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Do you regret being single?.
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
I dont, but when people around is getting married. I sometimes get that thought, but it only lasts for few minututes, it also reminds me very quickly afterwards of why I like the single life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I absolutely don't regret being single. My life is peaceful and calm compared to the chaos it was a few years ago.
Sometimes I'd like to hang out (in a sexy way) with someone I care about ...or wake up with someone I care about..but the other stuff? No thanks. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Not really. Relationships can be wonderful and I miss those bits, but sometimes they can also bring out insecurities, trust issues and I feel like my wings have been clipped, which makes me miserable.
I’m a happier person when I’m single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely don't regret being single. My life is peaceful and calm compared to the chaos it was a few years ago.
Sometimes I'd like to hang out (in a sexy way) with someone I care about ...or wake up with someone I care about..but the other stuff? No thanks. "
Definitely this…. Do not miss the noise and drama but do miss the spooning and cuddles but no regrets….. they don’t work (sing it Robbie l) |
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Absolutely not OP.
In a words of Ch. Bukowski:
“and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?”
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By *9XAYNOR69Man
over a year ago
Centralised he/him/his From the land of cocksuckers |
I don't like it, but unfortunately and in reality it's to late for me as an older gay guy.
Grew up in a strict military Maltese background
Got married beautiful daughter separated divorced
Have a great relationship with my x partner and daughter.
Been on my own for more years than I care to count and can't see that changing so make the most of it
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This could turn into a pretty good dating thread this if there are any genuine lonely hearts out there.
Could also be a good place to find some genuine non sexual friendships. No piss taking but it’s ok to not be ok - everybody needs a hug now and then!! |
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People need a sense of belonging. At the same time, as a divorcee, I understand how disastrous bad relationships can be.
The way I see it, being in a good relationship is much better than being single. But being single is much better than a relationship that you aren't fond of. |
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I do because it means my ex is my ex we are amazing at being friends but crap at being a couple. 32 years together but it just reached a point where we were content to say hmmm let’s not try to make this work it works better another way. Which is why we get on so well… do occasional things together - do family stuff with no drama - but top and bottom it didn’t work as we both wanted it to - so yes theres regret for that.
So I come on here - look at boobs and make a nuisance if myself on people’s threads… its my new career!!  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I absolutely don't regret being single. My life is peaceful and calm compared to the chaos it was a few years ago.
Sometimes I'd like to hang out (in a sexy way) with someone I care about ...or wake up with someone I care about..but the other stuff? No thanks. "
That sounds good and yes, in a sexy way. I also like the calm and peacefulness with the single life |
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Nope, don't regret it at all. Gives me the freedom to enjoy doing what I want, when I want, with who I want. Ok, there is the odd evening alone on the sofa with crap telly when I feel a bit lonely, but generally, very happy with the single life. |
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"I dont, but when people around is getting married. I sometimes get that thought, but it only lasts for few minututes, it also reminds me very quickly afterwards of why I like the single life "
I've been married before so I do not currently regret my single life. I don't have a lot of regrets at all. I did the best I could with what I had been given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the ability to do my own thing and the variety that can bring.
However, this last week has been hard because all I really want is a big hug that makes me feel safe and less like I'm on my own.
So it does have a downside
I'm lucky though, friends on hand and my sons too. It's just times like this I sometimes wish for more.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regret? Like it was a choice? 
It’s all sadness that I found myself single, and I’ll never forget trying everything I could have to save my marriage, so I left without any regret.
I smile when I see others in love. It’s sweet to know it’s still out there.  |
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I do. I mean, regret is a strong word. I don’t regret choosing to end relationships or choosing not to take things further after a first date. I’m not with now because I could see at least one reason not to be.
But I deeply miss the loving company of a partner. I miss growing in a relationship with someone as we learn each other, intimacy, laughing together, days out, weekends away, holidays, having a best friend who knows me so I can truly talk about how I feel (not the guy version, which is “Alright?” “Yeah, you?” “Yeah”).
I miss being part of a thing. I love the feeling of knowing someone fancies and loves me as much as I love them. The thought of having companionship in old age.
I have always been a bit of a loner. And I don’t doubt I have pushed people away because of that. But I’ve now been alone for years and it’s made me lonely. I have some great friends but they have their own lives. I want someone who is an active part of my life. I know that may come with occasional arguments, disappointment, upset and pain. But that is what you get from being vulnerable to someone and caring so much, that it upsets you to have that rocked.
Sigh….. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I love the ability to do my own thing and the variety that can bring.
However, this last week has been hard because all I really want is a big hug that makes me feel safe and less like I'm on my own.
