight, like it had been diluted having to get through all the excess body. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me.
Could you not go private for the OP if its personal choice it is what it is. "
I.
Can't.
Even. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Well obviously. Because losing weight solves everything. Absolutely everything. My pain was worse when I lost weight, like it had been diluted having to get through all the excess body."
Exactly! Broken your foot? Lose some weight. Smashed your face up? Lose some weight. Died in a terrible accident? Ah, if only you lost some weight. There’s no winning! I remember when I went to the doctors about ear problems and got told to lose weight as if that was going to magically restore my hearing |
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me.
Could you not go private for the OP if its personal choice it is what it is. "
No. Because even private doctors have the same aversion. But what if you change your mind? It doesn't matter that I fucking won't.
Also, don't worry about the tubal litigation Cede. My mother had one of those a decade before she got pregnant with me and my twin. And then was too late to get fixed because she assumed it wasn't that since she'd had her tubes tied. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Have you tried taking ibuprofen or a hot water bottle?
Fuck you and your hot water bottle. And shove your ibuprofen up your bum.
(I may have tried the drugs... and it's too hot for a hot water bottle)
I've always wondered if this was the moment I could get you to switch... And now I know. "
Fuck that.
I'm going full Domme on your arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me."
Same, told at 19 I can't have kids, so try this tablet, doesn't work, try this different one. 7 different medications, lose weight, still no change. Just give me the op but nope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'll join your rant. I'm currently month 38 of continuous. I've had 9 days in that time of no flow. I'm like the pros killed by the thingy in se7en all the time. The pain goes into places like my armpits and I think what the actual fuck. I want to scream sometimes. my cat is what stopped me from some very bad thoughts. My agoraphobia stems from ASB, but it's this disease that knocks me off my feet
It's so shit. I wish I had something helpful for you but all I can say is I'm so sorry."
No need for sorry...xxx |
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"That was the sexiest rant I’ve ever read
I feel you gorgeous. It’s shit. Proper shit.
Sending you kisses and ice cubes
You have weird ideas of sexy... I kinda like it "
I just like sexy stuff. And my kinda sexy is definitely weird  |
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"I've begged for a hysterectomy for two decades.
"But you haven't had any kids."
Correct! That's the point! Now get rid of the parts that hurt and ruin my sex life without providing me with anything positive you fucks.
I know your pain Posh.
Last month I had 3 of the bastards.
Have some chocolate and an angry wank. That always helps me.
Could you not go private for the OP if its personal choice it is what it is.
In my experience, even private places won’t do it for women who are young and/or have no kids
Despite that my cousin who’s only a few years older than me got the snip very easily and no one was concerned about him having kids "
Yep I paid for mine at 23 as did not want children have side effects now as in a lump but nothing like you ladies go through. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I hear you. 10 days early. Screwed up my plans in more ways than one.
And why is it when we have this thing the horn level rises so high like some cruel torture?
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I get the crazy raging superhorn the day before like some torturous alarm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Well obviously. Because losing weight solves everything. Absolutely everything. My pain was worse when I lost weight, like it had been diluted having to get through all the excess body."
One gynecologist said lose weight stop eating bread pasta rice and looked at my mum and said stop your daughter eating as its stopping you from having grandkids |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Mine almost killed me so I had a hysterectomy before I was 40.
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They still won't give me one even though that has happened to me, and the last 3 miscarriages have had me almost in the ground too.
It's mental. I'm glad you don't have to suffer now. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Big boobie hugs and cake x
It's horrible and then the fucking menopause, it's not fun either
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I'm dreading it. Not least because my mother and her mother pretty much went through it for about 15 years each all told. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Well obviously. Because losing weight solves everything. Absolutely everything. My pain was worse when I lost weight, like it had been diluted having to get through all the excess body.
Exactly! Broken your foot? Lose some weight. Smashed your face up? Lose some weight. Died in a terrible accident? Ah, if only you lost some weight. There’s no winning! I remember when I went to the doctors about ear problems and got told to lose weight as if that was going to magically restore my hearing "
omg... I thought I was on my own. I have ear infections 5 6 times a year. Reason. My weight the doc says |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Feeling 50% smug after having had a hysterectomy. 50% in sympathy because I still have the brain goblins.
I reckon a petition should do it?"
I'll never get rid of the brain goblins. I just wish they wouldn't go party with the devil down there so often |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Well obviously. Because losing weight solves everything. Absolutely everything. My pain was worse when I lost weight, like it had been diluted having to get through all the excess body.
Exactly! Broken your foot? Lose some weight. Smashed your face up? Lose some weight. Died in a terrible accident? Ah, if only you lost some weight. There’s no winning! I remember when I went to the doctors about ear problems and got told to lose weight as if that was going to magically restore my hearing
omg... I thought I was on my own. I have ear infections 5 6 times a year. Reason. My weight the doc says"
Yep! Recurrent ear infections, I’m partially deaf, and what does the doctor say every time? ‘Have you tried losing some weight?’ I think we must have the second coming of Jesus here who can make hearing come back by just losing some weight |
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Well obviously. Because losing weight solves everything. Absolutely everything. My pain was worse when I lost weight, like it had been diluted having to get through all the excess body.
