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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It can be both I have seen somebody off here... It did not work out but many others have. You have to make sure its what you both want.. xx"
I'm sorry it didn't  .. It's what I'd like but let's hope it's what he wants  x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Depends really. I have met some great guys on here and see them regularly, but wouldn't consider myself in a relationship with them as I have no intention of settling down with one guy.
However I know there are several people who have met their OHs on here and seem to be happy. Makes swinging with couples easier too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here? 
people meet in all kinds of circumstances..
the net whilst still relatively young is just another avenue..
good luck with it..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It can be both I have seen somebody off here... It did not work out but many others have. You have to make sure its what you both want.. xx
I'm sorry it didn't .. It's what I'd like but let's hope it's what he wants x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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mrs fab?? good job i never changed to miss fab 2012 else we'd look like a family haha
back to the question.. you cant help who you fall for so enjoy whatever it is you have for however long it lasts. talk loads and be honest and open. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"mrs fab?? good job i never changed to miss fab 2012 else we'd look like a family haha
back to the question.. you cant help who you fall for so enjoy whatever it is you have for however long it lasts. talk loads and be honest and open. "
I'm always honest  that's my problem |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
If it happens and it is what both parties want then I'm sure it could be a good thing. You are able to express your sexuality in ways that might be easier than with others.
I don't see the site as a place to seek a relationship or to play out a relationship in front of others.
I am happy for those that find their match, wherever they find that person.
Enjoy. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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when they work, lovely to see but honesty is key or jealousy and checking up on the partners commences and that is a slippy slope down the way.
when they don't.... sometimes horrid, undignified spats played out to point score over the other for all to witness in forum posts & updates.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it happens and it is what both parties want then I'm sure it could be a good thing. You are able to express your sexuality in ways that might be easier than with others.
I don't see the site as a place to seek a relationship or to play out a relationship in front of others.
I am happy for those that find their match, wherever they find that person.
Enjoy."
Seriously didn't go out of my way to seek it but it just happened .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it happens and it is what both parties want then I'm sure it could be a good thing. You are able to express your sexuality in ways that might be easier than with others.
I don't see the site as a place to seek a relationship or to play out a relationship in front of others.
I am happy for those that find their match, wherever they find that person.
Enjoy.
Seriously didn't go out of my way to seek it but it just happened .."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"when they work, lovely to see but honesty is key or jealousy and checking up on the partners commences and that is a slippy slope down the way.
when they don't.... sometimes horrid, undignified spats played out to point score over the other for all to witness in forum posts & updates.
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Well I'm not one to publicly air my dirty laundry.. After all that's what Jeremy Kyle is for |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"If it happens and it is what both parties want then I'm sure it could be a good thing. You are able to express your sexuality in ways that might be easier than with others.
I don't see the site as a place to seek a relationship or to play out a relationship in front of others.
I am happy for those that find their match, wherever they find that person.
Enjoy.
Seriously didn't go out of my way to seek it but it just happened .."
I'm really not suggesting that you did. It is great that you were open to it. It's not a comment on your specific situation.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"when they work, lovely to see but honesty is key or jealousy and checking up on the partners commences and that is a slippy slope down the way.
when they don't.... sometimes horrid, undignified spats played out to point score over the other for all to witness in forum posts & updates.
Well I'm not one to publicly air my dirty laundry.. After all that's what Jeremy Kyle is for "
hang around..... this can be better than Jeremy Kyle
good luck to your both |
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"It can be both I have seen somebody off here... It did not work out but many others have. You have to make sure its what you both want.. xx
I'm sorry it didn't .. It's what I'd like but let's hope it's what he wants x"
Maybe but he went on to meet the person he is meant to be with so its a happy ending.. Just make sure its what he wants and use self preservastion... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it happens and it is what both parties want then I'm sure it could be a good thing. You are able to express your sexuality in ways that might be easier than with others.
I don't see the site as a place to seek a relationship or to play out a relationship in front of others.
I am happy for those that find their match, wherever they find that person.
Enjoy.
Seriously didn't go out of my way to seek it but it just happened ..
I'm really not suggesting that you did. It is great that you were open to it. It's not a comment on your specific situation.
