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Depends on how you build yoir profile. Obviously I'm careful because of my job, so I keep face pics and nudes private. And I seldom send those pics to others unless I've met them IRL (otherwise there was no point making them private in the first place).
Does it make chatting to people harder? Absolutely. But it's a necessary evil. |
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"I'll share my face with anyone I'm chatting to. It just doesn't need to be out there. Its not an actual risk to anyones job. "
I'd advise against anyone in a 'sensitive' profession from being too obvious on fab |
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It is a risk for me, mostly because my work colleagues are very judgemental and could make my work life intolerable.
It wouldn’t actually affect me me from an employment perspective, more from how my colleagues would treat me.
It’s a risk I am willing to take, provided I minimise that risk by taking certain precautions |
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I can't see what a person sex life has to do with their work.
It would be interesting if anyone from management made a complaint to me as I would be happy to inform tham , that unless I'm bringing the work place into distribute i.e swinging on works time or property then it's no business what I get up to in my private life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never understood this mindset.
Anyone who sees you on fab is themselves on here. If they were to expose you, they'd also be exposing themselves.
And surely, what you get up to in your private life is none of your employers business |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here is my face, nothing to hide and nothing to see officer….I couldn’t give two hoots if anyone found out I was in here, how many times have you looked on other social media and thought ….. racist, sexist, asshole but they are still there spouting all their rubbish and getting away with it and yet here I am, no shame, clutching my little todger, it’s a free country still right ? |
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"I can't see what a person sex life has to do with their work.
It would be interesting if anyone from management made a complaint to me as I would be happy to inform tham , that unless I'm bringing the work place into distribute i.e swinging on works time or property then it's no business what I get up to in my private life. "
I actually does have a friend who was a good vicar on another site they got found out it was terrible  |
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"I can't see what a person sex life has to do with their work.
It would be interesting if anyone from management made a complaint to me as I would be happy to inform tham , that unless I'm bringing the work place into distribute i.e swinging on works time or property then it's no business what I get up to in my private life.
I actually does have a friend who was a good vicar on another site they got found out it was terrible "
They were wonderful too in help in our community with mental health etc it was really upsetting. |
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By *-manMan
over a year ago
glasgow |
Some years back a friend of mine was a practice nurse. So she had a younger woman in who was expecting. The younger lady indicated she had a name for the bambino if it was female but didn’t know how to spell it, she’d heard it on the radio.
My friend said “tell me the name and I’ll try to spell it for you”, getting a pen and paper.
The pen and paper were put down as it was explained “Chlamydia” wasn’t a suitable name….. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I've no doubt it could impact on some people depending on the role. i do however see quite a few posing in their uniforms which i'm guessing would cause a problem,as the company could potentially be identified
I don't think my job would be at risk ,but i wouldn't want the people i work with to know i'm here.I don't really tell people on here where i work |
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"I've no doubt it could impact on some people depending on the role. i do however see quite a few posing in their uniforms which i'm guessing would cause a problem,as the company could potentially be identified
I don't think my job would be at risk ,but i wouldn't want the people i work with to know i'm here.I don't really tell people on here where i work"
Losing in uniform or with your company lanyard visible isn't wise, I agree |
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"I'll share my face with anyone I'm chatting to. It just doesn't need to be out there. Its not an actual risk to anyones job.
I'd advise against anyone in a 'sensitive' profession from being too obvious on fab"
Exactly. I've know people face disciplinary action for being too obvious on here, in relation to uniforms and using their job to influence people. |
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life.. "
In my case, I’ve seen what my work colleagues are like if they find out someone is on here…
Basically, they continually talk behind the guy’s back and laugh and joke that “my MATE found out they’re swingers… he must be really weird watching his missus shagging other blokes”…
It’s got to the point that it’s been noticed by the guy in question and he’s not taking it well. He’s tried reporting them for harassment in work, but HR aren’t very forthcoming |
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life..
In my case, I’ve seen what my work colleagues are like if they find out someone is on here…
Basically, they continually talk behind the guy’s back and laugh and joke that “my MATE found out they’re swingers… he must be really weird watching his missus shagging other blokes”…
It’s got to the point that it’s been noticed by the guy in question and he’s not taking it well. He’s tried reporting them for harassment in work, but HR aren’t very forthcoming "
Ah see if you care what others think about you, you have it all wrong. It's not your business |
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life..
In my case, I’ve seen what my work colleagues are like if they find out someone is on here…
Basically, they continually talk behind the guy’s back and laugh and joke that “my MATE found out they’re swingers… he must be really weird watching his missus shagging other blokes”…
It’s got to the point that it’s been noticed by the guy in question and he’s not taking it well. He’s tried reporting them for harassment in work, but HR aren’t very forthcoming
Ah see if you care what others think about you, you have it all wrong. It's not your business"
Sometimes it’s hard to put up with constant belittling though, some people don’t want their private life to be publicly mocked |
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life..
In my case, I’ve seen what my work colleagues are like if they find out someone is on here…
Basically, they continually talk behind the guy’s back and laugh and joke that “my MATE found out they’re swingers… he must be really weird watching his missus shagging other blokes”…
It’s got to the point that it’s been noticed by the guy in question and he’s not taking it well. He’s tried reporting them for harassment in work, but HR aren’t very forthcoming
Ah see if you care what others think about you, you have it all wrong. It's not your business
Sometimes it’s hard to put up with constant belittling though, some people don’t want their private life to be publicly mocked"
Well boo hoo  |
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life..
It can go against an organisations code of ethics."
I don't understand how a personal life is ever under scrutiny. You work to live, not live to work |
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life..
It can go against an organisations code of ethics.
I don't understand how a personal life is ever under scrutiny. You work to live, not live to work"
Bringing the profession into disrepute, using your position to influence people etc. For example, teachers, doctors, police officers... I mean you've seen the cases in the news recently about the met officers. |
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I knew someone on here through a social group who was a psychologist.
Someone asked him once if he could separate his job from chatting to people on fab or any other site and subconsciously analysing them.
His answer was that he did that regardless of who and where he was chatting but for him a bigger issue was that if people knew what he did for a living they could accuse him of manipulation.
He struggled with that conundrum and eventually left the site and has never returned. |
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By *uvery30Woman
over a year ago
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I would say yes. As I work in a hospital. So wouldn't want patients recognising me. I did once put a face pic on and so many people I new messaged me (on other platforms as well) and just made me feel uneasy. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see how it ever can be.. if someone sees you on here, means they are too?! Also... you're allowed a personal life..
It can go against an organisations code of ethics.
I don't understand how a personal life is ever under scrutiny. You work to live, not live to work
Bringing the profession into disrepute, using your position to influence people etc. For example, teachers, doctors, police officers... I mean you've seen the cases in the news recently about the met officers. "
Ding ding ding.
It's not always cut and dry but HR can use it like an axe if they want.
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
Belfast |
"I've never understood this mindset.
Anyone who sees you on fab is themselves on here. If they were to expose you, they'd also be exposing themselves.
And surely, what you get up to in your private life is none of your employers business"
You seriously underestimate human nature.
Some people, normally those rejected, will take it upon themselves to cause whatever damage they can, particularly to anyone whose profession has a strict code of conduct.
If they have nothing to lose reputationally, some won't think twice about turning someone's life upside down. They won't be in the spotlight, you will.
If someone was a postie or a builder and outed as being on fab, you could probably brush it off.
A police officer, Judge, Magistrate, GP or a host of other professions would be in trouble if there is a perception that being on a swimgers site would make them vulnerable to corruption.
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