Exactly! Broken your foot? Lose some weight. Smashed your face up? Lose some weight. Died in a terrible accident? Ah, if only you lost some weight. There’s no winning! I remember when I went to the doctors about ear problems and got told to lose weight as if that was going to magically restore my hearing
omg... I thought I was on my own. I have ear infections 5 6 times a year. Reason. My weight the doc says
Yep! Recurrent ear infections, I’m partially deaf, and what does the doctor say every time? ‘Have you tried losing some weight?’ I think we must have the second coming of Jesus here who can make hearing come back by just losing some weight "
No I get told straight
I have an infection left ear.... it's because your fat |
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"Have you tried taking ibuprofen or a hot water bottle?
Fuck you and your hot water bottle. And shove your ibuprofen up your bum.
(I may have tried the drugs... and it's too hot for a hot water bottle)
I've always wondered if this was the moment I could get you to switch... And now I know.
Fuck that.
I'm going full Domme on your arse. "
Good good... release your rage only your hatred can destroy me. |
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I can’t speak from experience as even tho I’m a woman I’ve had the coil
For 23 years and never had a period or suffered a pain or a mood swing I know from speaking to friends I’m extremely lucky.
Also apparently I should be starting some sort of menopause according to friends but am yet to experience a symptom.
I do know tho after listening to friends and having a older daughter that for some reason when it comes to this doctors still don’t seem to be very sympathetic and understand how this can affect womens mental health and affect them physically.
I’m not sure why theirs still so little understanding on this subject and what can be done to change it.A lot of women still seemed to get fobbed off and in this day and age that’s definitely not acceptable. |
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)"
Throws a bar of chocolate and dives for cover! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry to hear you're struggling and that so many others are too. I'll join the rant club with perimenopause some other time. Being a woman is hard.
Have some virtual hugs under a fan. Hopefully you manage some sleep and things ease a bit for you soon xx |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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In answer to the go private comment, it has been pointed out above that most private docs won't do it if you don't have kids.
But also, why should we have to go private? I can only speak for me here, although I feel like what I'm going to say might resonate with some others.
I cannot grow babies. I didn't care before I hit 30, I was fine with that. But after that I desperately wanted them. And I went through 6 more miscarriages, including 3 where I had to have most of my blood replaced and almost died. They still wouldn't take it all out, despite my request.
So at least twice a month (bleeding and egg laying time, remember), I have to deal with agonising pain (and I live in a lot of pain, so this must be bad), then there is the major blood flow, AND the reminder that it is all completely pointless anyway. Because I'm a complete failure as a woman. I can't even perform the basic function.
It devastates me every month. My quality of life is ruined by pain, blood and depression. It affects me constantly. Plus the PCOS which has the side effect of (among other things) thick, dark hair, which makes me feel like crap about other parts of my body.
The depression and anxiety that it all causes is a major issue. With any other issue the NHS would be happy to help.
"Got the wrong size boobs and it's making you depressed? We will change that for you"
"Need help to stop that addiction you started BY CHOICE? Here... have some help"
"Can't get a boner? Let's sort that"
But
"You female person want to make it so you can't have (more or any) children? Even though it actually won't happen for you EVER, and you might die through blood loss, or might wish you were dead because of pain? No. We won't help even though it's a simple and relatively cheap procedure... instead you can use way more resources when you almost die... because you're a woman and you don't know what's best for you".
We shouldn't have to go private to have this procedure. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Have you tried taking ibuprofen or a hot water bottle?
Fuck you and your hot water bottle. And shove your ibuprofen up your bum.
(I may have tried the drugs... and it's too hot for a hot water bottle)
I've always wondered if this was the moment I could get you to switch... And now I know.
Fuck that.
I'm going full Domme on your arse.
Good good... release your rage only your hatred can destroy me. "
I have a horn. That and rage will work |
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"In answer to the go private comment, it has been pointed out above that most private docs won't do it if you don't have kids.
But also, why should we have to go private? I can only speak for me here, although I feel like what I'm going to say might resonate with some others.
I cannot grow babies. I didn't care before I hit 30, I was fine with that. But after that I desperately wanted them. And I went through 6 more miscarriages, including 3 where I had to have most of my blood replaced and almost died. They still wouldn't take it all out, despite my request.
So at least twice a month (bleeding and egg laying time, remember), I have to deal with agonising pain (and I live in a lot of pain, so this must be bad), then there is the major blood flow, AND the reminder that it is all completely pointless anyway. Because I'm a complete failure as a woman. I can't even perform the basic function.
It devastates me every month. My quality of life is ruined by pain, blood and depression. It affects me constantly. Plus the PCOS which has the side effect of (among other things) thick, dark hair, which makes me feel like crap about other parts of my body.
The depression and anxiety that it all causes is a major issue. With any other issue the NHS would be happy to help.
