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Yes but also no, going on my own to very first one was daunting but ok after some Dutch courage. Going with my fwb was a lot easier as people approached us a lot.
They're a really good way to meet people and I do like socialising.
Not been to one for ages though as it's a couple of hundred minimum with travel, hotel and drinks and food |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I greatly enjoyed them when I was single and been to a few as a couple. Great for networking in general.
Always interesting to meet the person behind the profile. Surprises could cut both ways, though generally towards mostly positive. |
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We used to really enjoy them. The Sussex social was a favourite of ours. We don't attend them any more because being realistic and brutally honest with ourselves we are out of so many age ranges that we'd probably feel slightly awkward.
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By *ambertMan
over a year ago
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Up the brum, run by untrepid explorers, is quite simply the best social event in the world.
The events are delivered with meticulous planning, the venues are stellar, and the atmosphere is so down to earth and welcoming.
I absolutely love them. |
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over a year ago
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"Up the brum, run by untrepid explorers, is quite simply the best social event in the world.
The events are delivered with meticulous planning, the venues are stellar, and the atmosphere is so down to earth and welcoming.
I absolutely love them. "
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We love them we don’t meet new people on here anymore it just don’t work for us .We are heading to one tonight ..
Our favourite is probably the Newport social we get to see people we haven’t seen for a long time and just have a great night. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Yes but also no, going on my own to very first one was daunting but ok after some Dutch courage. Going with my fwb was a lot easier as people approached us a lot.
They're a really good way to meet people and I do like socialising.
Not been to one for ages though as it's a couple of hundred minimum with travel, hotel and drinks and food "
Yeah that does seem to be one reason I might not go to some is the cost to stay. Good reason to get a group together for an air BnB to make it cheaper though. Probably other reasons to get a group together too.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I do. It's a good excuse to let my hair down, wear mascara and talk to people. I enjoy them - I've been to a few now. Love UpTheBrum so much, planning on going to one in Manchester this weekend which I'm very excited about!
They can be expensive. I also know not everyone has the best experience and sometimes I think we could all be a bit friendlier/put ourselves out there a bit more. Last social I went to, fuelled by tequila and kisses from the woman I went with, I just went over and started chatting to people on their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to lots, most were ok, some were dreadful but they meant i could be with my other half, i wasn't there to meet other people.
The last one i went to was a cake social and it was great  |
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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
I love a good social.
I used to attend a monthly munch which was more like a kinky weatherspoons supper club (no pun intended) but sadly it didn't restart after the pandemic.
From what I've seen though, they take a lot of organising. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2016 MLS It was off the cuff, and EVERYONE turned up. Also I think there was another Christmas one too… mistletoe helps. 
Loved meeting so many people, and being amongst so many people with the same type of vibe. And I’d recommend it to anyone who says they don’t get to meet many people from Fab.
Just find a local social or travel.
There’s one this Saturday. Come along.  |
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"Yes but also no, going on my own to very first one was daunting but ok after some Dutch courage. Going with my fwb was a lot easier as people approached us a lot.
They're a really good way to meet people and I do like socialising.
Not been to one for ages though as it's a couple of hundred minimum with travel, hotel and drinks and food
Yeah that does seem to be one reason I might not go to some is the cost to stay. Good reason to get a group together for an air BnB to make it cheaper though. Probably other reasons to get a group together too. "
Sometimes there's more fun in a group |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I greatly enjoyed them when I was single and been to a few as a couple. Great for networking in general.
Always interesting to meet the person behind the profile. Surprises could cut both ways, though generally towards mostly positive. "
Yeah I feel like it is a much better way to get a feel for people. And much faster too. Still being pretty new I didn't really know the profiles before I went though so no surprises for me. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I’ve been to a couple now and I can’t recommend up the brum highly enough! They really know how to choose the right mix of people for a cracking night out "
That is one of the two I have been to so far. Absolutely brilliant. I am signed up to the next one as well. |
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
No can't stand them, I shy away in the corner with loads of social anxiety, I dint know how to talk to people....but I push on through one day I'll pluck up the courage to walk yo to someone ot two someone's |
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" 2016 MLS It was off the cuff, and EVERYONE turned up. Also I think there was another Christmas one too… mistletoe helps.
Loved meeting so many people, and being amongst so many people with the same type of vibe. And I’d recommend it to anyone who says they don’t get to meet many people from Fab.
Just find a local social or travel.
