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Yes there are some knobheads out there but don't tarnish us all with their brush PLEASE
secondly I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there. "no time to reply to every message" Really? you opened the email, clicked the delete button.extra 9 seconds to type no thanks, send go back then delete. Manners cost nothing
Or when they do reply they belittle your message, generally insult you and act just down right arrogant and rude. Well there is enough threads bemoaning single males behavior on here about time there is one for everyone else
p.s all the nice couples and females I have met on here luvs ya xxx
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"secondly I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there. "no time to reply to every message" Really? you opened the email, clicked the delete button.extra 9 seconds to type no thanks, send go back then delete. Manners cost nothing
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It is not bad manners not to reply to a message.
A message is an expression of interest. It's not a favour. It's not a gift. It doesn't entitle the sender to anything. |
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I was thinking shall I reply to all my messages tonight? then I thought its depressing saying what ive already got written on my profile........I may do it tomorrow  |
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"I was thinking shall I reply to all my messages tonight? then I thought its depressing saying what ive already got written on my profile........I may do it tomorrow "
thats fair enough that isn't what I'm aiming at tbh just feel a bit tarred with other idiots brushes! |
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"I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there
Yeh right...."
couples are perfect singles are the source of all evil? If i get an offer I don't really like I just say no thanks. It is amazing that isn't the response commonly found coming the other way! |
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"I was thinking shall I reply to all my messages tonight? then I thought its depressing saying what ive already got written on my profile........I may do it tomorrow
thats fair enough that isn't what I'm aiming at tbh just feel a bit tarred with other idiots brushes!"
Most people with brain cells would'nt do that at all |
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"I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there
Yeh right....
couples are perfect singles are the source of all evil? If i get an offer I don't really like I just say no thanks. It is amazing that isn't the response commonly found coming the other way!"
So your saying couples should reply to every single message ? Even though they've got family , work and home life to contend with.
There's more to Life than replying to people that don't read the profile in the first place...
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no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples "
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete |
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Think i might sit up all night and send you a couple of hundred of the messages Ive received. See if you reply back to them all and then have the same opinion. |
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I've had a guy send me a fantasy message. It basically contained loads of stuff that if he had read my profile would have known him didn't want any of
so I did send a smart arsed comment back. |
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If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message. |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
Rubbish and if you think like that then you're going to be disappointed for a lot of your time on here because not al message you send will be answered |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
 Oh dear |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
Just for the record i don't think my children are lazy |
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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
...Are you for real???????????/
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what you have to realise is, single women and couples will get a lot more messages as single males outnumber them at least 20-1 so to reply to every message would be time consuming.
it's not being childish not to reply if your not interested!!
As you say we are all adults so accept the non reply and move on, it's not the end of the world is it. |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message....Are you for real???????????/"
Possibly a little naive thats all |
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we meet single men so never tar with same brush , we do put no crap short replys we delete in BIG letters at start of our add, guess what we still get the wana meet now crap ,now they the ones we dont reply to ,why should we if they cant read the first line, if they come back a 2nd time with same thing they get blocked simple as . |
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I reply to the messages I want to, those I don't get deleted or ignored. I've done the polite replies and still got shit from those I don't wish to meet with. Funny how you can go from ravishing sex goddess to skinny skank within about four mails if you don't want sex with them or like their fantasy .... their fantasy not mine, they probably got their rocks of before they hit the send button anyway and wouldn't expect to meet.
There is a fantasy/stories forum for that and it's not c/o my inbox. |
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"I reply to the messages I want to, those I don't get deleted or ignored. I've done the polite replies and still got shit from those I don't wish to meet with. Funny how you can go from ravishing sex goddess to skinny skank within about four mails if you don't want sex with them or like their fantasy .... their fantasy not mine, they probably got their rocks of before they hit the send button anyway and wouldn't expect to meet.