"Got the wrong size boobs and it's making you depressed? We will change that for you"
"Need help to stop that addiction you started BY CHOICE? Here... have some help"
"Can't get a boner? Let's sort that"
But
"You female person want to make it so you can't have (more or any) children? Even though it actually won't happen for you EVER, and you might die through blood loss, or might wish you were dead because of pain? No. We won't help even though it's a simple and relatively cheap procedure... instead you can use way more resources when you almost die... because you're a woman and you don't know what's best for you".
We shouldn't have to go private to have this procedure."
Posh. It absolutely fucking stinks and I'm so sorry you have to live with this. X |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'll join this party. My endometriosis has been really bad the last couple months and I'm dreading having surgery for it again. Female stuff is the pits.
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Endo is evil. They dont know enough and don't research enough. And rarely diagnose. So at least you have that. You'll make it lovely. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. |
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"I can’t speak from experience as even tho I’m a woman I’ve had the coil
For 23 years and never had a period or suffered a pain or a mood swing I know from speaking to friends I’m extremely lucky.
Also apparently I should be starting some sort of menopause according to friends but am yet to experience a symptom.
I do know tho after listening to friends and having a older daughter that for some reason when it comes to this doctors still don’t seem to be very sympathetic and understand how this can affect womens mental health and affect them physically.
I’m not sure why theirs still so little understanding on this subject and what can be done to change it.A lot of women still seemed to get fobbed off and in this day and age that’s definitely not acceptable."
Can highly recommend Invisible Women as an eye-opening read on the gender data gap.
Mrs TMN x |
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"I can’t speak from experience as even tho I’m a woman I’ve had the coil
For 23 years and never had a period or suffered a pain or a mood swing I know from speaking to friends I’m extremely lucky.
Also apparently I should be starting some sort of menopause according to friends but am yet to experience a symptom.
I do know tho after listening to friends and having a older daughter that for some reason when it comes to this doctors still don’t seem to be very sympathetic and understand how this can affect womens mental health and affect them physically.
I’m not sure why theirs still so little understanding on this subject and what can be done to change it.A lot of women still seemed to get fobbed off and in this day and age that’s definitely not acceptable.
Can highly recommend Invisible Women as an eye-opening read on the gender data gap.
Mrs TMN x"
Yes! Caroline Criado Perez
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can’t speak from experience as even tho I’m a woman I’ve had the coil
For 23 years and never had a period or suffered a pain or a mood swing I know from speaking to friends I’m extremely lucky.
Also apparently I should be starting some sort of menopause according to friends but am yet to experience a symptom.
I do know tho after listening to friends and having a older daughter that for some reason when it comes to this doctors still don’t seem to be very sympathetic and understand how this can affect womens mental health and affect them physically.
I’m not sure why theirs still so little understanding on this subject and what can be done to change it.A lot of women still seemed to get fobbed off and in this day and age that’s definitely not acceptable."
Women's health isn't looked into to the extent that other things are. But that's a debate I'm not getting into.
The coil has never helped me... none of the contraceptive solutions have. I'm glad they've helped you though. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Throws a bar of chocolate and dives for cover!"
All you men suggesting chocolate...
I'm not actually that much of a fan. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear you're struggling and that so many others are too. I'll join the rant club with perimenopause some other time. Being a woman is hard.
Have some virtual hugs under a fan. Hopefully you manage some sleep and things ease a bit for you soon xx"
Thank you Wyld. Is appreciated xx |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You have my sympathy! I'm only on day two and I'm fed up and wish I could stay in my bed all weekend.
Have you tried growing a dick instead?
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I gave it a go last month. Sadly I've yet to see any results 
I've had offers to borrow one from various people, but i don't think that'll help.
Day 2 here too... I hope it's brief for you lovely |
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Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug. "
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently. |
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"In answer to the go private comment, it has been pointed out above that most private docs won't do it if you don't have kids.
But also, why should we have to go private? I can only speak for me here, although I feel like what I'm going to say might resonate with some others.
I cannot grow babies. I didn't care before I hit 30, I was fine with that. But after that I desperately wanted them. And I went through 6 more miscarriages, including 3 where I had to have most of my blood replaced and almost died. They still wouldn't take it all out, despite my request.
So at least twice a month (bleeding and egg laying time, remember), I have to deal with agonising pain (and I live in a lot of pain, so this must be bad), then there is the major blood flow, AND the reminder that it is all completely pointless anyway. Because I'm a complete failure as a woman. I can't even perform the basic function.
It devastates me every month. My quality of life is ruined by pain, blood and depression. It affects me constantly. Plus the PCOS which has the side effect of (among other things) thick, dark hair, which makes me feel like crap about other parts of my body.
The depression and anxiety that it all causes is a major issue. With any other issue the NHS would be happy to help.
"Got the wrong size boobs and it's making you depressed? We will change that for you"
"Need help to stop that addiction you started BY CHOICE? Here... have some help"
"Can't get a boner? Let's sort that"
But
"You female person want to make it so you can't have (more or any) children? Even though it actually won't happen for you EVER, and you might die through blood loss, or might wish you were dead because of pain? No. We won't help even though it's a simple and relatively cheap procedure... instead you can use way more resources when you almost die... because you're a woman and you don't know what's best for you".