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didn't think you did |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking from personal experience, it was the last thing I was looking for.
But for me it's been a good thing.
As others have said, if there are genuine feelings on both sides, I don't see why a relationship wouldn't work just as well on here as in the vanilla world . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It can be both I have seen somebody off here... It did not work out but many others have. You have to make sure its what you both want.. xx
I'm sorry it didn't .. It's what I'd like but let's hope it's what he wants x
Maybe but he went on to meet the person he is meant to be with so its a happy ending.. Just make sure its what he wants and use self preservastion... "
Aww that's nice.. Thank u x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wasn't looking for a relationship wen I joined but met a guy I had great chemistry wiv in and out of the bedroom, the meets got more and more frequent until we eventually decided we'd fallen for one and other. It's great sexually has we have no secrets and now swing together too. You never know what's around the corner but so far so good as we are expecting twins in 2 weeks. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"I wasn't looking for a relationship wen I joined but met a guy I had great chemistry wiv in and out of the bedroom, the meets got more and more frequent until we eventually decided we'd fallen for one and other. It's great sexually has we have no secrets and now swing together too. You never know what's around the corner but so far so good as we are expecting twins in 2 weeks. "
congratualtions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here? "
Are you having doubts? Has the green eyed monster surfaced?
Siren & I met through swinging and we've been married four years and have two children. It can and does work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wasn't looking for a relationship wen I joined but met a guy I had great chemistry wiv in and out of the bedroom, the meets got more and more frequent until we eventually decided we'd fallen for one and other. It's great sexually has we have no secrets and now swing together too. You never know what's around the corner but so far so good as we are expecting twins in 2 weeks. "
Congratulations and good luck with the babies x x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wasn't looking for a relationship wen I joined but met a guy I had great chemistry wiv in and out of the bedroom, the meets got more and more frequent until we eventually decided we'd fallen for one and other. It's great sexually has we have no secrets and now swing together too. You never know what's around the corner but so far so good as we are expecting twins in 2 weeks. "
Aww that's great news.. Good luck. I found it hard with one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here?
Are you having doubts? Has the green eyed monster surfaced?
Siren & I met through swinging and we've been married four years and have two children. It can and does work. "
Only from him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could meet your next partner in the pub, in a supermarket, the library, don't see why here is any different.
I just don't like to see it all played out so publicly in the forums and then it goes tits up.
Embarrassing to see as well as for those involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well me and mr duo kind of met on here we were both on here as singles on seperate profiles originally and mutual friends of ours who are also a married couple on fabs suggested we should get to know each other as they thought we'd both get on..... turns out mr duo had tried to message me quite a few times but i'd never bothered to reply didnt think he'd go for me  lol but we met as friends and did the date thing first after realising we really liked each other and there was more to it than just a meet off fabs etc we decided to coem off to conentrate on us as a couple ..... 18 months later we're living together as a family, planning our wedding and hopefully kids soon too..... yes we're back on here as a couple but thats just cos we're both filthy buggers and this helps us explore our sexual desires and fantasies together openly and honestly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here?
Are you having doubts? Has the green eyed monster surfaced?
Siren & I met through swinging and we've been married four years and have two children. It can and does work.
Only from him "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here?
Are you having doubts? Has the green eyed monster surfaced?
Siren & I met through swinging and we've been married four years and have two children. It can and does work.
Only from him
OI! "
True or not? |
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"Do I have to say nicey nicey things or was the call for opinions a real one?
You say what you feel? I have thick skin and can take it "
You shouldn't need a thick skin. It's a simple point of _iew - not shrapnel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here?
Are you having doubts? Has the green eyed monster surfaced?
Siren & I met through swinging and we've been married four years and have two children. It can and does work.
Only from him
OI!
True or not? "
me? jealous? |
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It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx "
yet you felt the need to comment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx
yet you felt the need to comment?"
Opinions were asked, and opinion was given! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx
yet you felt the need to comment?
Opinions were asked, and opinion was given! "
but if someone thinks the thread is stupid why post? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx
yet you felt the need to comment?"
