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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" Tidy missus. No clique I'm aware of  | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" Don't give up, it's not as inclusive as ppl like to say it is but don't make it mean anything about you guys...and don't gather yoyr worth from these forums, it's a very sycophantic place. Thise on it most will never meet one another Any way, unless they do socials or clubs.....don't sweat it you'll meet thise you connect with the rest fuck em | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" Don't think it's cliques, but obviously people who know each other gather together. Your also looking for a "unicorn" and as the name implies, they are a rare creature. If ye were looking for a fella your inbox would be full to the brim and your eyes blinded by cocks | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" If it feels like a clique and walks like a clique... Its a clique | |||
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A quick look through the new pics posted always reminds me that there is most definitely someone for everybody on here.
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" I’ve been on and off fab for a few years now and this time round I joined more for the forums than actual meets. In my experience there are a lot of time wasters or being a single guy I can message people and it gets ignored, the downside to fab is it can affect your confidence if you don’t get replies or meets which is why I try to not dwell on it as much now | |||
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"There's still a clique? But I left ages ago!" You were voted out if you remember. You can try and spin it as leaving, but as I recall you had your thong unceremoniously ripped from your pert buttocks and shredded before your very eyes, with the warning that should you return even more vile consequences would follow.  | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" If you interact with people they’ll wanna meet you etc. if you’re just looking for women interested in FFM you’ve got a very narrow search window! There’s no organisation of a clique as some would have you believe. Regular posters are going to gravitate towards each other. The way way infiltrated this was to post regularly! | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? " You are a woman, and you are wise. We shall call you... A wise woman. | |||
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"Thank you for your reply but I revert to one I posted earlier relating to age? Why is 50 considered out of bounds ? Aren’t you as old as you feel ?" As old as you identify | |||
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"What ? Wher you get that from ?" If you click 'reply and quote' we will know who you are responding to. | |||
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"You're not meant to mention the clique, otherwise you'll never get in. However, I did hear that ronight at 10.53 they are holding their AGM by the large bus stop for the 251 on Totteridge Common, so if you are quick and have your nomination papers duly signed, you might get a chance of joining them. "We have to be naked for this right? And not take anyone's eyes out in the process. | |||
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"There is a clique going on with no action going on. It's very much turning into a chat site not a swinging site. " Eh? All our meets have pretty much come from being on fab. Yes there’s chat as well. That’s no bad thing! | |||
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"There is a clique going on with no action going on. It's very much turning into a chat site not a swinging site. " Ha g on young lady. Your verifications show 8 meets since March. Some blokes don't see that many in a lifetime I feel that may suggest for you it's still very much a swinging site. | |||
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"We are not daft, we know there more women on here and more couples too looking for fun but when we look through our local search and message hundreds of women, maybe we go back to the age thing…." If you're messaging hundreds of women, is it safe to assume the message is very short or just a bland copy paste that could be sent to any viable orifice? | |||
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"We are not daft, we know there more women on here and more couples too looking for fun but when we look through our local search and message hundreds of women, maybe we go back to the age thing…." Are you messaging them? Or are you waiting for them to come to you? | |||
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"You're not meant to mention the clique, otherwise you'll never get in. However, I did hear that ronight at 10.53 they are holding their AGM by the large bus stop for the 251 on Totteridge Common, so if you are quick and have your nomination papers duly signed, you might get a chance of joining them.
We have to be naked for this right?
