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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A few of you may have seen a few threads over the last few months from my wife about her father's cancer and kidney condition,Yesterday we had the bad news that there is nothing more they can do for his cancer and that there stopping his dyalisis,due to his bowel internaly bleeding,dad's kidneys have zero function now ,so basically they've said he has a few weeks left,but this is going to be a few weeks of intense pain for him,as he slowly fills with blood,and his organs shut down one by one.Why on earth in this day and age cant they help dad go peacefully without any pain, which is what he wants to do.If dad was an animal they would have done this weeks ago.sorry for the rant.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So sorry to hear your bad news, its frustrating and upsetting to watch a loved one in pain.Sending all my love and thoughts and prayersxx"
its awful,and thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the medical staff will up his pain-killers as they don't like to see anyone suffer unnecessarily either.
I hope it ends peacefully for her dad and you both. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"there not doing anything more,he's on everything he can possibly be on honey  "
Be strong, don't dwell on what he has become, remember what he was and smile about the good times. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry to hear this, but as someone who works in pallative care they will give him the strongest drugs going that he will barely be concious at the end xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To go back to the OP you are right we wouldn't let a dog suffer like that.
There needs to be a change in the law to allow people to choose when to end their lives when no more can be done. I watched my aunt die slowly in pain whilst begging for someone to end her life.
I would urge anyone who feels the same to write to their MP asking for a change in the law. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"To go back to the OP you are right we wouldn't let a dog suffer like that.
There needs to be a change in the law to allow people to choose when to end their lives when no more can be done. I watched my aunt die slowly in pain whilst begging for someone to end her life.
I would urge anyone who feels the same to write to their MP asking for a change in the law."
With respect, i feel that politics of Euthanasia be left off the thread as it wont help the OPs.  |
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"So sorry to hear this, but as someone who works in pallative care they will give him the strongest drugs going that he will barely be concious at the end xxx"
A relative of mine died before Xmas of cancer and there was nothing they could do so they sent her home to die but with a morphine pump or something and I understand that the morphine reduced the pain considerably. She died in her sleep or when she was unconscious. No matter how horrible this situation is for you at the moment you will get through it. My thoughts are with you. Steve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Marijuana is supposed to have soothing effects on people in severe pain, I don't see why terminally ill people shouldn't be allowed to go out on high if they so wish.
I hope his passing is as painless as possible, take some comfort from the fact that once it's over he'll never know pain again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mother died of ovarian cancer. Her suffering at the end was unbearable to see. 6 days before she died, they withdrew fluids so basically she died of thirst and in terrible pain.
On the other hand, my cat got a lump in her face, the vet told us that it was cancer and that it was better to put her to sleep BEFORE she started to suffer...
I hope your father in law has peace and is pain free at the end. My best wishes to you and your family at this difficult and very sad time x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It makes me really sad when I read things like this. I watched my dad die of cancer. Some 16yrs ago now. And that in all that time. The law has not changed. To aid a less painful death. I have the greatest respect for the nurses that work in this field. But there is only so much pain relief that works.
My thoughts are with you at such a sad time.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - don't you worry about ranting, you need to get this off your chest. I think it's shameful that in this day and age, we cannot have a proper open and adult debate on this and face up to realities.
Until we completely separate church and state in this country, it won't happen. This is one of the things which made me an atheist - would any God see his creation suffer at the end of it's life? No. So who the hell is anyone 'in the Church' to dictate through archaic laws to anyone that they should not do the right thing and help someone, who is beyond help, pass from this life...?
You know we are all here to offer what support we can....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry to hear your sad news
Ask the medical/nursing team to refer to palliative care for symptom and pain management. No one should be in pain. There is excellent pain relief out there.
Hugs to you and yours xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There isn't anything under the cirumstances to say that will make things any better, except to say you have our Sincere sympathy, thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi everyone,just an update on things,Alis dad is still fighting his cancer ,but as a few of you know Her mum was admitted to hospital a few days ago ,but today after her ct scan,weve had the news she has a huge tumour on her liver that they cant do anything with,i suppose im just posting this really to say a BIG BIG THANK YOU to everyone for there kind well wishes and prayers weve had constantly these past few month ,once again everyone THANKS  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg, sooo sorry to hear this on top of everything else. Sending a hug seems so little for what you are going through, but it comes from the heart, hugs and kisses both xxx |
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By *icky55Man
over a year ago
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"A few of you may have seen a few threads over the last few months from my wife about her father's cancer and kidney condition,Yesterday we had the bad news that there is nothing more they can do for his cancer and that there stopping his dyalisis,due to his bowel internaly bleeding,dad's kidneys have zero function now ,so basically they've said he has a few weeks left,but this is going to be a few weeks of intense pain for him,as he slowly fills with blood,and his organs shut down one by one.Why on earth in this day and age cant they help dad go peacefully without any pain, which is what he wants to do.If dad was an animal they would have done this weeks ago.sorry for the rant. "
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I'm sorry to hear of your father in law, I had the same last month, but was fortunate enough that he could have as much morphine as he wanted. but it's still a horrible thing to watch some one go through. my best wishes for you both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear your sad news.... I hope things develop with a minimum of suffering and your time together rewards you with the comfort of knowing you've done your all for those who’s love you’ve shared... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I often felt like that about my mother who suffered with the MS which killed her for nearly 30 years.