It was a fair and, I feel, honest comment to an open question. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx "
Oh I really didn't realise I was playing my relationship out on the forum.. It was a question in generally and wondered what other people experiences were. By the way the name change really wasn't my idea.. I liked duckzilla as it was different .. No offence intended but I was told it was Miss fab not Mrs fab that was awarded |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx
yet you felt the need to comment?
Opinions were asked, and opinion was given!
but if someone thinks the thread is stupid why post?"
I didn't read it as them thinking the thread is stupid, opinions were asked and given. Honestly not simperingly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me."
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I? |
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx
Oh I really didn't realise I was playing my relationship out on the forum.. It was a question in generally and wondered what other people experiences were. By the way the name change really wasn't my idea.. I liked duckzilla as it was different .. No offence intended but I was told it was Miss fab not Mrs fab that was awarded "
I wasn't offended by anything and I hope you are not either. |
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me.
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I? "
And I never specified YOUR relationship did I?
I think ANY new relationship between Fab members is better off not played out on the forums....why can't it just be a personal thing that people share together as a couple? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a stupid question to ask. What are you going to do if the majority of people say it's a bad thing ? Dump him ?
It doesn't matter where people meet. 'Here' doesn't exist. I expect you met in a pub or a house. No different to any other couple.
I , for one , don't like it when people play out their relationships in the forums for what ever reason.
The genuine couples don't feel the need to do it ( by genuine I mean committed and long standing )
What's with the name change ? Is it a form of branding .... a hands off signal ? Or a he's mine signal ?
For what it's worth MrFab won his name in a 'fun' forum contest. He didn't just award it to himself. The female version of that name went to someone else.
That said i hope you both are together when you are holding your grandchildren. I just hope you don't feel the need to pass the piccies round to a distant bunch of strangers.
Love Gran xx
Oh I really didn't realise I was playing my relationship out on the forum.. It was a question in generally and wondered what other people experiences were. By the way the name change really wasn't my idea.. I liked duckzilla as it was different .. No offence intended but I was told it was Miss fab not Mrs fab that was awarded
I wasn't offended by anything and I hope you are not either. "
God no I wouldn't be on here if I was |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh I really didn't realise I was playing my relationship out on the forum.. It was a question in generally and wondered what other people experiences were. By the way the name change really wasn't my idea.. I liked duckzilla as it was different .. No offence intended but I was told it was Miss fab not Mrs fab that was awarded "
I'm going to break my usual stand on these things and say something that may seem uncharitable and is personal.
If you liked your original name why change it? If you are not playing your relationship out on the forum why ask a jealousy question of your new partner here? I hadn't realised the speed with which the pair of you got together until I actually looked at your profile and I see that you leave each other a public billets doux in the form of verifications for every shag.
So, your post now feels loaded and not an open question at all.
I am now giving myself a time out as I am angry at myself for exposing the depth of anger I feel at the umbrage taken to an honest answer to an open question. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me.
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I?
And I never specified YOUR relationship did I?
I think ANY new relationship between Fab members is better off not played out on the forums....why can't it just be a personal thing that people share together as a couple?"
Well like I said I'm not playing my relationship out on forum.. It was a question!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me.
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I? "
Were we meant to think you were talking about someone else? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me.
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I?
Were we meant to think you were talking about someone else?"
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Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I get it now Mr and Mrs fab.... maybe just see where it goes and keep it on the down low.. I have made a tit of myself mentioning I had met someone only for it not to pan out and its embrassessing... |
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"Oh I really didn't realise I was playing my relationship out on the forum.. It was a question in generally and wondered what other people experiences were. By the way the name change really wasn't my idea.. I liked duckzilla as it was different .. No offence intended but I was told it was Miss fab not Mrs fab that was awarded
I'm going to break my usual stand on these things and say something that may seem uncharitable and is personal.
If you liked your original name why change it? If you are not playing your relationship out on the forum why ask a jealousy question of your new partner here? I hadn't realised the speed with which the pair of you got together until I actually looked at your profile and I see that you leave each other a public billets doux in the form of verifications for every shag.
So, your post now feels loaded and not an open question at all.
I am now giving myself a time out as I am angry at myself for exposing the depth of anger I feel at the umbrage taken to an honest answer to an open question."