We shouldn't have to go private to have this procedure."
My back fur I can't do but
when i pluck werewolf hairs on my chin they are back 24 hours later and if I miss one and that sucker grows I feel so unwomenly |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"
My back fur I can't do but
when i pluck werewolf hairs on my chin they are back 24 hours later and if I miss one and that sucker grows I feel so unwomenly "
It's a horrible feeling. |
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over a year ago
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently."
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees. |
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently.
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees. "
She's right. I forgot the extra watering in the heat and mine fell off  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently.
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees. "
I'll get the protractor out. Is that 25 degrees from vertical or horizontal? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently.
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees.
She's right. I forgot the extra watering in the heat and mine fell off "
Ohhhhh... that kind of degrees. Oops 
I wonder if you're still allowed when there is a hosepipe ban  |
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over a year ago
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently.
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees.
She's right. I forgot the extra watering in the heat and mine fell off "
It's not completely useless so don't dispose of it just yet. Put it in a glass container with some water and leave it by your front door. Rex will be around in the morning because he likes collecting them. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Mine almost killed me so I had a hysterectomy before I was 40.
They still won't give me one even though that has happened to me, and the last 3 miscarriages have had me almost in the ground too.
It's mental. I'm glad you don't have to suffer now."
I was told there was no other alternative. I was told of all the other options and that they wouldn't be any good for me as I had huge fibroid and endometriosis.
I already had grandchildren so they weren't worried about me not having more children.
The gynaecologist actually said you won't be able to have any more.
I was at heart attack level anaemia and couldn't keep the levels up, so there wasn't any other option.
I hope yours get better as you get older. |
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently.
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees.
I'll get the protractor out. Is that 25 degrees from vertical or horizontal?"
I think it is horizontal but make sure to start from the South side and end in the North with at least 180 spin at least seven times and don't forget the sharp pencil to control the flow. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Fancy a massage, my fingers work wonder with a foam roller and spikey gloves, then I can work on your g-spot."
Anyone tries to go near my g-spot at the moment and it'll be like the prom scene from Carrie I reckon. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Mine almost killed me so I had a hysterectomy before I was 40.
They still won't give me one even though that has happened to me, and the last 3 miscarriages have had me almost in the ground too.
It's mental. I'm glad you don't have to suffer now.
I was told there was no other alternative. I was told of all the other options and that they wouldn't be any good for me as I had huge fibroid and endometriosis.
I already had grandchildren so they weren't worried about me not having more children.
The gynaecologist actually said you won't be able to have any more.
I was at heart attack level anaemia and couldn't keep the levels up, so there wasn't any other option.
I hope yours get better as you get older."
Thank you Nanna. I'm really glad you chose that option. I like having you around. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh Posh. You're not a failure. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I can only begin to imagine how upsetting this all is. You're an amazing woman. And so many people love you. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Thank you Lemon
My head tells me you're right. My heart knows differently.
A lemon is never wrong.
But seriously you should try harder to grow that dick. Don't forget you must water it twice a day, four times if it is above 25 degrees.
I'll get the protractor out. Is that 25 degrees from vertical or horizontal?
I think it is horizontal but make sure to start from the South side and end in the North with at least 180 spin at least seven times and don't forget the sharp pencil to control the flow."
*adds pencils and a sharpener to the shopping list* |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal "
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad |
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad "
You know you can't fool anyone here, so never 
I'm glad you cleared that up because I'd never be able to look at a egg in the same way
I don't think rubbing my stomach would make anyone feel better about their own pains |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad
You know you can't fool anyone here, so never
I'm glad you cleared that up because I'd never be able to look at a egg in the same way
I don't think rubbing my stomach would make anyone feel better about their own pains "
It wouldn't take away my pain but it'll take my mind off it for a few minutes |
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad
You know you can't fool anyone here, so never
I'm glad you cleared that up because I'd never be able to look at a egg in the same way
I don't think rubbing my stomach would make anyone feel better about their own pains
It wouldn't take away my pain but it'll take my mind off it for a few minutes "
I'm nothing but meat here, it's a disgrace |
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad
You know you can't fool anyone here, so never
I'm glad you cleared that up because I'd never be able to look at a egg in the same way
I don't think rubbing my stomach would make anyone feel better about their own pains
It wouldn't take away my pain but it'll take my mind off it for a few minutes
I'm nothing but meat here, it's a disgrace "
Chocolate flavoured meat though  |
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad
You know you can't fool anyone here, so never
I'm glad you cleared that up because I'd never be able to look at a egg in the same way
I don't think rubbing my stomach would make anyone feel better about their own pains
It wouldn't take away my pain but it'll take my mind off it for a few minutes
I'm nothing but meat here, it's a disgrace
Chocolate flavoured meat though "
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"My stomach usually feels like I've been run over and I don't have periods
Also I'm a bit worried that you lay eggs as I don't think that's normal
When have I ever claimed to be normal?