There’s one this Saturday. Come along. "
Sounds fun! 
Saturday's MLS will be our second organised social and we're lucky it's practically on our doorstep. I really enjoyed the Leeds social too apart from the unexpected fab/vanilla life intersection 
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"We used to really enjoy them. The Sussex social was a favourite of ours. We don't attend them any more because being realistic and brutally honest with ourselves we are out of so many age ranges that we'd probably feel slightly awkward.
This is not fishing for people to tell us we're not "
Oh that is a shame. I didn't get the feeling like it mattered much. It is a social after all rather than a meet. But I suppose if you felt like the prospect for meets wasn't there it might not be as enjoyable.  |
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"I do. It's a good excuse to let my hair down, wear mascara and talk to people. I enjoy them - I've been to a few now. Love UpTheBrum so much, planning on going to one in Manchester this weekend which I'm very excited about!
They can be expensive. I also know not everyone has the best experience and sometimes I think we could all be a bit friendlier/put ourselves out there a bit more. Last social I went to, fuelled by tequila and kisses from the woman I went with, I just went over and started chatting to people on their own. "
Where, o velvet tongued one, can I find out about the next UpTheBrum one? Easy place to get to, and the prospective combination of a Fab social and tequila puts a rosy glow of attraction around Birmingham that it's never had for me before. |
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"I do. It's a good excuse to let my hair down, wear mascara and talk to people. I enjoy them - I've been to a few now. Love UpTheBrum so much, planning on going to one in Manchester this weekend which I'm very excited about!
They can be expensive. I also know not everyone has the best experience and sometimes I think we could all be a bit friendlier/put ourselves out there a bit more. Last social I went to, fuelled by tequila and kisses from the woman I went with, I just went over and started chatting to people on their own.
Where, o velvet tongued one, can I find out about the next UpTheBrum one? Easy place to get to, and the prospective combination of a Fab social and tequila puts a rosy glow of attraction around Birmingham that it's never had for me before."
UpTheBrum Socials is the organisers profile |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I do. It's a good excuse to let my hair down, wear mascara and talk to people. I enjoy them - I've been to a few now. Love UpTheBrum so much, planning on going to one in Manchester this weekend which I'm very excited about!
They can be expensive. I also know not everyone has the best experience and sometimes I think we could all be a bit friendlier/put ourselves out there a bit more. Last social I went to, fuelled by tequila and kisses from the woman I went with, I just went over and started chatting to people on their own.
Where, o velvet tongued one, can I find out about the next UpTheBrum one? Easy place to get to, and the prospective combination of a Fab social and tequila puts a rosy glow of attraction around Birmingham that it's never had for me before.
UpTheBrum Socials is the organisers profile "
Yep! You should definitely go - there's one at the end of June and some brilliant, beautiful people are going. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Up the brum, run by untrepid explorers, is quite simply the best social event in the world.
The events are delivered with meticulous planning, the venues are stellar, and the atmosphere is so down to earth and welcoming.
I absolutely love them. "
That is one of the two I went to. I am signed up for the next two as well. I saw you at the last from across the room. Next time I will come find you.
I signed up for that one via their website I think
https://swingsocial.org/ or maybe I contacted directly on untrepid explorers profile..I can't remember.
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Up the brum, run by untrepid explorers, is quite simply the best social event in the world.
The events are delivered with meticulous planning, the venues are stellar, and the atmosphere is so down to earth and welcoming.
I absolutely love them.
Thanks for this! "
Yay might see you there. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"We love them we don’t meet new people on here anymore it just don’t work for us .We are heading to one tonight ..
Our favourite is probably the Newport social we get to see people we haven’t seen for a long time and just have a great night."
Oh what one are you going to tonight? I will need to look up Newport! Thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Up the brum, run by untrepid explorers, is quite simply the best social event in the world.
The events are delivered with meticulous planning, the venues are stellar, and the atmosphere is so down to earth and welcoming.
I absolutely love them. "
I just heard about this one. I need to look it up and try to attend hopefully.
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"We've been to a few now, Manchester and Leeds I enjoy the Leeds one, Manchester was our 1st though so was a little nervous.
Mrs "
I was at the Manchester one in April. I was also completely new. It kicked off my whole swinging journey. I didn't speak to as many people as I wish I had though. Next one I will. I am going to the other Manchester one this weekend too. I will also look up Leeds thank you! |
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"I do. It's a good excuse to let my hair down, wear mascara and talk to people. I enjoy them - I've been to a few now. Love UpTheBrum so much, planning on going to one in Manchester this weekend which I'm very excited about!
