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Do women ever make the first move !!
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By *c-uk OP Man
over a year ago
Sevenoaks |
I was just curious and was wondering if women ever email or message a guy that they like the look of or they think is a superhotsexystuddmuffin!!!
I think this is a great site.. yet to have a meet and on a very long pussy drought (am I allowed to say pussy)...
But the people I have spoke to are genuine and articulate..
And I have made one good friend 
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I do and have  I'm very very fussy though over who I meet and I'm happy to wait for a long time to find the right guys to have fun with.
Pays off though as those I meet tend to be around for some time
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Never, because I do not need to.  "
Whilst I doubt this is the case in Pearl's case, maybe there's an argument around the need to spend less time ignoring/ blocking what are clearly unsuitable or unwelcome approaches in favour of making a targetted first move.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never, because I do not need to.
I'm glad to say that my wife does. In spite of not 'needing' to. She likes to browse occasionally "
Same here, I don't need to but I do like to browse/perve and will happily let a guy know if I'm interested  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never, because I do not need to.
I'm glad to say that my wife does. In spite of not 'needing' to. She likes to browse occasionally
Same here, I don't need to but I do like to browse/perve and will happily let a guy know if I'm interested "
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"I was just curious and was wondering if women ever email or message a guy that they like the look of or they think is a superhotsexystuddmuffin!!!
I think this is a great site.. yet to have a meet and on a very long pussy drought (am I allowed to say pussy)...
But the people I have spoke to are genuine and articulate..
And I have made one good friend
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i do and would defo  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
All the time, why wait for the right one to message you. I look for what I like and send a cheeky little message.
It's fun, although I do sob myself to sleep when they just delete my messages.  |
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By *c-uk OP Man
over a year ago
Sevenoaks |
"I have, not because I needed to, but because I wanted to!
Completely agree!"
I doubt there are many women that need to, especially on here so its nice to know that sexy ladies sometimes take the iniative..
I agree with one of the guys comments above. Its always really nice to get a suprise contact from a lady.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never, because I do not need to. "
I doubt any woman on here actually needs too, If I get time to browse on here and find someone I like look of I just wink, then leave it to him to respond. Though if he ignores, then messages few weeks/months later he has missed his window of oppertunity
Sex/swinging is a 2 way thing, so nothing wrong with women making first move if they need to or not. |
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As a tgirl I get to experience a little of what it's like to be a girl and have to say that in my limited experience us girls don't need to make the first move as there is never a shortage of guys wanting to chat us up - even girls like me!
Plus I don't know about other girls but I enjoy the chase and attention it's a big part of what turns me on.
Since spending time as a girl I'm much better at approaching girls as I guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?"
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet? "
Sometimes Tesco burgers will do... |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet? "
Or god forbid, a horse burger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet? "
Thats a very good analogy, but then again, is the woman in question willing to trawl her way through the vastly overcrowded flea market, constantly being hounded and harrassed by traders thrusting those bits of leathery rump in her face, on her way to where she thinks she may be able to purchase said sirlion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet?
Thats a very good analogy, but then again, is the woman in question willing to trawl her way through the vastly overcrowded flea market, constantly being hounded and harrassed by traders thrusting those bits of leathery rump in her face, on her way to where she thinks she may be able to purchase said sirlion?"
Ok - let's try another one.
If you want a good takeaway do you limit yourself to this weeks junk mail that's dropped through the letterbox or do you look online to see what the best option for your current appetite is?
Being proactive will get better results than being reactive!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet?
Thats a very good analogy, but then again, is the woman in question willing to trawl her way through the vastly overcrowded flea market, constantly being hounded and harrassed by traders thrusting those bits of leathery rump in her face, on her way to where she thinks she may be able to purchase said sirlion?
Ok - let's try another one.
If you want a good takeaway do you limit yourself to this weeks junk mail that's dropped through the letterbox or do you look online to see what the best option for your current appetite is?
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It may not all be junk mail though - somewhere amongst all those flyers, there may well be one from your perfect takeaway, offering up sumptuous meals at reasonable prices, but you were unaware of this as you simply clenched the whole bunch in your fist and binned them. That takeaway and the customer are both seeking each other, but its the takeaway thats gonna have to put in all the groundwork if its gonna attract customers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was just curious and was wondering if women ever email or message a guy that they like the look of or they think is a superhotsexystuddmuffin!!!
I think this is a great site.. yet to have a meet and on a very long pussy drought (am I allowed to say pussy)...
But the people I have spoke to are genuine and articulate..
And I have made one good friend
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Good luck. You have a nice profile and come across well. Only a matter of time before you get meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet?
Thats a very good analogy, but then again, is the woman in question willing to trawl her way through the vastly overcrowded flea market, constantly being hounded and harrassed by traders thrusting those bits of leathery rump in her face, on her way to where she thinks she may be able to purchase said sirlion?
Ok - let's try another one.
If you want a good takeaway do you limit yourself to this weeks junk mail that's dropped through the letterbox or do you look online to see what the best option for your current appetite is?
It may not all be junk mail though - somewhere amongst all those flyers, there may well be one from your perfect takeaway, offering up sumptuous meals at reasonable prices, but you were unaware of this as you simply clenched the whole bunch in your fist and binned them. That takeaway and the customer are both seeking each other, but its the takeaway thats gonna have to put in all the groundwork if its gonna attract customers."