It's not like they pop out in shells like a chicken!
Can I rub your stomach better? It'll make me feel less sad
You know you can't fool anyone here, so never
I'm glad you cleared that up because I'd never be able to look at a egg in the same way
I don't think rubbing my stomach would make anyone feel better about their own pains
It wouldn't take away my pain but it'll take my mind off it for a few minutes
I'm nothing but meat here, it's a disgrace
Chocolate flavoured meat though
That sounds minging "
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)"
Sends a tub of ice cream, probably Ben & Jerry's and a soft cuddly toy x |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)"
Sending emergency chocolate x |
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture "
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less |
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I had a morena coil fitted in my 30s and luckily no more periods, bliss. I went through the menopause early without any trouble too. And I know I'm very fortunate because some women really suffer.
Sending virtual hugs. |
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Apart from offering sympathy from the sidelines, there’s not a lot else I can add here- but I do have a question for the forumites who’ve experienced such shitty doctoring:
Were these GPs male or female?
I bet I know the answer in the majority of cases!
A nurse friend, who works in a GP surgery and has been on the receiving end of this sort of shit has this to say about it:
This level of care should NOT happen in this day and age- the NHS is supposed to be about patient-centred care and should work on the basis that the patient knows their own body/plans for the future better than the GP. Too many doctors still think that they are some sort of god-like, all-knowing sage whose wisdom must not be challenged, and it’s bullshit. The only way this will change is if patients start sticking up for themselves- it shouldn’t be this way, but it is, and it sucks.
Next time a GP gives such poor service, do two things-
Immediately make a complaint- either at the GP practice directly, and/or via the GMC.
Insist on seeing a different GP for all future appointments- preferably a female doctor, but you could also ask for a GP with Special Interest (aka a Gypsy!) in women’s health.
GP practices will have to listen to, and act on these complaints, and can not hide from them if they are in writing. Complaining should have the twin benefit of getting you as an individual the care you deserve, but also force a cultural change in the mindset of GPs. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Sends a tub of ice cream, probably Ben & Jerry's and a soft cuddly toy x"
I'll take the toy. Thank you |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Sending emergency chocolate x"
Much appreciated... but could I have pringles instead please x |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Wish as a male we could take some of that away from you. You ladies amaze me as your bodies go through a lot and you cope with a lot too. Totally have my love and best wishes. "
And we don't actually stab people. Usually.
So yeah, we rock. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less "
Exactly. Calm down and eat a salad... for it shall cure all that ails you.
Where's the facepalm emoji? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I had a morena coil fitted in my 30s and luckily no more periods, bliss. I went through the menopause early without any trouble too. And I know I'm very fortunate because some women really suffer.
Sending virtual hugs."
You are basically the woman I always wanted to be |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Apart from offering sympathy from the sidelines, there’s not a lot else I can add here- but I do have a question for the forumites who’ve experienced such shitty doctoring:
Were these GPs male or female?
I bet I know the answer in the majority of cases!
A nurse friend, who works in a GP surgery and has been on the receiving end of this sort of shit has this to say about it:
This level of care should NOT happen in this day and age- the NHS is supposed to be about patient-centred care and should work on the basis that the patient knows their own body/plans for the future better than the GP. Too many doctors still think that they are some sort of god-like, all-knowing sage whose wisdom must not be challenged, and it’s bullshit. The only way this will change is if patients start sticking up for themselves- it shouldn’t be this way, but it is, and it sucks.
Next time a GP gives such poor service, do two things-
Immediately make a complaint- either at the GP practice directly, and/or via the GMC.
Insist on seeing a different GP for all future appointments- preferably a female doctor, but you could also ask for a GP with Special Interest (aka a Gypsy!) in women’s health.
GP practices will have to listen to, and act on these complaints, and can not hide from them if they are in writing. Complaining should have the twin benefit of getting you as an individual the care you deserve, but also force a cultural change in the mindset of GPs."
I concur, Ned. Your pal is wise.
However, for me this has been 4 GPs over 32 years... it's been horrendous from the beginning, and i first begged to be neutered at age 19. One of the GPs was female.
It hasn't just been GPs either, it's been gynaecologists of varying levels as well.
The general surgeon who went in to remove a cyst the size of a grapefruit was so proud of herself for saving my ovary. I think I upset her when I sobbed uncontrollably because I was devastated.
The system needs shaking up for so many reasons, and the allocation of funds needs some tweaks. And women need to change. We need to stop just accepting that pain, discomfort, near death are just the cost of being a woman, need to stop showing our kids that it isn't OK to say it's bad. There are so many voices agreeing that telling boys and men to "man up" is destructive, but we still tell women (and tell ourselves) that the menstrual cycle is just life and we need to get on with it and not moan.
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less "
Oh i hear you! I have PCOS and the ignorant doctors who told me loose weight and my symptoms would improve boil my piss! I couldn't loose chuffing weight because of my PCOS there wasn't a diet on this earth I haven't tried to do that, it took seeing the same gp four times once a week to actually get a scan and medication and guess what..... I started to lose weight and it helped my symptoms.
