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Yes, if all are in the know.
If not then I find as the other woman I'm always the one let down at the last minute when plans change, always the one messed around and expected to accommodate changes on a whim.
It doesn't work for me. |
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"Depends on the person and the situation. I have and it wouldn’t put me off in the future. Not if the partner knows though, that dynamic isn’t for me. "
Same. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred"
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem. "
Yea and you are a big part of the cheating. How big of you. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem. "
But it is your problem if u are enabling it? That's my thought anyway x |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem. "
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are we talking as a couple or as an individual?
As a couple, absolutely not. It's something that has never been or will be on my bucket list. As an individual yes, and have done, with bad consequences, so if it happens again it has to be with consent |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you "
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
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To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person."
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person."
100% agree! And yes they will more than likely cheat with someone else! But then at least it wouldn't be on me! X |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all."
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all."
We don't all react the same to things though. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice. "
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible. |
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Who is cheating? It would be the woman who had made a commitment of monogamy to the guy surely?
I haven't made any such promise to him. Unless I know him in some capacity, like as a friend then it's solely an issue between them.
Would I do it? depends on the circumstances. Probably wouldn't be the kind of relationship I am interested in though.
I'm not self-sacrificing. I wouldn't give up my happiness for some guy I don't know. I wouldn't expect anyone else to for me either. If my partner cheated on me that's on her.
If I am with someone I am loyal I'd tell them if I had feelings for someone else not go behind their back. But that's me. I don't expect others to live by my beliefs. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though. "
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater."
In your opinion. I didn't blame the women my ex cheated on me with, I blamed him. Only him. |
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By *acktopervMan
over a year ago
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"Yes, if all are in the know.
If not then I find as the other woman I'm always the one let down at the last minute when plans change, always the one messed around and expected to accommodate changes on a whim.
It doesn't work for me."
Exactly the same for me as well. In past times when i have been on FAB i have always had to change my plans for someone else. Yes, i may be a single male, yes i am old.............but i'm fucked if i will allow that anymore. As you say "it dosn't work for me". |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
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If I know they are attached or married then no. I would even stop if I noticed in a club that someone had a ring on during group play.
However I'm aware that sometimes in group situations guys are going to slip through but I won't knowingly.
Although I'm a bit of a hypocrite as have one exception to that... being my kids father. We have been on and off across 25 years and 2 marriages on his part.. and numerous gfs. I'd like to say id tell him no... but my head just says " he was mine first" but apart from him. I make no other exceptions  |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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If you go with someone who is cheating, regardless of if they a married then, you a actively indulging in ceating pain to someone else.
The pain of finding out someone has cheated on you, lied and betrayed your trust is like emotional abuse. I have know someone to take their own life as a result and it discust me that someone would do this, knowenly to another person.
Obvously if it is a consenting couple who are both involved then that is a totaly different thing and shouldn't be compared. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater.
In your opinion. I didn't blame the women my ex cheated on me with, I blamed him. Only him. "
Well i don't know your circumstances...i can't comment on that. |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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Assuming the partner is unaware no definitely not, I’m a very big believer In never doing to anyone what I wouldn’t like done to me. Also have been on the receiving end of cheating and know first hand how shitty it feels and that it ruins lives, it almost cost me my sanity trying to keep family together after the ex cheated and would never inflict that on anyone else |
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Having been savagely cheated on for a long time and the women involved all new he had a partner, me, and carried on anyway, I blamed them as well as him even though he was the one in the relationship |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater.
In your opinion. I didn't blame the women my ex cheated on me with, I blamed him. Only him. "
Well i don't know your circumstances...i can't comment on that. I can comment on the fact that i find people, men or women, knowingly involved in the cheating, just as vile as the cheater. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater."
I’m stating that no they’re not. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible."
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater.
I’m stating that no they’re not. "
Entitled to your opinion. I'm stating yes they are. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
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As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please. |
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over a year ago
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Can i ask for those that are saying they have no problem in going with married men/women who are cheating on their partners. Has feeling ever got involved we’re you would want them to leave their currents partners and possibly family’s? |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice. "
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater.
I’m stating that no they’re not.
Entitled to your opinion. I'm stating yes they are."
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please."
I see, refrain from having a different opinion, gotcha  |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
I see, refrain from having a different opinion, gotcha "
Entitled to your opinion. Just not on my circumstances. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please."
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X"
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question. "
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion. |
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"I hate threads like this. Literally makes my blood boil at the sheer couldn't care less attitude of some people, as long as they are having fun its all good. Selfish and self centred
They are the ones cheating. I really couldn't give a shit, it's not my problem.
