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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I like going out on my own, ideally sit there with a drink and people watch."
This is me currently, but I want to try and meet some people. So need to push through a little. In a non-creepy way!!  |
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over a year ago
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"Going out meaning? To clubs? Or just going out alone to do random stuff like films/restaurants etc?
Out out.
I’ve gone to a local bar/club. "
Beautiful evening for it, ideally facing out on to the river! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Going out meaning? To clubs? Or just going out alone to do random stuff like films/restaurants etc?
Out out.
I’ve gone to a local bar/club.
Beautiful evening for it, ideally facing out on to the river!"
Not by the river but am sitting in the sunshine. There was a woman here DJ-ing a week or so back who I really fancied and chatted up - half hoping she may be here later.  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"All the time or I would never go anywhere
Are you good at approaching people?
I am but only in a friendly, chatty way not if they are attractive, attractive people scare me  ....and I them"
Yeah I get that! I don’t think I scare anyone tho, I’m quite gentle and smiley. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
I go out during the day on my own and happy to go to a pub etc. Don't in the evening because I like my sofa and comfies too much. It's takes a special person/people to get me out after bedtime  |
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Going out by myself is not my natural state at all so post divorce I've been forcing myself to do it - every other week to live music at a local pub, even to Ab Fabs.
I feel socially awkward doing it but I kind of think, fake it until you make it! |
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over a year ago
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"I go out during the day on my own and happy to go to a pub etc. Don't in the evening because I like my sofa and comfies too much. It's takes a special person/people to get me out after bedtime "
Going to and from work doesn’t count |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I go out during the day on my own and happy to go to a pub etc. Don't in the evening because I like my sofa and comfies too much. It's takes a special person/people to get me out after bedtime "
Ha! That’s fair. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Going out by myself is not my natural state at all so post divorce I've been forcing myself to do it - every other week to live music at a local pub, even to Ab Fabs.
I feel socially awkward doing it but I kind of think, fake it until you make it!"
Yeah it’s good to push out of our comfort zone. I’m in the mood to connect with people but no one to see tonight - so thought what the heck? |
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"All the time or I would never go anywhere
Are you good at approaching people?
I am but only in a friendly, chatty way not if they are attractive, attractive people scare me ....and I them
Yeah I get that! I don’t think I scare anyone tho, I’m quite gentle and smiley. "
Lol you already chatted up the DJ sounds like you are very comfortable. I would NEVER go out and chat anyone up, no intentionally at least.  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"All the time or I would never go anywhere
Are you good at approaching people?
I am but only in a friendly, chatty way not if they are attractive, attractive people scare me ....and I them
Yeah I get that! I don’t think I scare anyone tho, I’m quite gentle and smiley.
Lol you already chatted up the DJ sounds like you are very comfortable. I would NEVER go out and chat anyone up, no intentionally at least. "
Really? Why’s that?
I was operating from a base of a couple of friends so easy to venture out on my own and people to return to if needed last time. Doing it solo tonight, bit nerve wracking but good practice. We shall see! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I was better at it when younger than now. Not as comfortable to go out on my own but ok when I get there and someone talks I can easily engage.  "
Yeah it’s making that first move to enter other people’s space that’s hard. |
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"I was better at it when younger than now. Not as comfortable to go out on my own but ok when I get there and someone talks I can easily engage.
Yeah it’s making that first move to enter other people’s space that’s hard. "
Yes, just that  Hope you have a fab time |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I was better at it when younger than now. Not as comfortable to go out on my own but ok when I get there and someone talks I can easily engage.
Yeah it’s making that first move to enter other people’s space that’s hard.
Yes, just that Hope you have a fab time "
Well whilst I’m still on here you’ll know I’m still a bit shy!!  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Do you do it? How do you find it?
I’m out on my own tonight but assessing who is about (random people) who I can talk to, wish me luck!! "
. I don’t go out too much but I find when I go to the local pub to watch the football I go by myself but usually find someone there to talk about the game.I sometimes go to a Kervan restaurant by myself for a meal as that is harder as everyone is coupled up or in groups but it is what it is |
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Young me not on your nelly. Couldn’t even walk into a pub on my own even if my mates were in there.
Old me if I am away on a course etc then no problem. I go out on my own in the village I live but know people when I go to the pubs so doesn’t count. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Do you do it? How do you find it?