They can be expensive. I also know not everyone has the best experience and sometimes I think we could all be a bit friendlier/put ourselves out there a bit more. Last social I went to, fuelled by tequila and kisses from the woman I went with, I just went over and started chatting to people on their own.
Where, o velvet tongued one, can I find out about the next UpTheBrum one? Easy place to get to, and the prospective combination of a Fab social and tequila puts a rosy glow of attraction around Birmingham that it's never had for me before.
UpTheBrum Socials is the organisers profile
Yep! You should definitely go - there's one at the end of June and some brilliant, beautiful people are going. "
Like me, ppl should go just to meet me lol |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I've been to Bradford,Manchester ,Halifax and wakey social
Barnsley too.I enjoyed them all equally tbh ,you get back what you put in really."
Oh so many to add to my list! Thank you. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I do. It's a good excuse to let my hair down, wear mascara and talk to people. I enjoy them - I've been to a few now. Love UpTheBrum so much, planning on going to one in Manchester this weekend which I'm very excited about!
They can be expensive. I also know not everyone has the best experience and sometimes I think we could all be a bit friendlier/put ourselves out there a bit more. Last social I went to, fuelled by tequila and kisses from the woman I went with, I just went over and started chatting to people on their own. "
See you Saturday. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I've been to lots, most were ok, some were dreadful but they meant i could be with my other half, i wasn't there to meet other people.
The last one i went to was a cake social and it was great "
I am sorry. A cake social. Swingers. And. Cake? Tell me more. |
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
Yea, they’re pretty good! Our last one was sensational!  |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I love a good social.
I used to attend a monthly munch which was more like a kinky weatherspoons supper club (no pun intended) but sadly it didn't restart after the pandemic.
From what I've seen though, they take a lot of organising."
A monthly one! Ohhhh that would be amazing. I used to organise a social group (not swingers) and that was hard work so I could imagine that. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I've been to quite a few over the years.
No favourites- just enjoy the drinks, laughter and banter.
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They bring me out of my shy zone. "
Yay! I am glad. No need for shyness amongst swingers. I loved the banter at the two I have been to so far. It is beginning to look like I will be traveling the country going to them now. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
" 2016 MLS It was off the cuff, and EVERYONE turned up. Also I think there was another Christmas one too… mistletoe helps.
Loved meeting so many people, and being amongst so many people with the same type of vibe. And I’d recommend it to anyone who says they don’t get to meet many people from Fab.
Just find a local social or travel.
There’s one this Saturday. Come along. "
I am already. I will see you there! I can't wait. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"It's just mates meeting up the pub which is awesome, and sometimes we all get to go clubbing together, it's brill to speak to the people I chat to frequently online, In person and that just reaffirms our friendships
Oh and occasionally a hot sexy pants will turn up  "
I hope for a hot sexy pants turning up every where I go these days. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Yes but also no, going on my own to very first one was daunting but ok after some Dutch courage. Going with my fwb was a lot easier as people approached us a lot.
They're a really good way to meet people and I do like socialising.
Not been to one for ages though as it's a couple of hundred minimum with travel, hotel and drinks and food
Yeah that does seem to be one reason I might not go to some is the cost to stay. Good reason to get a group together for an air BnB to make it cheaper though. Probably other reasons to get a group together too.
Sometimes there's more fun in a group "
I couldn't agree more. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?
No can't stand them, I shy away in the corner with loads of social anxiety, I dint know how to talk to people....but I push on through one day I'll pluck up the courage to walk yo to someone ot two someone's "
Don't worry one day you will pluck up the courage to even send dirty videos and maybe even one day you will actually go meet someone. I believe in you. |
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Oh yes, been to loads here in South Wales, Newport, Swansea, and Cardiff, the social scene here is huge, just go look in the Wales forum lol!
We always advise newbies to try to attend, its a great intro into swinging, you can make new friends and have a great time. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
" 2016 MLS It was off the cuff, and EVERYONE turned up. Also I think there was another Christmas one too… mistletoe helps.
Loved meeting so many people, and being amongst so many people with the same type of vibe. And I’d recommend it to anyone who says they don’t get to meet many people from Fab.
Just find a local social or travel.
There’s one this Saturday. Come along.