However, it is certainly not what she wanted and was able to quite clearly say so. We gave her, therefore, the best quality of life we could, fighting doctors, social workers, et al, in order to keep her in her own home and not be just shut away until her body finally gave up.
A lot of the time she was in pain but she faced it all with fortitude.
In these cases, the person whose life it is is the only one who can say what they want or need. Anyone else's opinions are irrelevant to it. It's their life what little there is.
That said, nevertheless, if the person has decided they can take no more and are ready to die, then they should have that option. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Update on Ali's mum...doctor has just said she will pass away within the next hour,she's totally comfortable and pain free now but slowly just shutting down bless her,,so just taking this chance again as we may not be online for a few days to say THANK YOU VERY MUCH INDEED from the bottom of our hearts to everyone who has sent heart felt sympathies and prayers to my Wife at this very hard time for her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So sorry to hear this, but as someone who works in pallative care they will give him the strongest drugs going that he will barely be concious at the end xxx"
I agree with this post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Update on Ali's mum...doctor has just said she will pass away within the next hour,she's totally comfortable and pain free now but slowly just shutting down bless her,,so just taking this chance again as we may not be online for a few days to say THANK YOU VERY MUCH INDEED from the bottom of our hearts to everyone who has sent heart felt sympathies and prayers to my Wife at this very hard time for her"
my prayers with you and family right now. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really sorry to hear and it is frustrating that they let people suffer with out the freedom of making their own choices,hope its as quick and painless as it can be for all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Corinthians 13:13. Stay strong and cherish what moments you all have left together. Tell them you love them, hold them and feel their touch. Keep those memories safe, as they are the ones that will keep you going in your darkest hour. My best wishes are with you in this awful time. I truly hope things improve. Munchie. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A few of you may have seen a few threads over the last few months from my wife about her father's cancer and kidney condition,Yesterday we had the bad news that there is nothing more they can do for his cancer and that there stopping his dyalisis,due to his bowel internaly bleeding,dad's kidneys have zero function now ,so basically they've said he has a few weeks left,but this is going to be a few weeks of intense pain for him,as he slowly fills with blood,and his organs shut down one by one.Why on earth in this day and age cant they help dad go peacefully without any pain, which is what he wants to do.If dad was an animal they would have done this weeks ago.sorry for the rant. "
i went through the same thing with my Dad, its not easy but now is the time to come together and be there for him as well as each other
stay strong xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Corinthians 13:13. Stay strong and cherish what moments you all have left together. Tell them you love them, hold them and feel their touch. Keep those memories safe, as they are the ones that will keep you going in your darkest hour. My best wishes are with you in this awful time. I truly hope things improve. Munchie. X"
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By (user no longer on site)
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i have been through this with a past partner - he wont feel pain they will give him morphine - talk to the macmillan nurses that will visit daily - they have a lot of sway over medication etc (at least they did with him ) - i feel for you dreadfully and wish you all a quick release xxxxxx hugs sue xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ali's mam has just passed away at 5:20,once again may i say thanks for everyones support and kind wishes,Ali is fine just pleased her mum is no longer suffering |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Update on Ali's mum...doctor has just said she will pass away within the next hour,she's totally comfortable and pain free now but slowly just shutting down bless her,,so just taking this chance again as we may not be online for a few days to say THANK YOU VERY MUCH INDEED from the bottom of our hearts to everyone who has sent heart felt sympathies and prayers to my Wife at this very hard time for her"
Jeez, both of them? So close together. What a shit piece of bad luck. I don't know you well enough to know if Ali's parents are still together but if they are it's a blessing that they'll go together figuratively speaking. It must be an awful thing to go through as a family and you have my heartfelt sympathies.
There is a time for grieving, and a time for sadness but there is also a time of remembrance and a time for fond memories. I wish you a long time for the latter two and a short time for the former two. |
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"Corinthians 13:13. Stay strong and cherish what moments you all have left together. Tell them you love them, hold them and feel their touch. Keep those memories safe, as they are the ones that will keep you going in your darkest hour. My best wishes are with you in this awful time. I truly hope things improve. Munchie. X"
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