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I see it all the time, 'discretion is a must'
I mean, I don't exactly hand out flyers or post my meets on Facebook with all the details and photos. So how exactly can you be not discreet? I've wondered about this a lot. |
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"I see it all the time, 'discretion is a must'
I mean, I don't exactly hand out flyers or post my meets on Facebook with all the details and photos. So how exactly can you be not discreet? I've wondered about this a lot."
To me it means I'm not going to scream from the rooftops
But it doesn't mean I'm going to cover up your cheating , or not be seen in public with you etc.
I'm bi but I don't parade in rainbows etc.
But it seems to vary in meaning for many |
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over a year ago
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Don't arrive at the door dressed in only your knickers and corset because my neighbours are nosey bastards.
No you can't film it to show your mates.
No I'm not happy for you to put the photos on your fab profile.
I'd like you to leave quietly and without fuss as soon as we've finished. |
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It's either due to a person being in a relationship and the partner has no awareness of them being on this site OR
They can't be so open here because of their job.
I'm ok with seeing discretion is a must but it's how they speak to me and interact really.
Time reveals all sometimes its very quick to discern how genuine and nice a person is xx |
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To me, it means that what we do together is strictly between us and if you see me in public afterwards, then we don’t acknowledge that we have ever met in any way, shape or form.
No photos, no videos and basically no contact outside of Fab unless it’s an arranged meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's either due to a person being in a relationship and the partner has no awareness of them being on this site OR
They can't be so open here because of their job.
I'm ok with seeing discretion is a must but it's how they speak to me and interact really.
Time reveals all sometimes its very quick to discern how genuine and nice a person is xx"
This too. I'm discreet because I like my sex life privacy & my work would not be understanding if it was blasted. But equally I don't hide in public or from my friends.
Those who hide or can't be civil/ social out of bed - that's fair enough, but not for me. Same with Cheaters - Too much fall out risk & unreliability. |
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"It's either due to a person being in a relationship and the partner has no awareness of them being on this site OR
They can't be so open here because of their job.
I'm ok with seeing discretion is a must but it's how they speak to me and interact really.
Time reveals all sometimes its very quick to discern how genuine and nice a person is xx"
To be honest I'm Discrete for other people's benefit more than my own. |
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"To me, it means that what we do together is strictly between us and if you see me in public afterwards, then we don’t acknowledge that we have ever met in any way, shape or form.
No photos, no videos and basically no contact outside of Fab unless it’s an arranged meet. "
No offense but that's the type of people I avoid
Should never be ashamed of sex |
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"It's either due to a person being in a relationship and the partner has no awareness of them being on this site OR
They can't be so open here because of their job.
I'm ok with seeing discretion is a must but it's how they speak to me and interact really.
Time reveals all sometimes its very quick to discern how genuine and nice a person is xx
This too. I'm discreet because I like my sex life privacy & my work would not be understanding if it was blasted. But equally I don't hide in public or from my friends.
Those who hide or can't be civil/ social out of bed - that's fair enough, but not for me. Same with Cheaters - Too much fall out risk & unreliability. "
This |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I don't take it as someone being attached unless it comes with other red flags .
It can mean they're not open about the lifestyle ie if bi.Or that they are in a job where being on here would come with consequences.
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"I see it all the time, 'discretion is a must'
I mean, I don't exactly hand out flyers or post my meets on Facebook with all the details and photos. So how exactly can you be not discreet? I've wondered about this a lot."
I think it means they won't kiss n tell or share the details on their whatsapp chat. And they'll play it cool if you bump into them in the super market. |
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"To me, it means that what we do together is strictly between us and if you see me in public afterwards, then we don’t acknowledge that we have ever met in any way, shape or form.
No photos, no videos and basically no contact outside of Fab unless it’s an arranged meet.
No offense but that's the type of people I avoid
Should never be ashamed of sex "
Absolutely none taken. It’s not so much about being ashamed of sex, it’s more not wanting everyone knowing about it and people being hurt because of it. That isn’t for everyone and that’s perfectly understandable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It means one of two things:
1. Married/attached and totally paranoid about being caught.
2. They're a middle manager in anm really boring office somewhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me, it means that what we do together is strictly between us and if you see me in public afterwards, then we don’t acknowledge that we have ever met in any way, shape or form.
No photos, no videos and basically no contact outside of Fab unless it’s an arranged meet. "
This... i keep both worlds seperate. Not cos i have anything to hide, just dont want fab meets to become anything more. |
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for me i work in a very public job and have to do a lot of networking and face to face meets with people so dont want my personal activities to be talked about, i am also a widower so likewise having young children i wouldnt want them to know about this either. |
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I think it's an ambiguous term that only makes sense to those who purport it, rightly or wrongly. If I see a profile featuring "discreet" written somewhere I just acknowledge it without worrying about the subtext.
It's no different than comments such as "hygiene is a must" which, along with being "discreet", aren't 'discrete' in their usefulness. |
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over a year ago
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Discreet if you see them out.
I've literally had someone stop me in the street before and say I've seen you on fab 
Or not disccusing/describing you to their friends/other meets.x |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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To me it means that the person doesn't want the world outside of here to know they are on here which I think is fair enough.
I would also think they say it in the hope that their info won't be passed about on here in groups etc,which sadly happens all too often.
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People are potentially far too cynical on here to make assumptions. It means just what it says unless proven otherwise. There will be some that may want to hide something or whatever but mostly people have lots of other less sinister reasons or just don't want to shout it from the rooftops. Those who do, fair enough to them. No need to castigate others that don't. Same if they can't accommodate. Might be just as simple as they don't want to, or live with family, or have very nosey neighbours or whatever. As long as they make that clear, it's their business and others should mind theirs imo. |
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"I value my privacy in all aspects of my life so it is simply that, to keep my personal information to myself and anything that is shared is kept private "
Good answer!
We have that on ours though, we live in a small town, where everyone knows each others business.
We've already seen people we know on here.
No friends list on profile.
No verifications on profile to read.
Who we've played hide the sausage with is between us and them only!
Discreet
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