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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?
How does it end? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).
Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just honest with people, if I'm not feeling it I'll say. People always know where they stand with me even if they don't like the answer. We're adults, people who block without reason, ghost or play games really need to treat others better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have real friends from fabs . We don’t meet , but she helped me a lot . We r good friends .
Made great friends , socials that didn’t work , but slowly the distance gets is own way …
Made great pen pals ( far away ) slowly it fades away …
Majority 99% if it doesn’t work that’s it
If not interested , No time to waste …
I never ghosted anyone . Can’t think of anything worse
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).
Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it "
It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It tends to just fizzle out, usually on their side of the replies get shorter or stop replying altogether. There are some I'd really like to get back into contact with again as there wasn't that closure but wouldn't want to go through the same process in case they're not interested anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never really see the problem with a quick "this isn't working out for me" type message
Rather than leave a message unread or just have someone hanging but that may be me and my simple ways |
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"It tends to just fizzle out, usually on their side of the replies get shorter or stop replying altogether. There are some I'd really like to get back into contact with again as there wasn't that closure but wouldn't want to go through the same process in case they're not interested anymore."
I was busy FFS! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It tends to just fizzle out, usually on their side of the replies get shorter or stop replying altogether. There are some I'd really like to get back into contact with again as there wasn't that closure but wouldn't want to go through the same process in case they're not interested anymore.
I was busy FFS! "
I know you were... Busy with your other floozies! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Never really see the problem with a quick "this isn't working out for me" type message
Rather than leave a message unread or just have someone hanging but that may be me and my simple ways "
I've had push back multiple times from men, as in arguing the toss and then getting nasty. So I don't like it, but I've been ghosted and I hate that! So I won't do it to another. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The friendly slow fade, I become polite, but evasive when asked personal questions on a fade, no need to reignite, as I'm done "
Do they catch on quick? I don't think I have the skills for the friendly slow fade. My fade doesn't seem strong enough.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never really see the problem with a quick "this isn't working out for me" type message
Rather than leave a message unread or just have someone hanging but that may be me and my simple ways
I've had push back multiple times from men, as in arguing the toss and then getting nasty. So I don't like it, but I've been ghosted and I hate that! So I won't do it to another. "
I get that some people are unsavoury, I would hope I've never come across that way to people and just would prefer closure rather than wonder is it isn't it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?
How does it end?"
Are you trying to tell me something??
I told you, i was tired. Its never happened to me before |
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"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).
Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it
It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost? "
It can be much more upsetting to ghost though. |
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"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. "
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And equally so a lot of women are more adept at holding a cock than a conversation on here.
And that's speaking from experience. The conversation, 'not the cock. |
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"The friendly slow fade, I become polite, but evasive when asked personal questions on a fade, no need to reignite, as I'm done
Do they catch on quick? I don't think I have the skills for the friendly slow fade. My fade doesn't seem strong enough. "
Generally yes, as they are 9/10 doing it to me as well, no confrontation, and closure is achieved for both party's. Some reappear after a long period of time, but I won't let them back in, politeness is enough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).
Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it
It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost?
It can be much more upsetting to ghost though."
It's much worse, when I see a message I sent mid conversation being left unread it does hurt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before I thought “ ghost “ ment stalking .
Like a ghost always haunting you never leave u alone ^^. Is totally the opposite ha ha
^^ maybe the word for stalker is “ shadow “
Creepy stuff ^^. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start.
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And equally so a lot of women are more adept at holding a cock than a conversation on here.
And that's speaking from experience. The conversation, 'not the cock."
Ouch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. Fancy a Fuck  "
Wait…wuu2 counts as one word right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start.
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And equally so a lot of women are more adept at holding a cock than a conversation on here.
And that's speaking from experience. The conversation, 'not the cock."
Yep! The bread-crumbing isn't exclusive to guys at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. Fancy a Fuck
Wait…wuu2 counts as one word right? "
Totally! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).
Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it
It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost?
It can be much more upsetting to ghost though.
It's much worse, when I see a message I sent mid conversation being left unread it does hurt"
Actually that's why I started the thread as two guys did that to me recently. Chatty chat chat then .....tumble. I prefer an ending. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends on the closeness, why it's ending etc.
If it's someone I'm talking to and I'm not feeling it any more, I'll politely say or let it slow fizzle. If it's someone close, I'll have a let's be friends chat because I do still like the person, even if that physical element isn't there for me.
