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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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What are you like when it comes to chatting to people? Are you a daily messager? Love/hate voice notes?
A quick responder or do you adopt a more laissez-faire approach to conversations? |
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Usually very quick at responding. Probably irritatingly so. I force myself to wait a whole 5 minutes sometimes 
Not big on voice notes because I hate my voice. I like getting them though. I did once do a sexy breathing into hysterical laughter.
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"What are you like when it comes to chatting to people? Are you a daily messager? Love/hate voice notes?
A quick responder or do you adopt a more laissez-faire approach to conversations? "
Depends on the person and the nature of the relationship. Don't like voice notes. I've noticed conversations with men are usually brief. Conversations with women are generally longer and can cover a number of topics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m terrible at messaging. I know I can sometimes take too long to reply and that can frustrate some people. I only voice note my friends if I’m trying to tell them something that takes too long to type out in a message. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I'm usually quite quick at responding to people I'm talking to as I like to keep a bit of momentum. If it feels too stilted it can get frustrating.
I also quite like a voice note as I think you can get more from the tone of voice and less open for misinterpretation. Also handy if you are messaging a lot it's faster than typing/reading  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Depends who it is.
Whether on or off here I accept and also expect people to understand that we all have lives, some busier than others.
Any frustration exhibited or impatience because I haven't responded to a message fast enough in their eyes and I'll go even slower.
Other times what was destined to be a brief catch up becomes an all day message session.
Never use voice notes. I'd rather wait for free time and speak live on the phone. Hate voicemails too with a passion. Just call me back or message.
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I respond pretty quickly if there's decent chat going. If I'm out or with kids it may take a little longer but always respond.
One person's voice notes send me weak at the knees and he knows it too.. haha.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m good with conversation when I’m not in a depressive episode. I can people everyday usually though it’s not manageable if it’s more than 3/4 people for me. But I have periods where I’m dead at replying for weeks. |
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It all depends. If its back and forth I try to keep to that pace.
Sometimes though we get distracted and the chat is paused until next time. Which can be frustrating for both sides.
I do like to reply to my messages though when I know I have time to properly focus on the person who I'm talking to.
I don't do voice notes because I hate how I sound. But love receiving them. 
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I can be quite engaging in chats but I also loose interest very quickly if there’s not enough stimulation. Not a fan of voice notes as I hate my voice and very self conscious of my foreign accent and poor grammar. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I’m quite bad at messaging and replying , I have WhatsApp notifications purposely turned off. I know it frustrates some people but I’m just not the daily messaging or fast tell replying type, prefer to focus on the quality time in person. |
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I struggle with daily conversation I'm more an every few days, there's only so much day to day chat I have to say I'm terrible at small talk.
My closest friends it's more a few days - a couple of weeks when we have something to catch up about.
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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After some thought I think there is definitely a tier of communication methods and effectiveness. The dividing line would be the live-interactive methods Vs the delayed ping pong methods like voice notes and messaging. |
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I’m a real chatterbox to be honest but have been known to turn myself into an anxious pool of doubt and worry if I’ve sent a message and nothing comes back xx
I probably blather too much anyway, so try to go with the flow and not worry if a reply doesn’t come back. I try to be more laissez faire for sure and hope I get a message sometime xx
Lordy I sound awful in the above,  xx |
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"What are you like when it comes to chatting to people? Are you a daily messager? Love/hate voice notes?
A quick responder or do you adopt a more laissez-faire approach to conversations? "
I like to see a person's intrest they have and display.
I respond back to a message as I see it and as for voice notes I don't like them much it interrupts my vibe when I am out on my travels |
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It depends. On who is messaging, what I'm doing, and what mood I'm in. On the whole I'm pretty rubbish though. I have a very short attention span, and I tend to just leave my phone in a different room at home, I'm not one of those people that have been surgically attached to it.
I like receiving voice notes. I do send them, but I usually forget what I wanted to say and just waffle about nothing, generally start laughing at myself, and then text anyway. I suppose that can be amusing for the recipient.
I despise group chats. Who on earth has got the time for all the drivel that people send on those? I'm in a few for work and a dance troupe...they're all muted and I rarely look at them. Somebody will tell me soon enough if there's anything important that I should know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on how busy I am but will always get back to someone as soon as I can. The people that irk me are the ones that initiate conversation then don't respond until hours later, what's the point? Just text when your not busy ahhh! I do love a good voice note, but mine are mostly breaking out in song |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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""laissez-faire" can be frustrating for me when it involves loquacity and momentum. If the dialogue is pedestrian then I don't mind.