There is a fantasy/stories forum for that and it's not c/o my inbox. "
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
Children are very rarely lazy, however, some of the spelling and grammar on here beggars belief (including your post here)! I am well aware that my spelling and grammar are not always OxBridge standard, but I try my hardest to ensure that my messages and posts are well written and easy to understand... Oh, by the way, I'm dyslexic!
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
I reply to all of mine with the following exceptions.
1. When I've not been on and I log in and my mail has three figures. I will start to scan through but normally just hit delete all. I do say I've done so on my status though.
2. Someone is disrespectful in their first message.
3. It's clear they haven't read my profile.
Other than that I will reply.
Doesn't make people lazy not to reply. Try being a single lady or couple |
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete"
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness? |
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?"
WHERE is the need to reply at all? |
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someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?"
Maybe like I said the fantasy described showed that the sender hadn't read a word of their profile. To me that's rude. |
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?"
So i received a recent message saying .... How it starts.. What he would like to do,.what he'd like me to do and during this Ive been thrown in a bath and being pissed on!!
I decided to delete and block. Are you saying i should reply to this sort of message?? |
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?
So i received a recent message saying .... How it starts.. What he would like to do,.what he'd like me to do and during this Ive been thrown in a bath and being pissed on!!
I decided to delete and block. Are you saying i should reply to this sort of message??"
no, but there isnt any reason to be rude. Some would and why? because their sexual likes don't match yours? would any one here like it if their neighbours found out they was swingers and abused them? no.
i'm saying some people on here seem to think a message that didn't fit their sexual prefferences is an invitation to abuse the sender. |
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because half of the guys on here cant cope with a polite no thanks and begin to call me every slag and fat name under the sun....so I'd rather delete and block.
There is NO rule to say we have to reply to all messages.
And it would be no use saying you want this, that and the other, it comes across as selfish.
Also people who ASSUME things is a big no-no and an immediate block.
Thank the lord that there are still a few decent, non whinging blokes on here.
Happy swinging and good luck. |
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"I've had a guy send me a fantasy message. It basically contained loads of stuff that if he had read my profile would have known him didn't want any of
so I did send a smart arsed comment back. "
Had that too. Love the ones with profiles stating they love submissive women who dress to impress in thigh high boots, stockings and basque who know how to please a man!
As if I'm going to spend longer than it takes to delete their message...yeah...right! 
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"I was thinking shall I reply to all my messages tonight? then I thought its depressing saying what ive already got written on my profile........I may do it tomorrow
thats fair enough that isn't what I'm aiming at tbh just feel a bit tarred with other idiots brushes!"
I think to be fair you will still get tarred with the same old brush while its not really possible to check each and every profile and guy...and why would YOU feel tarred at all when guys are getting hassle on the forums..unless you are doing the same thoughtless shit?  |
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?"
I find your sense of entitlement rather alarming. You seem unable to acknowledge or recognise that people are under no obligation to reply to anyone they have no interest in.
Unlike some ladies on here I don't get hundreds of messages a day. I use the filters and have an excellent command of English that is used to write a profile designed to allow people to exclude themselves.
Bi, married, short, dominant or ethnic minority men who can't accommodate, who live outside the specific areas I've stated can send me a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare...their message will still be deleted as they're NOT what I'M looking for!  |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
I am sorry but I just got a message from a guy that simply said
"Xxx"
I looked on his prof and he's marryed , he didn't sent a pic and there is no way he can have read my prof . Can you just explain why you feel that I am the one that's lazy for not replying !!! |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message.
