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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can accom, I'm single and live alone, but I've noticed recently that profiles I've talked to that also say they can accom expect any meet to be at mine.
Do people automatically expect the other person to be the accomodater? It doesn't bother me that much but it is a niggle, two profiles in the past week saying the to meet at my place and making an excuse why they can't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I usually accommodate but I prefer that. I will go to someone else's house once I feel more comfortable. Usually after a few meets.
The people that I have met, have been pretty flexible and left the decision upto me. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
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And you never get a pillow mint at someones house. I might offer you a slice of toast and a glass of water, just because I'm romantic like that. |
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"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
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Or find out what they have under the bed. Like knives. #truestory |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems hotels might be a future option, I get the cleanliness thing, I've been to at least one other persons place where I felt the need to put rubber gloves on. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I can accom, I'm single and live alone, but I've noticed recently that profiles I've talked to that also say they can accom expect any meet to be at mine.
Do people automatically expect the other person to be the accomodater? It doesn't bother me that much but it is a niggle, two profiles in the past week saying the to meet at my place and making an excuse why they can't.
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If you can and are happy to accommodate then I'm confused as to why it's an issue?
No travel, all you need to do is a quick vacuum and tidy up, make sure there's nothing that would put anyone off (crusty socks by the bed, unflushed loos, weeks old cat litter trays) and you're good to go.
And if they don't show up for whatever reason you're not left hanging around outside someone's house or a hotel, you've wasted time, fuel and money getting there and the bonus is you've a tidy house/flat too! Winner!!
If we could accommodate we'd be meeting more regularly but we can't. So we have the joys of travel and club entry fees to look forward to when meeting.
Make the most of being able to host as so many people in your position can't/won't. It puts you in a more favourable position when others are looking for company.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
And you never get a pillow mint at someones house. I might offer you a slice of toast and a glass of water, just because I'm romantic like that."
I hope you don't eat that toast in bed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
And you never get a pillow mint at someones house. I might offer you a slice of toast and a glass of water, just because I'm romantic like that."
Alexa add mints to shopping list... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can accom, I'm single and live alone, but I've noticed recently that profiles I've talked to that also say they can accom expect any meet to be at mine.
Do people automatically expect the other person to be the accomodater? It doesn't bother me that much but it is a niggle, two profiles in the past week saying the to meet at my place and making an excuse why they can't.
If you can and are happy to accommodate then I'm confused as to why it's an issue?
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Not an issue, a niggle. You would think being able to accom would be a bonus, but it's not that big a bonus. Be nice to get the message "cone over to mine". |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"Seems hotels might be a future option, I get the cleanliness thing, I've been to at least one other persons place where I felt the need to put rubber gloves on. "
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"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
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Hotels or clubs for me. Too many weird people on here that gave creepy behaviour both women and men .
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"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
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I like hotel as well just leave the wet patch behind your not spurting in my bed |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
It depends, hotels or club meets just safer and easier to a point, then only a stronger connection gets invite to my home...
...a lot of communication has had to happen before going to a guy's place as well  |
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"It depends, hotels or club meets just safer and easier to a point, then only a stronger connection gets invite to my home...
...a lot of communication has had to happen before going to a guy's place as well "
See I just simply don’t want strangers in my personal
Home. That’s for friends / family / partners |
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"I don't accom as I had couple of things taken
Was years ago now though "
Yeah thieving happens I had that before as well and two weird stalkers one a possessive guy and the other a crazy woman
Lesson learned don’t accommodate strangers  |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I don't accom as I had couple of things taken
Was years ago now though
Yeah thieving happens I had that before as well and two weird stalkers one a possessive guy and the other a crazy woman
Lesson learned don’t accommodate strangers "
Complete setup. Was kept busy while it happened.
You live and learn.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a hotel.
Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!
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Somebody mentioned crisp  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm heartily fed up of people asking me "do you accom?" when it's clear in my profile that I don't. And when I reply "no, but your profile says you do", they always have some excuse.
People are the problem. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I think some profiles put can accomodate,but actually can't.
In the past ive had this ,i could accom & they said they could,yet they pushed to come to mine.Or a lomg lost relative would suddenly turn up to visit just before we due to meet.
It increases their chances if people think they accom. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South |
I don’t accommodate (I live with my mum and my kids) so if it were to be regular shenanigans then they would have to accommodate or we’d have to go half on a hotel.
Hotel meets I could only afford once a month cos I’m not Rockefeller.
Depends on individual circumstances I guess, which can be tricky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t expect others to be able to accommodate.
However I’ve had other couples get shitty because we won’t.
I have said , i don’t know why you think it’s ok to think I’m bringing strangers into my house or bedroom whilst I’ve got young and older kids in my house.
Some have said they don’t know why that’s a problem ffs |
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