And not take anyone's eyes out in the process."It's a bit cold out, so I fear your nips may be even more dangerous than in your profile pic. I shall make sure I have my PPE safety goggles. | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too" Please use the reply and quote function so we know who you’re talking too! | |||
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"What ? Wher you get that from ? If you click 'reply and quote' we will know who you are responding to." If you click... I See what you did there.. Chapeau sir | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too Please use the reply and quote function so we know who you’re talking too! " | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too Please use the reply and quote function so we know who you’re talking too! " Ahh sorry | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too" But, there are hundreds of women that are within a reasonable distance, that you fit the preferences of and fit your own preferences according to their profile? Shit man. You must live in unicorn central. | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too Please use the reply and quote function so we know who you’re talking too! Ahh sorry" No worries! | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? You are a woman, and you are wise. We shall call you... A wise woman. "  | |||
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"I use this mainly for the forum now. I don’t expect much from msgs, just go to clubs & meet people face to face. The internet is not real so don’t get too caught up on social presence " ,, this,, | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? " What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" Same. I've been around these parts for a while and see cliques coming and going, and the forum is tough when you can see other people having a good time especially when you're not. Don't give up, you just need to find your people. They're out there | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
Marc"Very good point well made. Exactly if there was no clique everyone woukd be replied to and never overlooked | |||
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"any viable orifice?" Bows down to the forumite who got 5 sweet Taskmaster points for use of language. It was well deserved. J | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
Marc"I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there. Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on. Good attempt though.  | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too But, there are hundreds of women that are within a reasonable distance, that you fit the preferences of and fit your own preferences according to their profile? Shit man. You must live in unicorn central. " Really? Have you actual seen it from the other side ? Can we somehow show you ? | |||
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"Can I join? " The AGM finished just after 11.02, so you will now need to wait another year. Next years AGM will be at the bus stop for the 221 near Bounds Green station, an earlier start at 10.42 on 31 May. | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
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I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there.
Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on.
Good attempt though. "Is it not about the rhetoric used Meli? ' Can't break in' suggests that there is a closed knit tight group, which in its essence is a clique. Let's have it right and call it for what it is, it is clicky as fuck on the forums, those that are actively fauned over and those that do the fauning are included to greater extent than those who do not. People don't call out bullshit, because they want to be accepted and not upset the apple cart incase there not included or damn right ostracised. Bear in mind this is my perspective, but also I speak my mind bluntly. But also please bear in mind my perspective is based on observation of behaviour. | |||
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"There's still a clique? But I left ages ago! You were voted out if you remember. You can try and spin it as leaving, but as I recall you had your thong unceremoniously ripped from your pert buttocks and shredded before your very eyes, with the warning that should you return even more vile consequences would follow. "People did fucking hate me to be fair haha | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" But you rejected my offer | |||
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"There's still a clique? But I left ages ago! You were voted out if you remember. You can try and spin it as leaving, but as I recall you had your thong unceremoniously ripped from your pert buttocks and shredded before your very eyes, with the warning that should you return even more vile consequences would follow.
People did fucking hate me to be fair haha",, your a young man that likes a bit fun fair play,, | |||
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"There's still a clique? But I left ages ago! You were voted out if you remember. You can try and spin it as leaving, but as I recall you had your thong unceremoniously ripped from your pert buttocks and shredded before your very eyes, with the warning that should you return even more vile consequences would follow.
People did fucking hate me to be fair haha"I didn’t  | |||
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too But, there are hundreds of women that are within a reasonable distance, that you fit the preferences of and fit your own preferences according to their profile? Shit man. You must live in unicorn central. Really? Have you actual seen it from the other side ? Can we somehow show you ?" OP, I can only comment from what I've seen here on the forums but most single ladies prefer to go to clubs. It is a cheap and safe way for them to find what they want and it's likely what I'd do in the same boat. Is your profile doing what it needs to? Are you photos the best they can be? Is the text appealing to a single woman or is it just what you want them to do for you? I don't think you're talking about the forums being cliquey but they're not. Which is why lots of people have replied to this post giving you advice. Jx | |||
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"We know the ratio for us in one in a million but thank you for commenting " Try being a single guy | |||
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"To sum up how this works for you both. In order of how difficult 1 being easiest 7 being hardest. 1 - single male to play with wife on her own. 2 - single male to play with you both. 3 - a couple to play with you both 4 - a single female to play with your wife. 5 - a single male to play with your husband. 6 - a single female to play with your husband. 7 - a single female to play with you both. Try the above and you will see what we mean." This is pretty accurate I would say. And very helpful to people starting out in swinging. Nice post xx | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
Marc
I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there.
Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on.
Good attempt though.
Is it not about the rhetoric used Meli? ' Can't break in' suggests that there is a closed knit tight group, which in its essence is a clique.
Let's have it right and call it for what it is, it is clicky as fuck on the forums, those that are actively fauned over and those that do the fauning are included to greater extent than those who do not. People don't call out bullshit, because they want to be accepted and not upset the apple cart incase there not included or damn right ostracised.
Bear in mind this is my perspective, but also I speak my mind bluntly. But also please bear in mind my perspective is based on observation of behaviour."A man got his critical analysis hat on today lol. | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
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I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there.
Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on.
Good attempt though.
Is it not about the rhetoric used Meli? ' Can't break in' suggests that there is a closed knit tight group, which in its essence is a clique.
Let's have it right and call it for what it is, it is clicky as fuck on the forums, those that are actively fauned over and those that do the fauning are included to greater extent than those who do not. People don't call out bullshit, because they want to be accepted and not upset the apple cart incase there not included or damn right ostracised.
Bear in mind this is my perspective, but also I speak my mind bluntly. But also please bear in mind my perspective is based on observation of behaviour."You're completely missing the point, with all respect. I was sympathising with the OP. Based on their opening post, they feel like they can't break into something. I really don't know how to make it clearer. The OP believes there's a clique and they are on the outside. Regardless of my thoughts on the existence of a clique (which I did not say there was or wasn't) - it's crap when people feel like they can't join in something they want to. That was my opening post. No hidden meaning. No opinion given on my personal stance about a clique or no clique. Really quite simple. | |||
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" People did fucking hate me to be fair haha" Not the answer I was expecting. I shall go and put on sackcloth and ashes as a sign of my penitence  | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
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I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there.
Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on.
Good attempt though.
Is it not about the rhetoric used Meli? ' Can't break in' suggests that there is a closed knit tight group, which in its essence is a clique.
Let's have it right and call it for what it is, it is clicky as fuck on the forums, those that are actively fauned over and those that do the fauning are included to greater extent than those who do not. People don't call out bullshit, because they want to be accepted and not upset the apple cart incase there not included or damn right ostracised.
Bear in mind this is my perspective, but also I speak my mind bluntly. But also please bear in mind my perspective is based on observation of behaviour.
A man got his critical analysis hat on today lol. "Far from a critical hat, just years of experience of using the forums so have some evidence to back up what I say..... | |||
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Op, I hope things improve for you - there are people on here who are happy to interact with newbies. Not everyone on the fora wants to. I hope you have more interactions with those who do, x | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" Nope it's people being people. If you view everything as a clique. Your confidence is a issue. Just say fuck it if they don't like you just move on. You don't need anyone's acceptance. Just to fit in. | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ? Nope it's people being people. If you view everything as a clique. Your confidence is a issue. Just say fuck it if they don't like you just move on. You don't need anyone's acceptance. Just to fit in. " | |||
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"TBF though, i met a woman outside xtasia one night & she showed me her inbox on fab & the amount of messages that came pouring through within 10 minutes was INSANE lol made me realise what women go through on here" I thought the story was going in a different direction
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ? Nope it's people being people. If you view everything as a clique. Your confidence is a issue. Just say fuck it if they don't like you just move on. You don't need anyone's acceptance. Just to fit in. " ,,, exactly that fuck it | |||
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"And I also don't know why I'm giving so much energy on a Thursday night to a discussion that'll be forgotten by the weekend.
