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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, sometimes it is. But other times it's good. We all have bad days, if you're having a lot of bad days in succession, possibly worth seeing your GP for a chat. |
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"I don't think some of these answers are fair. It doesn't matter who you are or where you live we can all have problems.
Look at Robin Williams"
Exactly this, none of us know what other people are going through so snarky comments about living in a first world country etc are just not necessary |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know what, it absolutely can be. Do you want to get off your chest whatever is bothering you? Sometimes just talking about it and people listening can make you feel better. None of the 'other people have it worse' or 'chin up it will get better' bollocks. Have your moment to speak and I hope it finds you some peace of mind.
If you have something that you need support solving, just make it clear and hopefully you will get some serious answers to support you.
I hope you get some peace and feel better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m sorry to hear you’re having troubles OP and don’t want to make light of whatever situation you may be finding yourself in. The only thing I try to do when feeling the same way is try to inject some humour into my life.
With that in mind, may I humbly present Tim Minchin and Some people have it worse than I
https://youtu.be/QHuSvFRUBAQ
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are feeling shit or life is dragging you down, please do not be afraid to talk to people.
For me personally it helped and still helps immeasurably
Sending positive vibes x |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.
The mr "
Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response 
Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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OP life can be truly shit, and I know I'm one of at least 2 people on this thread who have seen the darkest of times. But we're both still here still fighting and still surviving.
However shit life feels and however bleak it feels, as cliched as it sounds, life does get better.
Reach out, seek support tell your friends, post on the mental health threads on here, speak to mental gwLth charities, speak to your GP, theresca lot of people that will help you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.
The mr
Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response
Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings"
100% absolutely. People answering that others are worse off etc, need to do one, they are just stopping those who reach out from actually getting help if needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.
The mr "
Perspective is useful, but someone’s pain is still valid, regardless of how bad someone else has it.
Op, sorry you’re feeling like that .
Hope things look up soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "
I’ve seen a lot of threads where people have got help with their mental health. Whatever works for you. |
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "
It can be wonderful - and not so.
If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.
I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP. |
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "
Don’t think there’s much more to add than has already been said, but wanted to just let you know that I hear you.
It’s hard when you feel low, but know that you’re never as alone as you actually think you are. Always talk to someone - whether it’s a random friendly stranger here, Samaritans or someone else, just talk!!! |
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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it
It can be wonderful - and not so.
If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.
I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP."
As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo
Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.
I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.
The mr
Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response
Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings"
We agree it wasn't a very kind thing to say.
With remarks like that its no wonder men find it hard to open up and get help when they need it. |
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it
It can be wonderful - and not so.
If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.
I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.
As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo
Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.
I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am
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That's awful. I'm very sorry.
I wish you better - I hope the world is becoming more accepting of mental health problems - everyone's mental health problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it
It can be wonderful - and not so.
If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.
I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.
As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo
Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.
I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am
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Look after yourself.
Just try keeping on and ignore some of the crass comments from people on this thread.
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it
It can be wonderful - and not so.
If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.
I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.
As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo
Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.
I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am
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Have you considered bereavement counselling, there's quite a few charities that offer it without tue huge waiting lists? Even if it was a while ago, of yiu are struggling to accept it this may help?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure..
Definitely ..."
It’s so damaging to invalidate peoples feelings like this |
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.
The mr "
I mean, I absolutely subscribe to this for my own life. Just not very helpful to others here right now. This maybe is something to think about for you if it helps rather than to impart on others? |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful.
The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post.
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"Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful.
The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post.
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I can't understand it either. Some of these comments sadden me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down "
Sometimes ya gotta drag people down a little before they can drag you up a lot. Ignore people who watch you while you’re down there.
Life isn’t shit, it just feels like it sometimes. But unless you’re on fire you can choose when to deal with things, pick your fights and pick your moments. If today isn’t that day then don’t fight. Go find a little peace. It’ll be there when you’re feeling up to dealing with it, and the big black dog won’t seem so big.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life can be shit for everyone and life can be amazing for everyone
Just remember good words to live by ...
No matter how dark the moment, love and hope are always possible.
George Chakiris |
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When you start to feel down do the opposite of what your depression wants you to do. Ie stay in bed it’s nice in here. Get up (I know it’s the hardest thing in the world to do) and keep moving don’t sit down don’t have a cuppa tea and put off. Get clothes on and go for a 20min walk. The fresh air and light hitting your eyes and the exercise will help a lot.
And remember this isn’t you normally and you will be the real you again.
Some how find the strength to keep moving. Don’t sit and stay still.
It’s taken me a long time to see my patterns and if you can see the signs early and have the strength to get out the house go for a walk. 20 mins minimum do more if possible. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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OP sorry to hear you are struggling. My father also took his life, it was 28 years ago, I'm still not 'over it', not sure you can be, but you can learn to live with it. Pls feel free to message if you feel the need  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful.
The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post.
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This
And I thought the Forums were welcoming to all. People who are new are told to; "get stuck in, comment on threads, get involved and people will get to know you" the comments on this thread are the reason people don't and the reason people feel alienated.
Nobody's mental health should be negated or belittled. Yes maybe there are people worse off but that just invalidates what that person is going through. Nobody deserved to feel invalidated
Seek some support OP, and remember tomorrow is another day. Small steps |
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Same here, life can be shit sometimes..its not all roses.
Have alot going on myself but I try and focus on the good points and use the gym alot which is my safe space
Have my family to help me and keep me going.
Him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know there are people worse of than me ..
but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day "
Hope you're ok OP. I'm sure we are all aware there are people in the world worse off than us but when you're feeling shit that thought doesn't make you feel better. It's ok to be selfish about how YOU feel when you're having a bad day.
I'd echo what someone said above about bereavement counselling if you're still struggling with losing your dad 
And never feel like you can't reach out on here, despite the few earlier comments there are lots of people on the forums who are happy to listen and offer advice if that's what you're needing. |
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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"OP sorry to hear you are struggling. My father also took his life, it was 28 years ago, I'm still not 'over it', not sure you can be, but you can learn to live with it. Pls feel free to message if you feel the need "
I’m so sorry |
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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"I know there are people worse of than me ..
but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day
Hope you're ok OP. I'm sure we are all aware there are people in the world worse off than us but when you're feeling shit that thought doesn't make you feel better. It's ok to be selfish about how YOU feel when you're having a bad day.
I'd echo what someone said above about bereavement counselling if you're still struggling with losing your dad
And never feel like you can't reach out on here, despite the few earlier comments there are lots of people on the forums who are happy to listen and offer advice if that's what you're needing. "
Thank you |
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