I am sorry but I just got a message from a guy that simply said
"Xxx"
I looked on his prof and he's marryed , he didn't sent a pic and there is no way he can have read my prof . Can you just explain why you feel that I am the one that's lazy for not replying !!! "
Because by having a profile on site you are advertising for sex, ergo duty bound to acknowledge and acquiesce to all comers (cummers?) dah! |
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"Yes there are some knobheads out there but don't tarnish us all with their brush PLEASE
secondly I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there. "no time to reply to every message" Really? you opened the email, clicked the delete button.extra 9 seconds to type no thanks, send go back then delete. Manners cost nothing
Or when they do reply they belittle your message, generally insult you and act just down right arrogant and rude. Well there is enough threads bemoaning single males behavior on here about time there is one for everyone else
p.s all the nice couples and females I have met on here luvs ya xxx
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It's not 9 seconds though is it. It's look at profile veris pics and get excited only to realise they haven't read the clearly set out criteria on my profile. And for single girls not flattering myself but its a numbers game; can get 30 odd messages a day which makes sense as I reckon there's about 30 times more men than women on this site! Say 5 Mins to think about each one 2·5 hours a day?! I don't mind a second message as sometimes they get lost in my inbox but surely you can work out the answer if you don't get a reply?
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The problem with replying with a no thanks and why to a message is that and more so lately for some reason, they then write back and continue to do so.
For example, I received a message from someone wanting to meet tomorrow as they are down this way, I told him I have a meet but he continued to push for a meet to the point where I have just deleted his message without replying.
So whilst I prefer to reply with a no thanks, it really is getting tiresome when guys continue to write back after I have said no |
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"If I replied to every message I received I would run out of my daily message allowance within a few hours"
There's a daily message allowance?!! Guess I don't get anywhere near enough to worry! |
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"If I replied to every message I received I would run out of my daily message allowance within a few hours
There's a daily message allowance?!! Guess I don't get anywhere near enough to worry!"
Yea lol |
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No ones tarnishes all males with the same brush! Just cos someone rants doesn't mean they mean every single guy, just the ones who do what they're ranting over.. Why take it so personally if ur are not one of the guys they mention..
As for replying.. Pfft.. I just don't get that, I don't expect a reply from anyone if they aren't interested and when I first used the forums was shocked to see this attitude from some people, guess I'm not self important enough to expect everyone to acknoledge how great I am for sending them a message
As for fantasy messages, yes I'm on a sex site but I am still very much a human not a sex object.. So is it wrong to expect to be contacted as a human with a nice hello how's things for u? I liked ur profile etc
I have tried the replying and it just leads to bitter rejection with abuse, people not taking no for an answer. Also if they haven't bothered to read my profile and respect what's written on it then why can't I do the same sort of attitude back at them. Afterall I didn't write it for a joke and the profile is how this site works, its there to show whether the person is what ur looking for and vice versa.
Anyway I do love the irony of this thread.. Don't think of us all as horrible and then giving a good example of a bad attitude on this site in my eyes
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the vein poppers are who i detest on here...
uve left what was supposed to be fun for absolute sexual gratification
its ONLY a shag...some laughs etc...
once u pass that 'its all about me getting my hole/cock/etc' stage its time to grow up and see that nothing really matters in the swing/casualsex world..
if u cant see that u fail for urself...and others
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"the vein poppers are who i detest on here...
uve left what was supposed to be fun for absolute sexual gratification
its ONLY a shag...some laughs etc...
once u pass that 'its all about me getting my hole/cock/etc' stage its time to grow up and see that nothing really matters in the swing/casualsex world..
if u cant see that u fail for urself...and others
have to say i had a great shag last nite...BOOm! "
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"the vein poppers are who i detest on here...
uve left what was supposed to be fun for absolute sexual gratification
its ONLY a shag...some laughs etc...
once u pass that 'its all about me getting my hole/cock/etc' stage its time to grow up and see that nothing really matters in the swing/casualsex world..
if u cant see that u fail for urself...and others
have to say i had a great shag last nite...BOOm!
Indeed! "
u need to stop agreeing with me!...unless u want my cock in ur mouth!!!!! xxxx |
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"No ones tarnishes all males with the same brush! Just cos someone rants doesn't mean they mean every single guy, just the ones who do what they're ranting over.. Why take it so personally if ur are not one of the guys they mention..
