Seductive Secrets has brilliant advice.
I have literally ALWAYS had hangups about my body - yes, definitely belly, but cock, face, feet, teeth, hands, legs - you name it. Sleepless nights, tears, feelings of worthlessness, all that.
And yet I couldn't point to a single person who has ever made me feel awful about any of those. Not a comment, in 45 years. I'm sure people have THOUGHT things, but my mind-reading of those thoughts is as imaginary as my beliefs that I am uniquely unattractive.
I've ended up hurting people I've adored and thought were incredibly beautiful over the years, because however much people have said they desired me, wanted me, even loved me, it wasn't always enough to overcome the inner certainty that you are not worthy, not enough, ugly, etc.
So I know from experience that it won't help to tell you that you seem like a beautiful person - attractive and thoughtful. A man giving compliments on Fab? A new definition of worthless. But I really would say,insofar as you can...please, before you privilege your negative inner voice over ALL the other voices telling you positive things, try to pause for a second, look at what some people who DO clearly and demonstrably find you attractive say, and try to see yourself,even for a minute, through their eyes.
It won't be enough on its own. It probably won't ever be enough. But it might at least be a counterpoint. And, in the very worst of the self-critical storms that threaten to overwhelm you, it might prove a lifejacket.
Tldr: your belly isn't the issue. Your mind is. But I suspect you know that. And there is hope, if you can make youurself listen to it.
Good luck, lovely. |
