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To Women: Do you Cum/Orgasm everytime during Sex?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Stupid question, but i’m curious.
I’ve heard on social media etc. that sometimes (if not most of the time) the girl doesn’t get to climax.
Is this actually the case? If so, are you content with the play that you’re having? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Curious in what way?"
As in if the women isn’t orgasming or reaching climax (whatever it may be) is it still enjoyable?
I’m looking through this with the lens of a guy, so that’s sorta why i’m asking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I don’t. But during my sexual exploration I have learned to take responsibility for my own orgasms, and that if everyone focused on the journey, rather than the destination, they might actually have a great (or even better) time  |
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Definitely not. With my current partner I would say I do 99% of the time. Not always from penetrative sex though.
Sex with a new person I'm unlikely to. In general I would say it's a 50/50 thing.
I can still enjoy sex without the orgasm but if I have sex with a person a number of times and despite all the discussion and feedback it's not even close to happening, I get a bit fed up. Especially if they don't really seem to care. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No, I don’t. But during my sexual exploration I have learned to take responsibility for my own orgasms, and that if everyone focused on the journey, rather than the destination, they might actually have a great (or even better) time "
I think that's a very good way of looking at it. I think in men’s minds generally, they tend to blame themselves if they don’t perform and have the women reach that point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely not. With my current partner I would say I do 99% of the time. Not always from penetrative sex though.
Sex with a new person I'm unlikely to. In general I would say it's a 50/50 thing.
I can still enjoy sex without the orgasm but if I have sex with a person a number of times and despite all the discussion and feedback it's not even close to happening, I get a bit fed up. Especially if they don't really seem to care. "
I see, so a strong connection with the person helps which makes sense. Feelings for a person definitely multiply the enjoyment.
That’s fair, if there’s no fun in it for you, then eventually boredom will take place |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No, I don't, so yes, it's the case.
Considering I orgasm quite easily from penetrative sex (very easily if the chemistry is right), get close to it from giving oral... yeah.
I actually don't mind that I don't always - I'm usually really enjoying whatever it is because as Red said above, it's more about journey anyway. I don't really see orgasms as being a destination to be honest.
That being said, if I never orgasmed with someone, considering how easily I do, I'd start to feel a bit meh about it all. I don't want to just please another person who has no desire in my pleasure. |
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"Definitely not. With my current partner I would say I do 99% of the time. Not always from penetrative sex though.
Sex with a new person I'm unlikely to. In general I would say it's a 50/50 thing.
I can still enjoy sex without the orgasm but if I have sex with a person a number of times and despite all the discussion and feedback it's not even close to happening, I get a bit fed up. Especially if they don't really seem to care.
I see, so a strong connection with the person helps which makes sense. Feelings for a person definitely multiply the enjoyment.
That’s fair, if there’s no fun in it for you, then eventually boredom will take place"
Partly connection, partly that he's well practiced and now knows what works for me very well.
I wouldn't say there was no enjoyment. I guess it's more that I'm only getting some of the potential enjoyment I can get and if they're frequently getting there's but not trying to give me just as good an experience, I feel a bit short change. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All women are different obviously but all women have something that makes them tick . It’s just up to us to find it  "
That’s the experience I think a lot of us men have. Figuring out what works for the women to help them reach that goal also… I mean for guys, it’s pretty simple.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a misconception that a woman has to be in a constant state of uncontrollable orgasm to enjoy sex. Sometimes the flood gates open, other times its just a drizzle but enjoying it start to finish is the main thing. Every kiss, touch, lick, fuck.. that's sex. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"All women are different obviously but all women have something that makes them tick . It’s just up to us to find it "
Wise words  ...but there is nothing wrong with a helping hand, which has to better than faking it, right?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With my husband i do more often than not. With someone new it’s rare if I orgasm the first time, It all depends on how relaxed i feel. If I’m enjoying everything else and it doesn’t happen then I don’t really mind. I can enjoy having sex without an orgasm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never used to, it was always really hard for me to truly orgasm. With T I do every time from oral and most of the time during sex, I still have days where it doesn’t for one reason or another but it’s nearly every single time I get a mind blowing orgasm now 
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
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"All women are different obviously but all women have something that makes them tick . It’s just up to us to find it
Wise words ...but there is nothing wrong with a helping hand, which has to better than faking it, right? "
Oh yeah of course anything has to be better than a woman faking it the ultimate insult haha . What’s your idea of a helping hand ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stupid question, but i’m curious.
I’ve heard on social media etc. that sometimes (if not most of the time) the girl doesn’t get to climax.
Is this actually the case? If so, are you content with the play that you’re having? "
I'm happy to play and not orgasm it depends on the situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A couple of years ago I was on medication which made it very difficult to orgasm. That didn't stop me from enjoying sex though; in fact when I learnt to relax and just enjoy the journey, as another poster said, sometimes it was even better. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"All women are different obviously but all women have something that makes them tick . It’s just up to us to find it
Wise words ...but there is nothing wrong with a helping hand, which has to better than faking it, right?
Oh yeah of course anything has to be better than a woman faking it the ultimate insult haha . What’s your idea of a helping hand ? "
Well that comes down to a woman trusting her lover as I believe all women know how to make themselves cum, it's just whether she shares that knowledge... if it's just sex, then it's just sex |
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
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"All women are different obviously but all women have something that makes them tick . It’s just up to us to find it
Wise words ...but there is nothing wrong with a helping hand, which has to better than faking it, right?
Oh yeah of course anything has to be better than a woman faking it the ultimate insult haha . What’s your idea of a helping hand ?
Well that comes down to a woman trusting her lover as I believe all women know how to make themselves cum, it's just whether she shares that knowledge... if it's just sex, then it's just sex "
Do you think I’d be right in saying the majority of women would struggle to orgasm with a man they aren’t familiar with ? So similar to just sex ? |
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"Stupid question, but i’m curious.