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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to be fair to the OP, she has been here just over a week and met a man she is very happy with... she won't know that posting will get a reaction and not always positive. She may not appreciate changing her name may attract positive and negative comments. It will bring attention.
her partner does know the level of attention this will get him and her and I am sure he will be able to help and guide.
all the best OP |
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"to be fair to the OP, she has been here just over a week and met a man she is very happy with... she won't know that posting will get a reaction and not always positive. She may not appreciate changing her name may attract positive and negative comments. It will bring attention.
her partner does know the level of attention this will get him and her and I am sure he will be able to help and guide.
all the best OP"
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me.
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I?
Were we meant to think you were talking about someone else?
Shut up you "
Never! This does seem to have happened very quickly though, considering you were incredibly miserable less than 2 weeks ago? Not too quickly I hope Ducko. Genuinely hope it's what you think it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is kinda like a 'Celebrity Fabswinger' reality thread.....
I agree with Granny, playing out a new relationship on the forums is a bit sickly to me.
I didn't at any point say my relationship did I?
And I never specified YOUR relationship did I?
I think ANY new relationship between Fab members is better off not played out on the forums....why can't it just be a personal thing that people share together as a couple?"
Jane, we are gonna have to stop agreeing like this! 
I think the problem on here is declaring undying love after a couple of good meets and then a few months later breaking up and playing that out on here. Seen it a few times and its very undignified as well as a tad embarrassing reading it.
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"when they work, lovely to see but honesty is key or jealousy and checking up on the partners commences and that is a slippy slope down the way.
when they don't.... sometimes horrid, undignified spats played out to point score over the other for all to witness in forum posts & updates.
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...and haven't we witnessed some doozies over the years! Personally I'd want to get to know a new partner in private and not carry out my courtship on the forums, but each to their own. |
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I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol"
makes perfect sense |
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"Aslong as your birth happy then beat of luck for you both
haha you pinched Eveshams keyboard for the night? lol
Oi.....I resemble that remark
What you resemble a keyboard??? "
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"Aslong as your birth happy then beat of luck for you both
haha you pinched Eveshams keyboard for the night? lol
Oi.....I resemble that remark
What you resemble a keyboard???
Yep.....it works perfect if you press the right buttons "
Good come back haha |
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"I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol
makes perfect sense"
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"I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol
makes perfect sense
Phew! Thanks Hun lol"
It did make sense I am no good with words.... |
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"I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol"
We wernt on here as singles looking for a relationship but it happened
We have been on here as a couple over 7 years, no jealousy of either of us x |
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Myself and Fifi met on hear as singles at a social 3 years ago.... we are due to be married in September! The stag n hen parties should be interesting Lol x |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Myself and Fifi met on hear as singles at a social 3 years ago.... we are due to be married in September! The stag n hen parties should be interesting Lol x"
Congratulations. Have a great day |
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"I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol
We wernt on here as singles looking for a relationship but it happened
We have been on here as a couple over 7 years, no jealousy of either of us x"
That's fab! Everyone sees things differently don't they and basically if I was in a relationship I wouldn't want to share him haha |
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"Myself and Fifi met on hear as singles at a social 3 years ago.... we are due to be married in September! The stag n hen parties should be interesting Lol x"
Congrats! |
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I don't think its either until the dirty laundry starts being aired via pm, and on the public forum. I have read really cringeworthy posts from singles who are now/were couples and to be honest i wonder if they realise how inane and boring they realise some other posters find this, now i will say( as im sure someone will correct me if i don't)that you dont have to read or post every thread, and yes i am aware of this.
When it goes tits up the fallout is awful, there then ensues the veiled digs from either party directed at the other.
If it were me i would want to keep it private.
Just remember, if/when it goes tits up people who have posted alongside you, congratulating you, egging you on with the love in threads, the same said people will revel in your public humiliation, if you can handle all that then alls cool.
If you last the distance, then i would wish you all the luck in the world.xxx |
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"I started seeing someone off here but nothing serious but he left here and wanted to have a "normal" relationship cos he didnt think u should date anyone u meet on the net and that it's seedy! Nice haha.
