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By *rOralMan
over a year ago
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I learned long time ago that there isn't a final word in regards to any swing/kinkster scenario.
Same applies for Sub/Dom scenario. I'd say some like To be owned, controlled…some others enjoy either Owned or controlles, etc
However, I think…maybe if it is a real Sub at heart, that situation will only depend on the Dom wishes no?
Perhaps I’m
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Like others have said everyone is different. To be owened to me requires a lot of commitment, which a couple in general wouldn't be able to give. Which is why if I was seeking to be owned a couple would not be what I would look for. Although owned comes up a lot, I've found it is males who actively seek it, when females tend to find someone they are in a D/s relationship with that becomes that kind of relationship.
And after all that waffle it really does depend on what you mean by owned OP. Is it a casual thing or not? Some subs compare being collared and owned to being married as it is a big commitment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what we’ve learned on here it’s that everyone is completely different and experience things in different ways. C likes me to be dominant and would probably class herself as a sub but only in the bedroom.
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"Like others have said everyone is different. To be owened to me requires a lot of commitment, which a couple in general wouldn't be able to give. Which is why if I was seeking to be owned a couple would not be what I would look for. Although owned comes up a lot, I've found it is males who actively seek it, when females tend to find someone they are in a D/s relationship with that becomes that kind of relationship.
And after all that waffle it really does depend on what you mean by owned OP. Is it a casual thing or not? Some subs compare being collared and owned to being married as it is a big commitment. "
yeah some very good points there, appreciate the feedback. Yeah i think once someone is collared, they consider themselves owned til they call off the arrangement. But i think un-collared is a more relaxed sub with more control themselves over what orders they want to obey and when they want to play sub ? Maybe they would enjoy the gifts, nights out, being looked after, taken to clubs, all the fun etc ? |
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Each to their own, personally, once naked, I can go from 50/50 to mildly dominant to full on dom and control, outside of the bedroom I have no desire to control a lady at all, the total opposite appeals to me. |
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"Like others have said everyone is different. To be owened to me requires a lot of commitment, which a couple in general wouldn't be able to give. Which is why if I was seeking to be owned a couple would not be what I would look for. Although owned comes up a lot, I've found it is males who actively seek it, when females tend to find someone they are in a D/s relationship with that becomes that kind of relationship.
And after all that waffle it really does depend on what you mean by owned OP. Is it a casual thing or not? Some subs compare being collared and owned to being married as it is a big commitment. yeah some very good points there, appreciate the feedback. Yeah i think once someone is collared, they consider themselves owned til they call off the arrangement. But i think un-collared is a more relaxed sub with more control themselves over what orders they want to obey and when they want to play sub ? Maybe they would enjoy the gifts, nights out, being looked after, taken to clubs, all the fun etc ? "
I don't think I agree with there being a difference between a collared and uncollared sub. Both have control over their own boundaries, which they've set up with their Dominant.
Ownership to me means there are set rules that both D and s have mutually agreed to.
Spoiling and topping when you meet up, sounds a bit more casual, seems a bit more sugar parents to me maybe, if it's about the fun aspects? |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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To me this is a rather opaque question. If you talk of "ownership " it suggests master/sl#ve, or for those who find that too wet they use "owner" and "property".
For me D/s is not about ownership, but submission. As others have pointed out submission can take various forms, but the circumstances of each relationship should be negotiated.
For me a "D/s relationship" has two elements. One being "D/s" and the form of the submission should be agreed. The second is " relationship". The normal vanilla element outside of D/s but built around D/s. This is why collaring is seen as more powerful than marriage because it combines both elements. There is nothing about marriage that involves satisfying each parties deepest darkest desires on top of the day to day matters of life.
Each relationship is different but a D/s relationship should be without abuse and within the boundary of consent.
I do feel there is a distinction between "D/s'; "topping" and "bottoming"; "bedroom doms and subs", and doing scenes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everything is a mindset and lifestyle dynamic!
What people agree to. Accept and wish and want. And with whom
Too many labels. Grey area's,assumptions. Misinformation. Spread over the net by ppl. And practises and forms by people and main populas become the trend and distasteful over time.
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