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All the time. But I learned at a young age to flip that feeling of inadequacy into a sense of amazement at how lucky I am.
I don’t ever feel I deserve this amazing life but I’ve got it. And I’m so fucking grateful, every day. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes. Those days are fewer now.
I more often than not feel that way when another's behaviour is making me think I'm not good enough. Whether that's through lying, lack of respect... you get the idea.
I've experienced imposter's syndrome at work before - in an odd way it motivated me to not be complacent, be more aware of the fact that I have so much to learn.
In relationships it motivates me to cry and start believing it. :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's always a little intrusive voice in the corner.
But fuck that voice 
Absolutely this… he’s always there, chuntering away, I just turn up the volume of life and carry on dancing. "
Yup, name that horrible nagging voice (I called mine Amber because of the Jonny Depp trials) so you can tell it to gtfo, it does nothing but lie to you, don’t listen to it |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
Unfortunately that little voice lives rent free in my head. I try to keep it occupied with snacks and good vibes but she's a bit of a bitch and loves raining on my happy parade daily  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time at work. I joke that I'm stealing a living with what I do but know there's an element of truth to it.
I also feel it quite a bit in my dating life. I'm not one for being adventurous and don't see myself as very exciting so can see why I wouldn't be good enough for women I look to date. |
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"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"
most of the time on here when i browse the forums,,, see a very sexy lady and then find out i am outside her age range and with some i cannot even message her,, certainly does not do my depression much good,,,  |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
Ramsbottom |
"Unfortunately that little voice lives rent free in my head. I try to keep it occupied with snacks and good vibes but she's a bit of a bitch and loves raining on my happy parade daily "
We should take her for a picnic, she’d get on well with my Trevor.. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
less as I get older. When I was 25, I second guessed and undermined myself all the time.
I remember a manager said to me that I consistently underpromised and over delivered and he didn't like it. That started me being more comfortable in my abilities
I am what I am now for better or worse.
As far as relationships go, hardly now.
Ever tried, ever failed, fail again, fail better.
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I would have thought everyone does, it just varies by how much and how often from person to person.
To anyone feeling not good enough, whether you are trying your best or whether you are struggling, you are good enough, you are you and unique, so don't even try to compare yourself to anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"
Think everyone gets days like that...
When I do.. I remind myself what's good in my life and the special people I have in it.
And shut that bitch up  |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
So much doesn't matter. it might sound disheartening but so much of what we worry about and tell ourselves doesn't matter. 99.99% of the time it is between your ears.
You have one go at life, no refunds or exchanges. Do you really want to spend it questioning yourself? |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
Ramsbottom |
"Not good enough but not quite understanding why it's so difficult to meet anyone, especially finding someone special  "
Keep going.. you will. Even when you question yourself deeply, what you want is just around the corner.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x
Think everyone gets days like that...
When I do.. I remind myself what's good in my life and the special people I have in it.
And shut that bitch up "
Sounds like good advice |
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Relationships. It's not so much that I am not good enough. More when it gets to the 'serious' commitment stage I start freaking out, believing that I am cursed and that if I fall in love again they will die. Been a bit of a problem.
Work no I am good at what I do. I get told that by the people who matter consistently and I feel it in my bones.
Life I am still breathing etc. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
Not to be that guy but you're all good enough. Yes there's always someone out there better but fuck it, it's our own little journeys and we are all smashing whatever we were meant for.
(Finishes joint) |
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Well it's taken my life so far to get to be here where I am. I spend a lot of my time alone, most of the western world has an ongoing campaign of hate against those of my gender identity, I worry that I'm losing my touch at the only thing I'm really good at, my body looks wrong when I look in the mirror, I don't sleep well, and everything aches. I have a few very good friends, but no proper sexual partner.
Maybe if I'd been more of a bastard when I was young, cared less about people, shagged around and generally had a good time? But I didn't. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Well it's taken my life so far to get to be here where I am. I spend a lot of my time alone, most of the western world has an ongoing campaign of hate against those of my gender identity, I worry that I'm losing my touch at the only thing I'm really good at, my body looks wrong when I look in the mirror, I don't sleep well, and everything aches. I have a few very good friends, but no proper sexual partner.
