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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s been a while. Today I’m really interested in the last time you really fell in love. How did you know you loved them? How did it work out? Do you still love them?
If you don’t mind being vulnerable- please share 
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I've never fallen out of love.
I've realised there's no future, deep incompatibilities, or just that it's the wrong time for things to be more than what they are. But that has never meant I've stopped loving someone. Just that it has to be compartmentalised so we can both move forward and live fulfilling lives |
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October 2001, when we kissed, we were together every day since that day till the day she died July 2019. In a way I still love her yeah, probably always will.
She kind of looked a bit like Lauryn Hill.
Everything is everything |
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"When I held my daughter fo the first time, that feeling of a true unbreakable bound and the knowledge that would gladly give my own life for hers."
Yeah... Little crotch goblins got me like that too. 
I love them to bits, but I'll be fucked if I am doing that again. |
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17 years ago. It was a slow burner. We had been friends for a year gradually getting closer and closer.
One day he was in my house and we just looked at each other and knew we had fallen in love. No big fireworks just a contented feeling.
I fell more and more in love with him each day.
We spent 16 blissful years together until he died October 17th last year.
I will never stop loving him |
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Fell hard in 2018, took 2 years of pain, abuse and tantrums to finally come out the other side and realise I had fallen for a clinical grade narcissist.
Been picking myself up ever since, the one good thing was how much it taught me about what I do and don't want. |
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"When I held my daughter fo the first time, that feeling of a true unbreakable bound and the knowledge that would gladly give my own life for hers."
This for me too but with all 3 of my kids. Never really felt that for a man. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"October 2001, when we kissed, we were together every day since that day till the day she died July 2019. In a way I still love her yeah, probably always will.
She kind of looked a bit like Lauryn Hill.
Everything is everything "
Oh this is so beautiful
I’m so sorry to hear but she sounds amazing.
Love that song too |
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I don't actually know would be my actual answer OP. The last person I fell in love with was my other half, and that kind of snuck up on me. I was determined not to fall in love, ever again, bloody sneaky other half obviously had other ideas. But I think that's me in general, I'm a bit slow on the uptake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was May 1996.
Oh yeah - she was taking me over.
And oh yeah - it was the start of the summer.
Blooming love that song! Similar taste in the music of my youth strikes again  "
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"It was May 1996.
Oh yeah - she was taking me over.
And oh yeah - it was the start of the summer.
Blooming love that song! Similar taste in the music of my youth strikes again
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My boobs no longer fit in summer blouses these days though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was May 1996.
Oh yeah - she was taking me over.
And oh yeah - it was the start of the summer.
Blooming love that song! Similar taste in the music of my youth strikes again
My boobs no longer fit in summer blouses these days though "
Neither do mine  |
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"I don't actually know would be my actual answer OP. The last person I fell in love with was my other half, and that kind of snuck up on me. I was determined not to fall in love, ever again, bloody sneaky other half obviously had other ideas. But I think that's me in general, I'm a bit slow on the uptake. "
This was totally me too! Planned to be a single pringle and no relationships ever again and then he came along and blew that out of the water
Tinder |
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Not long after meeting my ex husband.
It was an intoxicating sense of connection, to take care of one another, to grow together. As interdependent equals.
It grew uneven, it began to suffocate me, and I had to destroy it to survive.
It's not a feeling I can afford, not for him, not for anyone.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Many times I've felt like I'm in love, I've had all the love vibes and hints etc the stereotypical romantic love traits. Were they actual love? Was it love on an individual basis, being a different feeling but love all the same? I have no idea!
I have no idea if I've fallen out of love in that case.
There is one, one single individual that I know for fact I fell in love with. I am still in love with. I highly doubt I will fall out of love with. She will forever hold a place in my heart, that I tried to let go and never could. |
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"I don't actually know would be my actual answer OP. The last person I fell in love with was my other half, and that kind of snuck up on me. I was determined not to fall in love, ever again, bloody sneaky other half obviously had other ideas. But I think that's me in general, I'm a bit slow on the uptake.
