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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
Why do so many woman on here think my body is intimidating to them? Surely personality comes 1st. It does in my list of priorities. I’m a nice educated gentleman in reality |
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"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body."
This ^^
Feeling comfortable and not self conscious during a meet is paramount |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body."
I don’t state what type I’m looking for because for me personality is no.1 before body |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do so many woman on here think my body is intimidating to them? Surely personality comes 1st. It does in my list of priorities. I’m a nice educated gentleman in reality"
I'd let you educate me  |
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"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body.
I don’t state what type I’m looking for because for me personality is no.1 before body"
Just because you don't state it doesn't mean some women still won't think it (as your OP shows) |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body.
I don’t state what type I’m looking for because for me personality is no.1 before body
Just because you don't state it doesn't mean some women still won't think it (as your OP shows)"
I’ll state that in my profile, thanks x |
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By *atnayCouple
over a year ago
STEVENAGE |
Sadly social media, airbrushing and all the adds for the perfect bod have left so many of us feeling inadequate. So when we see a gym buff we assume that that's what they too are looking for.
Reality is that its not always the case. Many value chemistry over appearence.
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
Why do so many woman on here think my body is sickening to them? Surely personality comes 1st? I’m a educated, mindful and have some very leftfield beliefs and quite simply doesn't care if people can accept me or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed  "
 love it haha |
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"People think I’m quite intimidating, but I think that’s because a was blessed with the face of a serial killer.
The mr
Nah. That with your personality of a serial killer is a winner.  "
Carry on talking like that and you’ll end up tied up in my loft 
The mr |
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"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body.
I don’t state what type I’m looking for because for me personality is no.1 before body"
But you don't state that either.
and your nickname is _it4u not PersonalityHunter or Bods don't Count
and your pic is of a ripped torso ...
God these women are so stupid .. how could they not see that you are interested in their personality ( what ever that means ) |
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"Not intimidated. I just don't see that there's a match between gym fit guys and me. "
This illustrates what I was about to say. Some people will see a body they judge to be more perfect than theirs and it makes them feel more insecure about themselves.
Others will see a body they judge to have had a lot of time spent on it and decide that this fact some is enough to mean the person is incompatible with them.
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed "
Haha I hate gyms, not been to one in 25yrs, and yes I’d love to eat pizza in bed as long as I can have a whole pizza  |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"Buddy I’m trying to achieve that look, how have you gone about doing, was looking into doing callisthenics "
I hate gyms so don’t go there, I do 5mins exercises each morning and do various outdoor sports and eat healthy most of the time |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"People think I’m quite intimidating, but I think that’s because a was blessed with the face of a serial killer.
The mr
Nah. That with your personality of a serial killer is a winner.
Carry on talking like that and you’ll end up tied up in my loft
The mr "
That's a risk I'll happily take it. |
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By *asyGent75Man
over a year ago
Doncaster South Yorkshire |
"Buddy I’m trying to achieve that look, how have you gone about doing, was looking into doing callisthenics
I hate gyms so don’t go there, I do 5mins exercises each morning and do various outdoor sports and eat healthy most of the time"
Can you msg me your exercise routine |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"Buddy I’m trying to achieve that look, how have you gone about doing, was looking into doing callisthenics
I hate gyms so don’t go there, I do 5mins exercises each morning and do various outdoor sports and eat healthy most of the time
Can you msg me your exercise routine "
I replied above  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not intimidated. I just don't see that there's a match between gym fit guys and me.
This illustrates what I was about to say. Some people will see a body they judge to be more perfect than theirs and it makes them feel more insecure about themselves.
Others will see a body they judge to have had a lot of time spent on it and decide that this fact some is enough to mean the person is incompatible with them.
