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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yep! I like my youthfulness(ish). I still look kind of cute, get ID'd frequently.
But more importantly... I have so much left to do and explore. And the years to do it. Plus I'm catnip for a certain demographic and I'm here for it. Along with my quim. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?  |
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No. I’m far happier than I was when I was young. Happiness is all about perspective, when I was young I thought the wrong things would make me happy. Now I don’t even have to try and be happy, I just am.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen? "
Supposed to happen when we don't try and please other people. Unfortunately society (including family and friends) has ways of keeping that from happening. |
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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago
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We live life the wrong way around.
When we are young we need the money, skills, common sense that we have in later years.
Now I could be stupid and reckless, with fewer consequences, but I don’t want to.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen? "
No Joe*. No.  It can be really difficult to escape that sort of preconceived notion, especially if family members etc try and force it down your throat constantly. Trust me; I know. I'm seen as being the relative failure of my family. Which is laughable considering what I've achieved so far. My sister doesn't have a Masters. Bloody family huh?
I think life is for living but at the same time - you do what's right for you at the time. There's little point regretting it and dwelling it. Use it to spur you on to do things or don't. Just don't beat yourself up for years past.
* I really like that you remind me of You. |
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I am grown happier with age.
That said I loved the giddy excitement of youth, the sense that here was the entire world just waiting for me to discover it.
I loved how intense everything was - the feeling that nobody had ever been as heartbroken as I was when I found out Pevo didn't fancy me turning into the absolute joyous elation of finding a song that I loved.
I loved the feeling of infinite possibility and the energy I had to pursue it.
It was a time of the highest highs and the lowest lows for me, rather than a time of happiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is hard to be young. The world places a lot of expectations on you. You can gradually shed those expectations as you age and with that comes a peace and a happiness that is hard to find in your youth. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"We live life the wrong way around.
When we are young we need the money, skills, common sense that we have in later years.
Now I could be stupid and reckless, with fewer consequences, but I don’t want to.
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Very true. I think you have to force yourself to continue to be adventurous & take risks or get too comfortable. If youth is wasted on the young, then wisdom is sometimes wasted on the old |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?
Supposed to happen when we don't try and please other people. Unfortunately society (including family and friends) has ways of keeping that from happening. "
I think there's always going to be an element of people pleasing being needed to get ahead in life. I just hear a lot of how that happens less when you get older and just wondeing when I can expect it to happen  |
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"Yep! I like my youthfulness(ish). I still look kind of cute, get ID'd frequently.
But more importantly... I have so much left to do and explore. And the years to do it. Plus I'm catnip for a certain demographic and I'm here for it. Along with my quim."
Ahh that quim... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?
Supposed to happen when we don't try and please other people. Unfortunately society (including family and friends) has ways of keeping that from happening.
I think there's always going to be an element of people pleasing being needed to get ahead in life. I just hear a lot of how that happens less when you get older and just wondeing when I can expect it to happen "
When you're about 45 or whenever you start getting slippers for christmas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?
No Joe*. No. It can be really difficult to escape that sort of preconceived notion, especially if family members etc try and force it down your throat constantly. Trust me; I know. I'm seen as being the relative failure of my family. Which is laughable considering what I've achieved so far. My sister doesn't have a Masters. Bloody family huh?
I think life is for living but at the same time - you do what's right for you at the time. There's little point regretting it and dwelling it. Use it to spur you on to do things or don't. Just don't beat yourself up for years past.
* I really like that you remind me of You."
Thank you Meli, I appreciate the uplifting words and you're so right about the family pressure. I kinda realised that I my age, my siblings were already married so that was a bit of a head-fuck and I went straight into work after sixth form so never really had that "uni experience". Essentially, I took life way too seriously early on and now think it's too late to act all care free
And don't worry, I'm not like that Joe at all... Much  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?
Supposed to happen when we don't try and please other people. Unfortunately society (including family and friends) has ways of keeping that from happening.
I think there's always going to be an element of people pleasing being needed to get ahead in life. I just hear a lot of how that happens less when you get older and just wondeing when I can expect it to happen "
About the age of 35  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?
No Joe*. No. It can be really difficult to escape that sort of preconceived notion, especially if family members etc try and force it down your throat constantly. Trust me; I know. I'm seen as being the relative failure of my family. Which is laughable considering what I've achieved so far. My sister doesn't have a Masters. Bloody family huh?
I think life is for living but at the same time - you do what's right for you at the time. There's little point regretting it and dwelling it. Use it to spur you on to do things or don't. Just don't beat yourself up for years past.
* I really like that you remind me of You.
