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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can totally understand why many people rule out engaging with married or attached men, but some people say they actually like it when the guy is attached ... If love to understand more about what's behind that if anyone can tell me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He's unlikely to become a pest in the way single guys can
Some people get a kick from thinking they're getting one-up on someone - the oblivious partner
It makes them feel like they're doing something daring and risky
Just some thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people may have seen such behaviour patterns in adults as a child and are simply replicating them
Others may have previously been cheated on by a partner and now take some kind of perverse pleasure in helping others do the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Other people's property, st*len bikes ride faster etc.
Probably.. dunno, depends on if they're into attached folk (with permission) or attached folk (don't ask questions), I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Other people's property, st*len bikes ride faster etc.
Probably.. dunno, depends on if they're into attached folk (with permission) or attached folk (don't ask questions), I guess."
"St*Len bikes ride faster" . Love that  |
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I like it. Borrowing hothusbands is a kink of mine. Sending him home for her to smell and lick me off him in reclaim sex is hot 
I'm not bi, but she is, so it's a healthy compromise between the three of us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like it. Borrowing hothusbands is a kink of mine. Sending him home for her to smell and lick me off him in reclaim sex is hot
I'm not bi, but she is, so it's a healthy compromise between the three of us "
Fantastic |
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By *aveonMan
over a year ago
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Thing I hear most often is that there is less follow on hassle meeting attached people
Often harder to arrange a meet as they can’t easily always get away from the partner for fun, but they are out for fun and nothing else, and don’t want any follow on hassle
To me this makes most sense overall, easy going fun, not after a relationship or hassle afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thing I hear most often is that there is less follow on hassle meeting attached people
Often harder to arrange a meet as they can’t easily always get away from the partner for fun, but they are out for fun and nothing else, and don’t want any follow on hassle
To me this makes most sense overall, easy going fun, not after a relationship or hassle afterwards "
Yea I can see that. Makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As an attached man, for the ladies and couples I have met their simple outlook to this that they know what I am looking for and have no hidden agendas plus I am going to be discrete and not in invade thier privacy. |
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Yes I've had this experience. And yes it was with my partner's awareness, before I am crucified. 
My former boss, very career driven woman, dedicated to her passions. Didn't want casual sex, wanted intimacy but found single guys would get too attached and it would eventually annoy her.
Married guy was perfect for her needs. Got intimacy without having to worry about managing relationship complications.
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"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot."
Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore  |
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"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.
Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore "
This  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.
Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore "
You called? |
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"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.
Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore "
Mmmm, hello!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People's circumstances are their own and I am not judgemental, I would meet/have met married and attached and it can be a beneficial arrangement for all because often you're on the same page |
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"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.
Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore "
Thats just it, its women (or men), without principles meeting women (or men) without principles |
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"I can totally understand why many people rule out engaging with married or attached men, but some people say they actually like it when the guy is attached ... If love to understand more about what's behind that if anyone can tell me "
In my experience op I’ve found the married ones to be more respectful and nicer overall. They’re not usually looking for a relationship which suits me fine and they’re more likely to only want to meet one person which also suits me. I don’t look for them and wouldn’t meet someone who is just “doing it for the thrill”. It’s always depended on the circumstances. As I said though this is just my experience, I can’t speak for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a child of parents with multiple affairs. Infact I knew off and was bullied into keeping quite for one parent.
I don't condone cheating, at all. I don't understand it, and I won't be part of hurting someone else.
If the relationship is open and everyone is aware then yes I am happy to engage with partnered people.
The type of play I like requires trust, if he is lying to the woman he plays house with. He will lie to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?"
This is good - quite a sexy thought too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can totally understand why many people rule out engaging with married or attached men, but some people say they actually like it when the guy is attached ... If love to understand more about what's behind that if anyone can tell me
In my experience op I’ve found the married ones to be more respectful and nicer overall. They’re not usually looking for a relationship which suits me fine and they’re more likely to only want to meet one person which also suits me. I don’t look for them and wouldn’t meet someone who is just “doing it for the thrill”. It’s always depended on the circumstances. As I said though this is just my experience, I can’t speak for others. "
Thank you - I like your understanding of this xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am a child of parents with multiple affairs. Infact I knew off and was bullied into keeping quite for one parent.
I don't condone cheating, at all. I don't understand it, and I won't be part of hurting someone else.
If the relationship is open and everyone is aware then yes I am happy to engage with partnered people.
The type of play I like requires trust, if he is lying to the woman he plays house with. He will lie to me. "
This is correct answer, one would think. That's what got me thinking about the different reactions to the situation.
Than you xx |
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I like my partners to have other partners. It gives me some security that they're not going to try to overtake my whole life and that I don't have to be anyone's everything.
Previously I avoided married people like the plague, but one of my current partners there was just too much chemistry to ignore, and with the full enthusiastic consent of his wife I very much enjoy the relationship we have.
I don't want anything to do with people who lie and go behind the backs of the people they supposedly care about though. |
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"Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?
This is good - quite a sexy thought too "
I worked with a woman who found this power trip quite sexy. She used to phone the men's wives afterwards too. In the way that natural justice often works her husband had multiple affairs once she got married.
I just think that people should do what they need to get through life but lessen the impact on others as much as possible |
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"Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?
This is good - quite a sexy thought too
I worked with a woman who found this power trip quite sexy. She used to phone the men's wives afterwards too. In the way that natural justice often works her husband had multiple affairs once she got married.
I just think that people should do what they need to get through life but lessen the impact on others as much as possible "
Gosh that brought back old memories. We had a married boss that did that power trip to the younger lads in the warehouse, she'd pick and choose who she would have for lunch. The lads loved it though and used to discuss, what they got up to, with everyone else in the warehouse |
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I have permission to play and am looking for couples to hook up with (although my profile does include single women). This is because I've told my wife I'm not looking for 'another woman' in our relationship, rather a couple to be friends with where I'm not seen as a threat to their marriage and they aren't seen as a threat to mine. My wife seems quite comfortable with that, just need to make it happen... |
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Of the people we’ve been lucky enough to share our sexual relationships with so far we haven’t really noticed significant differences between genuinely single or attached.
We certainly don’t seek to have either for those specific reasons, it’s all about the individual.
If we get the right feeling about a person their relationship status is unimportant.
Having said that, the married men/women do in general seem to be more considerate lovers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm M/A it's for me an escape from reality to meet up with or just chat to people in the same boat or the same mindset "
Same for me but we are seen as the spawn of Satan by certain people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Of the people we’ve been lucky enough to share our sexual relationships with so far we haven’t really noticed significant differences between genuinely single or attached.
We certainly don’t seek to have either for those specific reasons, it’s all about the individual.
If we get the right feeling about a person their relationship status is unimportant.
Having said that, the married men/women do in general seem to be more considerate lovers."
This is a lovely insight too - thanks |
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Im attached, and will always say this at the start of chatting, I did meet a lady on an old profile, she didnt mind because being discreet was important, and someone attached wouldnt go chatting about this.
Besides, everyone has reasons for being on here. |
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