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Is that a fancy way of calling me shallow? |
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Not intimidated, but past experiences lead me to believe that if I'm interested in someone with a body like yours they won't be interested in me and my very squishy one. So I don't bother making contact. Obviously in some cases I may be wrong but not always clear from profiles and pics posted. (Mrs) |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"Not intimidated, but past experiences lead me to believe that if I'm interested in someone with a body like yours they won't be interested in me and my very squishy one. So I don't bother making contact. Obviously in some cases I may be wrong but not always clear from profiles and pics posted. (Mrs) "
Your body looks interesting to me and anyway personality comes 1st |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not intimidated, but past experiences lead me to believe that if I'm interested in someone with a body like yours they won't be interested in me and my very squishy one. So I don't bother making contact. Obviously in some cases I may be wrong but not always clear from profiles and pics posted. (Mrs) "
I do think some men like the contrast between their hard body and a "squishy" one.  Same as the contrast between skin colours. |
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"Not intimidated, but past experiences lead me to believe that if I'm interested in someone with a body like yours they won't be interested in me and my very squishy one. So I don't bother making contact. Obviously in some cases I may be wrong but not always clear from profiles and pics posted. (Mrs)
Your body looks interesting to me and anyway personality comes 1st "
Thanks, and agree personality is important. Although it's also nice if there is a little bit of attraction too |
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"Not intimidated, but past experiences lead me to believe that if I'm interested in someone with a body like yours they won't be interested in me and my very squishy one. So I don't bother making contact. Obviously in some cases I may be wrong but not always clear from profiles and pics posted. (Mrs)
I do think some men like the contrast between their hard body and a "squishy" one. Same as the contrast between skin colours. "
Hadn't thought of it like that. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"Not intimidated. I just don't see that there's a match between gym fit guys and me.
This illustrates what I was about to say. Some people will see a body they judge to be more perfect than theirs and it makes them feel more insecure about themselves.
Others will see a body they judge to have had a lot of time spent on it and decide that this fact some is enough to mean the person is incompatible with them.
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I wouldn't say I'm anywhere near gym ft as I don't go to the gym and rather then watching endless amount of tv I spend having a healthy lifestyle, tecahing my child the same, spending time outdoos when we can, yoga, calisthetics, kettlebells, I think some just prefer to use the time better and choose a healthier way to life to best out our physical abilities. I like all type of physique and don't judge anyody simply on the way they look. This is simply stereotyping. I also ead lods, meditate and I'm highly intelligent, single parent so, there is time in the day for everything. Stereotype me then you are not woth knowing in the first place. |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed "
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday... |
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday..."
Omg it was a joke! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!"
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..."  . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour |
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour "
True . We all have a different sense of humour |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour "
I'll have pizza in bed with you |
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you "
No pineapple though  |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though "
Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings. |
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings."
Im very boring. I only like margarita |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita "
I wasn't taking about the pizza |
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Not intimidated by other peoples bodies and it doesn't stop me wanting to ay with them.
It's more my personal hang ups about me that's stop me. This starts even at messaging people, and then getting naked is off the scale.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can’t say we’re intimidated by anyone’s body! Neither of us are models and have our wobbly bits but we wouldn’t be intimidated by someone who’s “hotter” than us |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita "
Did someone say pizza |
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita
Did someone say pizza "
Wanna come and join? |
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over a year ago
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita "
I can bring topping.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
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Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head). |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita
Did someone say pizza
Wanna come and join? "
Did someone offer me a dinner date |
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita
Did someone say pizza
Wanna come and join?
Did someone offer me a dinner date "
If you fly me to France |
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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though "
I've just lost all respect for you Nora! Pineapple is the first thing on a pizza |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita
Did someone say pizza
Wanna come and join?
Did someone offer me a dinner date
If you fly me to France "
You pay for the plane, or helicopter, and I'll fly you wherever you want to go... |
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head)."
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
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"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
That's very stereotypical , and a bit judgmental...most people that go to the gym, love to unwind and have pizza and chocolate in bed, just like any other person... they simply don't do it everyday...
Omg it was a joke!
" it's just a joke bro...it's just a joke..." . Not everyone is gonna appreciate your sense of humour
True . We all have a different sense of humour I'll have pizza in bed with you
No pineapple though Never pineappple, I could think of naughtier topings.
Im very boring. I only like margarita
Did someone say pizza
Wanna come and join?
Did someone offer me a dinner date
If you fly me to France
You pay for the plane, or helicopter, and I'll fly you wherever you want to go... "
I forgot you can fly! . I shall get my private jet ready |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head).