I must admit if I got with someone off here I'd leave the site and I would like him to as well cos as some people have said it can cause jealousy. I'm not on here for that tho and that's why I'd like to keep a relationship separately from this site. Sorry if that don't make sense I'm not good with wording things lol
We wernt on here as singles looking for a relationship but it happened
We have been on here as a couple over 7 years, no jealousy of either of us x
That's fab! Everyone sees things differently don't they and basically if I was in a relationship I wouldn't want to share him haha"
Well that's part of reason we are still on here, he likes to see me with others and I like to see him with other women.... X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here? "
Honestly, that's one question I have no answer for as I've never started on on here (so to speak).
It would be interesting to do so, as I can imagine that its a bit like working a 'traditional' dating scenario somewhat in reverse?
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Personally I don't think its a good idea to play a relationship out in the forums.
OP this may not be the case and forgive me if I'm wrong, but it feels like your recent posts are a form of marking territory. The name change to match his, the statuses on your profile, the verifications only from him, it screams of 'he's mine and no other woman better contact him for sex'. That's how personally I see it.
I have been on the site for a few years and have seen a few of these hook ups and then break ups. I know that many people do make a go of relationships made via swinging but I've seen a few fail.
We are all different but I wouldn't like to start a brand new relationship and continue swinging. I feel a new relationship should grow between two people and given time to develop, just the two of them.
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"I don't think its either until the dirty laundry starts being aired via pm, and on the public forum. I have read really cringeworthy posts from singles who are now/were couples and to be honest i wonder if they realise how inane and boring they realise some other posters find this, now i will say( as im sure someone will correct me if i don't)that you dont have to read or post every thread, and yes i am aware of this.
When it goes tits up the fallout is awful, there then ensues the veiled digs from either party directed at the other.
If it were me i would want to keep it private.
Just remember, if/when it goes tits up people who have posted alongside you, congratulating you, egging you on with the love in threads, the same said people will revel in your public humiliation, if you can handle all that then alls cool.
If you last the distance, then i would wish you all the luck in the world.xxx"
Its not just you who finds the 'new couple' threads inane and nauseating. Especially when they hijack a good thread to exhibit the love... makes me get a little sick in my mouth. |
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"Personally I don't think its a good idea to play a relationship out in the forums.
OP this may not be the case and forgive me if I'm wrong, but it feels like your recent posts are a form of marking territory. The name change to match his, the statuses on your profile, the verifications only from him, it screams of 'he's mine and no other woman better contact him for sex'. That's how personally I see it.
I have been on the site for a few years and have seen a few of these hook ups and then break ups. I know that many people do make a go of relationships made via swinging but I've seen a few fail.
We are all different but I wouldn't like to start a brand new relationship and continue swinging. I feel a new relationship should grow between two people and given time to develop, just the two of them.
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Indeed. I don't understand the "territory marking" but I've seen married couples do it to. |
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"Personally I don't think its a good idea to play a relationship out in the forums.
OP this may not be the case and forgive me if I'm wrong, but it feels like your recent posts are a form of marking territory. The name change to match his, the statuses on your profile, the verifications only from him, it screams of 'he's mine and no other woman better contact him for sex'. That's how personally I see it.
I have been on the site for a few years and have seen a few of these hook ups and then break ups. I know that many people do make a go of relationships made via swinging but I've seen a few fail.
We are all different but I wouldn't like to start a brand new relationship and continue swinging. I feel a new relationship should grow between two people and given time to develop, just the two of them.
Indeed. I don't understand the "territory marking" but I've seen married couples do it to. "
Yes that's even more disturbing isn't it |
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over a year ago
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Personally i find the verifs to each other rather childish. Reminds me of tom cruise' s sofa outburst. Happy for you guys but probably best to come off the site and enjoy your relationship in the real world |
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I'm interested in the idea of how relationships develop from swinging - not least of which because this would be something which for me, wouldn't be off the table if it ever felt like it was going that way.
As for the OP and her OH. Good luck to you, but overall I don't know you and don't really have any investment in it other than passing courtesy. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I would say a good thing! I have made some great friends on here!