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less
Oh i hear you! I have PCOS and the ignorant doctors who told me loose weight and my symptoms would improve boil my piss! I couldn't loose chuffing weight because of my PCOS there wasn't a diet on this earth I haven't tried to do that, it took seeing the same gp four times once a week to actually get a scan and medication and guess what..... I started to lose weight and it helped my symptoms.
Tinder x"
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)"
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less
Oh i hear you! I have PCOS and the ignorant doctors who told me loose weight and my symptoms would improve boil my piss! I couldn't loose chuffing weight because of my PCOS there wasn't a diet on this earth I haven't tried to do that, it took seeing the same gp four times once a week to actually get a scan and medication and guess what..... I started to lose weight and it helped my symptoms.
Tinder x"
See my "calm down and eat a salad" advice above.
It doesn't help that most people believe that if you just eat less and move more, weight will fall off. |
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"Apart from offering sympathy from the sidelines, there’s not a lot else I can add here- but I do have a question for the forumites who’ve experienced such shitty doctoring:
Were these GPs male or female?
I bet I know the answer in the majority of cases!
A nurse friend, who works in a GP surgery and has been on the receiving end of this sort of shit has this to say about it:
This level of care should NOT happen in this day and age- the NHS is supposed to be about patient-centred care and should work on the basis that the patient knows their own body/plans for the future better than the GP. Too many doctors still think that they are some sort of god-like, all-knowing sage whose wisdom must not be challenged, and it’s bullshit. The only way this will change is if patients start sticking up for themselves- it shouldn’t be this way, but it is, and it sucks.
Next time a GP gives such poor service, do two things-
Immediately make a complaint- either at the GP practice directly, and/or via the GMC.
Insist on seeing a different GP for all future appointments- preferably a female doctor, but you could also ask for a GP with Special Interest (aka a Gypsy!) in women’s health.
GP practices will have to listen to, and act on these complaints, and can not hide from them if they are in writing. Complaining should have the twin benefit of getting you as an individual the care you deserve, but also force a cultural change in the mindset of GPs.
I concur, Ned. Your pal is wise.
However, for me this has been 4 GPs over 32 years... it's been horrendous from the beginning, and i first begged to be neutered at age 19. One of the GPs was female.
It hasn't just been GPs either, it's been gynaecologists of varying levels as well.
The general surgeon who went in to remove a cyst the size of a grapefruit was so proud of herself for saving my ovary. I think I upset her when I sobbed uncontrollably because I was devastated.
The system needs shaking up for so many reasons, and the allocation of funds needs some tweaks. And women need to change. We need to stop just accepting that pain, discomfort, near death are just the cost of being a woman, need to stop showing our kids that it isn't OK to say it's bad. There are so many voices agreeing that telling boys and men to "man up" is destructive, but we still tell women (and tell ourselves) that the menstrual cycle is just life and we need to get on with it and not moan.
I may be still a bit cranky, because Day 3 is like the continuation of a series no one really wanted in the first place, but I think I may also be right."
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though "
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Just tick the unsubscribe button. "
I tried to find it... I couldn't |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"HRT patches here, upside is Mr loves period sex. As long as the pains are gone, a good lubed up fucking is lush."
That's rather excellent for you! Win win! |
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You don't need to apologise at all NSP, it's good to read this kind of thread.
My periods are awful - I have PCOS so I've got the pain, the sort of pain that results in me throwing up, the difficulty in losing weight. The migraines. The hormonal PMTing where I could happily tell people to fuck off and then cry the next minute. And then the anaemia that follows.
I'm getting better at coping with them, prescribed Tramadol but hate taking it so try and get by without it.
Losing weight has helped my symptoms a little but, and this is a big but, it shouldn't be the case that the automatic assumption is things will improve if you lose weight. Or that you're not trying. It's so fucking harmful. I've lost over ten stones now - I still have awful pain. I know friends who are slimmer than me who suffer horrifically.
For those who don't? Great.
But minimising how awful it can be is wank.
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you!"
Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Out of curiosity was it copper coil or Mirena? Copper coil is notoriously known to make things so much worst for gynae issues |
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Big toy for you and big fat hug. Never be afraid to express how you feel. Always good to rant about anything. In this situation it's best to be out than in lol. If you ever need someone to talk too and rant then don't hesitate to drop by. I'm good listener or in this case a reader. I do hope you feel better ?? x |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You don't need to apologise at all NSP, it's good to read this kind of thread.
My periods are awful - I have PCOS so I've got the pain, the sort of pain that results in me throwing up, the difficulty in losing weight. The migraines. The hormonal PMTing where I could happily tell people to fuck off and then cry the next minute. And then the anaemia that follows.
I'm getting better at coping with them, prescribed Tramadol but hate taking it so try and get by without it.
Losing weight has helped my symptoms a little but, and this is a big but, it shouldn't be the case that the automatic assumption is things will improve if you lose weight. Or that you're not trying. It's so fucking harmful. I've lost over ten stones now - I still have awful pain. I know friends who are slimmer than me who suffer horrifically.
For those who don't? Great.