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
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So the ideal fab man is overweight a d fugly? Who knew?...  |
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head).
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
So the ideal fab man is overweight a d fugly? Who knew?... "
Haha. To be honest personally I like a bit of squish |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head)."
You seem like an intelligent person with interesting opinions, I wouldn't let insecurities stop you going for who you find attractive. I can't speak for all men or the ones you like but I find personality, intelligence and all boody types attractive. If I didn't irritate you so much I think your pictures, of what I have seen you are very attractive and MsWylde knows I think she is as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone had their own level of confidence here, and many tend to self-calibrate where they think they fit on some arbitrary level of attractiveness - not realising that some of us also love bodies that are differ than ours in terms of level of fitness, size etc.
You should always take a shot. The worst that can happen is that is doesn’t land. But if you don’t, you might miss out on something great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head).
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
So the ideal fab man is overweight a d fugly? Who knew?...
Haha. To be honest personally I like a bit of squish "
Now squish I can do....  |
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"Why do so many woman on here think my body is intimidating to them? Surely personality comes 1st. It does in my list of priorities. I’m a nice educated gentleman in reality"
So, if they think your body is intimidating, have they actually voiced this to you?. I'm curious as to how you know they think this. |
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By *it4u OP Man
over a year ago
Brighton / Eastbourne |
"I don’t get intimidated but I do sometimes think they look like they spend half their life in the gym. They’re not gonna wanna eat pizza in bed
This"
I want pizza in bed |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Why do so many woman on here think my body is intimidating to them? Surely personality comes 1st. It does in my list of priorities. I’m a nice educated gentleman in reality"
How many have said that though or is it an assumption?
If you set up your stall on here focusing on physical attributes and using a name that's linked in some way to a physical feature (much like those with 'hung', 'massivecock' or 'lookatthesizeofmygianypenisladies' in their usernames) then you have to accept that people will make judgements about your view and opinion of yourself.
If you really feel women are intimidated by your appearance, they're disregarding your awesome personality and devastating wit and charm, and it's affecting your chances to meet - then there's an easy solution.
Put some clothes on in your photos and see if they become less intimidating.
Simples.
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"Is this the vainest thread to date? You sound like Dennis Reynolds I had to google that and still have no idea who it is."
An 'It's always sunny in Philadelphia' character who makes statements like this all the time. It's quality |
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"Why do so many woman on here think my body is intimidating to them? Surely personality comes 1st. It does in my list of priorities. I’m a nice educated gentleman in reality
How many have said that though or is it an assumption?
If you set up your stall on here focusing on physical attributes and using a name that's linked in some way to a physical feature (much like those with 'hung', 'massivecock' or 'lookatthesizeofmygianypenisladies' in their usernames) then you have to accept that people will make judgements about your view and opinion of yourself.
If you really feel women are intimidated by your appearance, they're disregarding your awesome personality and devastating wit and charm, and it's affecting your chances to meet - then there's an easy solution.
Put some clothes on in your photos and see if they become less intimidating.
Simples.
A"
That's a quality answer |
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"Do the women say they are intimidated by your body directly or is that the assumption you've made?
Surely not? ??"
It just doesn't make sense to me, because if I was genuinely intimidated by someone I wouldn't be talking to them and saying I was. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head). You seem like an intelligent person with interesting opinions, I wouldn't let insecurities stop you going for who you find attractive. I can't speak for all men or the ones you like but I find personality, intelligence and all boody types attractive. If I didn't irritate you so much I think your pictures, of what I have seen you are very attractive and MsWylde knows I think she is as well.
Here come the rolling eyes."
Thank you very much. Not rolling my eyes |
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I've had people describe me as intimidating or of having an intimidating profile/pictures a few times.
Also been told I'd clearly go go for gym fit as I'm obviously a gym bunny.... Which is bollocks as I haven't been in a gym since school. Going for gym fit is also bollocks in my case.
So it does happen. I've never understood it and think the word intimidating is an odd choice.
How people perceive others on this site is a weird one. |
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"Everyone had their own level of confidence here, and many tend to self-calibrate where they think they fit on some arbitrary level of attractiveness - not realising that some of us also love bodies that are differ than ours in terms of level of fitness, size etc.
