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Do you have a friend you tell where you're going? (Safety)
Do you have someone you can talk to about how meets went? (Good or bad)
I don't have a friendship circle and even if I did most people would frown upon where I look for my fun.
For normal 'dates' I'd tell my mum where I was for safety, but in this case I'm wondering what to do as an alternative.
Hope some lovely, like minded ladies can help a girl out xx |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
I know I'm a man but as I see no replies to you I'd just say that any woman I meet I insist she calls someone to let them know she is safe.
It is most important to me as well as her.
Good luck  |
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"Do you have a friend you tell where you're going? (Safety)
Do you have someone you can talk to about how meets went? (Good or bad)
I don't have a friendship circle and even if I did most people would frown upon where I look for my fun.
For normal 'dates' I'd tell my mum where I was for safety, but in this case I'm wondering what to do as an alternative.
Hope some lovely, like minded ladies can help a girl out xx"
I have a friend /neighbour despite being retired she’s non judgy she knows what lifestyle I lead , I always tell her when I have a meet as I live alone and no one would really know or notice if something went wrong , I do talk to her about my meets but the age difference is tricky lol she’s mid 70’s I’m mid 50’s, I don’t have a huge circle of friends and the ones I do have I couldn’t trust them knowing about my lifestyle etc x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I have a wonderful friend who I tell where I'm going.
One, she always hypes me up. Two, I need that for safety.
I have a lot of friends/acquaintances on here. But in terms of close friends? Only a handful in here and elsewhere. I actually met the aforementioned friend at a social - they're good ways of building up connections and making friends. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
Hey OP, I do have a couple of non fab friends that I would sometimes say I'm going to meet someone - more often because they want details 
If you feel uncomfortable maybe ask someone on here to be that person of contact to make you feel more comfortable going on meets. I know I'm not local but I'm happy to be that person if you'd like just now - everyone deserves to feel happy and safe  |
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"Hey OP, I do have a couple of non fab friends that I would sometimes say I'm going to meet someone - more often because they want details
If you feel uncomfortable maybe ask someone on here to be that person of contact to make you feel more comfortable going on meets. I know I'm not local but I'm happy to be that person if you'd like just now - everyone deserves to feel happy and safe "
You’re good people, Miss Cede |
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over a year ago
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I have a couple of non fab friends who I message about where and who I am meeting as a safety thing. Lucky to have some non judgemental people in my life.
I have a small telegram group of like minded ladies if you want to join. X |
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"Do you have a friend you tell where you're going? (Safety)
Do you have someone you can talk to about how meets went? (Good or bad)
I don't have a friendship circle and even if I did most people would frown upon where I look for my fun.
For normal 'dates' I'd tell my mum where I was for safety, but in this case I'm wondering what to do as an alternative.
Hope some lovely, like minded ladies can help a girl out xx"
I have a safety buddy from one of my mental health peer support group.
I talk about meets with previous meets and my Friend with benefits who lives in the Caribbean.
When things get tricky, I have my peer support groups and my therapist. They keep me grounded, safe and boundaries. Not everyone in my support group is "happy" about my swinging but they understand that it's part of my life and I'm trying to do it in a safe and controlled way. We work really hard not to judge...some of us in peer support don't live the most traditional lives but we can see that we are trying to do the best we can with what we can cope with. I've met sex workers, addicts, abusers, ex-offenders, people who lost custody of their kids, teenage parents, 420 friendly, combined with all of our mental health conditions. We get ostracised by the general population so we try not to ostracise each other.
Most of us have been ostracised our whole life and a lot of us end up in a pickle when we try to stick to the status quo.
That's who I talk to mostly professionals. |
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"I have a couple of non fab friends who I message about where and who I am meeting as a safety thing. Lucky to have some non judgemental people in my life.
I have a small telegram group of like minded ladies if you want to join. X"
Thank you, I have replied to your message xx |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
Actually something that never entered my mind. That's an additional concern for any woman on here, feel bad that I wouldn't have thought of that. I guess I know I'm not a threat to a woman but that doesn't mean the risk isn't there. And some guys give out about not getting meets, fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually something that never entered my mind. That's an additional concern for any woman on here, feel bad that I wouldn't have thought of that. I guess I know I'm not a threat to a woman but that doesn't mean the risk isn't there. And some guys give out about not getting meets, fuck."
I have spoken to some guys about this before. You lot should have a safety net as well. You go round to a girls house who you don't know, and no one knows where you are.... what if we are the psychos?? I watch an awful lot of docs about serial killers and I have a tendancy to tie my men up....  |
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"Do you have a friend you tell where you're going? (Safety)
Do you have someone you can talk to about how meets went? (Good or bad)
I don't have a friendship circle and even if I did most people would frown upon where I look for my fun.
For normal 'dates' I'd tell my mum where I was for safety, but in this case I'm wondering what to do as an alternative.
Hope some lovely, like minded ladies can help a girl out xx"
I have a close friend that in the past I always told where I was. I don’t have a huge circle of friends as work from home mostly which makes it harder to build up. Plus with this lifestyle it’s not always something you can talk about freely.