I’m out on my own tonight but assessing who is about (random people) who I can talk to, wish me luck!! . I don’t go out too much but I find when I go to the local pub to watch the football I go by myself but usually find someone there to talk about the game.I sometimes go to a Kervan restaurant by myself for a meal as that is harder as everyone is coupled up or in groups but it is what it is "
Yeah I can imagine having a shared purpose helps the conversation flow (the game). |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Young me not on your nelly. Couldn’t even walk into a pub on my own even if my mates were in there.
Old me if I am away on a course etc then no problem. I go out on my own in the village I live but know people when I go to the pubs so doesn’t count. "
It’s funny how our confidence grows/or disregard for what people might think ebbs as we get older! |
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I did it all the time when I was away travelling, but that's when I used to drink, it was easy to chat to people in bars and clubs, or on the dance floor.
I go to gigs on my own now, but it's rare I chat to anyone. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I did it all the time when I was away travelling, but that's when I used to drink, it was easy to chat to people in bars and clubs, or on the dance floor.
I go to gigs on my own now, but it's rare I chat to anyone. "
Yeah alcohol helps as a settler! |
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Loads of times on my own dressed as Steph or male mode, doesn’t bother me that much. I wouldn’t say I’m the most outgoing person either, dressed in a club I’m a bit more smiley and friendly but I still find it hard to meet someone to have a casual conversation.
As my male self I’m more content in certain places cinemas, pubs or restaurants as I often used to have to do it with work. Turn up in some city and after work away from the hotel go and get something to eat or watch the big match at some pub.
Must admit it’s easier due to my age I wasn’t as confident when I was younger. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Loads of times on my own dressed as Steph or male mode, doesn’t bother me that much. I wouldn’t say I’m the most outgoing person either, dressed in a club I’m a bit more smiley and friendly but I still find it hard to meet someone to have a casual conversation.
As my male self I’m more content in certain places cinemas, pubs or restaurants as I often used to have to do it with work. Turn up in some city and after work away from the hotel go and get something to eat or watch the big match at some pub.
Must admit it’s easier due to my age I wasn’t as confident when I was younger. "
Yeah I think I give less fucks now, for sure!! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
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I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists "
Wish you were here, Sam.  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
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I uses to go out for dinner/drinks, date myself occasionally on my own a few yrs ago. Now my confidence has gone, I don't go out much.
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Well if you ever fancy a drink out in London and want a mate, let me know. |
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"All the time or I would never go anywhere
Are you good at approaching people?
I am but only in a friendly, chatty way not if they are attractive, attractive people scare me ....and I them
Yeah I get that! I don’t think I scare anyone tho, I’m quite gentle and smiley.
Lol you already chatted up the DJ sounds like you are very comfortable. I would NEVER go out and chat anyone up, no intentionally at least.
Really? Why’s that?
I was operating from a base of a couple of friends so easy to venture out on my own and people to return to if needed last time. Doing it solo tonight, bit nerve wracking but good practice. We shall see!"
Why? Cause I'm so shit at it and it scares the shit out of me. Much easier to just chat shit with the old couple next to me. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I would be happy to go to a pub in a strange town in my own. Trouble is you get all the weirdos talking to you.
In my home town you always know there's going to be someone in the pub you know"
I’ve purposely not gone to my work local or home local so I’m not seeing people I may know (even if just the staff).
No weirdos yet. But let’s wait and see!! |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor. "
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right? |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"All the time or I would never go anywhere
Are you good at approaching people?
I am but only in a friendly, chatty way not if they are attractive, attractive people scare me ....and I them
Yeah I get that! I don’t think I scare anyone tho, I’m quite gentle and smiley.
Lol you already chatted up the DJ sounds like you are very comfortable. I would NEVER go out and chat anyone up, no intentionally at least.
Really? Why’s that?
I was operating from a base of a couple of friends so easy to venture out on my own and people to return to if needed last time. Doing it solo tonight, bit nerve wracking but good practice. We shall see!
Why? Cause I'm so shit at it and it scares the shit out of me. Much easier to just chat shit with the old couple next to me."
