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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I used to go to a few clubs on my own. Had to take a step away from the scene for a few reasons, but really want to start going back to clubs.
Lost a bit of my confidence and decided I need a female single friend to come party with me!
Anyone want to be my friend? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear you lost your confidence OP and can fully understand wanting to find someone to go with! May I ask what worries you about going by yourself?"
I was starting to find that clubs were becoming quite cliquey, and it is so hard to approach groups of people who clearly know eachother. Just easy to go with someone and not look like you're on your tod, billy no mates! Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Never one to diss Fab but this probably isn't the best place to get confidence back...but good luck finding you lady club partner x"
Oh I haven't lost confidence in myself, just in being sociable in a club scene. |
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"So I used to go to a few clubs on my own. Had to take a step away from the scene for a few reasons, but really want to start going back to clubs.
Lost a bit of my confidence and decided I need a female single friend to come party with me!
Anyone want to be my friend? "
If you was able to go clubs on your own before then you my lady is a strong female and can do it again. You just need that mentality back.
Just the F*** it i can do what i want attitude! |
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"Sorry to hear you lost your confidence OP and can fully understand wanting to find someone to go with! May I ask what worries you about going by yourself?
I was starting to find that clubs were becoming quite cliquey, and it is so hard to approach groups of people who clearly know eachother. Just easy to go with someone and not look like you're on your tod, billy no mates! Lol. "
I get ya. Single guys feel the same. Have you been to kestrels?  |
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"Sorry to hear you lost your confidence OP and can fully understand wanting to find someone to go with! May I ask what worries you about going by yourself?
I was starting to find that clubs were becoming quite cliquey, and it is so hard to approach groups of people who clearly know eachother. Just easy to go with someone and not look like you're on your tod, billy no mates! Lol. "
That's a perfectly valid feeling. If you haven't been or it's been a while, it can feel like everyone already knows each other and you can feel like the odd one out. Having someone with you can definitely make it easier to break the ice with others and if not, at least you'll have them. All the best on your search  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sorry to hear you lost your confidence OP and can fully understand wanting to find someone to go with! May I ask what worries you about going by yourself?
I was starting to find that clubs were becoming quite cliquey, and it is so hard to approach groups of people who clearly know eachother. Just easy to go with someone and not look like you're on your tod, billy no mates! Lol.
I get ya. Single guys feel the same. Have you been to kestrels? "
Not to Kestrels, but went to Absfab once, not my fav club. |
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"Sorry to hear you lost your confidence OP and can fully understand wanting to find someone to go with! May I ask what worries you about going by yourself?
I was starting to find that clubs were becoming quite cliquey, and it is so hard to approach groups of people who clearly know eachother. Just easy to go with someone and not look like you're on your tod, billy no mates! Lol.
I get ya. Single guys feel the same. Have you been to kestrels?
Not to Kestrels, but went to Absfab once, not my fav club."
Oh. I was suggesting that because of the facilities. It's easier to break the ice there |
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"So I used to go to a few clubs on my own. Had to take a step away from the scene for a few reasons, but really want to start going back to clubs.
Lost a bit of my confidence and decided I need a female single friend to come party with me!
Anyone want to be my friend? "
I would but you’re so far away  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So I used to go to a few clubs on my own. Had to take a step away from the scene for a few reasons, but really want to start going back to clubs.
Lost a bit of my confidence and decided I need a female single friend to come party with me!
Anyone want to be my friend?
I would but you’re so far away "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
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"So I used to go to a few clubs on my own. Had to take a step away from the scene for a few reasons, but really want to start going back to clubs.
Lost a bit of my confidence and decided I need a female single friend to come party with me!
Anyone want to be my friend? "
Bugger sadly I'm told old for your preference but you are stunning |
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
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Hmm....as a single, I have no issue being said no to, but I generally talk in the bar/pool/hot tub first to build a rapport. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
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Exactly the reason as a single guy I won't go to clubs  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
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At the time I was just like, I have no real choice, if I want to go then I have to go on my own.
I have def been to clubs a couple of times and literally not been spoken to, which is a bit shit. But just chalked it up as a bad night.
Non consenual is just awful! Sorry you experienced that. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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Oh that's really hard. I'm interested and going to clubs but like you would like someone to go with as a wing women as it were.
I hope you find someone soon - I would definitely go with you if I was closer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
Hmm....as a single, I have no issue being said no to, but I generally talk in the bar/pool/hot tub first to build a rapport. "
But even in those places you can't shake someone off. They keep talking and you can't get away without being mighty rude. It's so awkward. While onlookers think you've pulled  |
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
Exactly the reason as a single guy I won't go to clubs "
Clubs would be very empty, and skint, if single guys didn't go |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are stronger than you know.
This is a little blip you can conquer. Your assertive and dominant so get back in there girl and enjoy.
Good luck x"
Aw thanks! X |
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"You are stronger than you know.