Sounds fun!
Saturday's MLS will be our second organised social and we're lucky it's practically on our doorstep. I really enjoyed the Leeds social too apart from the unexpected fab/vanilla life intersection
J"
Oh no. Did you get the life cross over you never wanted? |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Another vote for Up the Brum, honestly everyone is soo welcoming whether you are going as a single guy, girl or a couple. Cannot wait for the one at the end of June!
MJ x"
Yay! See you there. I went alone to both Manchester and Up the Brum. And it was great. Anyone going alone that is nervous let me know you can come talk to me. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?
Yea, they’re pretty good! Our last one was sensational! "
My first ever social was in Manchester and was spectacular. We should compare notes sometime.  |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"We’ve been to quite a few - all different but great! Our favourites are UpTheBrum & LichVegas - both very well organised & a great laugh
J x"
And another to add to the list thank you. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Oh yes, been to loads here in South Wales, Newport, Swansea, and Cardiff, the social scene here is huge, just go look in the Wales forum lol!
We always advise newbies to try to attend, its a great intro into swinging, you can make new friends and have a great time."
Ohhhh good thinking. Off to the Welsh and Scottish forums next then.
I totally agree. I was a total newbie when I went to my first and it was such a great intro. I mean at one and a half months in I am still a newbie I suppose just not quite as much of one. |
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?
No can't stand them, I shy away in the corner with loads of social anxiety, I dint know how to talk to people....but I push on through one day I'll pluck up the courage to walk yo to someone ot two someone's
Don't worry one day you will pluck up the courage to even send dirty videos and maybe even one day you will actually go meet someone. I believe in you."
Amber that's fill my little broken heart |
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"We've been to a few now, Manchester and Leeds I enjoy the Leeds one, Manchester was our 1st though so was a little nervous.
Mrs
I was at the Manchester one in April. I was also completely new. It kicked off my whole swinging journey. I didn't speak to as many people as I wish I had though. Next one I will. I am going to the other Manchester one this weekend too. I will also look up Leeds thank you!"
We've booked the Leeds Gothic theme one in Oct I can't wait, I'm gutted we can't make Woody's Manchester social.
Have a great time.
Mrs x |
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I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being |
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"I really enjoyed the Leeds social too apart from the unexpected fab/vanilla life intersection
J
Oh no. Did you get the life cross over you never wanted?"
Yup, and not just someone we know vaguely... No, it's friends we've known for over 14 years. Who turn out to have a swinging podcast with thousands of listeners. The whole thing was surreal! I can message you the link to the episode they recorded about it as it was as much a shock for them as us! 
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"I've been to lots, most were ok, some were dreadful but they meant i could be with my other half, i wasn't there to meet other people.
The last one i went to was a cake social and it was great
I am sorry. A cake social. Swingers. And. Cake? Tell me more."
It was great, it was organised by the very lovely peacecore, he also made most of the cakes, 2 other guys also bought cakes with them. It was aimed at the mids chatroom crowd and was held in club amigos.
A wonderful afternoon |
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I attended an UpTheBrum Social at the start of my 'swinging journey'. It was their Kissmas event last December. A friend told me about it and I wasn't too sure about it, I felt super nervous, but I am so glad I bit the bullet and went! I've been to 3 of their socials now and have made some of the best friends! There are some incredible people that regularly attend and also lots of new faces, every time. I've booked on to the next two summer socials, and I can't wait for them, always such a great night. The hosts are wonderful, too! Even though I've relocated and now live in Buckingham, I still keep coming back up for the events. Can't recommend highly enough. If you're considering it, just do it. Of you're not considering it...then you should be haha |
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"We used to really enjoy them. The Sussex social was a favourite of ours. We don't attend them any more because being realistic and brutally honest with ourselves we are out of so many age ranges that we'd probably feel slightly awkward.
