 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Ok, so there are a lot of complaints about the lack of effort by singles guys when sending the first mail.
As I understand it,the expectation being at least several paragraphs providing various pieces of information, As well as some humour.
I am wondering though, how many single women "make the first move"
and out of those that do, are their messages as detailed as what they themselves expect to receive? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Blimey... I'd hate to several paragraphs in a first message, lifes too short 
I've made first contact several times, and usually (rightly or wrongly) I just make chit-chatty amusing convo. If they are not amused then it's no loss cos obviously we don't have the same humour in common If their responses are short and dull - I make an excuse and bugger off
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"im too lazy to go looking. i once started looking for guys in my area and got fed up half way down the list"
Must've been before I changed my username from Zebedee.... Grrrrrr...!!!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"
and out of those that do, are their messages as detailed as what they themselves expect to receive?"
Hahaha I can honestly say, I have never, ever received a first message with that sort of content.
Most will say something like. Hi, nice pics or fancy a chat. Although to be fair I do get a few that respond to my profile requirements. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Ok, so there are a lot of complaints about the lack of effort by singles guys when sending the first mail.
As I understand it,the expectation being at least several paragraphs providing various pieces of information, As well as some humour.
I am wondering though, how many single women "make the first move"
and out of those that do, are their messages as detailed as what they themselves expect to receive?"
Nobody expects several paragraphs... 
But to address your main point, rightly or wrongly women need to make far less effort on here if they choose to go hunting. Think how many posts you see from men saying that they get no interest at all. It stands to reason that unlike a female who will get dozens of bland messages and will respond to only those that catch their eye, just getting a message is enough to get the interest of many males on here because it is so unusual. For singles looking for singles, females hold pretty much all the power on here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I find if I ever do get a message from a single woman it's always just "Hi, how're you?" and their messages are very very brief. When looking their profile it says how they want messages that catch their attention and what not... 
I find sending messages so tricky it's a fine art |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Ok, so there are a lot of complaints about the lack of effort by singles guys when sending the first mail.
As I understand it,the expectation being at least several paragraphs providing various pieces of information, As well as some humour.
I am wondering though, how many single women "make the first move"
and out of those that do, are their messages as detailed as what they themselves expect to receive?
Nobody expects several paragraphs...
But to address your main point, rightly or wrongly women need to make far less effort on here if they choose to go hunting. Think how many posts you see from men saying that they get no interest at all. It stands to reason that unlike a female who will get dozens of bland messages and will respond to only those that catch their eye, just getting a message is enough to get the interest of many males on here because it is so unusual. For singles looking for singles, females hold pretty much all the power on here."
I guess that's pretty much the same even outside fabs in the other world :-/ men have to work harder x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
In our experience the single women make less effort than the guys with the content of the messages just today we got a message from one consisting of just full stops like this .......
Creative and intriguing at the same time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In our experience the single women make less effort than the guys with the content of the messages just today we got a message from one consisting of just full stops like this .......
Creative and intriguing at the same time. "
Did you respond? And if you did what did you say? .... May be a series of ??????????? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In our experience the single women make less effort than the guys with the content of the messages just today we got a message from one consisting of just full stops like this .......
Creative and intriguing at the same time.
Did you respond? And if you did what did you say? .... May be a series of ???????????"
Responded in Morse code......------ |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nope.
Never bother.
I may go for a perv on occasions and may even think "phoarrrrrrrrr" but wouldnt initiate contact.
I admire from afar....  "
I've admired yours from afar many a time peaches |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In our experience the single women make less effort than the guys with the content of the messages just today we got a message from one consisting of just full stops like this .......
Creative and intriguing at the same time.
Did you respond? And if you did what did you say? .... May be a series of ???????????
Responded in Morse code......------"
Hahaha, good one |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
ok, the several paragraphs was slightly tongue in cheek, but you kind of get my point.
I'm just thinking though, that maybe us single guys " the respectful ones that is"
could be cut a little more slack, as we do get a bit of a bashing on here.
Feeling like the male Emily Pankhurst.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nope.
Never bother.
I may go for a perv on occasions and may even think "phoarrrrrrrrr" but wouldnt initiate contact.
I admire from afar....
I've admired yours from afar many a time peaches "
Tut !!! you perv you |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"ok, the several paragraphs was slightly tongue in cheek, but you kind of get my point.
I'm just thinking though, that maybe us single guys " the respectful ones that is"
could be cut a little more slack, as we do get a bit of a bashing on here.
Feeling like the male Emily Pankhurst...."
While I agree with you and like to think that you and I are decent enough there are many on here who I'm sure would flaunt this rule.
I do feel sometimes I have got the brunt end of someone's stick because it had possibly been a bit of a tough hour or so on here. Which can be understandable. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nope.
Never bother.
I may go for a perv on occasions and may even think "phoarrrrrrrrr" but wouldnt initiate contact.
I admire from afar....
I've admired yours from afar many a time peaches
Tut !!! you perv you "
I know I know I am a terrible one... Just don't get grassing me up please  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
think we all get it at times. Just want to see the love shared a little more equally, maybe even based a little on merit and not so much gender specific. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"think we all get it at times. Just want to see the love shared a little more equally, maybe even based a little on merit and not so much gender specific."
I know exactly what you're saying. We can't be for everyone though like everyone isn't for us and there are an awful lot more of single men to chose from so some women (I will repeat that so I don't get jumped on) SOME women, get a little egotistical from all the attention.
However not all and over the past few days I've had some really nice chats in the forums and also by messages on here and it's been a really nice place to chat. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"think we all get it at times. Just want to see the love shared a little more equally, maybe even based a little on merit and not so much gender specific."
We should start a campaign against gender biased people and sexists... Lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"think we all get it at times. Just want to see the love shared a little more equally, maybe even based a little on merit and not so much gender specific.
We should start a campaign against gender biased people and sexists... Lol"
maybe we should burn our boxers too. lols  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find if I ever do get a message from a single woman it's always just "Hi, how're you?" and their messages are very very brief. When looking their profile it says how they want messages that catch their attention and what not...
I find sending messages so tricky it's a fine art"
Or they say 'hey aren't you that guy....?' lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Sometimes I message a guy,with a one liner... It really depends... Unless I write like marquis de safe I see that most,men really appreciate a message from a single female...
I messaged a guy recently as I so admired his body and told him so as he had awesome tatts! He replied back almost immediately... Yet sometimes I have messaged a few,women and couples and got mixed replies from sorry you are not for me to unread for weeks or read and no reply...
Depends OP on the woman you are into... You can always reply back if interested or not...
And Peaches... Go for it if you haven't already!!! The internet brings out amazing online shenanigans in people! Enjoy! X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find if I ever do get a message from a single woman it's always just "Hi, how're you?" and their messages are very very brief. When looking their profile it says how they want messages that catch their attention and what not...
I find sending messages so tricky it's a fine art
Or they say 'hey aren't you that guy....?' lol"
Haha When you knew perfectly well I was! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