As for replying.. Pfft.. I just don't get that, I don't expect a reply from anyone if they aren't interested and when I first used the forums was shocked to see this attitude from some people, guess I'm not self important enough to expect everyone to acknoledge how great I am for sending them a message
As for fantasy messages, yes I'm on a sex site but I am still very much a human not a sex object.. So is it wrong to expect to be contacted as a human with a nice hello how's things for u? I liked ur profile etc
I have tried the replying and it just leads to bitter rejection with abuse, people not taking no for an answer. Also if they haven't bothered to read my profile and respect what's written on it then why can't I do the same sort of attitude back at them. Afterall I didn't write it for a joke and the profile is how this site works, its there to show whether the person is what ur looking for and vice versa.
Anyway I do love the irony of this thread.. Don't think of us all as horrible and then giving a good example of a bad attitude on this site in my eyes
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bad attitude?
yes I started with hi like your profile etc. then explained what i liked and would this be of interest to you. i got abuse back sorry where did **I** do
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"No ones tarnishes all males with the same brush! Just cos someone rants doesn't mean they mean every single guy, just the ones who do what they're ranting over.. Why take it so personally if ur are not one of the guys they mention..
As for replying.. Pfft.. I just don't get that, I don't expect a reply from anyone if they aren't interested and when I first used the forums was shocked to see this attitude from some people, guess I'm not self important enough to expect everyone to acknoledge how great I am for sending them a message
As for fantasy messages, yes I'm on a sex site but I am still very much a human not a sex object.. So is it wrong to expect to be contacted as a human with a nice hello how's things for u? I liked ur profile etc
I have tried the replying and it just leads to bitter rejection with abuse, people not taking no for an answer. Also if they haven't bothered to read my profile and respect what's written on it then why can't I do the same sort of attitude back at them. Afterall I didn't write it for a joke and the profile is how this site works, its there to show whether the person is what ur looking for and vice versa.
Anyway I do love the irony of this thread.. Don't think of us all as horrible and then giving a good example of a bad attitude on this site in my eyes
bad attitude?
yes I started with hi like your profile etc. then explained what i liked and would this be of interest to you. i got abuse back sorry where did **I** do
anything wrong?"
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?
I find your sense of entitlement rather alarming. You seem unable to acknowledge or recognise that people are under no obligation to reply to anyone they have no interest in.
Unlike some ladies on here I don't get hundreds of messages a day. I use the filters and have an excellent command of English that is used to write a profile designed to allow people to exclude themselves.
Bi, married, short, dominant or ethnic minority men who can't accommodate, who live outside the specific areas I've stated can send me a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare...their message will still be deleted as they're NOT what I'M looking for! "
ok lets clear this up my part about reply at all costs was me off on a tangent and I don't actually mean it. I understand all the reasons as why not ok hands up there.
I don't agree with replying with abuse though to a simple msg stating i like your profile this is me, this is what I like and this is possibly something I wonder if you would enjoy sharing with me
I fail to see how in any civil world that warrants ABUSE back. |
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over a year ago
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Some single men have a bad reputation.
Some deserve it. Some don't.
Some have good reputations.
Some deserve it. Some don't.
Some concentrate on themselves and their own profile, and don't worry about the actions, reputations and interactions of others. They don't worry if someone replies, can handle rejection be it a polite decline, a deleted message or a block. They move on, have a mindset that has no expectancy, no sense of entitlement, and no pre-conceived ideas as to why/why not things happen that they have no control over.
Some don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?
I find your sense of entitlement rather alarming. You seem unable to acknowledge or recognise that people are under no obligation to reply to anyone they have no interest in.
Unlike some ladies on here I don't get hundreds of messages a day. I use the filters and have an excellent command of English that is used to write a profile designed to allow people to exclude themselves.
Bi, married, short, dominant or ethnic minority men who can't accommodate, who live outside the specific areas I've stated can send me a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare...their message will still be deleted as they're NOT what I'M looking for!
ok lets clear this up my part about reply at all costs was me off on a tangent and I don't actually mean it. I understand all the reasons as why not ok hands up there.