This is not fishing for people to tell us we're not
Oh that is a shame. I didn't get the feeling like it mattered much. It is a social after all rather than a meet. But I suppose if you felt like the prospect for meets wasn't there it might not be as enjoyable. "
It's not that the prospect for meets isn't there, that's not the main reason we used to go but of course if the opportunity arose to make plans for future dates we took it. When you're in a room where you're 10/20/30 years older than everyone else it can feel awkward... that's all on us of course |
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"I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being "
Wait, that's you acting normal!? |
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"I attended an UpTheBrum Social at the start of my 'swinging journey'. It was their Kissmas event last December. A friend told me about it and I wasn't too sure about it, I felt super nervous, but I am so glad I bit the bullet and went! I've been to 3 of their socials now and have made some of the best friends! There are some incredible people that regularly attend and also lots of new faces, every time. I've booked on to the next two summer socials, and I can't wait for them, always such a great night. The hosts are wonderful, too! Even though I've relocated and now live in Buckingham, I still keep coming back up for the events. Can't recommend highly enough. If you're considering it, just do it. Of you're not considering it...then you should be haha"
And you keep coming back |
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For swingers ones, I've only been to the MLS and the Manchester Social. I love them. It can be scary at first but once you've been a few times you know a few people and that makes it easier to meet more people the next time. I also loved Spurs' pre social. The ice breaker was a great way to get us all chatting. |
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
The MLS on Saturday will be my first ever social. I’m nervous but not in a bad way, I think it will be fun and I know I’ll enjoy meeting people with whom I have a laugh in the forum.
I’m nervous about being around so many people because I'm not good in big crowds, but it’s something I’ve wanted to make myself do for ages.
Fab is a largely social club for me these days, but if I meet someone I like who likes me as well….. |
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So, a serious answer about socials, been to a few n9w Lichvegas and Up The brum. They have opened up a whole new side to fab for me, as well as introducing me to clubs going with UTB at the irganised club night the night before the social, as post social with LV.
Would this ever have happened I doubt it..
They've allowed me to connect with people, across the board who odds are I would never have connected with.
Tbf I do better in person...as I'm aware I more that likely cum across as a complete cunt on the forums. In person this negates that, as intonation is present, so people see that I'm not such a cunt....hey ho, look forward to seeing thise I've made friends with and making new friends
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"We've been to a few now, Manchester and Leeds I enjoy the Leeds one, Manchester was our 1st though so was a little nervous.
Mrs
I was at the Manchester one in April. I was also completely new. It kicked off my whole swinging journey. I didn't speak to as many people as I wish I had though. Next one I will. I am going to the other Manchester one this weekend too. I will also look up Leeds thank you!
We've booked the Leeds Gothic theme one in Oct I can't wait, I'm gutted we can't make Woody's Manchester social.
Have a great time.
Mrs x"
Thank you! I am going to go look up this Leeds gothic one. That sounds fascinating. |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
The socials I’ve been to range from up north in Newcastle to down south at Heathrow. I’ve travelled a lot of the country to attend socials. My favourite will always be the Manchester one and I always make a weekend of it as I love Spurs pre social on the Friday.
Socials coming up in the next few months are York, Central North London and Manchester |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being "
You were the first person I properly spoke to at my first ever social. And you have been at every social I have ever been to. Which admittedly is only two but still. Thank you JoeBeans you totally made me feel welcome. |
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We attended one and wasn’t sure it was our thing or not but we are going to try again as some friends who organise lichvegas social has convinced us to give it another go so we will be at the next one x |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I really enjoyed the Leeds social too apart from the unexpected fab/vanilla life intersection
J
Oh no. Did you get the life cross over you never wanted?
Yup, and not just someone we know vaguely... No, it's friends we've known for over 14 years. Who turn out to have a swinging podcast with thousands of listeners. The whole thing was surreal! I can message you the link to the episode they recorded about it as it was as much a shock for them as us!
J"
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Oh yes please that sounds insane! My DMs are open! |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I've been to lots, most were ok, some were dreadful but they meant i could be with my other half, i wasn't there to meet other people.
The last one i went to was a cake social and it was great
I am sorry. A cake social. Swingers. And. Cake? Tell me more.
It was great, it was organised by the very lovely peacecore, he also made most of the cakes, 2 other guys also bought cakes with them. It was aimed at the mids chatroom crowd and was held in club amigos.
A wonderful afternoon "
That really does sound amazing. If I ever come I will make some scottish tablet. It dissolves beautifully on the tongue. |
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
We’ve been to many over the years and largely enjoyed them.
Our favourites were the old mls ones by miss red and sexy brunette, good times, great memories |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd love to go to one, but the thought sends my anxiety off the scale
I don't have social anxiety as such, it is more a 'fear' of being in crowded spaces
I become overwhelmed very quickly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being
Wait, that's you acting normal!? "
Hey! ...Yeah |
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We’ve been to quite a few, on here and another site.
