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Are there ever any circumstances where it's acceptable to stand someone up?
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
Yes....sometimes life gets in the way at the last minute
Kids to be collected from school or they're sick
So you apologise and hope you can reschedule for another time
Hopefully due to your previous interactions they believe you and agree
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but after an emergency you'd most likely message to apologise and offer an explanation.
I'm meaning when you completely dinghy them."
When your small boat gets intercepted crossing the Channel  |
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"Yeah but after an emergency you'd most likely message to apologise and offer an explanation.
I'm meaning when you completely dinghy them."
Nah. Just rude. If your bottle goes, at least tell em so you're not leaving them sat in wetherspoons nursing a pint and a semi  |
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If your dog eats your keys and you can't get there
Totally acceptable
Sure life gets in the way
Seems that single guys just must have more going on than the rest of us , you know , what with how many times we've been let down |
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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago
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Life does seem to get in the way sometimes, but with everyone having phones at arms reach, there's no reason for anyone left waiting somewhere, left stood up. That would just be rude. If the person was genuine about meeting, they'd want to make sure the other person didn't get upset. A no show and no word would indicate no intention. |
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That's more about the communication then.
I find it varies. There are people I will give the benefit of the doubt and hope they reach out to me when things settle, and there are people I'd just block rather than wait around for excuses and know that the next time we arranged something I'd be quietly dreading the repeated bailing more than anticipating the meet.
It depends how invested you are and how much you're willing to forgive really. |
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"Life does seem to get in the way sometimes, but with everyone having phones at arms reach, there's no reason for anyone left waiting somewhere, left stood up. That would just be rude. If the person was genuine about meeting, they'd want to make sure the other person didn't get upset. A no show and no word would indicate no intention. "
A family emergency or accident is going to override anything else. Might be a pain for the person at the time but no one would expect someone to message what is effectively a random stranger if something serious happened surely? |
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For me to cancel, it would probably be health reasons. Nothing else gets in the way
For them... I've had all the excuses, car trouble, can't get out of work, broken arm (he even sent an x-ray pic), got the kids, I wouldn't ring him for a chat first (when he should have been on his way) . I tend not to believe anything these days! |
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Agree with most of what's been said. Life gets in the way, but that doesn't excuse a failure to communicate.
"I've completely bottled it," would win a decent amount of sympathy from me. Not enough to automatically convert into a willingness to arrange another meet, but enough to seriously consider it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Road closures and forgetting phone means no way of communicating...it happened to me. I did message an hour later to explain.
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"You spoke on here, exchanged photos, seen their face, arranged to meet.
What possible reasons could cause you to completely dinghy them?"
life unfortunately gets in the way especially if you are a couple with children. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life does seem to get in the way sometimes, but with everyone having phones at arms reach, there's no reason for anyone left waiting somewhere, left stood up. That would just be rude. If the person was genuine about meeting, they'd want to make sure the other person didn't get upset. A no show and no word would indicate no intention.
A family emergency or accident is going to override anything else. Might be a pain for the person at the time but no one would expect someone to message what is effectively a random stranger if something serious happened surely? "
That's how I feel about it. If something serious happened our parents or children I think politely cancelling a meet might be the furthest thing from our minds |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
There are plenty reasons which would be acceptable, including just getting the last minute nerves.
It's all in the follow-up though. If we ever had a last minute cancel then it would be grand, as long as they let us know. Even a message a day or 2 later explaining would be fine as things happen and Fab can be rightfully deprioritised. If there was radio silence for several days after, then that's not cool.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you communicate then yes it's acceptable. If you have no explanation or drop out last second minute then no it's not fair to treat people like that. Each situation is different but I guess your relationship with that person determines how forgiving you are. |
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