I met some lovely people the one and only time I went to a club and used the forum to establish contacts before I went so that I wasn’t walking in alone… I also made friends on the forum and it was the lovely Meli who I rung afterwards to tell her all about it. So I it can happen  |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
"Actually something that never entered my mind. That's an additional concern for any woman on here, feel bad that I wouldn't have thought of that. I guess I know I'm not a threat to a woman but that doesn't mean the risk isn't there. And some guys give out about not getting meets, fuck.
I have spoken to some guys about this before. You lot should have a safety net as well. You go round to a girls house who you don't know, and no one knows where you are.... what if we are the psychos?? I watch an awful lot of docs about serial killers and I have a tendancy to tie my men up.... "
Yeah but were generally thick fucks, led by our dicks. This would literally never dawn on a fella. It should but it wouldn't |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm lucky in that if i was to meet,my partner wohld always know who i was meeting & when.
I've seen it suggested for single people to leave a note on their fridge with who they're meeting/on a date with (where,when & their username) and the site they're from.Just in case the worse ever did happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a friend who isn't judgy at all and just wants me to live my best life ..I usually give him all the details of whom I'm meeting before I go and send him my live location . I also tell him I will check by a certain time.
It's always handy to have a friend like that but if you don't. ..you could always let meets know beforehand that you share their info with a friend including location to ensure your safety ..hopefully this would deter anyone with ill intentions. |
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"Do you have a friend you tell where you're going? (Safety)
Do you have someone you can talk to about how meets went? (Good or bad)
I don't have a friendship circle and even if I did most people would frown upon where I look for my fun.
For normal 'dates' I'd tell my mum where I was for safety, but in this case I'm wondering what to do as an alternative.
Hope some lovely, like minded ladies can help a girl out xx
I have a friend /neighbour despite being retired she’s non judgy she knows what lifestyle I lead , I always tell her when I have a meet as I live alone and no one would really know or notice if something went wrong , I do talk to her about my meets but the age difference is tricky lol she’s mid 70’s I’m mid 50’s, I don’t have a huge circle of friends and the ones I do have I couldn’t trust them knowing about my lifestyle etc x "
.... " despite being retired, she's non judgy ..... " ?
That made me laugh. Like the first day you get a pension you change your moral outlook on life ...... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you have a friend you tell where you're going? (Safety)
Do you have someone you can talk to about how meets went? (Good or bad)
I don't have a friendship circle and even if I did most people would frown upon where I look for my fun.
For normal 'dates' I'd tell my mum where I was for safety, but in this case I'm wondering what to do as an alternative.
Hope some lovely, like minded ladies can help a girl out xx
I have a close friend that in the past I always told where I was. I don’t have a huge circle of friends as work from home mostly which makes it harder to build up. Plus with this lifestyle it’s not always something you can talk about freely.
I met some lovely people the one and only time I went to a club and used the forum to establish contacts before I went so that I wasn’t walking in alone… I also made friends on the forum and it was the lovely Meli who I rung afterwards to tell her all about it. So I it can happen "
Oh you. I remember that so clearly! I miss talking to you, will send you a message shortly. |
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O.P.
What's the difference ?
1. I'm meeting a bloke in ?????? I should be home by ????? I'll text you if I'm staying out ?????
Non fab meets are no safer.
Best to check out how you vet people on here and whether you should have a social meet first.
I don't see the reason anyone needs a particular person to confide in. It's not as if anyone would go into the finer details about how they met or the sex they intend to have....
Just the usual precautions surely?
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"I'm lucky in that if i was to meet,my partner wohld always know who i was meeting & when.
I've seen it suggested for single people to leave a note on their fridge with who they're meeting/on a date with (where,when & their username) and the site they're from.Just in case the worse ever did happen."
That's a great idea actually. The worse scenario for me would be while I was out and at it- one of my daughters let themselves in and find out their saintly mother is up to high jinks with someone younger than they are. |
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"O.P.
What's the difference ?
1. I'm meeting a bloke in ?????? I should be home by ????? I'll text you if I'm staying out ?????
Non fab meets are no safer.
Best to check out how you vet people on here and whether you should have a social meet first.
I don't see the reason anyone needs a particular person to confide in. It's not as if anyone would go into the finer details about how they met or the sex they intend to have....
Just the usual precautions surely?
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When I do a social first then yes, there's no difference.
On the occasions I intend to stay out I'd rather that conversation be with a friend as opposed to my mum, we love each other deeply but she doesn't want to know when I'm having sex, the same as I don't want to know when she is.
It's not really about going into the finer details. For me personally it's more about sharing my good mood when I've had a good time or having someone to cheer me up when I've had a bad time.
Everyone's different but this was my reason for asking the question x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know I'm a man but as I see no replies to you I'd just say that any woman I meet I insist she calls someone to let them know she is safe.
It is most important to me as well as her.
Good luck "
That's not creepy |
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