What a lovely way of thinking. Hope it never happens to you
See. I'm divided on this. I've been cheated on in the most horrible way, and yeah it hurt. But I blamed my ex, not the women he met. He was the one in a relationship, not them.
Have I and do I talk to guys that I know are on here without their partners knowledge? Yeah. I think I'm just done with worrying about other people's problems. You may say I'd be enabling it? Believe me, they'd cheat anyway. Its just what some people do.
To me, without hesitation, if someone is knowingly getting involved with someone married, male or female, they are just as bad as the cheater. To wash your hands of it, in an 'oh well' way, to me is so selfish and dismissive of other people. Yea they'll cheat anyway perhaps, but you don't have to be a part of it. Be the bigger person.
At one point I would of agreed with everything you say.
I don't know, like I say, I've being on the recieving end.
Stuff that happens in your life changes how you look at things though.
I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
We don't all react the same to things though.
I agree. We don't. I am just stating a man or woman knowingly getting involved with someone who is married/in a relationship is just as bad as the cheater.
In your opinion. I didn't blame the women my ex cheated on me with, I blamed him. Only him.
Well i don't know your circumstances...i can't comment on that. I can comment on the fact that i find people, men or women, knowingly involved in the cheating, just as vile as the cheater."
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it. "
The voice of reason.
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion."
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
I see, refrain from having a different opinion, gotcha "
everyone’s entitled to their own opinion but this lady clearly is uncomfortable with what you are asking her so why continue? |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
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"This is prob a stupid dump question but don't couples/married going to swingers club count as cheating if they have sex with another guy/girl. "
Not if they are going together it doesn't. Or if they are there consent from their partner
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By *omeoplaysMan
over a year ago
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
The voice of reason.
And from a man!!!! "
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"This is prob a stupid dump question but don't couples/married going to swingers club count as cheating if they have sex with another guy/girl. "
It isn't cheating if both husband/wife play together or know that each play separately. |
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it. "
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything "
Yea i will comment thanks. Just asking not to comment on something he knows fuck all about. My personal circumstances!! |
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"This is prob a stupid dump question but don't couples/married going to swingers club count as cheating if they have sex with another guy/girl. Not if they are going together it doesn't. Or if they are there consent from their partner"
thanks for clearing up my lack of experience on swingers rules |
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"Can i ask for those that are saying they have no problem in going with married men/women who are cheating on their partners. Has feeling ever got involved we’re you would want them to leave their currents partners and possibly family’s? "
Nope but I've been in a poly relationship where I had a primary partner and another partner who decided she wanted me to be with just her.
So I ended it.
I don't think I would look at it like that tbh. If I felt I was getting the time and attention I wanted, I'd probably leave anyway. I wouldn't put pressure on them to leave. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything "
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do. "
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass! |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything yes they can comment on anything that’s very true. But why would you want to go out you’re way to upset anyone? "
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"This is prob a stupid dump question but don't couples/married going to swingers club count as cheating if they have sex with another guy/girl. "
This is my wife’s reason for not wanting to give it a try. She thinks it is. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything yes they can comment on anything that’s very true. But why would you want to go out you’re way to upset anyone?
He asked a question "
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do.
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass!"
Nah I disagree. It’s people just seeing black or white and getting on their high horse. |
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At the end of the day, people will have different opinions on it. But that is all they are, opinions.
Doesn't make you right or wrong.
Like the lady said, it's personal circumstances. No one knows anyone on here or anything about their life. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done. "
Yes for sure I get that 100% I've had this conversation with many men on here when I've said no I will not meet with them they say its them cheating not me as I'm single! I agree with them! But by me meeting them I'm enabling them to cheat! Which I could not do to another woman! Its a cruel and horrid thing to do to someone! X |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything
Yea i will comment thanks. Just asking not to comment on something he knows fuck all about. My personal circumstances!!"
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything yes they can comment on anything that’s very true. But why would you want to go out you’re way to upset anyone?
He asked a question
Yea a fucking rude question!!"
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
I see, refrain from having a different opinion, gotcha
everyone’s entitled to their own opinion but this lady clearly is uncomfortable with what you are asking her so why continue? "
The comment you have quoted was the last I made to her, so in what way am I continuing it.
I haven’t continued it if you look.
A bit of advise to people would be maybe don’t get involved in threads that that a likely, given the topic, to make you uncomfortable |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything yes they can comment on anything that’s very true. But why would you want to go out you’re way to upset anyone?
He asked a question
Yea a fucking rude question!!
You seem angry. I’ll leave it there if you’re gonna start swearing at me. "
I'm not swearing at you... |
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do.
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass!"
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything yes they can comment on anything that’s very true. But why would you want to go out you’re way to upset anyone?
He asked a question "
I was talking about yourself too.