You should always take a shot. The worst that can happen is that is doesn’t land. But if you don’t, you might miss out on something great."
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"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body.
I don’t state what type I’m looking for because for me personality is no.1 before body
Just because you don't state it doesn't mean some women still won't think it (as your OP shows)
I’ll state that in my profile, thanks x"
But you have said the opposite on the forums? |
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over a year ago
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head). You seem like an intelligent person with interesting opinions, I wouldn't let insecurities stop you going for who you find attractive. I can't speak for all men or the ones you like but I find personality, intelligence and all boody types attractive. If I didn't irritate you so much I think your pictures, of what I have seen you are very attractive and MsWylde knows I think she is as well.
Here come the rolling eyes.
Thank you very much. Not rolling my eyes "
I'm just speaking the truth but, you are very welcome.xx |
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head).
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
So the ideal fab man is overweight a d fugly? Who knew?... "
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head).
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
So the ideal fab man is overweight a d fugly? Who knew?...
That's not what Nora or I said! "
True. To be honest it’s always the face before anything else for me. I have to like someone’s face, If I don’t nothing else is relevant. Not sure if that comes across as shallow but it’s true. |
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"I'm a wobbly mess so do always wonder why someone with a body they clearly work hard to sculpt would be interested in me.
I don't know if intimidated is the right word though. I suppose I'd just not feel 'good enough'.
I'd expect them to want equally gym fit women.
Yeah this is me too. Probably second guessing people. Probably letting my insecurity rule my head. Same with really handsome men. I'm not gonna be for them (in my head).
I totally get this and I don’t agree that it’s stereotyping. It’s our own insecurities.
So the ideal fab man is overweight a d fugly? Who knew?...
That's not what Nora or I said!
True. To be honest it’s always the face before anything else for me. I have to like someone’s face, If I don’t nothing else is relevant. Not sure if that comes across as shallow but it’s true. "
I am the same. |
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As someone who has played in the past with someone who's physical appearance they felt intimidated by, aswell as the fact that they could match my 'banter skills' which also caught me slightly off guard aswell
Id imagine it's probably because of your physique (I'm not aware of your ability to banter or have a laugh)
But your profile picture, your user name and your post arent really helping your cause much either.
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"They probably think you are looking for gym fit women with no wobbly bits.
To be honest I've never been intimidated by anyone's body.
I don’t state what type I’m looking for because for me personality is no.1 before body
But you don't state that either.
and your nickname is _it4u not PersonalityHunter or Bods don't Count
and your pic is of a ripped torso ...
God these women are so stupid .. how could they not see that you are interested in their personality ( what ever that means ) "
.....but, he achieved in getting lots of people to look at his profile. |
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"Top contender for the "Look at me" award for this week.
Any other entries? "
I’d like to put forward my own struggling to get meets thread from earlier this week!  |
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"Why do so many woman on here think my body is intimidating to them? Surely personality comes 1st. It does in my list of priorities. I’m a nice educated gentleman in reality"
Well, I'm certainly not intimidated. I'd happily curl up in bed with you & a box of chocolates - especially as it looks like I'd have them all to myself.
Greedy? Moi?? |
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"Top contender for the "Look at me" award for this week.
Any other entries?
I’d like to put forward my own struggling to get meets thread from earlier this week! "
Hey I'm struggling, can I join in lol |
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I hear you OP! So many women message me about how they're intimidated by my socks and sandals because no lingerie they buy can ever look as sexy. I keep telling them that their lingerie is sexy and not to worry as they shouldn't compare, but it doesn't help |
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"I hear you OP! So many women message me about how they're intimidated by my socks and sandals because no lingerie they buy can ever look as sexy. I keep telling them that their lingerie is sexy and not to worry as they shouldn't compare, but it doesn't help "
Are the socks florescent green? Apparently in vogue this year |
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The only time we've felt a bit intimidated by someone's body was when we met a 6'4/5 guy who was also a body builder His thigh was thicker than my whole body - but he was lovely!
Anyway, we prefer average/Dad bod guys as there's more cushin' for the pushin', ripped, hard bodies are a lovely achievement but personally don't feel that nice when smashing into you x |
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