Otherwise I enjoy chatting, if I'm woo'ing..."
Yes, you're a natural conversationalist so I'm not surprised you do.
If the conversation is pedestrian I'm awful at keeping up momentum. I found myself sighing at one today (not a fabber!). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably reply to messages or texts far too quickly - if it's someone I like. And I absolutely love a voice note, texts can be read in so many ways but a voice note,I think, is clearer x |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Usually very quick at responding. Probably irritatingly so. I force myself to wait a whole 5 minutes sometimes
Not big on voice notes because I hate my voice. I like getting them though. I did once do a sexy breathing into hysterical laughter.
J"
A whole five minutes. Gosh that must be hard. You're very endearing you know. 
Sexy breathing voice note? Ermmm... how was that received? I can't imagine a sexy breathing voice note in my head. |
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"Usually very quick at responding. Probably irritatingly so. I force myself to wait a whole 5 minutes sometimes
Not big on voice notes because I hate my voice. I like getting them though. I did once do a sexy breathing into hysterical laughter.
J
A whole five minutes. Gosh that must be hard. You're very endearing you know.
Sexy breathing voice note? Ermmm... how was that received? I can't imagine a sexy breathing voice note in my head."
And now you know
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I love voice notes from people it's far nicer than a message.
I do tend to respond quite quickly, it's how I work. I sometimes do think I might have annoyed someone if they don't respond for a while. It's something I need to work on  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Usually very quick at responding. Probably irritatingly so. I force myself to wait a whole 5 minutes sometimes
Not big on voice notes because I hate my voice. I like getting them though. I did once do a sexy breathing into hysterical laughter.
J
A whole five minutes. Gosh that must be hard. You're very endearing you know.
Sexy breathing voice note? Ermmm... how was that received? I can't imagine a sexy breathing voice note in my head.
And now you know
J"
I'm going to do one. Send it to some poor man. Thank you for the inspiration.  |
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"What are you like when it comes to chatting to people? Are you a daily messager? Love/hate voice notes?
A quick responder or do you adopt a more laissez-faire approach to conversations? "
Quite regularly I’d say… 1-2 times a year unless I’m after something then I’m annoyingly persistent and if you don’t reply I’m banging on your door…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't keep up with some conversations as much as the other person would like me to quite often. But when I do have time they may get quick responses while they have my undivided attention.
I'm quite often crap at replying.
I much prefer to actually speak on the phone and hear their voice rather than messages where the time and mood is lost in translation. Plus it's quicker than typing. Voice notes are good but I sound less natural. |
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In person you can't shut me up.
Online it's more like having a pen pal than an online chat. My replies may take a few days but are well thought out, conscientiously formulated and often full of content. I can't really do small talk online. And likewise I don't mind a reply to take its time back either. I think this is often problematic to a lot of people because they seek the gratification of an instant reply and/or assume lack of interest if reply is not instant. Which for me is actually not the case at all. Throw a bit of dyslexia into the mix and possibly some ADHD and I find writing very difficult and draining, plus easily prone to diversion (especially with busy work life and raising young kids). I prefer to write a well thought out message when I have dedicated a set amount of time to concentrate on it and I'm in the mood for it.
This works well when someone is of the same mind but not so much when you get a two sentence reply 2 minutes later to the message thats taken you 20 minutes to write. I can't keep up with any kind of intensity or rapid messaging (especially the way I write). So I can burn out, temporarily check out and I think this is often interpreted as Im not intrested, time wasting or maybe even having to message secretly around a wife or girlfriend (she's on here too so not hiding anything). And for me it just seems normal to dip in and out conversations again after a period of silence but tends not to go down well with others in my experience.
It's much nicer to meet people in the physical world and have a face to face conversation. I'm so much better at articulating myself verbally than I am in writing. That's why I like clubs/parties and just actually meeting people in the flesh. |
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It depends on the person.
I tend to be very considered when I'm writing, think deeply about what I say, revise a lot before pressing "send". So unless I'm really at ease with someone, I can seem a bit reserved, and I can delay replying to a message until I know what I want to say.
Communication of all types can be difficult. Maybe I'm just an awkward personality. Polly xxx |
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