Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going."
Erm.....no.
We go clubbing when there's no published guest list. So we won't know who is there and it won't impact our decision to attend.
Unless its a specific event where the organisers run a guest list then you'll never know who's going, many on the list won't turn up anyway and clubs tend to let in members not on guest lists anyway as not all will be on Fab.
If you want to go, just go. No point basing a decision on who else is going, especially if you do t know them anyway.
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"Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going.
Erm.....no.
We go clubbing when there's no published guest list. So we won't know who is there and it won't impact our decision to attend.
Unless its a specific event where the organisers run a guest list then you'll never know who's going, many on the list won't turn up anyway and clubs tend to let in members not on guest lists anyway as not all will be on Fab.
If you want to go, just go. No point basing a decision on who else is going, especially if you do t know them anyway.
A"
Being in large crowds can be overwhelming though and could send the person into a panic. |
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"Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going.
Erm.....no.
We go clubbing when there's no published guest list. So we won't know who is there and it won't impact our decision to attend.
Unless its a specific event where the organisers run a guest list then you'll never know who's going, many on the list won't turn up anyway and clubs tend to let in members not on guest lists anyway as not all will be on Fab.
If you want to go, just go. No point basing a decision on who else is going, especially if you do t know them anyway.
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Being in large crowds can be overwhelming though and could send the person into a panic."
I think if that was an issue they would not go to a club in the first place |
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"Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going.
Erm.....no.
We go clubbing when there's no published guest list. So we won't know who is there and it won't impact our decision to attend.
Unless its a specific event where the organisers run a guest list then you'll never know who's going, many on the list won't turn up anyway and clubs tend to let in members not on guest lists anyway as not all will be on Fab.
If you want to go, just go. No point basing a decision on who else is going, especially if you do t know them anyway.
A
Being in large crowds can be overwhelming though and could send the person into a panic. I think if that was an issue they would not go to a club in the first place "
True but there is still the thought of missing out for not going. |
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"Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going.
Erm.....no.
We go clubbing when there's no published guest list. So we won't know who is there and it won't impact our decision to attend.
Unless its a specific event where the organisers run a guest list then you'll never know who's going, many on the list won't turn up anyway and clubs tend to let in members not on guest lists anyway as not all will be on Fab.
If you want to go, just go. No point basing a decision on who else is going, especially if you do t know them anyway.
A
Being in large crowds can be overwhelming though and could send the person into a panic. I think if that was an issue they would not go to a club in the first place
True but there is still the thought of missing out for not going."
Then that's just the way it is, if you genuinely can't cope with large crowds. Forget about clubs and focus on what you can do. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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Crumbs that's a fair bit of overthinking for a club ...
...don't regret anything in life OP if you can help it BUT if you do regret stuff, regret what you've done not what you missed out on  |
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"Crumbs that's a fair bit of overthinking for a club ...
...don't regret anything in life OP if you can help it BUT if you do regret stuff, regret what you've done not what you missed out on "
Can't help but overthink sometimes. It's a pain when dealing with social anxiety. |
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over a year ago
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What's the worst that could happen?
You go along and you don't feel comfortable so you leave . No harm done .
Or what's the best that could happen?
You go along and you have a great night ?
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone every had that dilemma when it comes to going to swinging clubs?
Let's say you're planning on going to an event at a club but you notice that many are going you are not familiar with and it fills you with dread. You can't help but go into a dilemma that if you went anyway, you'd fear that you'd get lost in the crowd and not have a good time and if you don't go, you'd fear of missing out and feel down and full of regret for not going.
Erm.....no.
We go clubbing when there's no published guest list. So we won't know who is there and it won't impact our decision to attend.
Unless its a specific event where the organisers run a guest list then you'll never know who's going, many on the list won't turn up anyway and clubs tend to let in members not on guest lists anyway as not all will be on Fab.
If you want to go, just go. No point basing a decision on who else is going, especially if you do t know them anyway.
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Being in large crowds can be overwhelming though and could send the person into a panic."
For someone that has anxiety caused by crowds yes. Clubs wouldn't be for them.
But for someone that has been to a club before I don't see the issue. It seems more ro me that you're more worried about WHO is going rather than how many.
You can't control either the numbers attending or who will be there.
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