You just seen to have such a bad attitude. Yes everyone is entitled to their own opinion but you just come across as nasty. It costs nothing to be nice  |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
I see, refrain from having a different opinion, gotcha
everyone’s entitled to their own opinion but this lady clearly is uncomfortable with what you are asking her so why continue?
The comment you have quoted was the last I made to her, so in what way am I continuing it.
I haven’t continued it if you look.
A bit of advise to people would be maybe don’t get involved in threads that that a likely, given the topic, to make you uncomfortable "
I don't feel uncomfortable about the topic. I feel uncomfortable you asking if my husband was incapacitated!! |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Please don't tell me who was and who wasn't responsible. You don't know the circumstances or anything about it. She was equally responsible.
Someone else was responsible for a decision that your husband made, was he suffering from some form of incapacity?
As said, you know nothing. So kindly refrain now please.
Why should he refrain?! You got involved in the conversation. If someone chooses to cheat they choose to cheat. Nobody makes them. It’s a perfectly valid question.
Refrain from commenting on my situation/circumstances. Not on the discussion.
Don’t comment then if you don’t want people to reply. They can comment on anything yes they can comment on anything that’s very true. But why would you want to go out you’re way to upset anyone?
He asked a question
I was talking about yourself too.
You just seen to have such a bad attitude. Yes everyone is entitled to their own opinion but you just come across as nasty. It costs nothing to be nice "
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do.
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass!
Nah I disagree. It’s people just seeing black or white and getting on their high horse. "
At the end of the day, cheating is cheating. If you can't be honest with the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with then you are the lowest of the low and for those who enable these people to do it, as someone said earlier, they are just as bad. Fair enough you get ones who will say "oh I didn't know he/she was married" but to know and still carry on shows no morality whatsoever. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done.
Yes for sure I get that 100% I've had this conversation with many men on here when I've said no I will not meet with them they say its them cheating not me as I'm single! I agree with them! But by me meeting them I'm enabling them to cheat! Which I could not do to another woman! Its a cruel and horrid thing to do to someone! X"
You may be enabling it but you are not responsible for it, they are two separate things.
Just because you have enabled it doesn’t make you responsible for it, that can only lie with the person taking up the enablement ( if that’s a word).
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"Would you get with a married partner? X  "
Yes, but *only* if their partner knows, just like mine does.
I have been with a married woman whose husband didn't know (as far as me and my partner were aware), and that made me feel a bit awkward, so it's not something I'm keen to do again. |
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You have to have billion % trust especially if the woman or man had better body better looking even better personality then you and god the sex too. I admire couples that do it the trust is 2nd to none so respect to the couples/married peeps for that, but there must be a few who sneak a number over and secretly meet. |
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done.
Yes for sure I get that 100% I've had this conversation with many men on here when I've said no I will not meet with them they say its them cheating not me as I'm single! I agree with them! But by me meeting them I'm enabling them to cheat! Which I could not do to another woman! Its a cruel and horrid thing to do to someone! X
You may be enabling it but you are not responsible for it, they are two separate things.
Just because you have enabled it doesn’t make you responsible for it, that can only lie with the person taking up the enablement ( if that’s a word).
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For sure! Yes! But in the eye of morality I would b guilty! It b like someone else shoplifting something and me accepting the goods?? X |
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"You have to have billion % trust especially if the woman or man had better body better looking even better personality then you and god the sex too. I admire couples that do it the trust is 2nd to none so respect to the couples/married peeps for that, but there must be a few who sneak a number over and secretly meet. "
people cheat at work at the gym at the pub so it would be naive to think it didn’t happen within this lifestyle..
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done.
Yes for sure I get that 100% I've had this conversation with many men on here when I've said no I will not meet with them they say its them cheating not me as I'm single! I agree with them! But by me meeting them I'm enabling them to cheat! Which I could not do to another woman! Its a cruel and horrid thing to do to someone! X
You may be enabling it but you are not responsible for it, they are two separate things.
Just because you have enabled it doesn’t make you responsible for it, that can only lie with the person taking up the enablement ( if that’s a word).
For sure! Yes! But in the eye of morality I would b guilty! It b like someone else shoplifting something and me accepting the goods?? X"
I do get where you’re coming from Candy and that analogy is a good one.
Purely on the question of responsibility I can only see one person as responsible.
You would not be responsible for the act of theft , just receiving
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over a year ago
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"This is prob a stupid dump question but don't couples/married going to swingers club count as cheating if they have sex with another guy/girl. Not if they are going together it doesn't. Or if they are there consent from their partner thanks for clearing up my lack of experience on swingers rules "
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do.
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass!
Nah I disagree. It’s people just seeing black or white and getting on their high horse.
