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Or in fact about anyone you are looking for?
Is it after a woman has removed their make up?
It is a guy who has watched way to many porn movies and think they are starring in one?
Obviously it doesn’t have to scare you senseless like someone staring though your window late at night.
Sensible answers are also welcome 
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over a year ago
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I think I don’t really get scared by anything women specifically do. I guess i worry about my partners talking behind my back before bringing an issue to me. But think that’s just anxiety more than anything |
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"I think I don’t really get scared by anything women specifically do. I guess i worry about my partners talking behind my back before bringing an issue to me. But think that’s just anxiety more than anything "
Does it not scare you that you will be devoured alive being such a hunk of a man?
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In terms of the swinging world, the chance of them turning on you. I'm a 4 foot 10 woman that probably wouldn't be able to defend myself if I needed to which is scary. There's been situations I've continued with just because I was scared of the reaction if I stopped it. We hope that the people we choose are good but in certain moments, people can change in an instant.
Sorry that got a bit serious, also scared of big huge penises. |
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"I have started sharing face pics with and without make up. So far have only had one guy ghost me but I would rather them know what they will wake up to m  "
I’m trying to think or a witty response but honestly the only thing in my mind is good for you x
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"In terms of the swinging world, the chance of them turning on you. I'm a 4 foot 10 woman that probably wouldn't be able to defend myself if I needed to which is scary. There's been situations I've continued with just because I was scared of the reaction if I stopped it. We hope that the people we choose are good but in certain moments, people can change in an instant.
Sorry that got a bit serious, also scared of big huge penises."
If there a situation that you don't feel comfortable doing then you must stop.
The other person should have enough respect for you to accept it.
Now - gizza snog. X |
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"In terms of the swinging world, the chance of them turning on you. I'm a 4 foot 10 woman that probably wouldn't be able to defend myself if I needed to which is scary. There's been situations I've continued with just because I was scared of the reaction if I stopped it. We hope that the people we choose are good but in certain moments, people can change in an instant.
Sorry that got a bit serious, also scared of big huge penises."
In all honesty serious and joke answers are welcomed. I think that we always take some element of risk. We can only learn to lessen that risk and look out for signs beforehand that something is off.
Hell putting your penis in someone’s mouth hoping they don’t turn, is scary enough for me
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"Or in fact about anyone you are looking for?
Is it after a woman has removed their make up?
It is a guy who has watched way to many porn movies and think they are starring in one?
Obviously it doesn’t have to scare you senseless like someone staring though your window late at night.
Sensible answers are also welcome
Marc "
What scares me about ( seemingly ) every relationship as it develops is when the “other” says they love you and want to develop a relationship…. Then start trying to change the way you look, the way you act, the way you think, the way you feel…. To the point where you think… at the start of this, what bit of me attracted you to me ?
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"Always put off by people who are too nice, it just don't do it for me."
Screw up and all the nice people
How did I do? FAF?
I get what you mean though. If you challenge or even question something and they then change what they said to suit your view point is a worry for me. Don’t please me for the sake of it. Have your own opinions and justify them
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"In terms of the swinging world, the chance of them turning on you. I'm a 4 foot 10 woman that probably wouldn't be able to defend myself if I needed to which is scary. There's been situations I've continued with just because I was scared of the reaction if I stopped it. We hope that the people we choose are good but in certain moments, people can change in an instant.
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I have a friend who has faced exactly the same on a number of occasions. It's horrendous and should not be the case. Stay safe and hope that you do not encounter similar situations in the future. |
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"I think I don’t really get scared by anything women specifically do. I guess i worry about my partners talking behind my back before bringing an issue to me. But think that’s just anxiety more than anything
Does it not scare you that you will be devoured alive being such a hunk of a man?
Marc "
Marc, stop
Well… yes actually I do worry about that. Not because I’m a hunk. Just because there’s lots of meat on my bones |
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"I think I don’t really get scared by anything women specifically do. I guess i worry about my partners talking behind my back before bringing an issue to me. But think that’s just anxiety more than anything
Does it not scare you that you will be devoured alive being such a hunk of a man?
Marc
Marc, stop
Well… yes actually I do worry about that. Not because I’m a hunk. Just because there’s lots of meat on my bones "
Not so much a snack but a feast
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Not sure about being scared but being put off especially the men is too much sex talk, I want you to do this and that, here's my Cock etc.... They seem to assume I don't work and I'm horny 24/7 and that no matter how impressed they are with their own cock it will always come across to me like a cat bringing a mouse, yes I see your proud but I ain't fucking touching it.