Op, I hope things improve for you - there are people on here who are happy to interact with newbies. Not everyone on the fora wants to. I hope you have more interactions with those who do, x"You're OK Meli. You always come across in your posts as kind and friendly. | |||
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"TBF though, i met a woman outside xtasia one night & she showed me her inbox on fab & the amount of messages that came pouring through within 10 minutes was INSANE lol made me realise what women go through on here I thought the story was going in a different direction
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"Could be but we’ve tried the nicely nicely and the straight to the point messages too But, there are hundreds of women that are within a reasonable distance, that you fit the preferences of and fit your own preferences according to their profile? Shit man. You must live in unicorn central. Really? Have you actual seen it from the other side ? Can we somehow show you ?" Yes, I have. I've had couples profiles with previous partners before. | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
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I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there.
Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on.
Good attempt though.
Is it not about the rhetoric used Meli? ' Can't break in' suggests that there is a closed knit tight group, which in its essence is a clique.
Let's have it right and call it for what it is, it is clicky as fuck on the forums, those that are actively fauned over and those that do the fauning are included to greater extent than those who do not. People don't call out bullshit, because they want to be accepted and not upset the apple cart incase there not included or damn right ostracised.
Bear in mind this is my perspective, but also I speak my mind bluntly. But also please bear in mind my perspective is based on observation of behaviour.
You're completely missing the point, with all respect.
I was sympathising with the OP.
Based on their opening post, they feel like they can't break into something. I really don't know how to make it clearer.
The OP believes there's a clique and they are on the outside.
Regardless of my thoughts on the existence of a clique (which I did not say there was or wasn't) - it's crap when people feel like they can't join in something they want to.
That was my opening post. No hidden meaning. No opinion given on my personal stance about a clique or no clique.
Really quite simple."You can wrap it up in what ever stance you like, I didnt suggest you gave a personal opinion on an internal forum clique...I was merely pointing out the rhetoric used can be deemed like there is a clique...we can debate this all day long and very happy to. You mentioned breaking into something, which suggests your opinion in its self, as bit of a word Smith yourself, you understand the gravitas and the power of words. And how these can be interpreted by others... | |||
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"If you read the OPs post their not even talking about the forums. It would be helpful if everyone stopped projecting their own experience of clique or lack of. Including me. Jx" Thank you | |||
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"You can wrap it up in what ever stance you like, I didnt suggest you gave a personal opinion on an internal forum clique...I was merely pointing out the rhetoric used can be deemed like there is a clique...we can debate this all day long and very happy to. You mentioned breaking into something, which suggests your opinion in its self, as bit of a word Smith yourself, you understand the gravitas and the power of words. And how these can be interpreted by others..." Aww. | |||
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"You can wrap it up in what ever stance you like, I didnt suggest you gave a personal opinion on an internal forum clique...I was merely pointing out the rhetoric used can be deemed like there is a clique...we can debate this all day long and very happy to. You mentioned breaking into something, which suggests your opinion in its self, as bit of a word Smith yourself, you understand the gravitas and the power of words. And how these can be interpreted by others... Aww." Pmsl | |||
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"You can wrap it up in what ever stance you like, I didnt suggest you gave a personal opinion on an internal forum clique...I was merely pointing out the rhetoric used can be deemed like there is a clique...we can debate this all day long and very happy to. You mentioned breaking into something, which suggests your opinion in its self, as bit of a word Smith yourself, you understand the gravitas and the power of words. And how these can be interpreted by others... Aww."
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"You can wrap it up in what ever stance you like, I didnt suggest you gave a personal opinion on an internal forum clique...I was merely pointing out the rhetoric used can be deemed like there is a clique...we can debate this all day long and very happy to. You mentioned breaking into something, which suggests your opinion in its self, as bit of a word Smith yourself, you understand the gravitas and the power of words. And how these can be interpreted by others... Aww.
Ghandi. You're lovely. No hard feelings. The OP understood my intent, that's enough for me.
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"It's so so easy. Find people that you are comfortable with. Just because some people needs to have a social acceptance to feel good about themselves. They are just projecting just as you are to feel acceptable. Everyone does it. I seen buff guys claiming they are Alpha males no you are not. Just go look at the hot photos. The Fab me if ? Is hilarious. Don't feel bad OP just sit back and look at the carnage that people do just to feel special. Fuck off if you don't like me this is not TiK Tok." Love this, thank you x | |||
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"its like the free masons secret hand shakes and all that shit,, kidding" I love the ‘kidding’ | |||
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"Is that who the forum clique answer to?