So what you're saying is women should wait to be approached and then spend hours trawling through unsuitable 'applicants' rather than seek out someone that appears to meet their criteria?
And that it's the males role to make the moves and the females to respond rather than exercise the option of going 'shopping'?
Why should it be any different dependant on sex, or for that matter for couples too? If everyone regardless of gender took the passive approach there'd be no activity at all!
Those women that block single guys from messaging and who do their own research and selection seem to be the ones that get what they want and without the need to 'review' the varying quality of messages in their inbox! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet? "
Oh I do like a bit of sirloin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So what you're saying is women should wait to be approached and then spend hours trawling through unsuitable 'applicants' rather than seek out someone that appears to meet their criteria?
And that it's the males role to make the moves and the females to respond rather than exercise the option of going 'shopping'?
Why should it be any different dependant on sex, or for that matter for couples too? If everyone regardless of gender took the passive approach there'd be no activity at all!
Those women that block single guys from messaging and who do their own research and selection seem to be the ones that get what they want and without the need to 'review' the varying quality of messages in their inbox! "
I said no such thing. My initial analogy was saying that I could understand why it's so rare for a woman to make first contact with a guy she likes, when there are already so many clamouring for her attention. My follow ups regarding the market and the takeaway were simply how I'd describe the efforts a single male has to make to get a females attention.
As for the part about a woman being proactive and finding the exact sort of guys she wants rather than waiting for them to contact her first, I agree with you that there are of course women who do this, but I can understand why there are those who don't when, to use the market analogy again, there are so many stalls to browse through that the task of even getting started seems rather daunting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why would a woman go out shopping, when so, so many guys are willing to deliver to her door?
Because she might not like the delivery man!!
If you look at it using the analogy of supermarket shopping - yes having it dropped to your door may be convenient - but would you not prefer to choose your prime bit of steak rather than settle for any old one plucked from the shelves that may be poor quality, close to being past its best before date and may even turn out to be a bit of leathery rump rather than sirloin or fillet?
Thats a very good analogy, but then again, is the woman in question willing to trawl her way through the vastly overcrowded flea market, constantly being hounded and harrassed by traders thrusting those bits of leathery rump in her face, on her way to where she thinks she may be able to purchase said sirlion?
Ok - let's try another one.
If you want a good takeaway do you limit yourself to this weeks junk mail that's dropped through the letterbox or do you look online to see what the best option for your current appetite is?
Being proactive will get better results than being reactive!! "
I've never been pro-active yet always had great results.
After answering all messages I get, so guys don't moan that messages aren't responded to, I don't get time to browse as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have my profile set so I don't show up on searches. Sometimes I get mails but mostly I just go looking. Can't see the point in waiting for people to get in touch.
Going to make the first move in actual 'real life' too. As soon as I figure out what to say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have my profile set so I don't show up on searches. Sometimes I get mails but mostly I just go looking. Can't see the point in waiting for people to get in touch.
Going to make the first move in actual 'real life' too. As soon as I figure out what to say. "
Time is moving on.....you got to go for it quickly  |
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All the meets I've attended are through me making 1st contact other than the odd one I've met in a club.
May take a while to pluck up the courage to some guys & gals, but when I eventually do, it does wonders for my confidence. I'd rather be pleased I did something for myself, than to get dragged down by lousy messages & guys that can't handle rejection & start the name calling.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the meets I've attended are through me making 1st contact other than the odd one I've met in a club.
May take a while to pluck up the courage to some guys & gals, but when I eventually do, it does wonders for my confidence. I'd rather be pleased I did something for myself, than to get dragged down by lousy messages & guys that can't handle rejection & start the name calling.
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I agree totally |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I have my profile set so I don't show up on searches. Sometimes I get mails but mostly I just go looking. Can't see the point in waiting for people to get in touch.
Going to make the first move in actual 'real life' too. As soon as I figure out what to say. "
Haha hurry up, he will have left |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let the winking begin
Haha ok if I wasn't too bloody old I'd wink ppfffttttt
Too old to wink? I don't think! "
Well I just tried to wink someone and it said "sod off you're too old" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have my profile set so I don't show up on searches. Sometimes I get mails but mostly I just go looking. Can't see the point in waiting for people to get in touch.
Going to make the first move in actual 'real life' too. As soon as I figure out what to say.
Haha hurry up, he will have left"
He was snowed in today arrrgggh!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the meets I have had off here are from me making the first move mainly through mails. Never really been lucky enough for the woman to make the first move. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let the winking begin
Haha ok if I wasn't too bloody old I'd wink ppfffttttt
Do they have age filters on winking ?  "
Yes if the person you're winking at doesn't want to meet old farts lmfaooooo |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let the winking begin
Haha ok if I wasn't too bloody old I'd wink ppfffttttt
Do they have age filters on winking ?
Yes if the person you're winking at doesn't want to meet old farts lmfaooooo "
Old fart here and still no bloody winks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't as I get that much mail I just go thro the ones I get and message back the ones I'm interested in.
For me it's not a case of making do with who mails me as I get messages from some really nice looking guys that I'm happy to meet and doing it this way I know they like me, I've looking thro profile many times and seen guys I like but I'm never sure wether to mail them or not and end up not doing, I've only ever made first contact once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes! I often wink/message people. Just a sign that I appreciate their profile/pics. Obviously I love getting replies back but it doesn't matter if I don't! |
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