Manchester, Birmingham, Leeds, Liverpool, Newcastle, Lincoln, Nottingham.
The old MLS ones were the best but heard great things about Up The Brum - want to attend that one this year.
They are a fantastic way to meet new people and be surprised by what people actually look like. We’ve made quite a few connections from them.
K |
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"I've been to two and very clique.
Try Up the brum very friendly and welcoming in my experience
Absolutely this!"
That reminds me - The Clique have several outstanding socials organised. All very hush hush and exclusive. If you’re thinking “I wonder if I’ll get an invite?”, you already know the answer.
PS The Clique do not exist and they are not having socials. Because they can’t. Because they don’t exist. |
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"I've been to two and very clique.
Try Up the brum very friendly and welcoming in my experience
Absolutely this!
That reminds me - The Clique have several outstanding socials organised. All very hush hush and exclusive. If you’re thinking “I wonder if I’ll get an invite?”, you already know the answer.
PS The Clique do not exist and they are not having socials. Because they can’t. Because they don’t exist."
Hush now |
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"I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being
Wait, that's you acting normal!?
Hey! ...Yeah "
I'm only teasing. It's always a pleasure |
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Socials are a really important and transformative part of the swinging experience. If you haven't been to one you really need to.
That said, despite the real efforts by the organisers, I have found several quite frustrating. The bigger socials are just too busy. I have gone with the intention of saying hello to specific people and just cannot find them.
The second frustration is the noise. Socials tend to be held in pubs with background music / TVs. A misspent youth means my hearing is shot and the background noise drowns out the conversation.
I would love a smaller social somewhere quiet, where you could really talk to people. A sapio-social! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been to lots, most were ok, some were dreadful but they meant i could be with my other half, i wasn't there to meet other people.
The last one i went to was a cake social and it was great
I am sorry. A cake social. Swingers. And. Cake? Tell me more.
It was great, it was organised by the very lovely peacecore, he also made most of the cakes, 2 other guys also bought cakes with them. It was aimed at the mids chatroom crowd and was held in club amigos.
A wonderful afternoon
That really does sound amazing. If I ever come I will make some scottish tablet. It dissolves beautifully on the tongue. "
Perfect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being
You were the first person I properly spoke to at my first ever social. And you have been at every social I have ever been to. Which admittedly is only two but still. Thank you JoeBeans you totally made me feel welcome. "
Awww you're more than welcome. I'm glad I could help at least one new person feel welcome and you definitely couldn't tell it was your first social! |
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over a year ago
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"I love group socials (most of my verifications ar from there), it was daunting as first but I love how you can approach women and couples and just have chat with them where they don't think you have an ulterior motives because you're a single guy.
Also, because I know nothing is going to happen, I just end up feelinmore confident in talking to people and just acting like a normal human being
Wait, that's you acting normal!?
Hey! ...Yeah
I'm only teasing. It's always a pleasure "
Oh don't worry, I know! The teasing part, not the pleasure |
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
We went to a Dare2bedifferent event in Leeds. Really good, well organised. The hostess was very friendly, professional and hands on with the events. The attendees were a classy bunch too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
Been to a few BDSM socials / munches
Never been to a swing social. But looking forward to my first on Saturday for the MLS one |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
Thank you so much for every one that commented. They have given me some great ideas.
Sorry I haven't managed to reply to all the comments so far.
I have only been to two socials and going to one on Saturday but I highly recommend them for breaking into the scene a bit more. I hope to go to more.
Please keep commenting on the group socials you love and why and happy fabbing for the rest of the night. |
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Forgot to mention we also used to help organise a swingers camping social/swing weekend too, for about 8 years, that was awesome, had people from all over the country attend, I suppose we usually got around 120 people. |
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We enjoy a social and have been to Devon and Bristol socials... we love the atmosphere and especially the socials held in clubs where there's the opportunity to carry on the party
Met someg great friends through socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haven't had chance to read but I attended my first social alone and it was one of the best experiences I've had. So many friendly people who just made me feel so welcome. I'd recommend them to anyone. |
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Another hell yeah from us! We’ve been to 4 different group socials and had brilliant nights at every one of them.
We’re regulars at Up the Brum and Lichvegas and have met some wonderful people whom we have gone on to make friends with, and have fun with (vanilla fun AND the naughty sort!).
