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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?
Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?
I'd be interested to know your views.
Thank you. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Personally I think you can only get a brief idea of whether you are compatible. Compatibility is more than just the sexual aspect unless you are just looking for fuck and go. I've met people who I've never met again, there's just nothing between us. I've met people for a social that have gone on to be good friends. A profile just gives you a rough idea. Photos will not give you any idea of who you are compatible with. They might give you more of an idea who you wouldn't be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a split decision in the moment. There's sometimes things on the profile that are off putting and make me feel not we wouldn't vibe well. The photos are obviously easier to judge compatibility as you either find someone attractive or you don't. You can never know for sure, you just go off gut instinct I guess. |
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We’ve thought that and agreed to meet then it was an utter bore fest, on the flip side we’ve written people off based on their profile & then bumped into them at a club/social and had the times of our lives.
Some people just don’t come across well on paper which is a shame.
Lesson learnt for us. |
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I get a feel for people either through their forum chat or their profile. That’s enough for me to judge right away whether there’s a *chance* of mutual attraction. But even in the best of worlds, that’s still only a chance. Need to get together to see whether the spark is real. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"9 times out of 10 I’d say yes I know "
This. And if I miss out on some people so be it. I’m a gut instinct operator. If your profile isn’t resonating for me (and by that I mean making me want to spend time in your company laughing) then I’m too lazy to pursue it further. Which is potentially unfair as my own profile is lazy as fuck. But it kinda sums me up. Altogether now, “she’s a lazy fuck”. I truly am.  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?
Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?
I'd be interested to know your views.
Thank you."
I know from looking at a profile what i don't want  |
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Without obviously meeting them its a first impression if sorts. Your profile is an opportunity to sell yourself and potentially make others take note. I never understand those with blank profiles/no pics etc. Can at times come across as they can't be bothered to do so. It's a shop window and is I think important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I wouldn’t put it in a proper response if I felt like that. I’d just air the message. But I think I can pretty easily get some sort of idea from their profile if it’s filled in with more than ‘will fill in later’ or ‘I’m a x year old woman and I’m looking to meet men’.
But having said all that, people surprise you sometimes. If they messaged me first and it was sweet then I’d go with the flow and see.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably judge a little too harshly on here at times when it comes to profiles or messages.
I realise this makes me a bit of a hypocrite given how sparce my own profile blurb is!
The forums give me a bit more insight into some people.
You need to actually meet to determine a spark though. |
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Yep, I can tell from their pics and their profile if they're for me.
If they message me Im not interested, it's perfectly acceptable to reply & say we're not compatible. Rather that than "I just don't fancy you"
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No the pictures + bio are what get us interested in the profile. But it’s the conversation that works out of your compatible or not. Obviously both parties have different agendas so it’s the conversation that decides whether theres compatibility.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes sometimes. If a person says they're looking for NSA, less chat the better, we won't be compatible in the slightest. Maybe if I met them in a club I'll feel differently but I've never had sex in a club and not sure I will. |
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I think I can determine my compatibility 'level' with someone, as long as their profile is descriptive enough for me to gauge suitability by what they've written. It's only part of the answer for me: behind every poorly executed profile lies a potentially suitable person. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I think my gut instinct about a profile serves me well.
Theres times i feel I've dodged a bullet,i might get a vibe about someone and say no thanks.Then they come back with abuse & I know I made the right call. |
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"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?
Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?
I'd be interested to know your views.
Thank you."
Yes. |
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"We’ve thought that and agreed to meet then it was an utter bore fest, on the flip side we’ve written people off based on their profile & then bumped into them at a club/social and had the times of our lives.
Some people just don’t come across well on paper which is a shame.
Lesson learnt for us. "
With you on this but also had someone come across quite well by profile and messaging, on meeting - scary, mono-syllabic, weird. 2 minutes into the social and I was looking for the exit.
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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago
Telford |
"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?
Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?
I'd be interested to know your views.
Thank you."
Yes, we always say we don’t feel we’re compatible if we don’t, it’s not rude or disrespectful - it’s honest and doesn’t leave anyone confused or unsure - little point beating around the bush |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know I’d get along with them. But the problem is, I don’t know what they’d think. 
I also have the fact, I read profiles, and respect preferences and what, who they are looking for…
So, I’d assume I ‘could’ be compatible, but not |
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I know immediately if we are not compatible because of their choice of words or pics.
On the flip side though I'll never assume compatibility no matter how good the words and pics are.
I've seen threads here asking people to pop in if they would like to find a fwb and never understood how that actually works.
Compatibility like friendship is built on trust which takes time and can't be as simple as saying we both have similar interests listed on our profiles so we are obviously compatible. |
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Mainly profiles have told me if I was attracted to someone physically. But there have been odd ones where the words have made me feel that they're my kind of person...and I've always been right.
More often than not though the wording just made me roll my eyes and think that we wouldn't be compatible. A certain someone changed his profile wording not long after we'd started chatting...I'm so glad I saw the first version, because I'd have immediately dismissed him as a complete nobber if I'd only seen the new version  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mainly profiles have told me if I was attracted to someone physically. But there have been odd ones where the words have made me feel that they're my kind of person...and I've always been right.
More often than not though the wording just made me roll my eyes and think that we wouldn't be compatible. A certain someone changed his profile wording not long after we'd started chatting...I'm so glad I saw the first version, because I'd have immediately dismissed him as a complete nobber if I'd only seen the new version "
Had he been on the forums asking for advice first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst I’m someone who has put a bit of effort into my profile I still don’t think it really says everything about me….words don’t articulate a person and I find people can lie a lot easier with their profile….so I’m not one to think their words make me and them compatible!
Personally I think fab is all about the physical attraction and having those pics that entice a person…..without the attraction I don’t think it happens!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?
Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?
I'd be interested to know your views.
Thank you."
Yes it's fair.
But some people get angry when someone turns them down by saying they're not compatible. Then you know with absolute certainty you made the right decision. |
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