I've not really been on the receiving end of it but I can imagine it might sting a bit so I do try and handle it mindfully. |
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"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?
How does it end?"
My free minutes run out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?
How does it end?
My free minutes run out."
But what about the second thoughts tho? |
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"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?
How does it end?
My free minutes run out.
But what about the second thoughts tho?"
Ha! They always have those and I get radio silence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement
Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??"
I did. It was exquisite. It read 'you're not bad are you? Want get hitched?' The engagement lasted approximately 23hrs and 18 minutes.
A success I think  |
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"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement
Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??
I did. It was exquisite. It read 'you're not bad are you? Want get hitched?' The engagement lasted approximately 23hrs and 18 minutes.
A success I think "
What a lucky man!! Almost 24 hours before the text divorce - that’s good going. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Can I ask if things have got spicy in the chat - does that make it harder to fade away or easier to just block? Especially if it was a spicy chat with a forumite!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Can I ask if things have got spicy in the chat - does that make it harder to fade away or easier to just block? Especially if it was a spicy chat with a forumite! "
There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.
Absolute hypocrite I am.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can I ask if things have got spicy in the chat - does that make it harder to fade away or easier to just block? Especially if it was a spicy chat with a forumite!
There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.
Absolute hypocrite I am.
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Me too, Meli. Me too  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement
Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??
I did. It was exquisite. It read 'you're not bad are you? Want get hitched?' The engagement lasted approximately 23hrs and 18 minutes.
A success I think "
Congratulations  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah id rather be honest. Can't stand having a chat with someone when you're both laughing etc and then a message of yours just stays unread and it ends that way. "
I do find that rude. Particularly when men approach me to start with and then drop the conversation. I just roll my eyes now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.
Absolute hypocrite I am.
Well … she also does a song called Always Fuck Your Co-workers, so … y’know. Take your pick."
I work alone.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?
I did used to fade more so but I've seen multiple men comment on the forum that they'd prefer a woman be crystal clear than do this. So these days, once I know I'm not interested, I say so immediately....and then get argued with. Feel like I can't win! |
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"So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?"
All these things happen. I’ve done them all. I’ve had them all done to me. I’m trying to be better.
I never want conversations, relationships, friendships to end. But I do sometimes want them to change. To change shape, change status, change frequency, or however you want to describe it. I’m not always good at communicating that. Sometimes they dwindle to nothing instead and that makes me sad. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
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It just fizzles out and I leave it at that. I don't really see the need for someone to explain to me why they don't want to talk/meet anymore. They haven't replied or can see they aren't interested anymore so just leave it at that? |
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By *eliWoman
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"So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?
I did used to fade more so but I've seen multiple men comment on the forum that they'd prefer a woman be crystal clear than do this. So these days, once I know I'm not interested, I say so immediately....and then get argued with. Feel like I can't win! "
Oh I definitely let things fizzle. Have done before, I'd like to say I won't again but it's likely I will.
I wouldn't ghost someone because I don't know. It seems a bit callous and I don't like giving up on people. Even if the dynamic has changed slightly, I still want the friendship. Just different. Sometimes things naturally change don't they? And there comes a point where I don't have the energy to keep investing in something so I'd rather say it. If it's ignored/not welcomed, I'd rather fizzle than keep giving myself to someone. |
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I usually just send a 'im really sorry, your a great guy/girl but it's just not really working for me' message, and then feel incredibly uncomfortable, coz I absolutely hate offending people.
But, if it's the other way round, you can generally tell when someone is feeling it,
So I just usually either take the hint and don't message again, or just don't initiate the first contact in a conversation n it just kinda fizzles to nothingness.
Then I mope a bit (depending on how much I liked them, the moping time can vary lol!)
And then just move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?
All these things happen. I’ve done them all. I’ve had them all done to me. I’m trying to be better.
I never want conversations, relationships, friendships to end. But I do sometimes want them to change. To change shape, change status, change frequency, or however you want to describe it. I’m not always good at communicating that. Sometimes they dwindle to nothing instead and that makes me sad."
I don't think it is an easy thing to communicate. I find that hard. Often because I'm nervous about asking for change. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It just fizzles out and I leave it at that. I don't really see the need for someone to explain to me why they don't want to talk/meet anymore. They haven't replied or can see they aren't interested anymore so just leave it at that?"
Well, my OP was about all sorts of things not just a brief chat here. But if you'd been talking daily to someone for weeks - no "ending"? |
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