This is a little blip you can conquer. Your assertive and dominant so get back in there girl and enjoy.
Good luck x
Aw thanks! X"
Your photos are awesome, and you've a very attractive face....well, the bit I can see |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh that's really hard. I'm interested and going to clubs but like you would like someone to go with as a wing women as it were.
I hope you find someone soon - I would definitely go with you if I was closer "
The wing woman is exactly what I want. And if all else fails we can play with eachother anyway! Lol!
Distance is a bugger! |
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"I hope you find someone OP, I would go with you if you were closer.
Jx
All the nice people are up North! "
Im Down south 
U are stunning. You don't need to be sociable, I'm sure you would just wall into the room and people would be drawn to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
At the time I was just like, I have no real choice, if I want to go then I have to go on my own.
I have def been to clubs a couple of times and literally not been spoken to, which is a bit shit. But just chalked it up as a bad night.
Non consenual is just awful! Sorry you experienced that. "
Didn't happen to me. Thankfully.
I get you on the not having a choice part. That's the only reason why I managed to drive myself to the place.
But you're definitely made of stronger stuff than me.
There's also the leaving part without being followed home isn't there!
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
Hmm....as a single, I have no issue being said no to, but I generally talk in the bar/pool/hot tub first to build a rapport.
But even in those places you can't shake someone off. They keep talking and you can't get away without being mighty rude. It's so awkward. While onlookers think you've pulled "
Hmm....not my experience, but I'm looking from my angle, not from a potentially vulnerable ladies point of view |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
Hmm....as a single, I have no issue being said no to, but I generally talk in the bar/pool/hot tub first to build a rapport.
But even in those places you can't shake someone off. They keep talking and you can't get away without being mighty rude. It's so awkward. While onlookers think you've pulled "
I've got quite a good "fuck off" face! So no usually gets listened to! Lol.
Most clubs are really good at telling off the guys giving unwanted attention. Just need to point them out to staff. |
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
At the time I was just like, I have no real choice, if I want to go then I have to go on my own.
I have def been to clubs a couple of times and literally not been spoken to, which is a bit shit. But just chalked it up as a bad night.
Non consenual is just awful! Sorry you experienced that.
Didn't happen to me. Thankfully.
I get you on the not having a choice part. That's the only reason why I managed to drive myself to the place.
But you're definitely made of stronger stuff than me.
There's also the leaving part without being followed home isn't there!
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And that's an obvious no, no. A good club knows its clientele. Sounds like you didn't find a good un |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
At the time I was just like, I have no real choice, if I want to go then I have to go on my own.
I have def been to clubs a couple of times and literally not been spoken to, which is a bit shit. But just chalked it up as a bad night.
Non consenual is just awful! Sorry you experienced that.
Didn't happen to me. Thankfully.
I get you on the not having a choice part. That's the only reason why I managed to drive myself to the place.
But you're definitely made of stronger stuff than me.
There's also the leaving part without being followed home isn't there!
And that's an obvious no, no. A good club knows its clientele. Sounds like you didn't find a good un "
Quite possibly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi I love going clubs I have a group off friends I go with and by your location I’m local feels free to message
Sorry I forgot I was on my couples profile not my single one lol "
Oh.... I just messaged the other profile. Whoops. |
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"Hi I love going clubs I have a group off friends I go with and by your location I’m local feels free to message
Sorry I forgot I was on my couples profile not my single one lol
Oh.... I just messaged the other profile. Whoops. "
Haha that’s fine can message there |
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"I'm happy to be anyone's wing woman if I'm available. Have no issues telling pushy people to back off either."
If I am ever in your neck of the woods I'll let you know! Your profile is awesome btw! |
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"Gosh you went on your own, I drove to one recently ish but was meeting people in there, even that was enough to make me shake a bit. But I did it.
But while driving over I thought what if they aren't in there and I'm alone?!
I would have got back in the car and gone home.
It's the single guys that scare me. I hate rejecting someone but I can do it. It's when they won't take no for an answer. And that night there two incidents of non consensual touching.
Enough to make any woman think twice about going alone.
Can totally understand you wanting a club buddy. I'd like one too. But it's not an easy one to find is it.
But hats off to you going alone, you're braver than me.
Hmm....as a single, I have no issue being said no to, but I generally talk in the bar/pool/hot tub first to build a rapport.
But even in those places you can't shake someone off. They keep talking and you can't get away without being mighty rude. It's so awkward. While onlookers think you've pulled "
We are 'taught' from a young age to be demure and not anger men for fear of what may happen.
Don't feel awkward, there's safety in numbers. Loudly say no thank you and hopefully the other people will support you. |
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"I'm happy to be anyone's wing woman if I'm available. Have no issues telling pushy people to back off either.
If I am ever in your neck of the woods I'll let you know! Your profile is awesome btw! "
I do travel. |
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