I’ve heard on social media etc. that sometimes (if not most of the time) the girl doesn’t get to climax.
Is this actually the case? If so, are you content with the play that you’re having? "
I do not orgasm most of the time during sex. But orgasm isn’t essential for me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope I don't. I can have amazing sex and not orgasm, I can have mediocre sex and soak the place 
Totally depends on what's going on in my life, chemistry, how relaced I am etc. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to say I make F cum everytime but the harsh reality is she makes herself come I'm just there, sometimes I give a 10/10 performance but it's still her clitoral stimulation that makes her cum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've experienced the best meets are when we simply allow the chemistry to work its wonders.
"It's like a finger pointing away to the moon. Don't concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory."
Don't think FEEL.
Enjoy the journey and you'll reach your destination.
Can be a blissful experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes - but I take my time building up to the point of meeting so usually* there would be intense vibes, teasing &/or banter, prior.
If I know I'm not in the right mood to 'let go', I wouldn't get into it. HTHs. |
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"There are other ways to make a woman orgasm 
Whats the secret sauce?"
Listen to your lady try understand what she likes. Stop think there one button fits all. I had one ex that oral did nothing straight sex missionary hit the spot as long as you played sucked nipples. Other ex that enjoyed straight sex but it would never made her come no matter how long it lasted but rub her clit and finger bum came in mins. We went swinging together no one made her come but she still love the fun she had. |
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"Never from penetration alone, no. I need clitoral stimulation. I usually get my O from oral/fingers before or after the penetration bit.
I’m the same, plus nipples. "
Yep, nipples are an essential part of the oral/finger combo too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's rare for me to orgasm, I get very close then pppffft gone!! 
Nipple play will help enormously and an emotional connection has always been the case when I have done. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"I rarely do....I know that's a me problem though and like above it's more about enjoying the actual experience than focussing on the 'end goal' "
...it's not a problem lovely, it's just the way it is ...all our bodies are different, thats the beauty of being unique   |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you think I’d be right in saying the majority of women would struggle to orgasm with a man they aren’t familiar with ? So similar to just sex ?"
Reading through the other responses on the thread it's sounding like it |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Do you think I’d be right in saying the majority of women would struggle to orgasm with a man they aren’t familiar with ? So similar to just sex ?
Reading through the other responses on the thread it's sounding like it "
So the 'vanilla' quip has been proven wrong at last |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Literally never. Only 3 guys in my whole history have managed it and No woman has ever got me there either.
But I love sex! Orgasms have never been the point of sex for me. I enjoy it for everything else. Do I wish I could cum easily and every time... yes! But I am not dissatisfied that I don't. |
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
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"Do you think I’d be right in saying the majority of women would struggle to orgasm with a man they aren’t familiar with ? So similar to just sex ?
Reading through the other responses on the thread it's sounding like it "
Yep I think we have reached the conclusion us men are useless haha |
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I always achieve orgasm with my guy.This is because I can totally be myself.I think when we meet single guys they seem to expect that woman cum like guys well I don't.My orgasm is my own no one makes me cum.The situation & the people involved certainly help.When I don't cum I can still get huge enjoyment out of the whole situation.The friendships and laughter are hugely important factors. |
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"Stupid question, but i’m curious.
I’ve heard on social media etc. that sometimes (if not most of the time) the girl doesn’t get to climax.
Is this actually the case? If so, are you content with the play that you’re having? "
All the studies show an insane majority of women don’t orgasm. There’s a clear inequity taking place.
Personally Orgasm rates vary significantly between
1. Long term or regular partner who knows your body well
2. Casual sex with clear boundary setting upfront and some connection formed via that dialogue eg insisting you receive oral too
3. Casual sex with little discussion upfront - inevitably get jack hammered by men who have watched too much porn.
I won’t do 3 anymore. It’s why I have a size restriction too. Casual sex no 3 bores me to tears these days. I need so much more.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not always.
But most of the time I do.
First times it's definitely more difficult to.
But there's definitely certain spots that when hit can be truly satisfying without an orgasm. |
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"Social media 
We’ve all been there at the beginning;-)"
No darling I was born before social media...Lol!
I learn by reading the Kama Sutra and watching instructionals. Lol! Oh and actually playing around with boyfriends, and alone and with toys.
Oh yes I can orgasm clitorally, vaginally and anally. I've only hand one man do this to me with his fingers and his thumb simultaneously and I swear I levitated off the bed.
The rest of you are not as dexterous. |
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"Stupid question, but i’m curious.
I’ve heard on social media etc. that sometimes (if not most of the time) the girl doesn’t get to climax.
Is this actually the case? If so, are you content with the play that you’re having?
All the studies show an insane majority of women don’t orgasm. There’s a clear inequity taking place.
Personally Orgasm rates vary significantly between
1. Long term or regular partner who knows your body well
2. Casual sex with clear boundary setting upfront and some connection formed via that dialogue eg insisting you receive oral too
3. Casual sex with little discussion upfront - inevitably get jack hammered by men who have watched too much porn.
I won’t do 3 anymore. It’s why I have a size restriction too. Casual sex no 3 bores me to tears these days. I need so much more.
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Anyone who tries that jackhammering will be swiftly thrown on their back with me on top to slow them down. |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t orgasm during penetration unless toys are involved for clitoral stimulation as well. I can orgasm so easily with toys, like literally within a minute with my wand or clit sucker. I would love to orgasm through penetration alone. Maybe one day I will. I can orgasm through oral sex and I can squirt through penetration, but I still do really enjoy actual penetrative sex. The times when I have cum during sex and with my wand too, it’s been amazing! |
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it's a win win because if I don't orgasm I will still moan xxx
