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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Words hurt as much as a punch
Rumors are, quite simply a form of bullying thats sometimes referred to as relational aggression. When a person or a group makes up a rumor about someone or decides to spread nasty gossip, its usually to hurt someone, break up a friendship, or make someone less popular. Its the same thing as teasing, only its done behind some-one's back instead of to his or her face. I have had some of this over the years .. Never sure if to say nothing or have it out with people . ? What have you done over the years when you have had this ... said nothing or sorted it. ???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are currently getting this in our road, its where an old busy body wants to know everyones business and rule the road. They tend to make bullets for others to fire so never get caught during the troubles which is mainly when they can get out and about. If its a curtain twitcher just wave to them when they twitch. Otherwise totally ignore, it reduces the circle they can stir their poison in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe many forms of malicious _umour-mongering and verbal bullying are vile tactics often adopted by insecure people to deflect attention away from their own inadequacies ….!.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've learn a trick over the years and its served me well. The trick is, never talk about anyone. If someone starts talking about someone, I'll change the subject or just smile. I live my life by it. Its a powerful tool. I teach my kids it also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Words hurt as much as a punch
Rumors are, quite simply a form of bullying thats sometimes referred to as relational aggression. When a person or a group makes up a rumor about someone or decides to spread nasty gossip, its usually to hurt someone, break up a friendship, or make someone less popular. Its the same thing as teasing, only its done behind some-one's back instead of to his or her face. I have had some of this over the years .. Never sure if to say nothing or have it out with people . ? What have you done over the years when you have had this ... said nothing or sorted it. ???
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What ever happenend to "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?
This really is a namby-pamby world. God help us if we're ever invaded - people will just hide behind rocks blubbering in case someone says something vaguely unpleasant to them. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I've always said that whilst the gossips are talking about me at least they're leaving someone who'd give a fuck about it alone...doesn't bother me one iota what anyone says about me, the folk who know and love me (warts and all*) will ignore it
*That's not saying I've got warts, it's a figure of speech...honest!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I put up with it at school but i grew a pair in my late teens and now i dont let no fucker walk over me  "
I had similar except that it continued throughout adulthood  I do now have a lot more confidence in myself that I did have, just reluctant to lower myself to their level by retorting |
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"I believe many forms of malicious _umour-mongering and verbal bullying are vile tactics often adopted by insecure people to deflect attention away from their own inadequacies ….!. "
agree with this..
as ever oh wise one, eloquently put..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Words hurt as much as a punch
Rumors are, quite simply a form of bullying thats sometimes referred to as relational aggression. When a person or a group makes up a rumor about someone or decides to spread nasty gossip, its usually to hurt someone, break up a friendship, or make someone less popular. Its the same thing as teasing, only its done behind some-one's back instead of to his or her face. I have had some of this over the years .. Never sure if to say nothing or have it out with people . ? What have you done over the years when you have had this ... said nothing or sorted it. ???
What ever happenend to "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?
This really is a namby-pamby world. God help us if we're ever invaded - people will just hide behind rocks blubbering in case someone says something vaguely unpleasant to them."
A great saying but doesn't help when you suffer continual abuse, grinds you down until you think you are what they say |
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ive had it many times its not very nice but how do you prove whats been said aint true because half the time you cant as people will believe what they want to, just last week i was accused of doing something i didnt yes the person apologised but the damage was already done ..sometimes its best to ignore as people soon find out the truth in the end |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never react in temper and try to bide and choose my moment carefully in order to confront the _umour monger. When I do it's almost always in public, not expected and never aggressive.
One thing that is worse than being on the end of a potentially hurtful _umour is being publically 'outed' for maliciously starting one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've learn a trick over the years and its served me well. The trick is, never talk about anyone. If someone starts talking about someone, I'll change the subject or just smile. I live my life by it. Its a powerful tool. I teach my kids it also."
And your right wise words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two things;
Firstly i cant be arsed to get invloved with those who take delight in trying to dis you on here; i ignore them now and
Secondly as a ex councillor i have dealt with many cases of bullying and its one of the toughtest subjects to adress - people who bully are cowards pure and simple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always confront, the way I see it , if you walk away and say nothing, the bully sometimes won't even realise they've upset you, until you confront you won't find out if the upset was even justified.
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I cant say something to someone's face I keep my piehole shut.
I dont like gossip. Says more about my life if I tittle tattle than the people I'm gassing about, but I have done it, and have been the subject of it.
Its hurtful.  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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people buy tabloids that are based on gossip and _umour spreading, that may lead to the downfall of innocents, they know it goes on but still buys it.
big business has it, some people will knock others down rather than promote themselves based on their factual achievements.
on these forums, Prince Harry's parentage questioned.
some will allow gossip mongering depending who the victim is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gossip...I think is a good healthy social interaction, the problem comes when you...the listener, believes everything said to be an actual true account of events rather than 1 persons _iew of events! We need to make up our own minds and stop accusing others of misleading us.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Words hurt as much as a punch
Rumors are, quite simply a form of bullying thats sometimes referred to as relational aggression. When a person or a group makes up a rumor about someone or decides to spread nasty gossip, its usually to hurt someone, break up a friendship, or make someone less popular. Its the same thing as teasing, only its done behind some-one's back instead of to his or her face. I have had some of this over the years .. Never sure if to say nothing or have it out with people . ? What have you done over the years when you have had this ... said nothing or sorted it. ???