So it does have a downside
I'm lucky though, friends on hand and my sons too. It's just times like this I sometimes wish for more.
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I hear you and I understand |
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There’s nothing to regret. I would prefer not to be and am actively looking to date but life keeps throwing me back into the single life so all I do is try to embrace it, focus on me and the positives in terms of I can do what I like when I like etc.
Life is too short to have regrets. |
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Absolutely not ...
If I'd have stayed in the situation I was a few years back I wouldn't have had all the adventures and met so many amazing people ..
Yes I occasionally miss waking up with someone every morning but definitely happy single ...
I'd never say never though tbf |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been single now for 5 years.
In the last 7 months I've absolutely loved being single. I've achieved quite a bit in my professional life, and I'm mentally in a great place. Yes I occasionally get lonely, and I miss some things about a relationship, but that passes very quickly.
It would now take someone very very special to change my mind and relationship status. |
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"I absolutely don't regret being single. My life is peaceful and calm compared to the chaos it was a few years ago.
Sometimes I'd like to hang out (in a sexy way) with someone I care about ...or wake up with someone I care about..but the other stuff? No thanks. "
I was talking about this with a friend last night. We were both saying the same as you, essentially.
She made the point though, which comes first: Sex or the care? Are people willing to invest the time and then sometimes if you do then someone can want more and it can breakdown anyway. Catch 23 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not single, and I would very much regret it if I was. I always have someone to share my days and nights with, I always have someone on my side when nobody else seems to be and I always have someone to share the good and the bad stuff with me.
Bess x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only regret I have about leaving my husband was not doing it sooner. So much wasted time.
I miss parts of being in a relationship. My life is good, someone will need to really add a lot to my life to make me want to change it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kind of regret not staying single. Ideally I'd live next door to a lover so we both retain our independence but we can easily slip next door for filthy sex when we feel horny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I kind of regret not staying single. Ideally I'd live next door to a lover so we both retain our independence but we can easily slip next door for filthy sex when we feel horny"
This is the ideal I think. Close but not too close |
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Not often. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be partnered up but I couldn't give up my sexual freedom. They'd need to either understand or join in. It's always been an issue in past relationships. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Absolutely not OP.
In a words of Ch. Bukowski:
“and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?”"
I call it Oneness...
Oneness (n.)
1590s, "quality of being just one, unity, union;" 1610s, "sameness, uniformity," from one + -ness.
The modern word appears to be a re-formation; Middle English onnesse (Old English annes "unity, agreement, solitude") vanished after 1400. |
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No, I get to do what I like when I like. The older I get the more I value my leisure time. I don’t want the hassle of fitting into someone else’s life and habits.
There are some disadvantages but In general I’m quite content being on my own.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely don't regret being single. My life is peaceful and calm compared to the chaos it was a few years ago.
Sometimes I'd like to hang out (in a sexy way) with someone I care about ...or wake up with someone I care about..but the other stuff? No thanks.
I was talking about this with a friend last night. We were both saying the same as you, essentially.
She made the point though, which comes first: Sex or the care? Are people willing to invest the time and then sometimes if you do then someone can want more and it can breakdown anyway. Catch 23 "
The care comes first for me, without that there would be no sex. Yes, if there's someone I want to invest time with then I'm more than willing to do so..if wanting more happens then we talk about it..
It either means more happens or it doesn't, same as with any relationship what people want or need can change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do. I mean, regret is a strong word. I don’t regret choosing to end relationships or choosing not to take things further after a first date. I’m not with now because I could see at least one reason not to be.
But I deeply miss the loving company of a partner. I miss growing in a relationship with someone as we learn each other, intimacy, laughing together, days out, weekends away, holidays, having a best friend who knows me so I can truly talk about how I feel (not the guy version, which is “Alright?” “Yeah, you?” “Yeah”).
I miss being part of a thing. I love the feeling of knowing someone fancies and loves me as much as I love them. The thought of having companionship in old age.
I have always been a bit of a loner. And I don’t doubt I have pushed people away because of that. But I’ve now been alone for years and it’s made me lonely. I have some great friends but they have their own lives. I want someone who is an active part of my life. I know that may come with occasional arguments, disappointment, upset and pain. But that is what you get from being vulnerable to someone and caring so much, that it upsets you to have that rocked.
Sigh….."
^ this sums me up. |
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By *egoMan
over a year ago
Preston |
I actually don’t want to be single, but I am so guarded, so hesitant of letting someone in, even overwhelming guilt about having feelings for someone other than my late partner. They feel I’m not interested and move on.