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"Is that who the forum clique answer to?
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" most definitely. I’ve just messaged you x | |||
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Too much holiday. Fact "No. Such. Thing.  Although this Summer will be my first 5 week break on fab. Maybe it is a thing...
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Too much holiday. Fact
No. Such. Thing. Although this Summer will be my first 5 week break on fab. Maybe it is a thing...
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"Don’t think there’s a clique just thousands of couples all looking for ffm" if your a straight couple looking to meet another couple, they usually want the fem to be bi. | |||
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"You're not meant to mention the clique, otherwise you'll never get in. However, I did hear that ronight at 10.53 they are holding their AGM by the large bus stop for the 251 on Totteridge Common, so if you are quick and have your nomination papers duly signed, you might get a chance of joining them.
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" OP, firstly can I say love the pics, you come across lovely, friendly and playful with a sense of humour. How did you get on the first time you were here? Did you use the site just for meets or did you venture into the forums too? I think the word clique rattles people, there are circles of friends that have met, that have formed friendships or are forming something more, it can come across like other people are excluded but They are not, they are included but it takes time and effort on both parts. Don't give up, we have a laugh on here for some it's fun, jokes and a distraction for a while but it can lead to finding someone that wants what you want and that leads to private messages that could lead to more. Maybe I'm naive, I'm sure someone will say I talk bullshit lol | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ? OP, firstly can I say love the pics, you come across lovely, friendly and playful with a sense of humour. How did you get on the first time you were here? Did you use the site just for meets or did you venture into the forums too? I think the word clique rattles people, there are circles of friends that have met, that have formed friendships or are forming something more, it can come across like other people are excluded but They are not, they are included but it takes time and effort on both parts. Don't give up, we have a laugh on here for some it's fun, jokes and a distraction for a while but it can lead to finding someone that wants what you want and that leads to private messages that could lead to more. Maybe I'm naive, I'm sure someone will say I talk bullshit lol" Hi, we actually came off as the Mrs brother in law saw us on and make some smart comment about it…. How do you tell your sister that your man is… one on here and two perving over his sister eek….. hopefully he’s not still I here £) | |||
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"I fail to see the correlation of cliques and having no success on here. In any case I wish you all the best, OP." nice shoes | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ? OP, firstly can I say love the pics, you come across lovely, friendly and playful with a sense of humour. How did you get on the first time you were here? Did you use the site just for meets or did you venture into the forums too? I think the word clique rattles people, there are circles of friends that have met, that have formed friendships or are forming something more, it can come across like other people are excluded but They are not, they are included but it takes time and effort on both parts. Don't give up, we have a laugh on here for some it's fun, jokes and a distraction for a while but it can lead to finding someone that wants what you want and that leads to private messages that could lead to more. Maybe I'm naive, I'm sure someone will say I talk bullshit lol Hi, we actually came off as the Mrs brother in law saw us on and make some smart comment about it…. How do you tell your sister that your man is… one on here and two perving over his sister eek….. hopefully he’s not still I here £)" Oh wow! But then they would be on here too to see you. Have you set your filters to stop, but then, it's your thing, your choice so don't let that put you off. | |||
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"We are not daft, we know there more women on here and more couples too looking for fun but when we look through our local search and message hundreds of women, maybe we go back to the age thing…." That's not a clique that's a preference, like you have 30-60 on yours. | |||
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ?" So we've been on here a couple of years now. It's my (mrs) first experience of swinging. Mr used to be on as a single man. I used to think there was a bit of a clique but soon realised that if you're not willing to chat in the forums then it will be the same ones interacting with each other, but hey, the same could be said for facebook groups.... As for saying you feel ugly. You are a good looking couple! Don't put yourselves down. Try going to local socials and you'll meet more people. Although I feel you already know this if you've been on before? Just my opinion as a reasonable newbie to the scene .... | |||