But minimising how awful it can be is wank.
"
It is wank. And I have all this. It is utter, utter shite and we shouldn't have to suffer.
I never doubt that for things like PCOS, if we lose weight the symptoms will ease. Because that's logical. Less pressure on the body should mean less pressure on the symptoms, hence symptoms ease. But I object to the blanket "too fat" statements.
I'm not going to rant again... but I appreciate the support and the sharing. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you!
Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Out of curiosity was it copper coil or Mirena? Copper coil is notoriously known to make things so much worst for gynae issues "
Mirena the last two times, but copper the first. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Big toy for you and big fat hug. Never be afraid to express how you feel. Always good to rant about anything. In this situation it's best to be out than in lol. If you ever need someone to talk too and rant then don't hesitate to drop by. I'm good listener or in this case a reader. I do hope you feel better ?? x"
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you!
Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Out of curiosity was it copper coil or Mirena? Copper coil is notoriously known to make things so much worst for gynae issues
Mirena the last two times, but copper the first."
That’s not on my first Mirena became dislodged and perforated the uterus though
I am sorry to hear you are struggling so much, I hope they give you a solution. If you have a look at right to choose in the nhs website, you could always try to find a gynaecologist more sympathetic with your situation, even if it’s private. If they have an agreement with the nhs, you are entitled to be funded for that treatment through a gp request. If you need more info on that feel free to message |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you!
Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Out of curiosity was it copper coil or Mirena? Copper coil is notoriously known to make things so much worst for gynae issues
Mirena the last two times, but copper the first.
That’s not on my first Mirena became dislodged and perforated the uterus though
I am sorry to hear you are struggling so much, I hope they give you a solution. If you have a look at right to choose in the nhs website, you could always try to find a gynaecologist more sympathetic with your situation, even if it’s private. If they have an agreement with the nhs, you are entitled to be funded for that treatment through a gp request. If you need more info on that feel free to message "
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you!
Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Out of curiosity was it copper coil or Mirena? Copper coil is notoriously known to make things so much worst for gynae issues
Mirena the last two times, but copper the first.
That’s not on my first Mirena became dislodged and perforated the uterus though
I am sorry to hear you are struggling so much, I hope they give you a solution. If you have a look at right to choose in the nhs website, you could always try to find a gynaecologist more sympathetic with your situation, even if it’s private. If they have an agreement with the nhs, you are entitled to be funded for that treatment through a gp request. If you need more info on that feel free to message
Thank you lovely. Over the last 30 years I've basically tried everything. Menopause will be my friend."
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less
Oh i hear you! I have PCOS and the ignorant doctors who told me loose weight and my symptoms would improve boil my piss! I couldn't loose chuffing weight because of my PCOS there wasn't a diet on this earth I haven't tried to do that, it took seeing the same gp four times once a week to actually get a scan and medication and guess what..... I started to lose weight and it helped my symptoms.
Tinder x
Same here are you on metf? "
I was yeah, but when I had my kids it levelled my hormones out for a while and my symptoms stopped and I didn't have time to worry about my weight and stuff. But now the symptoms are rearing their ugly head again and I know I'm going to have to have a battle again to get it prescribed again as I'm no longer under that GP anymore |
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"I hear you. It suuuuucks
It does. I'm sulking.
Whoever signed us up for this should be disciplined."
Apparently some women called Eve. If she hadn’t fucked around with a snake and pinched that apple, you’d just be laying eggs like a duck. Fucked her sons too. Very dodgy character… |
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"I hear you. It suuuuucks
It does. I'm sulking.
Whoever signed us up for this should be disciplined."
Apparently some women called Eve. If she hadn’t fucked around with a snake and pinched that apple, you’d just be laying eggs like a duck. Fucked her sons too. Very dodgy character… |
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less
Exactly. Calm down and eat a salad... for it shall cure all that ails you.
Where's the facepalm emoji? "
Thankfully my periods these days aren't as bad as when I was a teen. Used to get anemic and could barely walk some days with the pain. Ended up on prescribed painkillers. Not so bad these days but still not exactly enjoyable. Thankfully I don't need more than paracetamol now. Sending hugs. |
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less
Oh i hear you! I have PCOS and the ignorant doctors who told me loose weight and my symptoms would improve boil my piss! I couldn't loose chuffing weight because of my PCOS there wasn't a diet on this earth I haven't tried to do that, it took seeing the same gp four times once a week to actually get a scan and medication and guess what..... I started to lose weight and it helped my symptoms.
Tinder x"
Yeah I've recently been told I've got PCOS. The irony of then being told to loose weight to help the symptoms and in the same breath being told that it's harder to loose weight with PCOS is not lost on me. Very frustrating |
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)"
Sorry to hear your minge has got red on it.
And about the, erm, womb wombats.
Have you tried walking it off? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to suffer with horrendous pain that only got worst when I had my son many years ago. I have since then had three surgeries to remove polyps and dermoid cysts that keep popping up. In my last surgery they fitted a mirena coil in and I’ve never been happier of any gynaecological decision in my life. No periods for almost 3 years now and the pain has improved so much. They still keep telling me to lose weight though
The coil just made things worse for me the 3 times they tried it.