They feel I’m not interested while I’m planning my life with them….
I’m an emotional void to strangers, hence being here, helping others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's times where I miss having someone.. or rather someone to hold before I go to sleep. It's those little lonely moments that are difficult. Other than that I'm very happy to be single  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not OP.
In a words of Ch. Bukowski:
“and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?”
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I’ve just written that down. Thank you! |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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To elaborate I hate it. Hate waking up alone, hate going to bed alone, sitting watching telly alone on a night time. Feels worse being stuck in the same house they was the family home now with members missing. My two sons still here but either are out or in rooms so house always feels empty. I enjoyed having someone to plan future with, to work on building a better life with. Still have goals and dreams but they feel kinda pointless alone |
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"To elaborate I hate it. Hate waking up alone, hate going to bed alone, sitting watching telly alone on a night time. Feels worse being stuck in the same house they was the family home now with members missing. My two sons still here but either are out or in rooms so house always feels empty. I enjoyed having someone to plan future with, to work on building a better life with. Still have goals and dreams but they feel kinda pointless alone "
Ditto son. Feel your pain  |
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I love the freedom of being single. I was a lot more lonely when I was in a bad marriage than I am being in my own company.
Would be lovely just sometimes to spend time with someone I care about though |
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"I love the freedom of being single. I was a lot more lonely when I was in a bad marriage than I am being in my own company.
Would be lovely just sometimes to spend time with someone I care about though "
Yeah.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"God no, the guy I was with last wanted to be with me everyday even thou we worked together, I like my own space and independence, can’t stand clingy
Difference between clingy and togetherness. "
Nope he was definitely clingy |
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"God no, the guy I was with last wanted to be with me everyday even thou we worked together, I like my own space and independence, can’t stand clingy
Difference between clingy and togetherness.
Nope he was definitely clingy "
Agreed. Not healthy |
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I should have enjoyed being single much more than I did. Marriage has taught me the value of being your own person, sleeping with whoever you want whenever you want and being independent. Love my wife as I do, I still love many other women too and need them just as much as I need my wife. In many ways it would be so much easier not to have got attached to just one person. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm very happy single, I always keep busy, I'm selfish and just like doing the things I want.
Luckily I'm still very good friends with my ex wife and we sometimes socialise together. This weekend we're going to a music festival together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't regret the decision I made to end a very unhappy marriage. I don't miss the arguments and drama.
I've not had the sort of loving supportive relationship I wanted so it's hard to miss what you've never really had.
I mosrly enjoy my own company and not having to share my space. There are tines I am lonely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To elaborate I hate it. Hate waking up alone, hate going to bed alone, sitting watching telly alone on a night time. Feels worse being stuck in the same house they was the family home now with members missing. My two sons still here but either are out or in rooms so house always feels empty. I enjoyed having someone to plan future with, to work on building a better life with. Still have goals and dreams but they feel kinda pointless alone "
Snap! |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I dont, but when people around is getting married. I sometimes get that thought, but it only lasts for few minututes, it also reminds me very quickly afterwards of why I like the single life
I've been married before so I do not currently regret my single life. I don't have a lot of regrets at all. I did the best I could with what I had been given."
That sounds good to me |
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Most of the time I'm perfectly happy being single. Every so often I remember that it's mostly because I've decided I'm undateable... sometimes when all my friends are in couples I feel like the odd one out... or I miss the nice things that apparently couples do. |
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Yes absolutely, for me it's not by choice but being out of what turned into a toxic relationship is the best thing that happened to me in a long time.
Being single has its up side but so many downs as well, loneliness and boredom are mind numbingly monotonous but on the plus side i can do what i want when i want but it would be so much nicer and healthier to have that one special person to share things and do things with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been single for 7 years now and I’m fairly happy with it. I enjoy my own company and the peace & quiet.
The thought of a relationship sounds good in theory but I’m not sure I’d be willing to give up my free time. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't deny it would be lovely to be in a relationship after being single for so long.
I just want to find someone who wants to be with me because of 'who' I am and not 'what' I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spent most my life being single, have dated occasionally and longest relationship lasting less than 6 months. I've used work as an excuse and has proven to be lonely at times seeing how friends are mostly happy in their relationships. I'm coming to a point after parents health scares of realising there is more to life than stress from work and need to re-look at my personal priorities |
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I've never regretted anything less!
Maybe there will come a day when I struggle to find intimacy and I regret not having a partner on hand, but I've not experienced that yet.
I love my single life and I've not yet met anyone who has made me think that a relationship would be worth sacrificing it. |
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