If you enjoy meeting new people, love talking about s*x (I mouthed that like Miranda), and get a thrill from flirting outrageously, then I’d recommend to anybody!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d love to go to one, but don’t think I meet their requirements to attend
Message and see, if your never ask the question the answer will always be no....if they have me you'll be sweet lol "
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"Forgot to mention we also used to help organise a swingers camping social/swing weekend too, for about 8 years, that was awesome, had people from all over the country attend, I suppose we usually got around 120 people. "
Was that Swingfest? that's on the list for us to do |
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"Forgot to mention we also used to help organise a swingers camping social/swing weekend too, for about 8 years, that was awesome, had people from all over the country attend, I suppose we usually got around 120 people.
Was that Swingfest? that's on the list for us to do "
No, ours was smaller and a lot less commercial...and a whole lot cheaper lol. |
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"Forgot to mention we also used to help organise a swingers camping social/swing weekend too, for about 8 years, that was awesome, had people from all over the country attend, I suppose we usually got around 120 people.
Was that Swingfest? that's on the list for us to do
No, ours was smaller and a lot less commercial...and a whole lot cheaper lol. "
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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago
Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston |
We’ve both been to a fair few. Mine have ranged from London to Wales. I used to organise one too with a fem friend a few years ago. I liked the Newport one particularly but not been for a long while. Want to try the new filth club social in Swansea.
They’re a great way to break the ice and meet lots of new people.
Red |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to a few of the London socials that Spurs runs, always n excellent evening with a good mix of people.
Also the Northanpton ones, those aren't bad either! |
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over a year ago
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"I've been to a few of the London socials that Spurs runs, always n excellent evening with a good mix of people.
Also the Northanpton ones, those aren't bad either!
Aren't bad haha "
Is it near any clubs? Asking for the lurkers |
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Been to quite a few now, picking a favorite is hard, as ive had a great time at all of them, but if pressed it's either my 1st STP or 1st MLS. Met some wonderful people at both who have become longtime friends.
The night I did both MLS and Heathrow was brilliant in a completely bonkers way as well.
Northampton is next one I need to go to that I haven't attended before. |
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over a year ago
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"I've been to a few of the London socials that Spurs runs, always n excellent evening with a good mix of people.
Also the Northanpton ones, those aren't bad either!
Aren't bad haha "
Be missing me this time which is why I said that ha ha |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've been to a few. They have been okay. Some better than others. Had a lot of agro at one from a guy in a couple who didn't understand the word no. But to be fair the organiser when I told them after was very good about it.
Others I have been to have been good enough nights with good craic and meeting and chatting to people I person that I knew from being on here. And then again others have been very non inclusive and it was very hard to get chatting to people there. And while it doesn't help that I'm quite shy you get the vibe when people are in their own circles and don't want to chat to anyone outside of those.
I honestly am not overly bothered about going to them anymore and I can see why people find they aren't for them despite being told on here that it's the way to get a foot in the door of fab and meets. |
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"I’d love to go to one, but don’t think I meet their requirements to attend
Are you a verified profile?
Then you meet the requirements. Crack on"
Certainly am on both fronts. Let’s see what happens! |
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"I've been to a few of the London socials that Spurs runs, always n excellent evening with a good mix of people.
Also the Northanpton ones, those aren't bad either!
Aren't bad haha
Be missing me this time which is why I said that ha ha "
Yes unacceptable  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"The Northampton ones quite good I hear 
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I heard that too. A little bird told me.
(Not Littlebird. Someone else.)
What have I done now?
For once - nothing.
Now there’s a first "
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I have been to a couple of group swingers socials. They just seem like a great way to meet likeminded people.
Do others like going to them too? Why? Which has been your favourite?"
Favourite ever?
The one we organised at Xtasia back in 2014 (I think - it's been a while! ).
We'd love to go to the UTB one but always clashes with work, would like to get up to the Manchester one but it's too far away and we'd gladly go to the Bristol one but they don't let single guys in, so much as it would be great chatting to local couples they're not our current target audience.
But yep - group socials are great fun, as are any social meet. It doesn't have to be the usual drink/coffee chat in a bar either. We had a great impromptu social today just walking dogs.
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I've been to a few, met some of the lovely people in this thread at the last Manchester one. At the moment I regularly attend hampshire's most wanted once a month and the London Surrey social at abfabs. |
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"Gotta love a organised socials, had lots of fun met some great people. They open up a side of fab to me as a single male that I'd normally not get to experience if I didn't go to socials."
Same here |
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