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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the  emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts."
I generally think that they can't be arsed to remember my name...
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over a year ago
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts."
Things like babe used to annoy me, but to be honest if that’s part of a person’s personality and that’s the way they speak then I’m ok with it. Providing they are not being insulting it’s ok. Sometimes people who use these terms are the most sincere people I met. |
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts."
Ehmm it totally pisses me off. I think the same as you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neither of us like pet names at the best of times but during a debate that would seriously get our backs up! The thumbs up probably isn’t meant like that, some people do it as a soft ending to a statement. Still wouldn’t be overly impressed after the pet name though!  |
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts.
Things like babe used to annoy me, but to be honest if that’s part of a person’s personality and that’s the way they speak then I’m ok with it. Providing they are not being insulting it’s ok. Sometimes people who use these terms are the most sincere people I met. "
Maybe I should've written that better.
I can handle 'c'mon pal, it's just my opinion' but struggle with 'that's my opinion, pal'
Those are both the same statement, but for me one written with much more condescension than the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you're debating with someone, everything they say can be misinterpreted as bad tone especially over text. If someone is being condescending there's no hidden agenda, it's pretty blatant. |
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By *ixenitedWoman
over a year ago
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I dont mind being called these pet names and I often call people hun out of affection, if I like them, have a freindly and or physical relationship with them not because I can't remember their name lol |
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I don't know if it is condescending all the time. I think sometimes what we write on line can read quite harshly, and I think some (not all) try and make it obvious that they're not being harsh and then use those kind of terms or an emoji. |
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It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess". |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess"."
What's Wench stand for then?  |
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"It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess".
What's Wench stand for then? "
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You're my favourite wench, Bøø.   |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
I am ambivalent to the odd babe/hun etc and indeed regularly find myself calling people "my lovely" which irritates me! What I hate is the constant use at the start or end of every sentance  |
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"It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess".
What's Wench stand for then? "
Isn't that your middle name |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess".
What's Wench stand for then?
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You're my favourite wench, Bøø. "
I knew it .....  |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess".
What's Wench stand for then?
Isn't that your middle name "
Depends on which name I'm using that day! |
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difficult one for me,
I was actually raised to call people m'lovey, sweetie, darling... all the terms of endearment that were expressed back in the day
now I find it distressing to hear people hate it so much... I think its just being nice, and people think now it's being out of order, wow, how times have changed. I think it's a shame. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts."
I never use any of them words so yes I'd agree  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"It's often difficult to gauge how people will react. "Babe", "Hun" and so forth can indeed be misinterpreted.
My approach on here is: if I like a woman I'll address her as "Ladyship", if I'm attracted to her then it's "Marchioness" and if I have carnal designs on her then it's "Duchess".
What's Wench stand for then? "
originally it was for a bar wench but eventually it was used for a lady of the night |
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts.
Things like babe used to annoy me, but to be honest if that’s part of a person’s personality and that’s the way they speak then I’m ok with it. Providing they are not being insulting it’s ok. Sometimes people who use these terms are the most sincere people I met.
Maybe I should've written that better.
I can handle 'c'mon pal, it's just my opinion' but struggle with 'that's my opinion, pal'
Those are both the same statement, but for me one written with much more condescension than the other."
I would feel exactly the same, with the only possible alternative explanation (in my mind) being they're somewhat uneducated. For the purposes of an online debate though I make a big effort not to respond to how a person makes me feel and instead stick to what they have said. If they are being condescending then reacting to that gives them the exact effect they're after. If they're not and I react as though they are, then I lose any chance I had of getting them to see my point of view.
Similarly with my alternative explanation that it is language used by a less educated person, that is me being condescending to them - not to mention judgemental - and again I make an effort not to put that across in a response. Being uneducated isn't the same as being stupid and it certainly doesn't mean a person's viewpoint can be dismissed. Once again, answering in a way that exposes my emotional response to their word choice would simply alienate them.
Most people are unable to debate without becoming emotionally involved, responding to this simply escalates any animosity. There are a few on these fora that I have debated with over the years who have on the whole avoided this style and I have far more respect for them than I do for many others whose opinions and style I often agree with and share but who, when challenged, resort to emotional language. |
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts."
I gave up trying to work out how other people's minds work on fab a long time ago |
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"What do you think to someone calling you these pet names during debate?
And also the emoji at the end of their own statements?
I see them as condescension but would like others thoughts.
Things like babe used to annoy me, but to be honest if that’s part of a person’s personality and that’s the way they speak then I’m ok with it. Providing they are not being insulting it’s ok. Sometimes people who use these terms are the most sincere people I met.
Maybe I should've written that better.
I can handle 'c'mon pal, it's just my opinion' but struggle with 'that's my opinion, pal'
Those are both the same statement, but for me one written with much more condescension than the other.
I would feel exactly the same, with the only possible alternative explanation (in my mind) being they're somewhat uneducated. For the purposes of an online debate though I make a big effort not to respond to how a person makes me feel and instead stick to what they have said. If they are being condescending then reacting to that gives them the exact effect they're after. If they're not and I react as though they are, then I lose any chance I had of getting them to see my point of view.
Similarly with my alternative explanation that it is language used by a less educated person, that is me being condescending to them - not to mention judgemental - and again I make an effort not to put that across in a response. Being uneducated isn't the same as being stupid and it certainly doesn't mean a person's viewpoint can be dismissed. Once again, answering in a way that exposes my emotional response to their word choice would simply alienate them.
Most people are unable to debate without becoming emotionally involved, responding to this simply escalates any animosity. There are a few on these fora that I have debated with over the years who have on the whole avoided this style and I have far more respect for them than I do for many others whose opinions and style I often agree with and share but who, when challenged, resort to emotional language."
Massive response, thank you. Nice to see a couple of different viewpoints along with explanations for them. |
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"So chavvy and made worse when they put little thumbs up or rainbow emoji's after every comment they write.
People have a name usually, so use it.
You call me eejit mostly "
She's still at the being polite stage with you .. It gets worse  |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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"So chavvy and made worse when they put little thumbs up or rainbow emoji's after every comment they write.
People have a name usually, so use it.
You call me eejit mostly
She's still at the being polite stage with you .. It gets worse "
It definitely does once I've got them naked |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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"So chavvy and made worse when they put little thumbs up or rainbow emoji's after every comment they write.
People have a name usually, so use it.
You call me eejit mostly "
Nothing wrong with that when I'm trying to get in your pants... |
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"So chavvy and made worse when they put little thumbs up or rainbow emoji's after every comment they write.
People have a name usually, so use it.
You call me eejit mostly
She's still at the being polite stage with you .. It gets worse
It definitely does once I've got them naked "
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