At the end of the day, cheating is cheating. If you can't be honest with the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with then you are the lowest of the low and for those who enable these people to do it, as someone said earlier, they are just as bad. Fair enough you get ones who will say "oh I didn't know he/she was married" but to know and still carry on shows no morality whatsoever."
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"You have to have billion % trust especially if the woman or man had better body better looking even better personality then you and god the sex too. I admire couples that do it the trust is 2nd to none so respect to the couples/married peeps for that, but there must be a few who sneak a number over and secretly meet. people cheat at work at the gym at the pub so it would be naive to think it didn’t happen within this lifestyle.. absolutely happens everywhere any place anytime anywhere cheaters are everywhere me personally think cheaters are scum and karma will get them.
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done.
Yes for sure I get that 100% I've had this conversation with many men on here when I've said no I will not meet with them they say its them cheating not me as I'm single! I agree with them! But by me meeting them I'm enabling them to cheat! Which I could not do to another woman! Its a cruel and horrid thing to do to someone! X
You may be enabling it but you are not responsible for it, they are two separate things.
Just because you have enabled it doesn’t make you responsible for it, that can only lie with the person taking up the enablement ( if that’s a word).
For sure! Yes! But in the eye of morality I would b guilty! It b like someone else shoplifting something and me accepting the goods?? X
I do get where you’re coming from Candy and that analogy is a good one.
Purely on the question of responsibility I can only see one person as responsible.
You would not be responsible for the act of theft , just receiving
We’re not going to agree, are we "
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do.
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass!
Nah I disagree. It’s people just seeing black or white and getting on their high horse.
At the end of the day, cheating is cheating. If you can't be honest with the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with then you are the lowest of the low and for those who enable these people to do it, as someone said earlier, they are just as bad. Fair enough you get ones who will say "oh I didn't know he/she was married" but to know and still carry on shows no morality whatsoever.
I'm single...still "
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"I think it’s all down to opinions. No right or wrong answer. If it’s something you don’t mind then do it. If it’s something you do mind then don’t do it.
Exactly. Never understood why people are so bothered about what others do.
Don't think it's about people being "so bothered"
Think it's more to do with having a moral compass!
Nah I disagree. It’s people just seeing black or white and getting on their high horse.
At the end of the day, cheating is cheating. If you can't be honest with the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with then you are the lowest of the low and for those who enable these people to do it, as someone said earlier, they are just as bad. Fair enough you get ones who will say "oh I didn't know he/she was married" but to know and still carry on shows no morality whatsoever.
I'm single...still
Me too "
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"I can't see you being single for long sparkle  there's gonna be guys and girls in Leeds and all round surrounding areas queung up to meet you "
I'm happily plodding along...No-one to answer to but me x |
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"I can't see you being single for long sparkle there's gonna be guys and girls in Leeds and all round surrounding areas queung up to meet you
I'm happily plodding along...No-one to answer to but me x"
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I've been on the receiving end too. The woman my husband cheated on me with, knew he was married. Both as bad as each other. Hasn't changed how i look at things at all.
The only person responsible for your husband’s infidelity is your husband.
He was an adult and freely made his choice.
Yes of course! As did mine! But the enablers need to own part of the responsibility? Surley? Or is it OK to disregard others feelings for our own desires? Don't sit well with me for sure! X
My position Candy, is that there is only one person who can choose to cheat on their spouse, they are wholly responsible, anything else is just affording them an excuse for what they have done. "
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I have a moral compass, it's just different to your moral compass.
Who made you in charge of all the compasses to tell me that mine is broken?
Live and let live .
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"I have a moral compass, it's just different to your moral compass.
Who made you in charge of all the compasses to tell me that mine is broken?
Live and let live .
If you don't like it don't do it."
Who said about anything being broken? |
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"I have a moral compass, it's just different to your moral compass.
Who made you in charge of all the compasses to tell me that mine is broken?
Live and let live .
If you don't like it don't do it.
Who said about anything being broken? "
I'm single and broke...do I qualify |
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"I have a moral compass, it's just different to your moral compass.
Who made you in charge of all the compasses to tell me that mine is broken?
Live and let live .
If you don't like it don't do it.
Who said about anything being broken?
I'm single and broke...do I qualify "
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Growing up and seeing few cheaters and seen how it destroyed people and sadly to this day happening and causing crap its pretty dam sad people do that and zero guilt, let's hope tables don't get turned and you end up with someone you adore them him/her go off with your best mate say, that be called karma lol. |
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"Growing up and seeing few cheaters and seen how it destroyed people and sadly to this day happening and causing crap its pretty dam sad people do that and zero guilt, let's hope tables don't get turned and you end up with someone you adore them him/her go off with your best mate say, that be called karma lol. "
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