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By *ohnsnow OP Man
over a year ago
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So I'm wondering why we have this option to make it unread again?
Is it so you can have a system and the ones left unread after reading are kept as interest?
Is it because there's to many weirdos that can't handle rejection by a polite deletion and then go weird?
Or is that of other reasons I suppose the list could be long ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mark unread, if i want to see what they read and then realise nope, i did not want to read that after all!
Or if i don't have time to reply, i mark it unread, so i can take my time when it is more convenient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often quickly glance and will mark it unread if I feel I want to reply to the message properly rather than a quick one liner.
Or sometimes I mark it unread if it's been a vile or offensive message. I mark it unread then delete. |
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"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy  "
Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy
Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on. "
But deleting doesn't stop them sending another either even after not getting a reply |
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"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy
Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on.
But deleting doesn't stop them sending another either even after not getting a reply "
Well in that case there is another useful tool called 'block' |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy
Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on.
But deleting doesn't stop them sending another either even after not getting a reply
Well in that case there is another useful tool called 'block' "
Indeed is and very handy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mark them unread before I delete.
I tend to find that if I read and delete they message asking what was wrong or put me off or they keep trying with different tactics as they know I'll read it.
If I mark as unread that happens a hell of a lot less. |
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By *ohnsnow OP Man
over a year ago
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Also if people mass delete messages coz there's too many too read
What is a person that does not repeat send in understanding that deletion is a polite No.
Should they carry on trying in case he was just mass deleted
Or just put that in the nope section ?
If they carry on is that just thirsty or interested |
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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago
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"As a couple its quite a useful feature because one of us may read it before the other. By marking it as unread we can then leave it for the other half to read before replying. I"
This for us too |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Also if people mass delete messages coz there's too many too read
What is a person that does not repeat send in understanding that deletion is a polite No.
Should they carry on trying in case he was just mass deleted
Or just put that in the nope section ?
If they carry on is that just thirsty or hiinterested"
It's a move on |
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By *ohnsnow OP Man
over a year ago
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"I mark them unread before I delete.
I tend to find that if I read and delete they message asking what was wrong or put me off or they keep trying with different tactics as they know I'll read it.
If I mark as unread that happens a hell of a lot less. "
This is a reason I was thinking to are there a lot of people that pipe up and start being crazy because you delete?
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Imo messages should be responded but of course that's not possible if people get hundreds or indeed the message is inappropriate and does not warrant a response in first place. If not responded, delete and block. Why would you keep unread if you don't intend to ever respond. It does seem a bit odd to me but of course everyone manages these things the way they want. What though is very rude is when you have a perfectly normal conversation, not necessarily sexual but other stuff, and suddenly don't reply to your message, keep it unread but come and go on the side, post to forums etc. If you changed your mind about anything, just politely say so. After all you both invested your time in that initial conversation. You wouldn't stop talking to someone halfway your conversation in real life and walk away unless something significant made you do so. It's sad that people behave differently just because they can on the internet but there you go. As I said, just my opinion.  |
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