I think everyone feels a bit awkward, I think about that and do my best to just try and make the other person feel at ease or pay someone a compliment (non-creepy one) so even if they’re not interested they leave the evening feeling flattered and better about themselves. I never have any expectations and do my best to ensure I’m not suffocating in my approach. Incremental conversation rather than arrive and full launch. Let them invite you in further as it were. |
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"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists
Wish you were here, Sam. "
Awwww
One of these years we’ll actually manage a meet, I feel it in my soul. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?"
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists
Wish you were here, Sam.
Awwww
One of these years we’ll actually manage a meet, I feel it in my soul."
Oh I’ll be a horrific disappointment. I reckon keeping this love affair as it is is in everyone’s best interests!! |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet. "
is the thing that worries you the most what the other persons reaction will be when they see you?
that only natural. we all fear inside |
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"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists
Wish you were here, Sam.
Awwww
One of these years we’ll actually manage a meet, I feel it in my soul.
Oh I’ll be a horrific disappointment. I reckon keeping this love affair as it is is in everyone’s best interests!! "
Shurrup and get networking.
You’re a strong, outgoing and confident young woman that some lucky strangers are going to be lucky enough to converse with this evening
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet.
is the thing that worries you the most what the other persons reaction will be when they see you?
that only natural. we all fear inside "
Yep. You nailed it. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists
Wish you were here, Sam.
Awwww
One of these years we’ll actually manage a meet, I feel it in my soul.
Oh I’ll be a horrific disappointment. I reckon keeping this love affair as it is is in everyone’s best interests!!
Shurrup and get networking.
You’re a strong, outgoing and confident young woman that some lucky strangers are going to be lucky enough to converse with this evening
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Thanks Dad. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Haven't been out on my own for years, and don't know if I would...as I don't drink, so at times the confidence to talk to strangers is not there"
Yeah. We shouldn’t have to rely on alcohol but I do get it. |
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"Haven't been out on my own for years, and don't know if I would...as I don't drink, so at times the confidence to talk to strangers is not there
Yeah. We shouldn’t have to rely on alcohol but I do get it. "
I haven't drank in 9 years.... |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet.
is the thing that worries you the most what the other persons reaction will be when they see you?
that only natural. we all fear inside
Yep. You nailed it. "
and thats all it is. a very small fear that stops us doing wonderful things in life. we put it off because of it.
when what we should do is embrace the fear, the sweaty nervous position, the notch in the tummy.
its telling you something, you are alive |
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"*Walks in bar*
Do you come here often?
Yay! Wish you had!
PM the details I could do with getting out the house
I’m all the way in London though!"
Occasional travel with work.. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Haven't been out on my own for years, and don't know if I would...as I don't drink, so at times the confidence to talk to strangers is not there
Yeah. We shouldn’t have to rely on alcohol but I do get it.
I haven't drank in 9 years...."
Ooooft, well done! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet.
is the thing that worries you the most what the other persons reaction will be when they see you?
that only natural. we all fear inside
Yep. You nailed it.
and thats all it is. a very small fear that stops us doing wonderful things in life. we put it off because of it.
when what we should do is embrace the fear, the sweaty nervous position, the notch in the tummy.
its telling you something, you are alive"
Oh I like that. Very much. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"*Walks in bar*
Do you come here often?
Yay! Wish you had!
PM the details I could do with getting out the house
I’m all the way in London though!
Occasional travel with work.. "
Ahhh - then sure. Why not? |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet.
is the thing that worries you the most what the other persons reaction will be when they see you?
that only natural. we all fear inside
Yep. You nailed it.
and thats all it is. a very small fear that stops us doing wonderful things in life. we put it off because of it.
when what we should do is embrace the fear, the sweaty nervous position, the notch in the tummy.
its telling you something, you are alive
Oh I like that. Very much. "
you see someone you like, you never mail them because they may have loads of others chasing them. im not her type etc.
but..... how do you know they are not looking at you. she maybe waiting for you to make contact.
are you going to let a little fear prevent you achieving something and meeting the one you wanted?
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"i go out by myself.
its only a state of mind, look at it as facing the enemy.
I’m actually very comfortable. Being out and by myself. I’m just setting myself the challenge of meeting/talking to someone/s new - that’s the push factor.
then thats for you to arrange. mail someone, time, place, its easy right?