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I confront anyone who i think is doing it maliciously, if its true and they wish to gossip that's up to them, i don't really care. But i dislike people that choose to play the victim and act innocent when they are doing it for attention and are gossiping about other people also.
I never believe anyone that says they don't gossip either, as someone has said already in this thread, look at the media, people gossip all the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Words hurt as much as a punch
Rumors are, quite simply a form of bullying thats sometimes referred to as relational aggression. When a person or a group makes up a rumor about someone or decides to spread nasty gossip, its usually to hurt someone, break up a friendship, or make someone less popular. Its the same thing as teasing, only its done behind some-one's back instead of to his or her face. I have had some of this over the years .. Never sure if to say nothing or have it out with people . ? What have you done over the years when you have had this ... said nothing or sorted it. ???
What ever happenend to "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?
This really is a namby-pamby world. God help us if we're ever invaded - people will just hide behind rocks blubbering in case someone says something vaguely unpleasant to them."
I now wonder about that saying. Physical wounds usually heal, words can cut to the core and in some instances leave people mentally scarred which can cause a whole number of other issues. |
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By *orkieMan
over a year ago
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"I wish I was interesting enough to start _umours about "
So the liking for beige lederhosen, crocs n socks is a vicious _umour started by someone to discredit you then fella, and bears no semblance of truth.... it must be right I read it in the Daily Sport |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I now wonder about that saying. Physical wounds usually heal, words can cut to the core and in some instances leave people mentally scarred which can cause a whole number of other issues."
Words can't hurt anyone, any pain we feel...we do to ourselves!! We live in a world of cry babies where we want pampered 24/7.....
Time to cut the apron strings me thinks!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I now wonder about that saying. Physical wounds usually heal, words can cut to the core and in some instances leave people mentally scarred which can cause a whole number of other issues.
Words can't hurt anyone, any pain we feel...we do to ourselves!! We live in a world of cry babies where we want pampered 24/7.....
Time to cut the apron strings me thinks! "
easy said then done at times .. but yes we do it to ourselves thinking of the things that have up=set us in some way and let it get to us the hurt . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I now wonder about that saying. Physical wounds usually heal, words can cut to the core and in some instances leave people mentally scarred which can cause a whole number of other issues.
Words can't hurt anyone, any pain we feel...we do to ourselves!! We live in a world of cry babies where we want pampered 24/7.....
Time to cut the apron strings me thinks! "
Oh really? Trust me honey - no aprons string here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was just talking about this the other day at work, I think everyone has talked about/joined in a slagging off about someone, it doesnt always mean that they dont like that person it just probably means that they have just pissed you off and you need to vent. I think it becomes an issue when the slagging off goes on and on. People who know me, know that I speak my mind but also do not mean to cause upset, if someone pisses me of then I usually tell them |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"people buy tabloids that are based on gossip and _umour spreading, that may lead to the downfall of innocents, they know it goes on but still buys it.
big business has it, some people will knock others down rather than promote themselves based on their factual achievements.
on these forums, Prince Harry's parentage questioned.
some will allow gossip mongering depending who the victim is."
I am never more amazed at anything as much as the self righteous claptrap that comes out on the forums sometimes! I challenge anyone on here to confirm they have never spoken about someone else behind their back! Unfortunately, it is human nature and even those of us who think we are above it are doing it almost daily!
As a councellor, I came across many people who had always insisted that others talking about them didn't matter and they didn't care. I have never met anyone who can back that up under scrutiny in a session! We all care about what others think of us and we all have a need to belong to our social group.
I would say that all of the people I councelled were feeling out of any social grouping and that is why they came to see me! I would also hazzard a guess that most of us are here because it acts like religon does for the faithful. It is our club where we are (or at least should be) accepted for who we are.. Unfortunately....... |
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One of the biggest contributions to words, _umours and gossip..ladies and gentlemen, I give you....Facebook!
Cause no end of ill feeling and problems where I work..and 90% of the grievances are between women..I have seen the line 'some people think/need to' etc etc..the 'some people' bit is normally directed at one person though
I have also had people say 'the trouble is everyone sticks there nose into everyone else business here'
Easy solved..keep all your 'business' off of fucking Facebook and then it wont happen!..simples.
If you haven't got the balls to say something to someones face..then don't say it at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Words hurt as much as a punch
Rumors are, quite simply a form of bullying thats sometimes referred to as relational aggression. When a person or a group makes up a rumor about someone or decides to spread nasty gossip, its usually to hurt someone, break up a friendship, or make someone less popular. Its the same thing as teasing, only its done behind some-one's back instead of to his or her face. I have had some of this over the years .. Never sure if to say nothing or have it out with people . ? What have you done over the years when you have had this ... said nothing or sorted it. ???
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Very informative and concise, I hope you will learn from your past transgressions and not do it again. |
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