This is why we've not yet met a couple although I'm hoping this will change very soon.
I will echo Ms Wyld though although she's nothing to worry about but I totally get it, I do worry people expect picture perfect in reality there's wobbles, rolls and some scars, I do worry I don't match up to people's preconceptions of me.
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"Their ability to flip from being charming and affable to nasty the second you say no. Or carrying on with their agenda and not respecting very clear boundaries. "
This is becoming a real opener for me. I was talking to Tinder about something that I guess is a little relatable as many people have mentioned this. I do me and don’t think that I’m anything special. I find it difficult to wrap my head around why other men aren’t exactly the same. It’s human decency ultimately
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Any woman that used to message wanting a meet,Though i suspect way they wrote message and what they wanted was really guys.And i am not talking about Tv/Ts profiles but guys for some strange reason using a womans profile and pic's.
Anyone that deceitful scares me.
Messaging a gay man i suspect they forgot which of their accounts they was logged in to.
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"Not sure about being scared but being put off especially the men is too much sex talk, I want you to do this and that, here's my Cock etc.... They seem to assume I don't work and I'm horny 24/7 and that no matter how impressed they are with their own cock it will always come across to me like a cat bringing a mouse, yes I see your proud but I ain't fucking touching it.
This is why we've not yet met a couple although I'm hoping this will change very soon.
I will echo Ms Wyld though although she's nothing to worry about but I totally get it, I do worry people expect picture perfect in reality there's wobbles, rolls and some scars, I do worry I don't match up to people's preconceptions of me.
Mrs "
I can do the sex talk and I can leave it at flirty banter or leave it at all. I think it’s about knowing your audience and the build up. Reading people reactions and responses is important. I also think that the words used are important.
Language can be used effectively to build up an image without the need for graphic detail.
Personally I am more attractive to real people who have lived a life rather than the picture perfect people which rarely does anything for me and actually makes me a little suspicious about what they are hiding
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I met a woman once and when I got back to her bedroom she had loads of those weird clown puppets hanging from her ceiling. A repeat of that scares the shit out of me. |
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"Any woman that used to message wanting a meet,Though i suspect way they wrote message and what they wanted was really guys.And i am not talking about Tv/Ts profiles but guys for some strange reason using a womans profile and pic's.
Anyone that deceitful scares me.
Messaging a gay man i suspect they forgot which of their accounts they was logged in to.
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Oh dear
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"I met a woman once and when I got back to her bedroom she had loads of those weird clown puppets hanging from her ceiling. A repeat of that scares the shit out of me."
Jeez that would creep me out
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"Nothing scares me about the opposite sex, other than their ever-increasing collection and their undying love for handbags. 
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Don’t forget shoes, never forget the shoes.
Marc"
I was going to mention the shoes but I feared I would be pushing it. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Nothing scares me about the opposite sex, other than their ever-increasing collection and their undying love for handbags.
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Don’t forget shoes, never forget the shoes.
Marc
I was going to mention the shoes but I feared I would be pushing it. "
I'm not particularly fussed for shoes or handbags  |
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Being alone with her for the first time.
Come to think of it, I’m generally ill at ease alone with anyone except the very few who are able to ease my anxiety.
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"In terms of the swinging world, the chance of them turning on you. I'm a 4 foot 10 woman that probably wouldn't be able to defend myself if I needed to which is scary. There's been situations I've continued with just because I was scared of the reaction if I stopped it. We hope that the people we choose are good but in certain moments, people can change in an instant.
I have a friend who has faced exactly the same on a number of occasions. It's horrendous and should not be the case. Stay safe and hope that you do not encounter similar situations in the future."
Been in that situation myself too, had to do what they wanted and keep quiet until I could get away, was horrible and I had absolutely zero chance of fighting back, speaking up and saying no would have gotten me a beating so had to let them
Probably why I won’t meet 90% who ask tbh |
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Big Botox filled lips and eyebrows that have to be drawn on gives me the concerns..
And Women in porn using the shower head to masturbate with! scares me that someone will use the flush or use the garden hose  |
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"In terms of the swinging world, the chance of them turning on you. I'm a 4 foot 10 woman that probably wouldn't be able to defend myself if I needed to which is scary. There's been situations I've continued with just because I was scared of the reaction if I stopped it. We hope that the people we choose are good but in certain moments, people can change in an instant.