This was totally me too! Planned to be a single pringle and no relationships ever again and then he came along and blew that out of the water
Tinder "
Exactly, not sure how he managed it, some kind of Voodoo magic or something |
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"October 2001, when we kissed, we were together every day since that day till the day she died July 2019. In a way I still love her yeah, probably always will.
She kind of looked a bit like Lauryn Hill.
Everything is everything
Oh this is so beautiful
I’m so sorry to hear but she sounds amazing.
Love that song too"
She was, thank you. |
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"I don't actually know would be my actual answer OP. The last person I fell in love with was my other half, and that kind of snuck up on me. I was determined not to fall in love, ever again, bloody sneaky other half obviously had other ideas. But I think that's me in general, I'm a bit slow on the uptake.
This was totally me too! Planned to be a single pringle and no relationships ever again and then he came along and blew that out of the water
Tinder
Exactly, not sure how he managed it, some kind of Voodoo magic or something "
I blame Tinder for it all 
It’s all her fault for being so bloody hot and amazing
Marc |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"When I held my daughter fo the first time, that feeling of a true unbreakable bound and the knowledge that would gladly give my own life for hers.
Yeah... Little crotch goblins got me like that too.
I love them to bits, but I'll be fucked if I am doing that again."
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
July 2004. We 'met' through online dating a month or so before but and had a date at the start of July. We had a few hiccoughs along the way but were together for 18 years until she died last May. Loved her from the start.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmmm… how did it start? February 1987, and happened both quickly and unexpectedly. Captivated from first sight yet thought her intentions were plutonic. But after a lunch date, before we parted, she kissed me in a way that was anything but! From then until her death we were in love, and that’s hard to let go, and has pretty much sunk every relationship since. So how did it end? Badly… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"October 2001, when we kissed, we were together every day since that day till the day she died July 2019. In a way I still love her yeah, probably always will.
She kind of looked a bit like Lauryn Hill.
Everything is everything "
Aww man that is so nice and so sad at the same time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I fall in love easily. Hard. And fast. It scares me a lot sometimes and think I have learned more recently I need to be more guarded maybe? Or at least protect my heart more. Most recently I fell in love with one of my partners. And it’s going well.
I remember falling in love with my nestting partner. We were friends first too. And we’re still here 8 years and a baby later. And hopefully it never ends.
I just love love |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hope people don’t give up on love. Even when it doesn’t work out.
I think sometimes love doesn't love some of us back. And that's ok."
Stop  that’s not ok |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hope people don’t give up on love. Even when it doesn’t work out.
I think sometimes love doesn't love some of us back. And that's ok.
Stop that’s not ok"
Loving is ok. Even if unrequited I’m glad I loved some then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hope people don’t give up on love. Even when it doesn’t work out.
I think sometimes love doesn't love some of us back. And that's ok.
Stop that’s not ok
Respect my experience Steve "
Fine fine fine
I’ll love you Swing though if you want |
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"I hope people don’t give up on love. Even when it doesn’t work out.
I think sometimes love doesn't love some of us back. And that's ok.
Stop that’s not ok
Respect my experience Steve
Fine fine fine
I’ll love you Swing though if you want"
I appreciate the sentiment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"October 2001, met my future husband. I don’t know how I knew, I just knew. He made me feel safe. I’ll always love him. He died in 2013."
May I just say... I love that's how you knew. The safety nest.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since we were 14
And 15.
It was kind of instant.
3 kids and 9 grandkids later,we are still in love with each other than we ever were.
Soul mates so to say.
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November 2010. We had been together 2 months.
I had been having a hard time at home and had a big cry in his arms while he just held me and played with my hair.
I fell asleep like that and he let me. When I woke and looked up at him ,his long eyelashes,the little scar on his eyelid, it hit me that I had fallen madly in love with him.
He made me feel like all my problems and anxieties just melted away in his presence. Nothing could harm me as long as I was with him. Just safe.
I now call him my husband
Em x |
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Met in around 2000 he was killed in 2007.still miss him though found love again last year .
great guy who knows i still miss the other.