Oh I guess, yes. I find it more daunting approaching people on here than in real life tho. So I’m probably more comfortable here (at the bar/club) than setting up an impromptu Fab meet.
is the thing that worries you the most what the other persons reaction will be when they see you?
that only natural. we all fear inside
Yep. You nailed it.
and thats all it is. a very small fear that stops us doing wonderful things in life. we put it off because of it.
when what we should do is embrace the fear, the sweaty nervous position, the notch in the tummy.
its telling you something, you are alive
Oh I like that. Very much.
you see someone you like, you never mail them because they may have loads of others chasing them. im not her type etc.
but..... how do you know they are not looking at you. she maybe waiting for you to make contact.
are you going to let a little fear prevent you achieving something and meeting the one you wanted?
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You make a good point. I mean I do meet, occasionally!  |
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over a year ago
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I go to the cinema on my own, in fact I'm going tomorrow. Done it many times and there's nothing better than enjoying a film with no one pinching your popcorn x |
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"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists
Wish you were here, Sam.
Awwww
One of these years we’ll actually manage a meet, I feel it in my soul.
Oh I’ll be a horrific disappointment. I reckon keeping this love affair as it is is in everyone’s best interests!!
Shurrup and get networking.
You’re a strong, outgoing and confident young woman that some lucky strangers are going to be lucky enough to converse with this evening
Thanks Daddy. "
Things just got weird! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I go to the cinema on my own, in fact I'm going tomorrow. Done it many times and there's nothing better than enjoying a film with no one pinching your popcorn x "
Yeah I’m more than happy to do that, I agree!!! What you going to see? |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I don’t get the opportunity to go out alone.
Not sure how I’d cope to be honest Estella
If you spot anyone wearing yellow shoes they will be friendly and great conversationalists
Wish you were here, Sam.
Awwww
One of these years we’ll actually manage a meet, I feel it in my soul.
Oh I’ll be a horrific disappointment. I reckon keeping this love affair as it is is in everyone’s best interests!!
Shurrup and get networking.
You’re a strong, outgoing and confident young woman that some lucky strangers are going to be lucky enough to converse with this evening
Thanks Daddy.
Things just got weird!"
Ah ha ha ha. Stop doctoring my post! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind going into restaurants, coffee shops etc alone and I enjoy that but I think I'd be too anxious and disinterested going to a bar during a busy evening because I'd much rather do it with good company or just stay in my bed at home.
I'm glad people are chatting to you anyway! I hope you make some lovely new friends. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I don't mind going into restaurants, coffee shops etc alone and I enjoy that but I think I'd be too anxious and disinterested going to a bar during a busy evening because I'd much rather do it with good company or just stay in my bed at home.
I'm glad people are chatting to you anyway! I hope you make some lovely new friends. "
They’re lovely (a work group) - bought me a drink and all! Yay me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go to the cinema on my own, in fact I'm going tomorrow. Done it many times and there's nothing better than enjoying a film with no one pinching your popcorn x
Yeah I’m more than happy to do that, I agree!!! What you going to see?"
FastX. I'm looking forward to it x |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I go to the cinema on my own, in fact I'm going tomorrow. Done it many times and there's nothing better than enjoying a film with no one pinching your popcorn x
Yeah I’m more than happy to do that, I agree!!! What you going to see?
FastX. I'm looking forward to it x"
Have a wonderful time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to holiday on my own
I enjoy coffee shops on my own
Restaurants and bars on my own I would find a stretch these days
In the past though, I quite enjoyed going out and wondering if I would go home alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go to the cinema on my own, in fact I'm going tomorrow. Done it many times and there's nothing better than enjoying a film with no one pinching your popcorn x
Yeah I’m more than happy to do that, I agree!!! What you going to see?
FastX. I'm looking forward to it x
Have a wonderful time!"
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to holiday on my own
I enjoy coffee shops on my own
Restaurants and bars on my own I would find a stretch these days
In the past though, I quite enjoyed going out and wondering if I would go home alone "
Ooooh you devil! But yes, totally!! |
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I've been to socials and clubs alone which was quite daunting.
I actual life, I'll do it if I'm cafe hopping and enjoy people watching with a coffee but other than that, I prefer having company so I don't get FOMO seeing other people with friends, girlfriends, boyfriends etc.  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been to socials and clubs alone which was quite daunting.
I actual life, I'll do it if I'm cafe hopping and enjoy people watching with a coffee but other than that, I prefer having company so I don't get FOMO seeing other people with friends, girlfriends, boyfriends etc. "
I get that. Totally. |
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"I've had some weekend trips alone, go to the cinema alone but that's about it really.