Thank you Meli, I appreciate the uplifting words and you're so right about the family pressure. I kinda realised that I my age, my siblings were already married so that was a bit of a head-fuck and I went straight into work after sixth form so never really had that "uni experience". Essentially, I took life way too seriously early on and now think it's too late to act all care free
And don't worry, I'm not like that Joe at all... Much "
It's never too late. You're so polite, I have to caveat the following with - there will be swearing.
Joe, it's far from too late for you to actually live. You need to start saying fuck it and doing those things you want to. Fuck what your siblings have done, fuck social expectations.
You're what? 26/27? You're never too old.
Today, a dear friend has got in touch with a particular company (he knows the people) and I've decided to apply for it. Something I've been told for years I should do, I'm going to go for it. And I'm going to go on dates, delve into kink. Visit clubs. Go abroad with brilliant friends, dance like no one is watching. Go to gigs. Kiss in the rain.
You're young. Stop regretting and just say fuck it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I’m far happier than I was when I was young. Happiness is all about perspective, when I was young I thought the wrong things would make me happy. Now I don’t even have to try and be happy, I just am.
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"Not particularly. There's still a holdover of traditions of trying to have everything done before you're 30. Secure job, marriage, couple of kids etc. while also living your best, carefree life in your early 20. and as I've entered my late 20s I've had a sort of crisis of confidence as a result that I haven't made the most of my youth as I should've.
When is this being secure in yourself and your decisions supposed to happen?
No Joe*. No. It can be really difficult to escape that sort of preconceived notion, especially if family members etc try and force it down your throat constantly. Trust me; I know. I'm seen as being the relative failure of my family. Which is laughable considering what I've achieved so far. My sister doesn't have a Masters. Bloody family huh?
I think life is for living but at the same time - you do what's right for you at the time. There's little point regretting it and dwelling it. Use it to spur you on to do things or don't. Just don't beat yourself up for years past.
* I really like that you remind me of You.
Thank you Meli, I appreciate the uplifting words and you're so right about the family pressure. I kinda realised that I my age, my siblings were already married so that was a bit of a head-fuck and I went straight into work after sixth form so never really had that "uni experience". Essentially, I took life way too seriously early on and now think it's too late to act all care free
And don't worry, I'm not like that Joe at all... Much
It's never too late. You're so polite, I have to caveat the following with - there will be swearing.
Joe, it's far from too late for you to actually live. You need to start saying fuck it and doing those things you want to. Fuck what your siblings have done, fuck social expectations.
You're what? 26/27? You're never too old.
Today, a dear friend has got in touch with a particular company (he knows the people) and I've decided to apply for it. Something I've been told for years I should do, I'm going to go for it. And I'm going to go on dates, delve into kink. Visit clubs. Go abroad with brilliant friends, dance like no one is watching. Go to gigs. Kiss in the rain.
You're young. Stop regretting and just say fuck it. "
Echo Meli's comments. You never know when you may find yourself less able or unable to do whatever you want to do with life. Don't hang about, just get on with enjoying life and don't wait for some perceived "right time" or the approval of others.
There's tons of things I wish I'd been able to do before I finished up in the situation I live with now. Or I wish I'd been able to do those things on my own two feet, rather than in a different way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's never too late. You're so polite, I have to caveat the following with - there will be swearing.
Joe, it's far from too late for you to actually live. You need to start saying fuck it and doing those things you want to. Fuck what your siblings have done, fuck social expectations.
You're what? 26/27? You're never too old.
Today, a dear friend has got in touch with a particular company (he knows the people) and I've decided to apply for it. Something I've been told for years I should do, I'm going to go for it. And I'm going to go on dates, delve into kink. Visit clubs. Go abroad with brilliant friends, dance like no one is watching. Go to gigs. Kiss in the rain.
You're young. Stop regretting and just say fuck it. "
I think I'm getting there, in the year or so after lockdown, I've been a lot more involved with friends and with Fab and doing more of what I wanted to. I do have a few regrets of not being more carefree when I was younger but definitely want to make up for lost time. Thank you for your perspective as it's can be easy to lose |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I think being young comes with its own expectations and pressures. These just change with time to different expectations and pressures. I think learning to understand ourselves and then taking what we need from life can help streamline what we do to seek happiness, so I'm probably happier now than when I was younger. But then my younger years are a bit blurry from being alcohol fueled from insecurity.... |
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The only thing I do miss about being younger is my fully functioning contact sport body.
I’d say I’m almost certainly finding more and more personal happiness as I get older though.
It’s a good question to consider.
Well done grammar you’ve stimulated my grey matter.
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