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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That most friends you help out will do fuck all if you ever asked the same back and most will disappear when you no longer have anything to offer them"
God I feel that. I used to be the one to always offer my time and energy, would always go out of my way to message my ‘friends’ to catch up, see how they are etc. Especially during covid, we were helping out two sets of friends with food shops, one couple lives over an hour away yet we helped with a five month old baby.
But when my mental and physical health got bad, they did fuck all. No messages, no check ups, no popping in - nothing. Was a huge wake up call, because they all bitched about each other to me, but they were suddenly all best pals. Ah well. Not my issue anymore 
Although I now have like….no friends lol. I have a few mum-friends from my sons nursery, but it’s not the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That I’ll never biologically be the man I want to be…but not in a ‘transphobic gotcha moment’ more in a…I’m never going to biologically be who I want to be, so I could just stop trying so hard, and redefine my own masculinity. Being trans is no fun, but at least I can do it my own way |
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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago
where the road goes on forever |
It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out |
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" It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out"
What have I done now?  |
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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago
where the road goes on forever |
" It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out
What have I done now? "
as soon as I typed in little bird up popped X's and o's |
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" It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out
What have I done now? as soon as I typed in little bird up popped X's and o's "
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
with one foot out the door |
Allowing people close enough to see the real you is more dangerous than jumping out of a plane above an active volcano in the end its gonna hurt regardless the excitement of it all so either grow wings or your fucked |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I learned so much but I think learned a lot about family and how they can sometimes be your biggest opps and your biggest haters.  "
Legit
Don’t speak to half of mine because they chose my abuser over me  low contact with my parents, barely see my grandparents because of it…thank god for my in laws |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I learned so much but I think learned a lot about family and how they can sometimes be your biggest opps and your biggest haters.
Legit
Don’t speak to half of mine because they chose my abuser over me low contact with my parents, barely see my grandparents because of it…thank god for my in laws "
Sorry 
And agreed about inlaws. I have a positive in laws relationship |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you don't let them have the satisfaction you can keep your self-respect."
This!!!! I’ve had so much shit thrown my way over the years by two family members in particularly, and for the last three or so years I’ve just smiled and went on my merry way. It’s been bliss and the abuse has definitely died down |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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"That most friends you help out will do fuck all if you ever asked the same back and most will disappear when you no longer have anything to offer them
God I feel that. I used to be the one to always offer my time and energy, would always go out of my way to message my ‘friends’ to catch up, see how they are etc. Especially during covid, we were helping out two sets of friends with food shops, one couple lives over an hour away yet we helped with a five month old baby.
But when my mental and physical health got bad, they did fuck all. No messages, no check ups, no popping in - nothing. Was a huge wake up call, because they all bitched about each other to me, but they were suddenly all best pals. Ah well. Not my issue anymore
Although I now have like….no friends lol. I have a few mum-friends from my sons nursery, but it’s not the same"
That’s really shitty after going g to great lengths to consistently help them out prior. Unfortunately most are like this in my experience I have 2 really good mates who have and I know would help when needed. I don’t like to end friendships but the ones I know are all for self I just refuse to do owt for anymore as hard as it is to say no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not everyone will have the same mind set and heart as you do. People only care about themselves. You can give your all to people but when you at your lowest no one is there and no one seems bothered to check up on you. Never give your all. Never wear your heart on your sleeve. Learn not to give so much when people can walk all over you and ignore you. People will always talk whether it's at work or anywhere else. Never mistaken kindness for weakness. Just because a person is smiling doesn't mean they are happy. Probably went overboard lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What life lesson did you win the hard way?"
Not everyone thinks like I do.
And I’m done at learning things the hard way now, I just want to enjoy my life.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't rely on anyone at work. There are no friends at work.
Add to that, the person who does the performs the worst at your pay grade receives the same salary as the person who performs the best"
Which is why I was self employed for most of my working life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That it’s ok to take time for yourself, you don’t have to be busy 24/7.
Learnt the hard way when I ignored a UTI as I was too busy to go to the docs and it went rogue and I ended up in hospital |
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Learn to love yourself (not masturbation, although if you’re getting that wrong  ) as in the end it’s down to you those successes and failures. Once you appreciate what you actually are and what you’re capable of, then you could be too far down the road to enjoy them.  |
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As shit as things can get and they've been bottom of the bottom they'll always get better.
Don't let a bad moment turn into a bad day.
Time is precious.
Sumo - shut up and move on - I love this there's no reason to keep going over and over the same things.
Stand up for yourself!
Yes I'm wired and slightly awkward but someone will come along who loves the wierd.
A few of mine.
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