Some have been meets, some have been meets that didn't lead to anything apart from friends, and some have actually been females from forum posts, so yes, I have made some great friends on here, and if you are reading, you know who you are |
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"I would say a good thing! I have made some great friends on here!
Some have been meets, some have been meets that didn't lead to anything apart from friends, and some have actually been females from forum posts, so yes, I have made some great friends on here, and if you are reading, you know who you are "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I would say a good thing! I have made some great friends on here!
Some have been meets, some have been meets that didn't lead to anything apart from friends, and some have actually been females from forum posts, so yes, I have made some great friends on here, and if you are reading, you know who you are
Thanks babe. xxxxxxx "
Lol And you are???? xx |
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like any relationship that starts in any situation, some work, some dont. just have to see how they pan out.
communication is key. talk to each other about how you want things i your relationship etc |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x"
But the difference is, like life, you never know who you are going to meet and how you will click, so never say never  |
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over a year ago
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x"
Yes, lets go onto a dating site - oh wait, many of the profiles on them are of people who are also on here - and oddly they don't mention their 'other' hobby on the vanilla dating sites!!
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x"
thats all very well, but when you choose an alternative lifestyle and discover that you have likes and kinks...where 'outside the site' do you look for something a bit more than nsa who shares the same interests?  |
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x
Yes, lets go onto a dating site - oh wait, many of the profiles on them are of people who are also on here - and oddly they don't mention their 'other' hobby on the vanilla dating sites!!
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That is so true!!!
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c mon ppl we are swingers we are here to fuck haha better meet ppl in real world n bloody internet go straight to business meet face to face talk open what u like and want the best way to know ppl internet wast of time |
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"c mon ppl we are swingers we are here to fuck haha better meet ppl in real world n bloody internet go straight to business meet face to face talk open what u like and want the best way to know ppl internet wast of time "
Yes true you can meet people in "real world" however I have met my best relationships online as if I had not been online I would of never of met them because I would of not met them in real life as we would of not crossed paths. I lead a busy life and can not afford to go out every weekend on the pull... The online world works for me.. |
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"c mon ppl we are swingers we are here to fuck haha better meet ppl in real world n bloody internet go straight to business meet face to face talk open what u like and want the best way to know ppl internet wast of time "
Congratulations to everyone who understood this. |
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x
Yes, lets go onto a dating site - oh wait, many of the profiles on them are of people who are also on here - and oddly they don't mention their 'other' hobby on the vanilla dating sites!!
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x
thats all very well, but when you choose an alternative lifestyle and discover that you have likes and kinks...where 'outside the site' do you look for something a bit more than nsa who shares the same interests? "
When I was on POF I listed swinging as a hobby and got loads of sex out of it! There were so many women on there looking for NSA that would not dream of being on FAB. I did convert a few who have had great fun on here |
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over a year ago
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"no good at all wont last remenber ppl are here cos they like swing meet alot of ppl for sex wanna serious relationship look outside the site x
thats all very well, but when you choose an alternative lifestyle and discover that you have likes and kinks...where 'outside the site' do you look for something a bit more than nsa who shares the same interests?
When I was on POF I listed swinging as a hobby and got loads of sex out of it! There were so many women on there looking for NSA that would not dream of being on FAB. I did convert a few who have had great fun on here "
I didn't put it as swinging on my profile but I was told I was a desperate old woman. |
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"mrs fab?? good job i never changed to miss fab 2012 else we'd look like a family haha
back to the question.. you cant help who you fall for so enjoy whatever it is you have for however long it lasts. talk
loads and be honest and open. "
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"When I was on PoF, it was like ice skating uphill trying to find anyone even remotely sane!
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Was speaking with a guy who I met on there... went on a few dates. He had his arm in plaster due to falling through a glass door d*unk. He said he had been single 6 months and his ex was abusive... anyhow I received a text today to say that he had only been single since christmas day and that his ex had pushed him through a glass door and that he still loved her and was giving it another go and wanted to come clean.... |
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"Is it a good or bad thing to start them on here? "
I've attempted it twice, hasn't worked either time.. But I think it was more to do with the lack of communication in regards to the change in ground rules than anything else. Good luck
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"When I was on PoF, it was like ice skating uphill trying to find anyone even remotely sane!