I don't agree with replying with abuse though to a simple msg stating i like your profile this is me, this is what I like and this is possibly something I wonder if you would enjoy sharing with me
I fail to see how in any civil world that warrants ABUSE back."
Maybe u hadn't read their profile correct and u clearly weren't what they wanted?
Maybe u had contacted them a fair few times and had forgotton?
Maybe u should ask? I've done that before now with abusive messages |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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If someone replies to your message with abuse then report the profile, block them, and move on. They obviously don't want to meet you, and I doubt you'd want to go on to meet them after being abused.
I have possibly one of the shortest female profiles on here because I found out that it doesn't matter WHAT it says - people will ignore it. I have clearly stated that I cannot accommodate and struggle to travel without public transport, so why do I still get messages from people who live 300 miles away who can't accommodate? I get messages from people saying 'love your pics' when I don't have any pics showing. So why should I spend my time replying when they couldn't spend their time reading?
Finally, its no-ones business how others use their profile and conduct their searches on this site. Unless they are obvious fakes, scammers, or just here to abuse people just shrug and move on. And if you can't, log out and go and do something more interesting. There is more to life than getting frustrated on here. |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
When I , the female, had a single profile there was no way I could answer the 1000+ messages I received in the first few days. Most got deleted .
We do try to answer most messages but having filters in place means less messages anyway so things are manageable
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"Yes there are some knobheads out there but don't tarnish us all with their brush PLEASE
secondly I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there. "no time to reply to every message" Really? you opened the email, clicked the delete button.extra 9 seconds to type no thanks, send go back then delete. Manners cost nothing
Or when they do reply they belittle your message, generally insult you and act just down right arrogant and rude. Well there is enough threads bemoaning single males behavior on here about time there is one for everyone else
p.s all the nice couples and females I have met on here luvs ya xxx
RANT OVER "
okay we do get messages from a few polite single guys but have to say more are rude pushy and obnoxious than are polite.
When you say thanks but no thanks and then get bombarded with ... but why.. meet me.. etc etc.. probably because we were polite and did reply to the message where so many dont.. they seem to see a reply as us being interested despite the actual words on the reply saying no thanks. to be honest why should we try to be polite and reply to all when we get the shit end of the stick and pestered just because we are one of few that does.
Thats the way it is and how from one message can anyone be expected to know which man is going to be nice take the no thanks and which ones will keep pushing and finally when the only way is to tell him straight why we wo t meet after abuse from him its gonna seem rude but the who was rude first. we thanked for wink.. we replied to message and said thanks but no thanks and expected that to be an end to it but it was/is generally the guy alot of them that push and push with alsorts of excuses ... so its not us thats rude and if guys insist o being rude and pushy then they have no right to get upset when we return the favour. |
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"the vein poppers are who i detest on here...
uve left what was supposed to be fun for absolute sexual gratification
its ONLY a shag...some laughs etc...
once u pass that 'its all about me getting my hole/cock/etc' stage its time to grow up and see that nothing really matters in the swing/casualsex world..
if u cant see that u fail for urself...and others
have to say i had a great shag last nite...BOOm!
Indeed!
u need to stop agreeing with me!...unless u want my cock in ur mouth!!!!! xxxx"
I did hesitate about agreeing with you, I must be coming down with something.
Oh Paddy...if you put your cock in my mouth there's no guarantee you'll get it back in one piece! |
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"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples
But why do you assume that they have any interest in YOUR fantasy?
To be honest that is one of the things that annoys me the most, people who assume, in the first message that I want to fulfil their fantasy / have only ever had shit sex
So yeah, rather then send a rant... I delete
someone asking if fantasy a interests you isnt rude, it isnt forceful its just asking. if it isnt for you then why would you ever feel the need to be rude? his. Hi i'm so and so i look like this and heres what i like out of sex. i really like you and your profile maybe we could meet up and try it out. WHERE is the rudeness in there? WHERE is need to reply with rudeness?
