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Do you need to be in control?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?
Lol no I don't no switch here ."
I don't necessarily mean sexually
I just mean in everyday life |
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?"
Yes, yes and yes.
I'm better at going with the flow than I used to be. The old instincts flare up at times of stress, though.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x |
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?"
Yes, if I stopped everything would fall apart.
Yes, I wish I didn't have to be in charge, but historically that doesn't solve anything! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?
Yes, yes and yes.
I'm better at going with the flow than I used to be. The old instincts flare up at times of stress, though.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x"
Dreadful for it
I think it's years of management roles that now pervade my sub concious
I have managed a transition work wise, but it seems harder to shake domestically |
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It depends on the situation.
Sometimes I feel comfortable with those around me and trust them to do the job correctly or work as part of a team.
Other times when they demonstrate a complete inability to tie their own shoelaces without instruction I know I need to be in control.
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?
Yes, yes and yes.
I'm better at going with the flow than I used to be. The old instincts flare up at times of stress, though.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x
Dreadful for it
I think it's years of management roles that now pervade my sub concious
I have managed a transition work wise, but it seems harder to shake domestically"
I've always been a hands on manager which those above me have struggled to understand.
It hasn't always been that way because I don't trust my staff to do it themselves but is often down to staffing levels.
I've been told in the past I needed to delegate more which I have no problem doing except when there aren't enough staff to carry out the work and I have to fill the gaps.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?
Yes, yes and yes.
I'm better at going with the flow than I used to be. The old instincts flare up at times of stress, though.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x
Dreadful for it
I think it's years of management roles that now pervade my sub concious
I have managed a transition work wise, but it seems harder to shake domestically
I've always been a hands on manager which those above me have struggled to understand.
It hasn't always been that way because I don't trust my staff to do it themselves but is often down to staffing levels.
I've been told in the past I needed to delegate more which I have no problem doing except when there aren't enough staff to carry out the work and I have to fill the gaps.
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I think work wise we sound very similar, but I took the decision 3-4 years back to step off the pedal and shed professional responsibility
I now work for a bigger company and for people with less experience and competence than me
It is hard work some days but, by far and large, I have managed to not manage them (at least not obviously  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends in which sense. I’m a Senior Manager, but very hands on, I don’t believe in asking someone to do something I don’t do myself (others may not agree). I like to see what’s happening, I like to know what my team are dealing with and controlling it from “the floor” so to speak.
In the bedroom, T has full control, to an extent, but obviously knows my limits well.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And if so...
Do you ever wish you weren't?
Do you find it tiring / tiresome?
Do you wish you could just let go?"
When I’m driving at maximum motorway speeds ( 70 mph honestly) , it’s good to think I’m in complete control. |
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For a long time my core mantra has been "You can't stop what's coming" long before that movie stole it, I still beat myself up, more for what I didn't do, or should have done, but general nah I'm just floating along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mostly I don't have a choice and haven't for a long time. If I stop, it all falls apart. Is it tiring? Yes, it's exhausting. I have a safety net now that I wasn't used to having, it took me a long time to get used to that and use it. Timed correctly, I can now stop and hand over control. Sometimes that's sexually, other times that is daily life. We all need to rest every now and then.
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