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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense
For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive
Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again
But who likes orange soda?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
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I feel you. So much.
I've done nothing but cry for days. So I'm not much use to be fair. But I feel it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I did clock it and its very much appreciated 
I dont really have any advice as im terrible with emotions but i hope you can get through it "
I’m so glad you’re in these forums man. Finally someone that gets me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I cuddle my dogs and word vomit it out. The mutts haven't got much input on situations in general, but sometimes hearing it aloud really helps me straighten out some of the chaos."
I don’t have dogs but maybe I’ll either write it down or tell my cat!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
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Those triggering moments are exhausting as they rob one of energy! Quite frankly it's precious time that could be put to good use elsewhere. For me and family over the years, I've had to create boundaries! We're meant to be happy in this lifetime. Some people will never know the art of people skills especially respect. Drama is debilitating and useless and many times it's perpetuating family traumas. The buck stops with us! Good luck OP x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense
For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive
Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again
But who likes orange soda?!! "
This is powerful. That’s what I want. To have some healthy coping mechanisms.
By the way
KEL LOVES ORANGE SODA  |
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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I did clock it and its very much appreciated
I dont really have any advice as im terrible with emotions but i hope you can get through it
I’m so glad you’re in these forums man. Finally someone that gets me "
Of course, love a good meme |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
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I hate that this has happened. I’m so sorry for your experience and the cruelty of it cascading beyond the immediate experience too. Ground yourself, and yea process the feelings. Know that you are very much loved. I cry. I reflect and feel strongly, even anger if it’s there. I turn to my friends and loved ones to remind me of all that I cherish. I reach out to make someone else feel good as that shifts things on for me. I think about what I can do to make a difference. And I forgive, for my sanity not because I’m negating what’s happened - it’s entirely selfish but may not be appropriate for your situation.
Here if I can do anything. Love you  |
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"The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense
For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive
Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again
But who likes orange soda?!! "
Kel loves orange soda  |
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Mr Pickle, we're sad to hear about your bad experience today. We find talking to each other and "putting the world to rights" is at least cathartic. It's even worse when your kids witness or are party to bad experiences, we know that too, so depending on age, it might be worth talking through with them, in as rational and objective a way as you can. It's horrible for children to learn that not every person in the world is nice  |
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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago
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Speak to friends buddy.
Safe to say we clash on here, but never like seeing people down.
It’s a gorgeous day, get yourself a pina colada, perhaps a bit of cake and tell yourself “fuck ‘em”! |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense
For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive
Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again
But who likes orange soda?!!
This is powerful. That’s what I want. To have some healthy coping mechanisms.
By the way
KEL LOVES ORANGE SODA "
It’s the only thing I found to help, it’s something I do bang on about probably too much but it’s such a useful tool not many seem to know about and I firmly believe everyone should have access resources without preamble which it seems to offer
ill stop rambling now
Awwwe! Here goes! |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
When I get tiggered I like to sing this song:
The wonderful thing about tiggers
Is tiggers are wonderful things!
Their tops are made out of rubber
Their bottoms are made out of springs!
They're bouncy, trouncy, flouncy, pouncy
Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun!
But the most wonderful thing about tiggers is
I'm the only one
Tiggers are cuddly fellas
Tiggers are awfully sweet
Ev'ryone el-us is jealous
That's why I repeat... and repeat
The wonderful thing about tiggers
Is tiggers are marvelous claps!
They're loaded with vim and vigor
They love to leap in your laps!
They're jumpy, bumpy, clumpy, thumpy
Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun!
But the most wonderful thing about tiggers is
I'm the only one
I-I-I'm, the only... oof!
Ouch!
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On reflection, maybe I do have something. Not advice as such, more an observation. Anger is usually hiding an underlying emotion - frustration, grief, helplessness, fear. It can help to try to understand what is driving the anger.
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I don't really have many healthy coping mechanisms...
I'll have an anxiety attack
Cry
Stress clean
Eat all the cake/chocolate
Take a nap
Cuddle a cat
Just sit in the garden
Put some depressing music on
Big hugs little pickle |
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I don't know what triggering is. I use it in the correct way in a sentence. I know what someone means when they say they are triggered or something triggers them and they feel a reaction coming on. Other than that , it doesn't happen to me.
I don't bear the burden for what others do and say. They are not my conscience.
Hope you find ways to avoid the negativity of others O.P. This way comes but once. Don't waste it in hate. Theirs or yours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends Op, if it’s purely anger! I tend to get in the garage and take it out on my punchbag. If I feel d sad but need to let off steam - axe throwing works, it’s the satisfying noise when it sinks into the wood… Think!!
Or if I need to think things through a long walk with my dog Gully
Hope you’re ok Mr pickle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
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I obviously don’t know the specifics but I’ve recently experienced some very triggering traumatic stuff around my mum and Dad and finally decided 45 was old enough to say that’s it no more x I will only see them when I feel it’s safe emotionally for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah Pickles.
I'm so sorry. I hope you spending time writing and facing your feelings takes the edge off how shitty you must feel.
*sends you a hug*
People are shite, but there's so much good in the world. I completely understand it's not easy to focus on the positives sometimes.
I usually have a good cry when I'm triggered. I feel a bit better after that.
Do you want to play GTA? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a rant, I cry, I write my feelings down to get them out of my head because it's so overwhelming. I've got pages and pages of the stuff. It only helps up to a point though x |
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"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
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I just try to remember that they are going to die soon and let it wash over me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.
What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?
I just try to remember that they are going to die soon and let it wash over me."
That's very extreme  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm so sorry to hear about that and hope it wasn't too much for you and you feel better soon. I can't help with any advice but I can only offer kind words and support that things will get better |
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