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"Rather than spending hours trawling through profiles and getting nowhere venture to a social or a club night. Nearly every club on a Saturday is geared to couples and single ladies." When are they geared for men? Out of interest. Serious question. | |||
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"Forum life definitely doesn't reflect what really goes on fab. You're right, there's a clique on forum but definitely not on fab. All sorts of people get together. If you're looking for FFM then the chances are slim. The chances at club are even slimmer as you potentially meet less people in clubs than you would on fab. The choices is much greater online so my advice is ignore the people that come on forum just to monk others and just keep trying. Takes me ages to find someone I like but not totally impossible so I don't give up hope. Nor should you. Good luck op " | |||
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"Like life in general, what you get out of this site is proportionate to the effort you put in " Outside your age filters but l just gotta say what a profile, l was in stitches laughing.. absolutely brilliant and so funny ..have a great day beautiful. | |||
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"Thank you for your reply but I revert to one I posted earlier relating to age? Why is 50 considered out of bounds ? Aren’t you as old as you feel ?" No - You are as old as the person that won't fuck you. | |||
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"Like life in general, what you get out of this site is proportionate to the effort you put in Definitely not the case here. Be active on the forums, send decent, coherent messages, have a proper profile with face pic, and you still won't get anything. I found your profile very funny, and I think I would have been a decent match for your criteria, but I'm five years too old. Then you see two line profiles with a dick pic as the main photo and 25 veris. They didn't put in more effort, they got lucky." If they have a dick pic as a main photo and have 25 veris then often you will find they put in quite a lot of effort by attending clubs and social events, it's how many people get veris and networking through fab can open so many doors, rather than just waiting for people to come to you. | |||
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"Like life in general, what you get out of this site is proportionate to the effort you put in Definitely not the case here. Be active on the forums, send decent, coherent messages, have a proper profile with face pic, and you still won't get anything. I found your profile very funny, and I think I would have been a decent match for your criteria, but I'm five years too old. Then you see two line profiles with a dick pic as the main photo and 25 veris. They didn't put in more effort, they got lucky." Maybe the effort was put into their messaging. Though yes, sometimes it's the right time, right place kind of thing. | |||
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"There's lots of action going on but yeah, when it feels like you can't break in, it must feel a bit cliquey. You're not going to get offers coming in from single women. Well a few maybe but not a steady stream. Rather than looking at external factors affecting the number of offers, have you looked at things... maybe closer to home? What do they need to break into if there is no clique?
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I didn't say that they needed to break into anything - it sounds like they feel like they can't break into the clique which they believe is there.
Whether or not I think there is - which I didn't say anywhere above - it's a crap feeling when someone feels like an outsider and wants to join in. That's what I was commenting on.
Good attempt though.
Is it not about the rhetoric used Meli? ' Can't break in' suggests that there is a closed knit tight group, which in its essence is a clique.
Let's have it right and call it for what it is, it is clicky as fuck on the forums, those that are actively fauned over and those that do the fauning are included to greater extent than those who do not. People don't call out bullshit, because they want to be accepted and not upset the apple cart incase there not included or damn right ostracised.
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"I don’t know why this is such a thing - this is a social platform as much as it is anything else. People are more active than others and naturally form friendships or a bit of banter through forums, call it a clique if you like but I find this a tad ‘school yard’ language, we’re all adults and personally I’m not here to be liked by everyone. We’ve all got a voice - put yourself out there, those interested will listen those who aren’t will move along (despite the odd one or two who will put there tuppence worth in anyway) just do you x" This
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"This is our second time on fab and still seeing a bit of a clique going on with no action going on. Makes you feel ugly and worthless when no offers come in, shall we give up ? Nope it's people being people. If you view everything as a clique. Your confidence is an issue. Just say fuck it if they don't like you just move on. You don't need anyone's acceptance. Just to fit in. " Absolutely this
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