Maybe if I'd been more of a bastard when I was young, cared less about people, shagged around and generally had a good time? But I didn't."
For whatever it's worth polly, Ive always thought you one of the wiser compassionate empathetic souls here. Your contributions are measured and valuable. Maybe you don't think it right now but you've a great head on those shoulders. |
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Sometimes yes. In my relationship I feel very secure, work I’m secure as I’m good at what I do. My issue is body confidence, I’ve lost over 3.5 stone in the last year but I’m still a big chap and so think when it comes to swinging opportunities are very limited. I do not think other people will find me attractive, I do have a cracking personality though lol |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
bedlington |
Not at work no if business dries up then maybe haha
In relationships yes my ex who was with 15 years could somehow make you feel so small I’m not aware of how she could manage it I’d like to say it’s after she cheated ran off then came back that laid the groundwork to enable her to make me feel that way but it was well before that and it did rob me off all self confidence even today i can’t recapture the feeling I had before I met her |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"
Nope. Not any more.
I used to. Especially as the first wife was knocking off a guy at work for 6 months before I realised and then it seemed obvious. In old jobs it happened a few times, not because I'd actually been bad at the jobs, but because the bosses had unrealistic expectations of all employees and we were pushed to the limit until we quit, thinking it was us not them at fault.
But around a decade ago I realised that whenever I felt 'not good enough' it wasn't because I wasn't, it was down to the expectations of others. So I decided to adopt the 'fuck it' approach to life, accept that what will be will be and focus on what I wanted, rather than others.
Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.
I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.
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"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x
Nope. Not any more.
I used to. Especially as the first wife was knocking off a guy at work for 6 months before I realised and then it seemed obvious. In old jobs it happened a few times, not because I'd actually been bad at the jobs, but because the bosses had unrealistic expectations of all employees and we were pushed to the limit until we quit, thinking it was us not them at fault.
But around a decade ago I realised that whenever I felt 'not good enough' it wasn't because I wasn't, it was down to the expectations of others. So I decided to adopt the 'fuck it' approach to life, accept that what will be will be and focus on what I wanted, rather than others.
Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.
I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.
A"
Sound indeed…. |
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"Not good enough but not quite understanding why it's so difficult to meet anyone, especially finding someone special
Keep going.. you will. Even when you question yourself deeply, what you want is just around the corner.. "
Maybe I don't know really what he looks or acts like anymore. Just not keen on most men's attitude on dating sites or on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only once. In my marriage it the very end, that’s why I left.
Now? No, I’m the best version of myself I can be in every aspect, and good enough for anything.
Be proud of yourself.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x
Nope. Not any more.
I used to. Especially as the first wife was knocking off a guy at work for 6 months before I realised and then it seemed obvious. In old jobs it happened a few times, not because I'd actually been bad at the jobs, but because the bosses had unrealistic expectations of all employees and we were pushed to the limit until we quit, thinking it was us not them at fault.
But around a decade ago I realised that whenever I felt 'not good enough' it wasn't because I wasn't, it was down to the expectations of others. So I decided to adopt the 'fuck it' approach to life, accept that what will be will be and focus on what I wanted, rather than others.
Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.
I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.
A"
I'm hoping old age grants me this wisdom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time. I try really hard not to overthink it and just go with it.
I often have moments so good that it feels like they're happening to someone else and I'm just watching on. I hold on to those when I start to worry I'm not good enough. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x
Nope. Not any more.
I used to. Especially as the first wife was knocking off a guy at work for 6 months before I realised and then it seemed obvious. In old jobs it happened a few times, not because I'd actually been bad at the jobs, but because the bosses had unrealistic expectations of all employees and we were pushed to the limit until we quit, thinking it was us not them at fault.
But around a decade ago I realised that whenever I felt 'not good enough' it wasn't because I wasn't, it was down to the expectations of others. So I decided to adopt the 'fuck it' approach to life, accept that what will be will be and focus on what I wanted, rather than others.
Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.
I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.
A
I'm hoping old age grants me this wisdom. "
At some point you just got to rock what you got. |
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"It's always a little intrusive voice in the corner.
But fuck that voice
Absolutely this… he’s always there, chuntering away, I just turn up the volume of life and carry on dancing. "
I love this, am going to try to keep this thought in my head and dance more x |
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