I’ve yet to holiday alone but I’d like to. "
UK breaks only so far, I don't trust myself to get home safe from further afield  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've had some weekend trips alone, go to the cinema alone but that's about it really.
I’ve yet to holiday alone but I’d like to.
UK breaks only so far, I don't trust myself to get home safe from further afield "
Fair enough. I want to go abroad on my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do go out on my own and even go on holiday on my own
That’s next on my hit list to do!"
I've booked onto a group holiday around a particular interest of mine ... but have been camping on my own before as well. |
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Oh Estella, you're pretty damn brave! I'm glad you had a good night.
I regularly go to cinema/cafés on my own but I don't think I could brave going out out on my own. Been abroad loads of time alone, but that's a different vibe.
Anyway, come on holiday with me. We'll have a ball! Xx |
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"I go to gigs, cinema and lunch by myself. There is a couple of pubs in my town where I'm happy to go to alone too! "
Do you go of an evening? I'll go in the daytime, and read my book or eat but I'm frightened I'll look like Billy No Mates if I go in the evening!x |
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Similar to many on here - I can mostly do cafes on my own, content in a book, people watching etc, but going out in an evening to meet total strangers is a real struggle.
Having said that, I had to come back from working in age today as could feel some anxiety building so nipped it in bud early. 
I’ve managed a couple of solo holidays & city breaks, once I’m in that process I find it easier than an night out . |
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"Similar to many on here - I can mostly do cafes on my own, content in a book, people watching etc, but going out in an evening to meet total strangers is a real struggle.
Having said that, I had to come back from working in age today as could feel some anxiety building so nipped it in bud early.
I’ve managed a couple of solo holidays & city breaks, once I’m in that process I find it easier than an night out ."
I agree. Holidaying alone is so much less anxiety-inducing than a night out in town on my own! X |
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"Probably we are holidaying and enjoying soaking up the destination , and subconsciously removing pressure to meet anyone ?
Well, Shrewsbury ain't far. Let's go out on our own, together x"
It really isn’t far, I’ll meet you there |
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"Probably we are holidaying and enjoying soaking up the destination , and subconsciously removing pressure to meet anyone ?
Well, Shrewsbury ain't far. Let's go out on our own, together x
It really isn’t far, I’ll meet you there "
Meet you by the town square tomorrow @8pm xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you do it? How do you find it?
I’m out on my own tonight but assessing who is about (random people) who I can talk to, wish me luck!! "
Hope you came across some like minded humans sorry didn't read the remainder of the comments
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Estella!! Are you home yet? We need a report of how you got on xx
Home now!! All safe and had a wonderful time
Made two new friends! X"
I see now. Success! |
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"Estella!! Are you home yet? We need a report of how you got on xx
Home now!! All safe and had a wonderful time
Made two new friends! X"
Excellent update , well done |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"Estella!! Are you home yet? We need a report of how you got on xx
Home now!! All safe and had a wonderful time
Made two new friends! X"
. Well done on making new friends hopefully you will be keeping in contact and meeting up again.If you are looking to make new friends there are always the Meet Up groups which maybe of interest to you and also last night there were two Fab socials in London. |
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I work away from home a lot, my office is in Denmark and I travel all over Europe on my own, so probably 15 nights a month I go out on my own to bars and restaurants, I always meet lots of lovely locals, however these days it feels a bit creepy to hit on a stranger in real life rather than online. The exception being a swinger club or event, as you know that’s exactly what they are there for. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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I used to go to the cinema/theatre/gigs on my own a lot, and restaurants in the evening when I was travelling with work or just a coffee during the day, but I don’t think I would go to a bar/pub on my own, and I know I wouldn’t ever try and start a conversation with a stranger if I did, I would probably end up in the corner reading wanting everyone to be quiet so I could concentrate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you do it? How do you find it?
I’m out on my own tonight but assessing who is about (random people) who I can talk to, wish me luck!! "
How did it go? I went to the zoo on a Saturday by myself, felt uncomfortable tbh! |
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"Do you do it? How do you find it?
I’m out on my own tonight but assessing who is about (random people) who I can talk to, wish me luck!! "
This me right now, the old me wouldn't. I'm even looking forward doing a holiday on my own. |
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