I find your sense of entitlement rather alarming. You seem unable to acknowledge or recognise that people are under no obligation to reply to anyone they have no interest in.
Unlike some ladies on here I don't get hundreds of messages a day. I use the filters and have an excellent command of English that is used to write a profile designed to allow people to exclude themselves.
Bi, married, short, dominant or ethnic minority men who can't accommodate, who live outside the specific areas I've stated can send me a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare...their message will still be deleted as they're NOT what I'M looking for!
ok lets clear this up my part about reply at all costs was me off on a tangent and I don't actually mean it. I understand all the reasons as why not ok hands up there.
I don't agree with replying with abuse though to a simple msg stating i like your profile this is me, this is what I like and this is possibly something I wonder if you would enjoy sharing with me
I fail to see how in any civil world that warrants ABUSE back."
I agree - nothing you've said warrants abuse: nothing.
Unfortunately, not everyone - and that applies to those in the "real" world too have the same standards we, as individuals set for ourselves.
The good thing is people that can be abusive for no apparent reason are not the kind of people you'd enjoy getting naked with - so look at it as a positive. |
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By *exykirstyWoman
over a year ago
North of Manchester |
"no replying to every message isnt my point, was just a ranting tangent. mypoint is about if you reply to a message that has a fantasy in it and it was asking if it was something that would interest you then surely you would try being polite and just say no thanks.
would you really be little them be arrogant and rude if they was just being polite? that was my real issue.
p.s mm to join in gang bangs simples "
Anyone sending a fantasy in their first message would just be deleted straight away.
Conversation to stimulate the mind is the best turn on, not fantasy.
I do not want the abuse I get if I reply back saying no thanks to a message, so do not reply as have got fed up with the abuse. |
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By *exykirstyWoman
over a year ago
North of Manchester |
"Yes there are some knobheads out there but don't tarnish us all with their brush PLEASE
secondly I would say there are far more obnoxious arrogant rude couples/females out there. "no time to reply to every message" Really? you opened the email, clicked the delete button.extra 9 seconds to type no thanks, send go back then delete. Manners cost nothing
Or when they do reply they belittle your message, generally insult you and act just down right arrogant and rude. Well there is enough threads bemoaning single males behavior on here about time there is one for everyone else
p.s all the nice couples and females I have met on here luvs ya xxx
RANT OVER
okay we do get messages from a few polite single guys but have to say more are rude pushy and obnoxious than are polite.
When you say thanks but no thanks and then get bombarded with ... but why.. meet me.. etc etc.. probably because we were polite and did reply to the message where so many dont.. they seem to see a reply as us being interested despite the actual words on the reply saying no thanks. to be honest why should we try to be polite and reply to all when we get the shit end of the stick and pestered just because we are one of few that does.
Thats the way it is and how from one message can anyone be expected to know which man is going to be nice take the no thanks and which ones will keep pushing and finally when the only way is to tell him straight why we wo t meet after abuse from him its gonna seem rude but the who was rude first. we thanked for wink.. we replied to message and said thanks but no thanks and expected that to be an end to it but it was/is generally the guy alot of them that push and push with alsorts of excuses ... so its not us thats rude and if guys insist o being rude and pushy then they have no right to get upset when we return the favour."
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By *exforallCouple
over a year ago
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hello every 1
well i have to reply to this
because i have been come on the this for a while and i got to say single guys are more friendly and chatty then couples /single females ..i can go in chat rooms if i haven't got my cam on i get ignored ..is it so hard to type hello...manners cost nothing why go in to chat if you have no intentions in trying to speak ? understand there are a lot of friends on here and it comes across as been a clique bunch .but please understand we come on here to make friends and chat to and been ignored isnt nice ...just because a single guy want to make conversation it don't always mean they want to get in you knickers ...lol yes i am guilt for deleting mail but that because i have a age range if they to young i will delete
i  i also have trouble with couples thinking im a single guy just because i don't have a profile picture ...but i show my face on cam ???most days i put it on just to show i am a female .. |
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Never had any abuse. Had some very needy strange ones who can't seem to take no for an answer and almost beg. Although I think it's because of the strap on photo we have.