Sorry that got a bit serious, also scared of big huge penises."
that scares me knowing that there's guys out there like that, am not scared for my own safety but that of women, even though I don't know you and never will, regardless it still angers me that you felt you had to carry on and perform to ensure your own safety. Guys like that more than anger me TBH, they boil my piss
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"Nothing scares me about the opposite sex, other than their ever-increasing collection and their undying love for handbags.
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Don’t forget shoes, never forget the shoes.
Marc
I was going to mention the shoes but I feared I would be pushing it.
I'm not particularly fussed for shoes or handbags "
I honestly don’t know whether to take this comment seriously or not
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"That my clothes come off and they are put off by the reality
Isn’t that why light switches were invented?
It’s saved me many a time and I’ve passed it off as a kink
Marc"
Speaking of light switches....a face that isn't my OH's! Thank goodness for dark rooms! |
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"Their ability to flip from being charming and affable to nasty the second you say no. Or carrying on with their agenda and not respecting very clear boundaries.
This is becoming a real opener for me. I was talking to Tinder about something that I guess is a little relatable as many people have mentioned this. I do me and don’t think that I’m anything special. I find it difficult to wrap my head around why other men aren’t exactly the same. It’s human decency ultimately
Marc"
Because we judge people by our own standards. I'm decent, so I expect others to be, but that's often not the case |
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"Their ability to flip from being charming and affable to nasty the second you say no. Or carrying on with their agenda and not respecting very clear boundaries.
This is becoming a real opener for me. I was talking to Tinder about something that I guess is a little relatable as many people have mentioned this. I do me and don’t think that I’m anything special. I find it difficult to wrap my head around why other men aren’t exactly the same. It’s human decency ultimately
Marc
Because we judge people by our own standards. I'm decent, so I expect others to be, but that's often not the case "
So I’m learning more and more. Obviously my only experience of being a male is the one that I have. I also think it’s difficult for bad experiences to be talked about openly because there is a part of our brain that deals with issues like trauma that closes off certain aspects to protect ourselves. It’s not that we choose to it but it naturally happens. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"Their ability to flip from being charming and affable to nasty the second you say no. Or carrying on with their agenda and not respecting very clear boundaries.
This is becoming a real opener for me. I was talking to Tinder about something that I guess is a little relatable as many people have mentioned this. I do me and don’t think that I’m anything special. I find it difficult to wrap my head around why other men aren’t exactly the same. It’s human decency ultimately
Marc
Because we judge people by our own standards. I'm decent, so I expect others to be, but that's often not the case "
I've only got your word that you're decent 
But seriously I think we judge ourselves by our intentions and others by our standards. |
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Knowing I wouldn't ever stand a chance if a man decided to attack me for whatever reason. Most men could easily over power me if they wanted to. I hate that. |
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"Knowing I wouldn't ever stand a chance if a man decided to attack me for whatever reason. Most men could easily over power me if they wanted to. I hate that. "
Pretty much this.
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"Knowing I wouldn't ever stand a chance if a man decided to attack me for whatever reason. Most men could easily over power me if they wanted to. I hate that.
Pretty much this.
Nell"
That makes my heart heavy
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"Not sure about being scared but being put off especially the men is too much sex talk, I want you to do this and that, here's my Cock etc.... They seem to assume I don't work and I'm horny 24/7"
This does my head in!!! - Xeno |
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"Or in fact about anyone you are looking for?
Is it after a woman has removed their make up?
It is a guy who has watched way to many porn movies and think they are starring in one?
Obviously it doesn’t have to scare you senseless like someone staring though your window late at night.
Sensible answers are also welcome
Marc
What scares me about ( seemingly ) every relationship as it develops is when the “other” says they love you and want to develop a relationship…. Then start trying to change the way you look, the way you act, the way you think, the way you feel…. To the point where you think… at the start of this, what bit of me attracted you to me ?
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I had a friend, become a fuck buddy, then a lover, then we split. Took 3 yrs from start to the end. |
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That I might physically harm them or I am dangerous because of my race + muscularity + macho presence.
My personality is quite meek and the total opposite of my physical appearance.
I’m just looking for kinky, gentle affection. |
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Lmao!!! One of my greatest fears is seeing someone staring at me through a window,I'd die of fright , bit contradictory seeing how I'd get off on someone watching my husband & I through the window |
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