Was speaking with a guy who I met on there... went on a few dates. He had his arm in plaster due to falling through a glass door d*unk. He said he had been single 6 months and his ex was abusive... anyhow I received a text today to say that he had only been single since christmas day and that his ex had pushed him through a glass door and that he still loved her and was giving it another go and wanted to come clean.... "
Met a woman off PoF, after two dates she was completely obsessed with me and professing undying love for me.
Run Away, Run Away from the crazy!
Why cant this sort of thing be easy?
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Congratulations to you both!!
Some couples who have met up through swinging have and are enjoying a successful relationship but you also here sad stories too. Be sure to discuss it through to see what you both expect from the relationship longterm and set ground rules..
Me personaly it's not for me.. Don't get me wrong I've made some very good friends on here and on the scene in general and meet socially and play with regular.. Friends with benefits!! |
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"When I was on PoF, it was like ice skating uphill trying to find anyone even remotely sane!
Was speaking with a guy who I met on there... went on a few dates. He had his arm in plaster due to falling through a glass door d*unk. He said he had been single 6 months and his ex was abusive... anyhow I received a text today to say that he had only been single since christmas day and that his ex had pushed him through a glass door and that he still loved her and was giving it another go and wanted to come clean....
Met a woman off PoF, after two dates she was completely obsessed with me and professing undying love for me.
Run Away, Run Away from the crazy!
Why cant this sort of thing be easy?
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It never is easy... I am unlucky in love and dating... I think I shall be single for the forseeable future.... |
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I was contacted by a gent via a vanilla dating site, and thought it could be going somewhere.
The alarm bells started to ring via the contents of his e-mail exchanges, leading up to an e-mail about being stranded in some third world country with no means to get back and asked if I could send some money to him.
I suggested for him to contact the British Consulate as I have no money to spare due to a hefty repair bill for my car, and could only spare 50 GBP, which was entirely true, and did not hear from him again.
I went straight to report his profile as a scam and found it has already been deleted.
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"When I was on PoF, it was like ice skating uphill trying to find anyone even remotely sane!
Was speaking with a guy who I met on there... went on a few dates. He had his arm in plaster due to falling through a glass door d*unk. He said he had been single 6 months and his ex was abusive... anyhow I received a text today to say that he had only been single since christmas day and that his ex had pushed him through a glass door and that he still loved her and was giving it another go and wanted to come clean....
Met a woman off PoF, after two dates she was completely obsessed with me and professing undying love for me.
Run Away, Run Away from the crazy!
Why cant this sort of thing be easy?
It never is easy... I am unlucky in love and dating... I think I shall be single for the forseeable future.... "
Ditto. |
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"I was contacted by a gent via a vanilla dating site, and thought it could be going somewhere.
The alarm bells started to ring via the contents of his e-mail exchanges, leading up to an e-mail about being stranded in some third world country with no means to get back and asked if I could send some money to him.
I suggested for him to contact the British Consulate as I have no money to spare due to a hefty repair bill for my car, and could only spare 50 GBP, which was entirely true, and did not hear from him again.
I went straight to report his profile as a scam and found it has already been deleted.
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You do realise that he was probably a Nigerian Prince and that the funds were just waiting to clear... |
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You do realise that he was probably a Nigerian Prince and that the funds were just waiting to clear..."
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You do realise that he was probably a Nigerian Prince and that the funds were just waiting to clear...
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No, as he did not look like a Nigerian prince in his pics. "
The one that contacted me years ago on a dating site had the pic of a white, middle aged man.
Knew it was a Nigerian scam as they're always widows with a young son looking for a God fearing woman. What western man is looking for a a God fearing woman?
I couldn't see how he was going to try and relieve me off my money. He had to go on a business trip. Quelle surprise he was mugged and needed me to send money via Western Union.
Yeah...right! |
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When I was on POF I listed swinging as a hobby and got loads of sex out of it! There were so many women on there looking for NSA that would not dream of being on FAB. I did convert a few who have had great fun on here "
I wonder why they wouldn't dream of being on here. |
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