However they have always been respectful and we do try and reply but sometimes when we get messages that are fantasies or solely aimed at her we just delete as it shows a lack of thought on their part so why should we reply? |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
Tbh that comes across as many things, naive, arrogant and on another planet are just a cpl..
it is not about laziness in any way, its more about 'oh, another banal one liner from someone who cant be arsed abiding by what i the profile holder actually want/am looking for'
which may also be downright offensive and disgusting..
why should anyone respond to something for which in the street, pub, shop or workplace would have the person saying it possibly arrested..?
yes not all guys send out those types of messages but some do..
nobody on here should be expected to just fuck anyone else at their behest, be they male, female, couple or any combo there of..
to expect otherwise is arrogance and a sense of i am entitled, neither which are attractive tbh.. |
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"If I reply to a post I expect a reply back,manners and civility cost nothing and I also agree that don't post a profile if you are not prepared to answer every message sent to you,being lazy is what a child is and as we are all adults here then reply to a message."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Actually, know what? I'm getting pretty bored and annoyed with people assuming I'm soooooo feck'n thick, I'm incapable of differentiating one guy from another.
I do not tar every guy with the same brush and I very much doubt anyone else does either.
Really wish people would stop blaming other people for their own inability to get noticed.
If the site frustrates more than it satisfies, try somewhere else |
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"The problem with replying with a no thanks and why to a message is that and more so lately for some reason, they then write back and continue to do so.
For example, I received a message from someone wanting to meet tomorrow as they are down this way, I told him I have a meet but he continued to push for a meet to the point where I have just deleted his message without replying.
So whilst I prefer to reply with a no thanks, it really is getting tiresome when guys continue to write back after I have said no "
I had this last nite a guy messaged me and he had clearly read my profile so in my view warranted a reply, however he a) wasn't really my type and b) I'm content with the playmates I currently have and keep my account active to arrange meets with them. I sent a very polite thanks but no thanks response, as I had enough playmates at the moment, he then continued to ask me just to chat, obviously in the hope he could change my mind. I'm sorry but a no is a no and some (not all) can't except it and then the guys wonder why messages get ignored/deleted or in some cases rude replys |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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see.... rather than thinking people are all tarred with the same brush.... I am a great believer in that you make your own luck...
the site gives you the tools to make it work, it is up to you to decide if you want to you all, some or none of those...
you get the chance to make yourself stand out... for good and for bad, you are never going to get along with everyone... some may like you, some may block you!
that only person that affect my chances are me... be that in what I write, and how I interact... it doesn't mean you have to jump thru hoops and be at anyone beckon call... it means just be the best "you" you can be......
you determine you, put your best foot forward...
just because someone is here, it doesn't mean they are in some way owed for being here.... so would i change anything here... not one bit..
you get the chance to stand out if you want to take it.... you see so many people with preconceived notions that by just saying "sod that" you can open doors..........
you can make complaints and not change... or you can go out and do something about it..... up to you, but in the end it is up to you and you have no one else to complain at but yourself if you stand there and do nothing! |
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I've come across far more single guys that have messed me about but that is because there are more of them contacting me than couples( which I no longer meet). Although I have had a lot of messing about I have met some spot on guys that treat me respectfully, it is all too easy to tar people with the same brush when you've had a few bad experiences in a row. As for answering all messages I always read a profile before sending a message, people that don't show that courtesy shouldn't expect any reply from me. Quite frankly if I log in and find 23 messages and 5 of those from men that have just completely ignored what is written including the important part where I live why should I bother with those 5?! |
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