All he said to me was "your heart is big enough to have room for both of us"
now i am about to cry so out of here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i fell in love with my twin flame.
we met one night, and we rarely left eachother's sides for nearly four and a half years after that.
i never have, and never will, love someone as much or as all-encompassing as i love this man.
it's the kind of love that consumes you, that makes it so you can't think straight, that transcends time and space and all lifetimes.
but we both fucked things up. little things, big things, silly things, petty things.
we tried, he tried, i tried.
i guess that's the problem with twin flames, isn't it.
but i just couldn't do it anymore.
my brain told me to run, and so i did.
i miss him, while putting a smile on and pretending im fine.
in another lifetime. Px  |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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Once upon a time i went out west to meet a girl id been chatting to for a while we met up in a carpark before either of us had the urge to speak i just walked over and kissed her for what felt like an age something was very different about that kiss it was like lightning passing thru my body i didnt know what to make of it i just remember after that night i kept missing my junction cos i couldnt stop thinking of her the way she looked the way she smelled sounded over the next few weeks we grew closer and i started to realise this girl is different she was lightning in a bottle and i loved her she was the only person id ever met who made me feel real grown up emotions for but i now know such things are never meant to last lockdown made sure of that my biggest regret was how i acted once i realised i was loosing her i wasnt in a good place having a few deaths around the same time i sank under the weight of it all feeling everyone keeps abandoning me either by diing or by walking away i let the fear control me and became lost it took me years to realise that sometimes you have to lose your dreams and make do with what things you have so i went back to what was always there for me my sport and im doing very well
Do i love her yes i always will thats who i am will i abandon her back no but i dont expect her to walk back into my life anyway iv been forgotten and no longer exist im sure |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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Back in 2006 when met the ex, I resisted so hard at first was months after she first said she loved me before she finally got me hooked she had fallen pregnant and that seemed to be the final thing that broke down that last wall and I fell so fucking hard for her.
Think once she knew she had me she started as we then spent most of the pregnancy appart it was one of the most mentally torturous period of my life. Even after we got back together and baby was born she treat me like absolute shit was sick of my life but stuck it out. Eventually she calmed down and things got better when she fell pregnant with our daughter things seemed perfect and we’re for a while.
Fast forward to 2013 we moved to a bigger house so our daughter could finally have her own room things seemed perfect but come the Christmas period things changed it was pretty obvious she was involved with someone else, she kept the act up till Christmas Day the Boxing Day it was like a switch was flipped she turned so nasty and cold it lasted till a few days into January before me and the kids ended up going back to my parents house as she needed to “clear her head” in reality the day after I left she started having this other bloke around I never found out till about 6 weeks later when after 6 weeks of barely seeing the kids she had them one night took them to a strange house with a strange bloke and I wasn’t allowed to even know the address where my kids were stopping.
Literally a few days later she decided she had made a big mistake and asked me to get back together at first I was “like fuck” but the temptation of being a family again and the fact I still did love her I agreed. I realised early one it was a mistake she made it clear after I went back that I was only there for the kids and rubbed in what she did on multiple occasions. I felt terrible at that time like I had to walk with my head to the ground in disgrace as everyone knew what had went on.
I bought the house I live in now for us after she chose it spend a year and a half getting it ready to move in we had a great 6 years together here but ultimately she changed again and it led to her moving out late 2021.
I don’t love her anymore as realised there’s nothing on her side, when I nearly died from a heart attack in June 2022 and spent 2 weeks in hospital she didn’t even send a text asking how was, I had messages from past customers, lads from the builders merchants even so one I spoke to on here was kind enough to message and she couldn’t after 15 years it kind of opened my eyes a bit. i do miss my old life greatly though hope someday can have similar with a new partner |
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Romantic love - t'was and still is Mr KC. I remember the first time I told him I loved him, it was only a few months after we started dating. I was 18, he was 17. And here we are, after just over 19yrs together and still absolutely adore each other to bits. He's the only person who knows me, and I'm the only person who knows him.
Other types of love - the last time would have been the instant our daughter was born and she found my boob immediately and attached herself. That love will never go. |
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