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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.
Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.
But what about you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For too long I let the wrong things define me:
Career
Shame
Fear
Finances
Only relatively recently have I learned to redefine me in terms that are more positive. Its a work in progress, but the journey is interesting |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.
Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.
But what about you?"
Coming through meningitis at 4 being deaf because of it and learning to walk again. Getting through years of bullying and more has turned me into a fighter that takes no crap from anyone |
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"To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.
Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.
But what about you?"
Very little in the way of identifiable occurrences/behaviours. Just life, I suppose.
I wish I had been given an autism assessment as a child, but even without one I can now identify traits and adjust.
Probably a lack of female influence at home. If I’d had a long term partner living with me I would probably be a very different person. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.
Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.
But what about you?"
God........ Praise be the lord  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A hard life, having to do things by myself and not relying on others, gave me high levels of resilience, focus and achievement. Clean living and living everyday to the full and enjoying life. No issues or regrets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyday, every person you meet and every experience changes you and shapes who you are in the current day. Growth is an important part of life and the only way to survive is to adapt. |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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"Having to be an adult when still a child and always being the strong protective and supportive one in the room.
Then despising all that before realising I could do it on my own terms."
Exactly this, couldn’t have put it any other way |
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All of my life experiences as a whole, beginning with parents who gave tough love, but taught me independence and tenacity by allowing me to make my own mistakes, but making sure that I owned the consequences and learnt from them. Later in life, refusing to let negative experiences and people make my cynical and jaded, to appreciate the small things and look for the silver lining in every cloud. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of my life experiences as a whole, beginning with parents who gave tough love, but taught me independence and tenacity by allowing me to make my own mistakes, but making sure that I owned the consequences and learnt from them. Later in life, refusing to let negative experiences and people make my cynical and jaded, to appreciate the small things and look for the silver lining in every cloud. "
Love this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everything that’s good and bad has made me the best version I am today.
But I’d say the biggest is a childhood where I blame someone else, and my adulthood where I’ve only myself to blame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For not following the social media tends or media bullshit and for living in a real world and not trusting anyone that say I be your friend whilst holding the set of knifes ready for your back.
Being confident in myself and cocky with it and not let people judge me or run me down
Yes I’m ugly yes I’m not tall 6ft hunk but I’m true to myself and this is me don’t like it fuck off simple rule to go by |
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"What has defined me and shaped me to grow is my main focus….. my best friend, my rock, my saviour!!….
My wife!!
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My life experiences and Him....
Without you being by my side every step of the way, I wouldn't be who I am today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having to be an adult when still a child and always being the strong protective and supportive one in the room.
Then despising all that before realising I could do it on my own terms."
Pretty much this |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
"What has defined me and shaped me to grow is my main focus….. my best friend, my rock, my saviour!!….
My wife!!
My life experiences and Him....
Without you being by my side every step of the way, I wouldn't be who I am today. "
You two are too cute  |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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My dad taught me pretty much everything worth knowing, he gave me a job when I left school taught me a trade and how to earn a living for myself but more importantly how to act and was someone I could turn to with any problem and wishing 10 minutes of talking to him you would feel everything was great. I’d be completely different person without my dad Wish I’d had him here the last 18 months or so |
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Sadly pain and loss has moulded me a lot through the years and taught me many useful things as well, but the main thing is the core values that my parents and nan drilled into me as a youngester.
The combination of the 2 has got me to a place where I'm quite proud of who I have become as a man today. |
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Life is the decisions we make in the situations we find ourselves.
Some little French dude with a lazy eye said that.
I define myself. Sometimes others try but I was done with that a long time ago.
Love, loss, joy, suffering. Take your chance and roll the dice or hide behind a rock till it all goes away.
Learn from the past but don't let it define you. That's probably how I see it.
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"For not following the social media tends or media bullshit and for living in a real world and not trusting anyone that say I be your friend whilst holding the set of knifes ready for your back.
Being confident in myself and cocky with it and not let people judge me or run me down
Yes I’m ugly yes I’m not tall 6ft hunk but I’m true to myself and this is me don’t like it fuck off simple rule to go by "
Being 50 its easy to buck the social media trends ...19 a little less so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is complex and thats what makes them who they are.
My experiences of early life/childhood, relationships whether family,friendships or of the romantic sort have impacted my life. How I've come to terms and accept all, defines me.
Despite all my hardships, I'd still find time to sit and listen to someone when its needed, provide practical or financial help when I've been able to. Do whatever I can to help if I'm able to, despite it very rarely being offered to me. I like to make a difference no matter how insignificant it is to me, may be opposite for someone else. That kindness has been abused however. |
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