I'm so glad it is working for you!
Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Out of curiosity was it copper coil or Mirena? Copper coil is notoriously known to make things so much worst for gynae issues
Mirena the last two times, but copper the first.
That’s not on my first Mirena became dislodged and perforated the uterus though
I am sorry to hear you are struggling so much, I hope they give you a solution. If you have a look at right to choose in the nhs website, you could always try to find a gynaecologist more sympathetic with your situation, even if it’s private. If they have an agreement with the nhs, you are entitled to be funded for that treatment through a gp request. If you need more info on that feel free to message
Thank you lovely. Over the last 30 years I've basically tried everything. Menopause will be my friend.
No problem! That’s what I think as well, then I think about the hot flushes "
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I hear you. It suuuuucks
It does. I'm sulking.
Whoever signed us up for this should be disciplined.
Apparently some women called Eve. If she hadn’t fucked around with a snake and pinched that apple, you’d just be laying eggs like a duck. Fucked her sons too. Very dodgy character… "
That bitch.
Maybe we could sue her. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve begged for a hysterectomy many times, both due to my gender dysphoria and horrific menstrual issues, and all I’ve been told is ‘lose weight’
Ah yes, I forgot that me losing weight helps the psychological torture I go through weeks before my period even begins, let alone the physical torture
Urgh, do not get me started on all the problems I've been told will be solved if I loose some weight and stress less
Exactly. Calm down and eat a salad... for it shall cure all that ails you.
Where's the facepalm emoji?
Thankfully my periods these days aren't as bad as when I was a teen. Used to get anemic and could barely walk some days with the pain. Ended up on prescribed painkillers. Not so bad these days but still not exactly enjoyable. Thankfully I don't need more than paracetamol now. Sending hugs."
That's better that it isn't as bad.
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)"
Hugs, mine are usually heavy and really bloody painful... pardon the pun .... hope you feel better soon x in the meantime wine and chocolate are my go to lol |
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over a year ago
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Sorry to hear your minge has got red on it.
And about the, erm, womb wombats.
Have you tried walking it off?"
You made me do that sexy snort laugh thing... thank you.
Taking the dogs for a walk is evil at the moment... I've ended up bent double several times on the mile walk. And then they look at me as if to say "erm... you keep telling us not to stop so much... and here you are doing it too!" |
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Hugs, mine are usually heavy and really bloody painful... pardon the pun .... hope you feel better soon x in the meantime wine and chocolate are my go to lol"
Hugs to you too... I wish I actually craved normal things like that |
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Sorry to hear you're in pain OP. I know how that used to feel. I was always in terrible pain too with them. I'm so relieved not to have to put up with it anymore. Hope you feel better soon x |
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Posh, dearest lady. Total empathy and sympathy here. I'm attempting a medical menopause but after the doc insisted on add-back HRT, all my symptoms immediately returned so I stopped it. Cue massively heavy and unannounced bleeding and then less than a week after it stopped, more bleeding. So, I now have menopause symptoms AND bleeding
It's obvious that oestrogen (real, synthetic or analogous) triggers my issues. I know I have adenomyosis and endometriosis is strongly suspected but they CBA to actually look. I'm on the waiting list for hysterectomy, finally, but a long wait. Hoping an endo surgeon will also join in.
Have you asked a gynaecologist about trying ProStap or similar to induce a medical menopause? It was great for me, until the HRT was given...... |
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"Just wondering since this has been brought up... Men, are you constantly told to lose weight at the Doctors too? Or do they just pick on us Ladies? x"
Oh we get it too. You aren't alone x |
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"I have always felt sorry for what women have to go through every month. Evolution is one stupid mothafucka."
It's every month as in, constantly for many women! Not "just" one week out of four. Even then, imagine a quarter of your life being in discomfort of some sort and having to arse about throughout the day with shoving stuff inside yourself to absorb the bleeding or sitting with a glorified náppy stuck to your bits on days like we've had recently? Having to think really carefully about what you wear in case the blood leaks out of the stuffing/náppies? Having to spend loads of money on different solutions to deal with the bleeding, etc.
Tis excellent fun |
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"Why oh why oh why oh why do women have to go through this crap in the lower abdomen ALL THE STINKING TIME?
I mean, OK, in theory it is only a few days a month. But in practice it's not just the "could bleed to death" days, it's the egg laying days as well. That's basically half the month.
And why isn't there some kind of complaints department so I don't have to rant at you lovely people about how the devil and the brain goblins are having a damn riverdance lesson in my uterus?
Please make me feel better. Or just rant your rant.
Have at it.
(And if anyone I find sexy could please forget they read this, I'd really appreciate it... because ranting isn't sexy. Thank you)
Hugs, mine are usually heavy and really bloody painful... pardon the pun .... hope you feel better soon x in the meantime wine and chocolate are my go to lol
Hugs to you too... I wish I actually craved normal things like that "
Just go with what you crave I say... and if that's a family size bag of crisps then why not x |
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